

Psychologists Off the Clock
Debbie Sorensen, Jill Stoddard, Yael Schonbrun, Michael Herold & Emily Edlynn
We are five experts in psychology, bringing you science-backed ideas that can help you flourish in your work, relationships, and health.
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Mar 27, 2024 • 1h 7min
348. Sustainable Exercise with Michelle Segar
Are you prioritizing quick fixes over lasting joy in our pursuit of health and wellness? With a focus on promoting long-term health behavior changes rather than short-lived fitness programs that quickly lose momentum, we welcome award-winning researcher and sustainable-change coach Michelle Segar. We are honored to interview Michelle, who is the author of the acclaimed book, The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise. Her thirty years of expertise and science-backed research are sure to inspire and enlighten anyone looking to make positive, sustainable changes in their health and lifestyle.Listen and Learn:
The main reasons people give for wanting to engage in exercise and health behaviors and why they can get us into trouble
Reasons that would be more effective in helping you get active
The limitations of habit formation when it comes to changing complex behaviors like exercise
Permitting yourself to prioritize self-care
How perfection can become problematic
Practical strategies for incorporating sustainable exercise into your life
Resources:
Michelle’s website: michellesegar.com
The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise
No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness
Online beginner ballet: https://brocheballetonline.com/
Connect with Michelle on X and LinkedIn
About Michelle SegarMichelle Segar, Ph.D. is an award-winning, NIH-funded researcher at the University of Michigan with thirty years studying how to help people adopt exercise and other self-care behaviors in ways that can be sustained within the unpredictability of the real world. Her research on creating sustainable change is widely recognized as uniquely pragmatic for real-world applications. An advisor to the World Health Organization on their global physical activity initiatives, Michelle was also selected to be the inaugural chair of the United States National Physical Activity Plan’s Communication Committee. She consults with leading organizations, including Kaiser Permanente, Walmart, WW, Anytime Fitness, Adidas, and Business Group on Health. Michelle’s synergistic combination of academic research with real-world sustainable-change curriculum design and coaching permit her to create engaging and practical sustainable-change systems for digital health and individual coaching/counseling. She certifies professionals in her sustainable-change methods and licenses them to large organizations. Michelle is frequently interviewed about how to help consumers and patients change their mindsets, cultivate lasting motivation and sustainable physical activity in major media outlets including The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Prevention, Real Simple, and TIME. Michelle’s training and experience is uniquely comprehensive, including a doctorate in Psychology (PhD), a master’s degree in Health Behavior/Health Education (MPH), a master’s degree in Kinesiology (MS) and fellowships in translational research and health care policy from the University of Michigan. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympics in Barcelona.Related Episodes:
132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal
124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman
215. How to Change with Katy Milkman
283. Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee-Baggley (Re-release)
318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin
135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick
72. Committed Action with DJ Moran
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Mar 20, 2024 • 1h 10min
347. Job Changes & Career Pivots with Paula Brand
Almost all of our quality of life is impacted by our careers because we spend so much time at work. As psychologists, we see a lot of anxiety-based patients in our practice. Often, the root of stress or anxiety is having a lot of struggles at work and knowing that something needs to change, but having no idea how to go about it. Here to help you understand and effectively transition in your career no matter the reason, is career coach and author of The Purple Parachute: A Woman's Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change, Paula Brand. If you could benefit from some soul-searching and structured guidance around decision-making as you transition into a new career or even if you want to make some changes in your current career, this interview is an empowering listen!Listen and Learn:
A glimpse into the ASTER model: Access, Seek, Test, Execute, Repeat
Why your values are important to the assessment phase of a career change and what you can do to clarify them
How are interests different from values and how you can start identifying what interests you?
The distinctions between the types of professionals who can help you with career transitioning
Discovering your exceptional qualities
Why your time is better spent uncovering your strengths and finding ways to put them to use, than wasting your energy trying to mitigate a weakness
How to identify and prioritize your skills
Looking for themes within your VINES (Values, Interests, Natural disposition Exceptional Qualities, and Skills) to help you pursue new roles
Resources:
The Purple Parachute: A Woman's Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change
You can access my webpage at paulabrand.com or www.brandcareermanagement.com which shares more information about my services and book.
Specifically to purchase and find out more about my book, visit landing page for The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change is http://www.purple-parachute.com/.
You can download a free copy of The Purple Parachute workbook that contains all the exercises and questions from the book. https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/the-purple-parachute-free-work-book/
If you go to the bottom of my homepage at https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/, you can enter your e-mail to gain access to a PDF download to Uncover Your Work Values.
For BCM:
YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/c/BrandCareerManagement
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/brand-career-management/
Twitter: Twitter.com/brandcareermgmt
Facebook: Facebook.com/BrandCareerManagement
For the book
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula_purple_parachute/
LinkedIn.com/in/paulabrandcareers
About Paula Brand Paula Battalia Brand, founder of Brand Career Management, is a Global Career Coach & Consultant, LinkedIn Expert, Speaker, Trainer and Author with a background in human resources, workforce development, training and career counseling. She speaks to groups and provides individual career coaching on using LinkedIn effectively, managing a successful career and navigating through career transitions with a focus on empowering mid-career to executive women to achieve career satisfaction. Organizational clients have included the World Bank Group, the Caribbean Development Bank, and the Executive Educations programs at Johns Hopkins University (JHU). Paula released her first book in November 2022 on navigating career transitions titled The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change. Related Episodes
238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us)
265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren
275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun
293. Quit with Annie Duke
296. Money and Love with Abby Davisson
299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley
328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg
333. How Work Works with Michelle P. King
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Mar 13, 2024 • 1h 1min
346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill
How often do you criticize yourself? Whether you torture yourself with negative thoughts about body image, career goals, or parenting, our conversation with guest and former cohost Diana Hill is sure to change that! Drawing from mindfulness, acceptance and commitment therapy, and compassion-focused therapy, Diana shows you how to liberate yourself from harmful self-criticism by cultivating forgiveness and kindness. We are grateful to Diana for her work in shifting the way people think about self-compassion, and we know you’ll take a tonne of wisdom from this conversation and her latest book, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, to help you live a fulfilling and impactful life.Listen and Learn:
What is self-compassion?
How does the inner critic evolve within us?
Why you might have fears of giving, receiving, or self-compassion and how these fears can interfere with your ability to cope and be resilient during difficult times
How you can practice self-compassion
Is there a way to know which response is the most self-compassionate for yourself?
The three half-truths of self-compassion
Turning self-compassion from a momentary thing to a lasting trait
Resources:
Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more.
The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: Let Go of Your Inner Critic and Embrace Who You Are with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Podcast: Wise Effort: Wise Effort Podcast
Website: drdianahill.com
Instagram: @drdianahill
Facebook:@drdianahill
YouTube: @drdianahill
LinkedIn: @drdianahill
Email: diana@drdianahill.com
Learn how to practice Process-based Therapy with Diana Hill, Joseph Ciarrochi, and Steven Hayes
Mindful article: A Love Letter To Yourself
Psychology Today: Three Half-Truths About Self-Compassion
Self-Compassion and ACT Meditation with Diana on Insight Timer
3 Half-Truths About Self-Compassion
About Diana Hill: Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and author of ACT Daily Journal, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal and the upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. She is on the board for the Institute for Better Health, and blogs for Psychology Today and Mindful.org. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more.Related Episodes
201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff
122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson
334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges
171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch
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Mar 6, 2024 • 60min
345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock
If you are someone who finds comfort and healing in writing, you’ll already be familiar with the therapeutic benefits of journaling. But, have you ever thought about exploring memoir writing? You may think, ‘What have I got to write about?’ or wonder if your life experiences are worth sharing. That's where our guest, Maureen Murdock, is here to prove you otherwise. In an episode where we talk about her latest book, Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir, Maureen inspires and guides us in discovering the untold stories of our lives through the craft of memoirs with the help of original writing advice and creative prompts. Listen and Learn:
How can writing be therapeutic and help us with healing and growth?
The difference between memoir writing and journaling
Mythological themes and archetypes: How do they come into play with individual memoirs?
What was it like for Maureen to study under American writer Joseph Campbell?
What is the heroine's journey, and how is it unique and specifically important?
Where to begin with memoir writing
Resources
Maureen’s website: www.maureenmurdock.com
Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir,
Connect with Maureen on social media:
https://www.facebook.com/maureenmurdockauthor/ https://twitter.com/murdockmaureen
Jill’s essay about her brother: https://www.scarymommy.com/brother-pedophile-oblivious-trust
Writing groups, workshops, and communities:
Maureen’s upcoming memoir workshop in Santa Fe in April
A writing group (You Belong Here, Now: A Wholehearted Writing Group) offered by our previous guest, Dr. Meg McKelvie
Writing Down the Soul
International Women’s Writing Guild
Writing Class Radio
About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D.About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D. is the author of her new book Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir and the author of the best-selling book, The Heroine’s Journey, which explores the rich territory of the feminine psyche and has been translated into twenty languages. Maureen is also author of Unreliable Truth: On Memoir and Memory; Fathers’ Daughters: Breaking the Ties that Bind; Spinning Inward: Using Guided Imagery with Children; and The Heroine’s Journey Workbook. She is the editor of an anthology entitled Monday Morning Memoirs: Women in the Second Half of Life and teaches memoir for the International Women’s Writing Guild and in Pacifica Graduate Institute’s program, Writing Down the Soul. Maureen was Chair and Core Faculty of the M.A. Counseling Program at Pacifica Graduate Institute. She has written pieces for the Huffington Post on the criminal justice system. Related episodes
199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie
336. Mindfulness and Living Expansively with Sharon Salzberg
116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune
138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser
285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius
274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock
37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie
195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen
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Feb 28, 2024 • 1h 8min
344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber
Parenting neurodivergent kids can be a unique journey full of challenges and triumphs. For this discussion, we have the pleasure of being joined by Debbie Reber, the author of a book that is breaking the mold! Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope takes an innovative approach by focusing solely on the parent's experience and empowering them with the tools to take care of themselves while responding to their neurodivergent child in ways that are better for everyone involved. Debbie breaks down why nurturing a foundation of understanding with your child makes it so much easier to work through the challenging times and shares an important message: being neurodivergent is a difference that's worth celebrating. Listen and Learn:
The philosophical shift Debbie has encouraged from viewing neurodivergent kids as a problem that needs fixing to a difference worthy of celebrating
What does being differently wired encompass?
How learning more about her neurodivergent child has transformed Debbie's parenting
Self-conscious versus conscious parenting in the context of raising differently-wired kids
How to become better attuned to your kid and use this deeper level of understanding to capitalize on skill development and learning opportunities
Meaningful ‘conscious maintenance’ for parents to shift their thinking mindset and expectations
How mainstream parenting guidance can be frustrating for parents of differently-wired kids and where Debbie feels they could do better?
Resources:
Debbie’s website
Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope
Tilt Parenting
Tilt Parenting Podcast
Connect with Debbie on Twitter and Facebook
Connect with Tilt Parenting on X, Instagram, and Facebook
Parenting, the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety by Dr. John Duffy (referenced in this episode)
About Deborah ReberDebbie Reber, MA is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker, and the CEO and founder of Tilt Parenting, a resource, top-performing podcast, consultancy, and community with a focus on shifting the paradigm for parents raising and embracing neurodivergent children. Her most recent book, Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope, came out in June 2018. After living abroad in the Netherlands for five years, Debbie, her husband, and differently wired teen moved to Brooklyn, NY in 2019. Debbie is an avid runner, traveler, and hiker, and claims reality shows as her guiltiest of pleasures.Related Episodes:
194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims
319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn
241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2)
267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg
146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne
187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley
14. Mindful Parenting
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Feb 21, 2024 • 56min
343. Heartbreak with Florence Williams
Heartbreak, a universal experience that can leave us feeling lost and questioning ourselves. We've all been there. It's a painful journey, that's difficult to process and navigate. In a conversation everyone can relate to, we bring in the author of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey. Florence Williams reflects on her personal experience facing divorce and draws upon science to explain the negative impacts of rejection, loss, and loneliness. We also unravel the mystery behind our actions during heartbreak-actions that seem to defy our values and norms. Whether you are a therapist treating clients going through heartbreak or experiencing heartbreak yourself, Florence will transform your understanding of health and love by combining scientific research with self-discovery.Listen and Learn:
What transpired in Florence's personal life that led her to write Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey
Tapping into the fundamental human emotion of awe
The healing properties of nature, and its integral role in Florence's journey
Is divorce diabetes a thing?
Do men and women have different experiences recovering from divorce?
Can Takotsubo syndrome (also known as broken heart syndrome) be linked to postmenopausal women?
How nature immersive experiences can lead to transformation, connection, and healing, and Florence’s recommendations in your area!
Resources:
Visit Florence at her website
Get your copies of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey and The Nature Fix: Why Nature Makes Us Happier, Healthier, and More Creative
Connect with Florence on X, Facebook and Instagram
About Florence Williams: Florence Williams is a journalist, author, and podcaster. Her first book, BREASTS: A Natural and Unnatural History received the Los Angeles Times Book Prize in science and technology and the 2013 Audie in general nonfiction. The Nature Fix was an Audible bestseller and was named a top summer read by J.P Morgan. Her latest book, Heartbreak, was called “show-stopping” and “courageous” by Publisher’s Weekly. She is a contributing editor at Outside Magazine and a freelance writer for the New York Times and numerous other publications. A fellow at the Center for Humans and Nature and a visiting scholar at George Washington University, Florence’s work focuses on the environment, health and science. A certified forest-bathing guide and experienced workshop leader, Florence loves leading groups through nature-immersive experiences and watching the transformation, connection, and healing that results. Related Episodes
325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet
289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette
281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen
251. Wonder with Frank Keil
249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz
225. Psychedelics with Brian Pilecki and Nathan Gates
126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, with Yael and Debbie
32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana
199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie
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Feb 14, 2024 • 1h 4min
342. Youth Sports and Raising Athletes with Kirsten Jones
Children nowadays have the luxury of being able to choose from a wide range of athletic activities. Though this is fantastic for their long-term development, youth sports have become more intense and competitive than ever before, which can pose a risk to our kids' mental health and overall well-being. So, how can we raise happy, healthy athletes while nurturing them into kind, compassionate, confident, and well-focused young adults who are empowered to passionately pursue their goals? Introducing Kirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach and author of ‘Raising Empowered Athletes’. Packed with actionable advice, this episode is the ultimate roadmap if you’re a parent trying to navigate the challenges, decisions, and pressures of youth sports!Listen and Learn:
What are the advantages of our kids engaging in sports?
What are the biggest pitfalls of our modern-day youth sports culture?
How can we support instead of pressure our athletes?
Ways to help increase internal motivation in your kids
How to identify if your child is participating in sports solely just to please you?
Resources:
Kirsten’s book, Raising Empowered Athletes: A Youth Sports Parenting Guide for Raising Happy, Brave, and Resilient Kids
Please sign up to receive updates, hear the podcast, or schedule a call at kirstenjonesinc.com
@kirstenjonesinc (Facebook and X)
@kirstenjonescoach (Instagram and LinkedIn)
About Kirsten JonesKirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach, is a co-host of the #RaisingAthletes Podcast (with Susie Walton) and a motivational speaker. Her first parenting book, Raising Empowered Athletes, launched August 8, 2023 from Triumph Books.Kirsten, a Hall of Fame DI volleyball player from William and Mary and fifteen year NIKE executive, clients include teen athletes (and their parents), where she helps them learn how to reach their goals by releasing their limitations.Kirsten and her husband are raising three athletes themselves (ages 23, 20, & 17) in Los Angeles. Her boys are both DI basketball players and her daughter plays high school volleyball. Kirsten also coaches club volleyball and enjoys traveling anytime she gets the chance.Related Episodes:
324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace
328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg
293. Quit with Annie Duke
205. Thrivers with Michele Borba
194. How to Be (and Raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims
161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey
17. Sports Psychology with Elizabeth Boyer
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Feb 7, 2024 • 1h 1min
341. Self-Forgiveness with Grant Dewar
Self-forgiveness doesn’t come easily. For some, the shame and withdrawal that come with holding incredible bitterness and animosity towards oneself can take over for years, and in some instances, a lifetime, if left unaddressed. In an interview with Grant Dewar, psychologist and author of The Self-Forgiveness Workbook, he describes real-world examples of how to develop mindfulness and compassion skills to overcome self-blame and find true self-acceptance. We hear of Grant’s personal history with guilt and come to understand why self-forgiveness is not a simple decision but rather an ongoing process that requires training. Listen and Learn:
Grant’s journey to self-forgiveness and why he is using his own experiences to help others overcome self-blame and find true acceptance
What is the opposite of self-forgiveness?
Indicators that self-forgiveness could be called for
How self-forgiveness can illuminate the things that are important to you
Resources:
Get your copy of Grant’s book, The Self-Forgiveness Workbook: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Blame and Find True Self-Acceptance
Connect with Grant on LinkedIn
About Grant Dewar Hi, It has been good to spend time with you, as a son, brother father, partner, I have found throughout my life that we need tools to rid ourselves of unnecessary burdens that life is always ready to heap upon us. As a work health and safety professional, trainer and now author I have learnt that while we are all unique and precious beyond telling we also share a common humanity, which comes to us as this incredibly complex gift of life that is always giving but sometimes not in a way we understand. From this experience of assisting thousands of people to navigate the complexities of their working and private lives, I have found consistently that the skills of self-forgiveness assist us face all manner of challenges, both defeats and victories, mistakes and successes, setbacks and even smooth running. Every turn we take every choice we make , brings us new challenges, new decisions and new risks. Our ability to face those experiences with clarity and our full capabilities is enhanced when we are able to do the work of self-forgiveness to deal with the unexpected consequences of following our life’s calling. I have had many twists and turns in my life pathway and have faced my own mortality and the loss of loved ones. My career has been dotted with both success and failures. In each of these challenges I have been able to apply the sorts of skills that I have researched to my own pathway. I have then been able to help teach others the skills I have discovered through my studies in Work Health and Safety, a Masters Degree focused on Adult Education, and a Doctorate in researching the science of self-forgiveness as a tool for lifelong learning.Related Episodes:
320. Anger and Forgiveness with Robyn Walser
118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth
50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Russell Kolts
171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch
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Jan 31, 2024 • 1h 9min
340. How to Create Lasting Sexual Connections with Emily Nagoski
It's time to have a no-BS discussion about something that all of us have struggled with at some point in our long-term relationships: maintaining a sexual connection. If this speaks to you and you feel like you’re stuck with poor advice on how to navigate the situation, meet our guest, Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and author of Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. With scientific evidence, wit, and compassion, Emily joins Jill on POTC to debunk the myths we've been fed about sex, show us what real great sex can look like, offer a fresh outlook on what might be blocking us from enjoying sex, and explain how to communicate our sexual desires more effectively. Her insights are sure to revolutionize the way you think about sexual connections and give you a newfound understanding of yourself, your body, and your relationship.Listen and Learn:
The myths versus the science of sustaining satisfying long-term sexual connections
What distinguishes spontaneous and responsive desire from pleasure?
Discussing sexual intimacy and desire more effectively using Emily's accelerator and brake metaphor
How care, curiosity, and play can help you move closer to lust
The significance of the "third thing" in a relationship
Having a clear understanding of you and your partner's "emotional floorplan" to find your way back to sexual desire
The importance of following the sexual rules that work for you and your relationship
Resources:
Visit Emily's website and subscribe to her newsletter to have your questions answered!
Emily's books: Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections and Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Follow Emily on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook
SNL’s ‘Pound Puppy’ (referenced in the episode)
About Emily NagoskiEMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling book Come as You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She is here today to talk about her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections.Emily earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.Related Episodes
176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky
206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky
248. Let’s Talk About Sex & Intimacy with Zoë Kors
276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson
309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren
315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn
318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin
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Jan 24, 2024 • 1h
339. Picking, Pulling and Biting: Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors with Marla Deibler and Renae Reinardy
Research shows that somewhere between 2 and 6% of the population struggles with BFRBs at a clinical level, which can include behaviors like hair-pulling, skin-picking, and nail-biting (among others). What differentiates BFRBs from other self-grooming behaviors, though, is the unintentional harm they cause to the body and the lack of successful efforts to stop them. To gain a better understanding of these difficult-to-control behaviors that can have detrimental effects on mental and emotional well-being, Michael interviewed clinical psychologists Marla Deibler and Renae Reinardy. If you're looking to recover from body-focused repetitive behavior, Marla and Renae, who coauthored The BFRB Recovery Workbook, are here to provide up-to-date behavioral science and evidence-based tools specifically tailored to meet your individual needs and help you transform your life for the better!Listen and Learn:
What are body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs)?
The stigma and dismissive attitude surrounding BFRBs
How prevalent are BFRBs?
WTF: What is the function of BFRBs?
The importance of viewing change as a process rather than a final outcome
Techniques for experiencing shame, emotional avoidance, and response prevention
How to deal with inevitable setbacks
Resources: Order your copy of The BFRB Recovery Workbook: https://a.co/d/5pFMEGMMarla’s Links:
Website: https://thecenterforemotionalhealth.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecenterforemotionalhealth
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ceh_philadelphia/
"X": https://twitter.com/DoctorDeibler
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marla-deibler-psyd-abpp-a220851a/
BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doctordeibler.bsky.social
Renae’s Links:
Lakeside Center for Behavioral Change: https://lakesidecenter.org
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/r.reinspi
Courage Critters: https://couragecritters.com
Related Episodes:
167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer
188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer
4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1)
5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2)
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