Psychologists Off the Clock

Behavioral Scientist Katy Milkman provides evidence backed strategies for initiating and maintaining behavioral change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Worried your kid is an asshole? Or that he or she is well on the road to becoming an asshole? You're not alone. Bad behavior (read: assholery) is no fun to be around, let alone to parent around. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes, discuss what kinds of behavior to be concerned about, the risk factors for assholery, and evidence-based practices for intervening with asshole behavior. Listen in to this episode for practical advice on identifying the function of asshole behavior, instilling theory of mind, setting the stage for empathy, responding to sibling rivalry, and much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s personal experiences and struggles raising kids in a world of too much parenting adviceThe conflicting responses to Melinda’s book’s titleA science-based explanation of why kids act like assholes Melinda’s personal experience managing parenting and work (and practical advice on how you can too)Expert-approved recommendations for teaching kids to take responsibility for their behaviorPractical advice for teaching kids to consider others’ perspectives and how their own behavior impacts othersMelinda explains growth mindset, fixed mindset, how the two differ, and why they’re important for your child’s developmentPractical advice for utilizing rewards without fostering assholeryWhat the science says is an effective approach to curbing sibling fightsHow to approach kid screen time with younger kids and teensHow to know when assholery is code for needing additional support from a parent or an expert (like a psychologist)And much, much more! Resources: Melinda’s book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens!Check out Anders Ericcson’s and Robert Pool’s Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Melinda Wenner Moyer: Melinda Wenner Moyer has a master’s in Science, Health & Environmental Reporting from NYU and a background in cell and molecular biology. She is a contributing editor at Scientific Americanmagazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Melinda was the recipient of the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. Buy Melinda’s most recent book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens! Keep up-to-date with Melinda’s work by subscribing to her newsletter, here! Related Episodes: Episode 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin   Episode 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl TottonEpisode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan PollakEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla NaumbergEpisode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah ArgenalEpisode 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Parenting and education experts, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, discuss how to talk with kids about anxiety, stress, motivation and technology. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

OCD and Anxiety experts Dr. Lisa Coyne and Dr. Ben Sedley talk about ideas from their book, Stuff That's Loud: A Teen's Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

At the beginning of Dr. Seuss’s The Lorax, the Once-ler says, “I meant no harm. I most truly did not. But I had to grow bigger. So bigger I got.” Biggering, it turns out, is the default setting for most of us. For years, Leidy Klotz, author of Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, has studied how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. Both his research and the Once-ler’s tale relay similar sentiments: we gravitate towards adding and systematically neglect subtracting. This remains true even when subtracting might add considerable value to our lives! On this episode of POTC, Yael and Leidy discuss the science supporting addition by subtraction. Listen to this episode today to learn how to be deliberate in your choices, subtract what’s no longer serving you, and add value to your life in the process! Listen and Learn: Yael and Diana discuss the role of values and subtraction in their personal lives The values reinforcing Leidy’s life journey to “less”The important distinction between “less” and “subtraction”What happens to subtraction options when we're under pressureWhy we tend to add when subtracting is the better optionPractical advice for being more deliberate in your choices Important differences between saying “no” and subtractingThe story behind Leidy’s interdisciplinary approach to behavioral scienceEvidence based advice for subtracting in your personal lifeHow to be more deliberate about making subtractive changes at a global level Resources: Buy Leidy’s book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of LessCheck out Leidy's experimental findings in his Nature paper, "People systematically overlook subtractive changes."Learn more about the KonMari Method Check out Dr. Seuss's book, The Lorax Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Find out more from the co-hosts, Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s by heading to their websites where you'll get access to their offerings, can sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Leidy Klotz Leidy Klotz, PhD, studies how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. His research on the science of design has appeared in both Nature and Science, and he has written for The Washington Post, Fast Company, LitHub, The Globe and Mail, and The Behavioral Scientist. Leidy’s work applies whenever we are designing and problem-solving, whether for climate change, art, parenting, or personal finance. The range of implications of Leidy’s research have been highlighted in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, Grist, The Boston Globe, and national newspapers on five continents. A professor at the University of Virginia, Leidy has authored more than 80 original research articles and secured more than $10 million dollars in competitive funding to support his and others’ work in this area. Recognized nationally as a professor who inspires, Leidy has taught thousands of students, including 21 Ph.D. advisees, whose designing and teaching shapes the world. Before becoming a professor, Leidy designed schools in New Jersey and before that he played professional soccer. Buy his latest book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, and follow him on Twitter @Leidyklotz!  Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 45. Rest with Alex PangEpisode 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeownEpisode 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura VanderkamEpisode 130. Working Less with Alex PangEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In recent years, mindfulness has become a buzzword in Western culture. A recent study by the CDC found that mindfulness was the fastest growing trend in complementary healthcare, and more than merely a buzzword, mindfulness is currently a multibillion dollar industry. Deirdre Fay, author of Becoming Safely Embodied, has dedicated her career to exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, and yoga and meditation. In this episode of POTC, Diana and Deirdre discuss her radically positive approach to healing trauma and provide practical strategies for becoming safely embodied. Join us in this episode for real-time yoga practices, evidence-based mindfulness skills, and more! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie discuss different approaches to connecting to our bodies and emotionsDeirdre’s personal experience becoming safely embodied and expert definition of what that meansThe evidence-based skills involved in Deirdre’s skills-based approach to embodiment How Deirdre cultivates a sense of belonging (and why this is so important!)Seven fundamental attachment needs and practical advice on fulfilling themReal-time yoga practices to become more safely embodiedThe evidence behind physicalizationDiana and Deirdre’s experiences integrating practice into their personal livesMindfulness, the risks involved, and how to mediate them Resources: Grab a copy of Deirdre’s books, Becoming Safely Embodied, Attachment-Based Yoga, & Meditation for Trauma RecoveryAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Attend Diana’s Weekly, FREE, Live Online Talk and Meditation  Read Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James NesterGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Deirdre Fay: Deirdre Fay Deirdre Fay, MSW, has decades of experience exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga and meditation, and teaches “a radically positive approach to healing trauma”. Deirdre’s most recent book, Becoming Safely Embodied became a best-seller before it was published. It’s based on the BSE groups she started in 1996 and continues to lead online. She is also the author of Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery, co-author of Attachment Disturbances for Adults, as well as the co-author of chapters in Neurobiological Treatments of Traumatic Dissociation. A former supervisor at The Trauma Center, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute trainer from 2000–2008, certified in Internal Family Therapy, qualified trainer in Mindful Self-Compassion, former board member of the New England Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, and trained in Self-Awakening Yoga and LifeForce Yoga, Deirdre is a respected international teacher and mentor for working safely with the body. She currently resides in France. Related Episodes: Episode 53. Yoga For Trauma With Deirdre FayEpisode 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer WebbEpisode 15 (Part 1) and Episode 16 (Part 2) of Embodiment Episode 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Olympic Games provide excellent examples of people under pressure. This pressure has led to some inspiring wins, and one can only imagine the pride parents of Olympic medalists must have when watching their child succeed. However, pressure can also negatively impact one’s performance - leading to disappointment, anxiety, and hopelessness. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Dr. Hank Weisinger, author of The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure, discuss how “stress” and “pressure” are often used synonymously but lead to very different outcomes. In fact, the APA defines stress as the physiological or psychological response to internal or external stressors and pressure as excessive or stressful demands, imagined or real. Join Hank and Yael for a conversation about how to think about stress and pressure, how to manage them, and much more! Give your Olympic-hopeful a squeeze, and join us to learn value-based approaches for pushing yourself and your loved ones to be their best! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss workable aspects of stress Dr. Weisinger’s expert break-down of pressure, what it is, how it interferes with our performance, and how to manage itThe evolutionary function to our pressure responseImportant differences between pressure and stress“Pressure traps” and how they can trip you upDr. Weisinger’s thoughts on the Yerkes Dodson CurveHow to befriend a stressful momentPractical advice on connecting to your values to improve your performanceDr. Weisinger’s pressure solutions, from thinking about multiple opportunities to shrinking the importance of a momentReframing how you think about your performance using Ranking Mindset vs. Excellence MindsetPractical advice for parents who fear their kids aren’t doing their best (even when they say they are!)Dr. Weisinger’s thoughts on applying pressure to our kidsExpert-approved tips and tricks for upping your parental performance Resources: Buy Dr. Weisinger’s The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure Lib/E: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best SelfCheck out Dr. Kelly McGonigal’s The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It Learn more about the Gottman Institute Understand the Yerkes-Dodson Curve Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Hank Weisinger Dr. Hank Weisinger is a creator, innovator, practitioner, influential psychologist, and two -time New York Times bestselling author. Performing under pressure, giving and taking criticism, managing emotions, responding effectively to the feelings and emotions of others, motivating oneself and others, and resolving conflict are all “emotional intelligence skills” that are part of Dr. Weisinger’s expertise that has been recognized and sought out by leading business schools, influential government agencies, Fortune 500 Companies and dozens of professional organizations such as The Young Presidents’ Organization. With the publication of his recent New York Times Bestseller Performing Under Pressure, Dr. Weisinger introduces the concepts of “pressure management” and “pressure coaching” to the corporate world and executive education programs with the major revelation that contrary to conventional wisdom, nobody performs better under pressure – not even Jordan, Jeter and Brady! To bring this knowledge to more people, Dr. Weisinger has transformed Performing Under Pressure into a state of the art empowering E-Course Workshop Experience for businesses and students! For more information on Dr. Weisinger, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When it comes to serious illness, we might assume that medical treatment is where it's at. And of course, when it comes to medical illness, medical treatment is central. But research also shows that talk therapy can help improve health, extend life, and make it easier to tolerate many of the challenges of illness. On today’s episode of POTC, Yael and Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, co-author with Marsha Linehan of Coping with Cancer, discuss the usefulness of one such talk therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT offers concrete, simple skills to deal with serious medical illness. From managing pain to communicating with providers and loved ones, Liz offers on-the-ground strategies that you can put into action today to help manage health, prolong life, and make meaning. Listen in for an expert-breakdown of evidence-backed skills and practical advice you can put into practice to help yourself or loved ones struggling with serious illness. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss the usefulness of skills like emotion regulation for extreme, stressful, or scary health-related situations The role of evidence-based psychological interventions in the world of medical treatmentWhy DBT is particularly useful for managing severe medical illnessesExpert definitions and explanations of DBT basics The DBT practices Liz has used in her personal lifePractical advice for dialing down emotions when they become too intense How to use your Wise Mind to make values-rich choicesHow you can wisely and flexibly select from a menu of useful skillsExpert-advice for those who struggle with self-critical narratives that interfere with interpersonal functioningLiz’s favorite DBT skills for practicing self-kindness and helping others How to be effective in relationships with medical providers and loved onesConnecting with meaning while struggling with illness DBT training resources for clinicians, patients, and loved ones  Resources: Read Liz’s book, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions--and Balance Uncertainty with HopeSign up for more information on Liz’s DBT training for clinicians, patients, and loved onesAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz: Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, LCSW-R, trained in social work at Smith College prior to earning her psychoanalytic certification. After this, she studied Zen, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and the application of neuroscience to psychotherapy, integrating these perspectives into her clinical practice and the ways she teaches coping with adversity. She frequently presents on topics related to coping skills, psychoanalysis, and DBT. Liz currently works as a psychotherapist and teacher in Mamaroneck, New York. Make sure to grab a copy of the book she co-authored with Marsha Linehan, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions--and Balance Uncertainty with Hope.  Related Episodes: Episode 108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 1)Episode 109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2)   Episode 117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Joanne CacciatoreEpisode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKayEpisode 157. The Art of Dying Well with Katy Butler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The World Health Organization includes burnout in its International Classification of Diseases and defines it as work-induced stress leading to exhaustion and cynicism. If you find yourself experiencing symptoms of burnout, you might try many things to get rid of them. For example, you might try engaging in large amounts of rest, meditation, or relaxation exercises. In contrast, you might try to rid yourself of burnout symptoms by engaging in even more work. Each of these strategies would likely provide you with some short-term relief, but eventually the symptoms of burnout would reemerge, leaving you just as exhausted and cynical as before (if not more!). In this episode of POTC, co-hosts Debbie and Jill discuss the causes of burnout and provide practical approaches to preventing and finding relief from its symptoms. You’ve fought the good fight. Now, put your feet up and listen in to learn more about finding peace and joy in your work today! Listen and Learn: An expert-approved definition of burnoutThree hallmark signs and symptoms of burnout The pandemic’s impacts on burnoutPractical, pragmatic approaches to self-careOverlaps and distinctions between compassion fatigue and burnoutDebbie and Jill’s personal experiences with burnoutActionable steps for professionals, caregivers, and parents who are experiencing burnout but still have bills to pay Skills for preventing burnoutShort- and long-term consequences of burnout-related behaviorsHow and why certain exercises fail to "fix" burnout in the long runDebbie defines institutional betrayal and talks about the impact of minority stress on burnoutHow you can push against, and work toward changing, the systemic issues that cause burnout Resources: Check out Debbie's website and buy her book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy  Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Look here for more information on the work of David Whyte Try some of these exercises to identify and move toward your valuesFind out more about Christina Maslach, the original investigator of burnoutAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Debbie Sorensen and Jill Stoddard: Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She currently lives in Colorado, her home state, and where she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, travel, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Colorado Rockies with her family and dog. Check out her and co-host Diana Hill’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Accepta... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Eve answers listener questions about creating partner equality at home in this follow up Fair Play episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.