When you can tell that you’re not thinking clearly about something it can be so frustrating! Here’s what I’ve learned–it’s not trying to think the same thing, just harder, that helps you think more clearly. It’s thinking differently. Which…how do you do that exactly? I’ve got two questions to ask yourself that help you do just that. My interview with Andrea about breaking the cycle of angerMy interview with Andrea about separating moral outrage from personal outrageAndrea J Lee’s website** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**:Air Doctor – Use promo code BETTER to save up to $300 on this UltraHEPA air purifierHelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes there’s just so much stuff rattling around inside your head that it’s hard to sit with one thought. Today I’m sharing the morning ritual I’ve been doing that has helped me extract all that noise from my brain and put it somewhere where a) I don’t have to think about it anymore and b) get some objectivity on those thoughts. It’s part of a week of episodes dedicated to thinking straight–something that can feel really hard when life is moving a million miles an hour. This practice comes from the classic self-help book, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron. Grab a notebook and a pencil!** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**:Air Doctor – Use promo code BETTER to save up to $300 on this UltraHEPA air purifierHelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know that the initial rush of a new relationship wanes. But does that mean that if you're in a long-term relationship your sex life has no choice but to fizzle out? No. Today's guest is Dr. Stephen Snyder, author of Love Worth Making and a sex therapist in NYC who has some awesome news and practical, doable, fun tips to help you enjoy and foster that physical connection to your partner--even if you're lazy, don't have time, or feel too tired for sex. Including “lazy man’s sex.”** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**:Air Doctor – Use promo code BETTER23 to save up to $350 on an air purifier, 20$ off filters, and get a free 3-year extended warrantyHelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I get that women typically do way more of the emotional and the household labor and that it needs to end. BUT, keeping score is not the way out. If it were, we'd have made more progress on this front than we have.** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**: Air Doctor – Use promo code BETTER23 to save up to $350 on an air purifier, 20$ off filters, and get a free 3-year extended warrantyHelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!Air Doctor Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the things that your partner does that drive you crazy suddenly didn’t annoy you so much anymore? Because we all have things about our partner that make us nuts. Today’s big idea is that the flip side of the things that initially draw you to someone and that you value about them the most is often exactly what drives you the craziest. It’s the yin and yang of life--the very thing that draws you to someone is also the thing that repels you.** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)** : Air Doctor – Use promo code BETTER23 to save up to $350 on an air purifier, 20$ off filters, and get a free 3-year extended warrantyHelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever felt like you’re running as fast as you can, but you’re still not getting anywhere? That’s how a listener named Nicole was feeling. She wrote:“At the end of every day I feel like even though I was busy all day, I didn’t do anything that’s getting me any closer to my goals. After going to meetings, running errands, making dinner, walking the dog, answering emails–I’m wiped out but don’t feel like I really have any progress to show for my efforts. Sometimes I find myself wondering, how do I stop spinning my wheels?”I talk Nicole through a little audit where you answer 8 questions about what’s going on in your life right now. Those questions are: What am I enjoying the most right now?  What am I enjoying the least?  What feels really gratifying right now?  What feels like a waste of energy?  When I think about my life over the next year or so, what excites me?  When I think about life over the next year or so, what weighs me down?  Is there something I need to keep in mind about this particular point in time?  Is there something that would really help at this particular point in time? At the end of the day, it’s up to each of us to stay focused on what matters to us. I hope these questions help you do just that. ** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**:HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m answering a listener question that I think a lot of women can relate to. Camille from Canada writes, “Lately I’ve realized that I spend a lot of time–too much time–and energy on worrying about other people. I love being a good friend and family member to others, but I’ve been feeling really frazzled lately, and like I’m not paying enough attention to my own life and needs. Does it make me a bad person if I want to do less for the people I care about? How do I stick to my own lane?”** Relevant How to Be a Better Person episodes**The Surprising Power of Bearing WitnessValidate, Validate, ValidateListen Better**Relevant Tara Brach episodes**Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 1Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 2** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**: HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m answering a listener question from Kristin, who writes: “Lately I’ve been thinking about all I have to do as I lie in bed at night, and although I do manage to fall asleep, as soon as I wake up I already feel behind. I want to have more time to connect with friends, or putter around in the garden, or go to the beach, or just…read a book but I’m not sure how to get off this hamster wheel. How can I stop feeling so damn busy all the time?”Get Cassie Holmes’ Time Tracking Sheet** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)** : HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t have to drag your butt to a museum in order to interact with artwork. You can do it from home in ways that maybe you never thought of or that you might think don’t count, but they DO! They absolutely do.This episode originally aired earlier in the pandemic--but hey, winter can be it's own kind of lockdown. And winter is coming.This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reading is such a great way to lose yourself in a story, gain empathy for all different kinds of people in all different kinds of situations, stimulate your brain and your imagination, and just plain ole have fun. But it’s something that a lot of people feel they just don’t have the time or the focus (or both) for. Today’s episode offers not three, not five, but seven ways to read more–including one that you may think makes you a bad person (or at least a bad reader). This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices