Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

Today I’m answering a listener question that I think a lot of women can relate to. Camille from Canada writes, “Lately I’ve realized that I spend a lot of time–too much time–and energy on worrying about other people. I love being a good friend and family member to others, but I’ve been feeling really frazzled lately, and like I’m not paying enough attention to my own life and needs. Does it make me a bad person if I want to do less for the people I care about? How do I stick to my own lane?”** Relevant How to Be a Better Person episodes**The Surprising Power of Bearing WitnessValidate, Validate, ValidateListen Better**Relevant Tara Brach episodes**Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 1Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 2** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**: HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m answering a listener question from Kristin, who writes: “Lately I’ve been thinking about all I have to do as I lie in bed at night, and although I do manage to fall asleep, as soon as I wake up I already feel behind. I want to have more time to connect with friends, or putter around in the garden, or go to the beach, or just…read a book but I’m not sure how to get off this hamster wheel. How can I stop feeling so damn busy all the time?”Get Cassie Holmes’ Time Tracking Sheet** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)** : HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t have to drag your butt to a museum in order to interact with artwork. You can do it from home in ways that maybe you never thought of or that you might think don’t count, but they DO! They absolutely do.This episode originally aired earlier in the pandemic--but hey, winter can be it's own kind of lockdown. And winter is coming.This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reading is such a great way to lose yourself in a story, gain empathy for all different kinds of people in all different kinds of situations, stimulate your brain and your imagination, and just plain ole have fun. But it’s something that a lot of people feel they just don’t have the time or the focus (or both) for. Today’s episode offers not three, not five, but seven ways to read more–including one that you may think makes you a bad person (or at least a bad reader). This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I originally wrote this episode during the pandemic when life felt extra hard–and guess what, now, in November 2024, life is also feeling difficult albeit for different reasons including an impossible situation in the Middle East. Humans have long turned to art to help them make sense of and get through tough times. This week on the podcast I’m talking about how to consume art as a means to being a better person–and just feeling better about the world and your place in it. I hope they help. This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s trait is running late and forgetting to write people back and therefore, potentially letting other people down. Let me just say, I FEEL this one.Something else I’ll add about this topic that wasn’t on my radar when I first wrote this episode (because I was currently swimming in it) is that perimenopause can make you forgetful and spacey. Yep! Another thing to blame on your erratic hormone levels. PLUS, these two things are hallmarks of ADHD, and you’ve also got to respect and accept your neurodiversity.  This episode sponsored by: HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you’re telling a little fib, or blatantly telling someone something that isn’t true, or even NOT telling someone something that IS true, dishonesty is often one of those things that triggers the “am I a bad person?” thought pattern later on.In today's episode, I talked with honesty expert--and close personal friend--Judi Ketteler, author of the book “Would I Lie to You?"Judi’s websiteJudi’s bookThis episode sponsored by:HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the podcast I’m flipping things around and talking about some of the things that can make us wonder if we’re a bad person. When I surveyed listeners several months ago about the things that make them feel like a bad person, the most popular response was some form of impatience. So today we’re taking a look at what’s typically underneath your impatience and how to address that root cause. This episode sponsored by: HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So, if you’re perimenopausal, what are you supposed to DO about it!? Well, aside from talking to your Ob/Gyn about their help managing your most troubling symptoms (and if they give you a blank stare or suggest you don’t need to worry about anything, seek out a doc who has been certified by the North American Menopause Society although, prepare to wait because there are only 1600 of them, compared to 80,000 Ob/Gyns), now is a great time to start really embracing some self-care strategies. In today’s episode, I interview holistic healthcare coach who specializes in perimenopause, Jolinda Johnson. She’s a great IG follow @coachjolinda. Good luck. It does get better. This episode sponsored by: HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Could your fatigue be related to perimenopause? Could your weight gain? What about your back pain? Because perimenopause can trigger a whole slew of seemingly disconnected symptoms, the probable answer is yes. If you have lady parts and are in your 30s, 40s, or early 50, come find out how to connect the dots between the weird stuff you’re experiencing and your hormones. This episode sponsored by:HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices