The Big Drink Rethink

If you’ve ever wondered why alcohol cravings can feel so powerful or why breaking habits is so tough, this episode is for you.In this special summer mini-series of the Big Drink Rethink, Anna Donaghey recaps essential brain science insights from past episodes and breaks down how simple psychology can empower your sober-curious journey through the summer.Anna revisits some of the podcast’s most powerful, brain-based insights from understanding why our cravings aren’t a sign of weakness, to simple tips for outsmarting decision fatigue, and the magic of neuroplasticity. Anna breaks down the core motivations driving our drinking habits and shows how small tweaks in our routines can create lasting, meaningful change.Here are the highlights: 00:00 Introduction06:25 The brain seeks pleasure and avoids pain to ensure survival08:15 Humans prefer familiar habits to conserve brain energy13:05 Habits aren't about the substance but the brain's expectations; altering routines can change this14:11 Alcohol creates an artificial high with negative consequences20:50 Alcohol hinders decision-making, creating a negative cycle24:04 Emotional sobriety involves facing and staying with feelings without using alcohol as an escape27:58 You can change and evolve with your decisions. 🏆Please vote for The Big Drink Rethink in the ITV bCreator Awards 20251. Click on the link below2. Pop in your email3. Select I’M A SUBSCRIBER / FOLLOWER4. Select CREATOR SHORTLIST 5. Hit SUBMIT YOUR VOTE6. Scroll down to the Podcast bCreator category and vote for THE BIG DRINK RETHINK Here’s the link:🔗 https://www.bcreator.co.uk/awards/🔗 Get the free SUN Framework toolkit and all our resources from: https://www.thebeliefscoach.comIf you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Do sunny holidays, BBQs, and lazy afternoons have you reaching for another drink almost on autopilot? Summer can bring all sorts of triggers for drinking, but it doesn’t have to be that way.In this practical, supportive episode, Anna Donaghey shares five brilliant, totally free tools to help you stay in control of your drinking this summer whether you’re sober-curious, moderating, or just want to be more intentional.This episode will help you to enjoy the long summer days without ‘beer fear’ and all the other feelings of self-regret and recrimination that can follow after drinking too much. Here are the highlights: 00:00 Introduction: Why summer stirs up drinking scripts03:05 Tool 1: The SUN Framework: Spot, Update & Nourish your summer stories08:39 Tool 2: Visualisation – Design summer events in your mind to feel confident and in control16:42 Tool 3: Moderation strategies: Hydration, skipping fizz, alternating drinks (“zebra striping”), and making mornings matter24:36 Tool 4: Quick reset exercises: Breathing, mindfulness, emotional check-ins, and changing your physical state29:39 Tool 5: Journaling: Capture your progress, reflect on your wins, and anchor your new summer story🏆Please vote for The Big Drink Rethink in the ITV bCreator Awards 20251. Click on the link below2. Pop in your email3. Select I’M A SUBSCRIBER / FOLLOWER4. Select CREATOR SHORTLIST 5. Hit SUBMIT YOUR VOTE6. Scroll down to the Podcast bCreator category and vote for THE BIG DRINK RETHINK Here’s the link:🔗 https://www.bcreator.co.uk/awards/🔗 Get the free SUN Framework toolkit and all our resources from: https://www.thebeliefscoach.comIf you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Is the British drinking culture changing and what does that mean for sober summer socialising? In this episode, host Anna Donaghey sits down with Chris Cardone: US World Class Bartender, award-winning mixologist, and ten years sober. Chris lifts the lid on a radical rethink in hospitality and what it means to create proper, delicious, inclusive drinks experiences whether or not alcohol is involved.Listen to learn more about the world of mixology, making bars inclusive spaces for everyone and to get some summer non-alcoholic drinks inspiration!Highlights:00:00 Introduction02:12 Chris’s journey from “Cocktail” VHS inspiration to dive bars and world-class competitions05:56 Why Chris chose sobriety in the most alcoholic industry on earth 10:52 How drinking expectations in hospitality shaped (and challenged) his identity13:30 Pushback, social media backlash, and why Chris almost left the bar world for good15:57 You don’t need to drink to be a world-class mixologist16:53 It’s not about taking sides, but creating inclusive experiences for all20:09 How venues can support every guest, whatever they are drinking 28:10 How bar design, music and even lighting shape what we drink36:04 Why connection should be the heart of social spaces46:34 Chris’s favourite summer drinks and tips for experimenting at home🏆Please vote for The Big Drink Rethink in the ITV bCreator Awards 20251. Click on the link below2. Pop in your email3. Select I’M A SUBSCRIBER / FOLLOWER4. Select CREATOR SHORTLIST 5. Hit SUBMIT YOUR VOTE6. Scroll down to the Podcast bCreator category and vote for THE BIG DRINK RETHINK Here’s the link:🔗 https://www.bcreator.co.uk/awards/🔗 Get the free resources from: https://www.thebeliefscoach.comIf you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukAbout Chris Cordone:Chris Cardone is an award-winning mixologist, hospitality consultant, and creative force behind some of the beverage industry’s most innovative programs. He was named Bartender of the Year in 2017 after winning the Diageo World Class Bartending US Competition, the world's largest global mixology competition.In 2024, Chris launched Continuous Beverage Solutions,  partnering with bars, restaurants, and event spaces to improve profitability, elevate service, streamline operations, and innovate across cocktail and zero-proof programs alike.Connect with Chris:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/continuousbev/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-cardone-77033214/Mentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Do holidays and the summer break leave you feeling less refreshed and more exhausted? Does ‘holiday mode’ mean you default straight to drinks even when you’d love to come back energised, present, and rested? If you’re tired of summer routines that always revolve around alcohol, make sure you listen inJoin Anna as she kicks off The Big Drink Rethink’s summer series, our six-week companion to navigating July and August on your terms. She unpacks why summer holidays are a breeding ground for booze triggers, from sunshine and airport pints, to the emotional weight we load onto each trip. Anna shares why it’s possible and powerful to make this the summer you flip the script on drinking and create real, lasting memories (with zero hangovers in sight). Whether you’re sober-curious, cutting back, or already alcohol-free, this episode is packed with honest stories, permission to experiment, and all the summer resources you need.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction 01:16 Summer: a time of energy, but also holiday hangover traps02:50 Why holidays sometimes leave us more depleted than restored03:55 The repetitive rituals & regrets that follow us abroad11:44 Why holidays are opportunities to feel & rewire emotions14:30 The all-inclusive trap flipping “money’s worth” to real value15:38 Airport and travel day triggers (hello 10am pints!)18:30 Visualisation: Laying the groundwork for your best holiday ever25:12 Decide your anchor: Know your ‘why’ for not drinking31:43 Reframing all-inclusive value, maximizing experiences34:06 JOMO: The joy of missing out replaces FOMO36:06 What you’re gaining: freedom, clarity, and restorative fun36:56 Anna’s recommended books for light, uplifting summer reading44:01 Life-affirming, empowering playlist ideas🏆Please vote for The Big Drink Rethink in the ITV bCreator Awards 20251. Click on the link below2. Pop in your email3. Select I’M A SUBSCRIBER / FOLLOWER4. Select CREATOR SHORTLIST 5. Hit SUBMIT YOUR VOTE6. Scroll down to the Podcast bCreator category and vote for THE BIG DRINK RETHINK Here’s the link:🔗 https://www.bcreator.co.uk/awards/🔗 Get the free resources from: https://www.thebeliefscoach.comIf you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Ever wondered why alcohol can feel like "liquid confidence," or if there’s a better way to build self-belief without a drink in hand? In this episode of The Big Drink Rethink, host Anna Donaghey is joined by Sue Reid, certified confidence and self-belief coach, NLP master practitioner, hypnotherapist, and author of Building Confidence: How to Thrive as a Shy Person.Anna and Sue take a deep dive into the real root causes of low self-esteem and how these hidden stories about our worth can shape and sometimes sabotage our relationship with alcohol. They unpack the difference between true self-confidence and the act of “faking it,” why so many of us turn to alcohol in social situations, and how to “rewire” your brain for authentic, lasting confidence.If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough without a drink, this episode is for you.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction 02:22 Sue’s journey from shy childhood to coaching confidence after 40 years in banking04:55 The difference between confidence, self-belief, and the four pillars of true self confidence08:48 Why “liquid confidence” is a myth and what really undermines our self-esteem13:53 How early life experiences, family dynamics, and comparison shape our sense of self18:25 How men and women experience low confidence and the impact of cultural conditioning21:02 What actually happens in the brain when alcohol makes us feel more confident22:48 The true cost of relying on alcohol for self-confidence27:54 Why self-acceptance (and knowing your limits!) matters more than being “the life of the party”34:30 Sue’s practical, psychology-backed techniques for building confidence without alcohol46:46 Why confidence and trust skyrocket when you rethink your drinking  and how to experiment fearlessly🏆Please vote for The Big Drink Rethink in the ITV bCreator Awards 20251. Click on the link below2. Pop in your email3. Select I’M A SUBSCRIBER / FOLLOWER4. Select CREATOR SHORTLIST 5. Hit SUBMIT YOUR VOTE6. Scroll down to the Podcast bCreator category and vote for THE BIG DRINK RETHINK Here’s the link:🔗 https://www.bcreator.co.uk/awards/🔗 Get the free resources from: https://www.thebeliefscoach.comIf you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukAbout Sue Reid:Sue Reid is a certified confidence and self-belief coach, as well as a master practitioner of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and hypnotherapy.She writes in her Substack publication ’Confidence Matters’ and is the author of Building Confidence: How to Thrive as a Shy Person.Sue is the founder of Sue Reid Coaching, which commenced in March 2022. Before coaching, Sue had a long career in retail banking. She retired in 2019 and decided to write a book about her struggles with confidence.After finishing the book Building Confidence: How to Thrive as a Shy Person, Sue started a podcast, Building Confidence, in which she discussed a topic related to confidence with a guest each week. The podcast is paused for the moment in favour of live streaming on the platform Substack.Sue believes we all deserve a life of joy and success, but a lack of self-belief often holds us back. Once we believe in ourselves, confidence is a skill that can be learned and mastered. Sue lives in Devon, southwest of the United Kingdom, with her husband, Robert.Connect with Sue:Substack: https://substack.com/@suereidBook: Building Confidence:How to Thrive as a Shy Person Mentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Does a sunny day spark a craving for a cold alcoholic drink? Do pub gardens, barbecues, and outdoor gatherings feel like booze is suddenly everywhere, making it harder to stick to your goals? If the sun is your biggest trigger, this episode can help.Join Anna as she unpacks why sunshine is such a powerful cue for drinking, especially in UK culture, and how our brains build deep associations between warm weather and alcohol. She explores the neuroscience of habit (hello, Pavlov!), the biology of sunshine-boosted serotonin, the pull of “holiday mode,” and the classic FOMO that comes with social summer events.Anna introduces the SUN Framework, a quick, empowering tool to help you spot old scripts, update their meaning, and truly nourish the real needs beneath your cravings. Whether you’re sober-curious, cutting back, or living alcohol-free, this episode will help you rewrite your summer story.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction05:26 Sun can trigger a Pavlovian response for drinking07:33 Old habits echo like Pavlovian responses, but you can learn new ones09:40 Sunlight boosts serotonin, enhancing mood, focus, and sleep17:36 Sunshine triggers a holiday mindset, linking relaxation and indulgence with alcohol21:31 Belonging feels safe, while standing out feels risky25:31 We don't crave beer, but the feelings of happiness, belonging, and relaxation we associate with it31:52 Identify and meet your needs by creating new, enjoyable rituals33:59 Reflect on your "new summer story" by journaling about it.🏆Please vote for The Big Drink Rethink in the ITV bCreator Awards 20251. Click on the link below2. Pop in your email3. Select I’M A SUBSCRIBER / FOLLOWER4. Select CREATOR SHORTLIST 5. Hit SUBMIT YOUR VOTE6. Scroll down to the Podcast bCreator category and vote for THE BIG DRINK RETHINK Here’s the link:🔗 https://www.bcreator.co.uk/awards/🔗 Get the free SUN Framework toolkit and all our resources from: https://www.thebeliefscoach.comIf you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

What if parents could truly change the future just by having more open conversations about alcohol? In this episode host Anna Donaghey is joined by Jessica Lahey, educator and author of The Addiction Inoculation. Together, they explore the factors that influence substance use in young people, the power of prevention, and how honest dialogue can break cycles of dependence. This episode guides listeners through what they can do, no matter their own history with alcohol, to build resilience in the next generation.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction05:15 Talking about substance use prevention is challenging 09:47 Lack of learned strategies to manage stress and anxiety15:12 Adverse childhood experiences can lead to substance use disorders16:28 Teenagers understand consequences but weigh positive outcomes more 20:43 Empowering kids with self-efficacy can prevent substance use34:34 Kids need at least one trusted adult to confide in37:29 Kids may try substances due to feeling inadequate or out of place50:39 Reliable information for teenagers is key for understanding and trust. If you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukFind out more about Jessica Lahey:Jessica Lahey is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, which won the Research Society on Alcohol’s Media Award for “outstanding journalistic efforts of writers who cover empirical research on alcohol.”She co-hosts the long-running #AmWriting podcast on writing and the publishing industry from her home in the woods of Vermont.Connect with Jessica:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teacherlahey/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b815a366/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jplahey#YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFJ5jb98nTWRKRPm1JS0i_gFind Jessica on Substack: https://amwriting.substack.com/#AmWriting - the free weekly podcast on writing, by writers:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/amwriting/id1099630313Buy Jessica’s Books:The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed:The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of DependenceMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Have you ever felt like the person you trust least is yourself? On this episode of The Big Drink Rethink, host Anna Donaghey explores one of the most tender and universal challenges for anyone rethinking their relationship with alcohol: how to rebuild self-trust after countless broken promises to yourself and to others. Drawing from deeply personal experiences and the honest struggles of her listeners, Anna unpacks the lonely cycle of making resolutions, letting yourself down, and feeling the bedrock of your confidence slowly erode. With compassion and practical wisdom, she explores why rebuilding trust isn't just motivational fluff - it's the very foundation for lasting change. Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction03:32 Self-doubt and lack of trust in oneself can undermine motivation and ambition07:15 Self-trust brings calm and confidence16:39 Delay habits by ten minutes to break old patterns and build self-trust22:00 Approach self-reflection with curiosity instead of shame 25:40 Broken promises and denial takes a toll on relationshipsIf you’re feeling stretched thin, tired, and in search of support, you’re not alone. This episode is for you. If you’re a mum wanting to explore your relationship with alcohol, join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Have you ever wondered why so many mothers today feel overwhelmed, isolated, or pressured to present a picture-perfect life especially when it comes to drinking culture? In this episode of The Big Drink Rethink, host Anna Donaghey talks to Anna Cusack, a postnatal doula, motherhood studies practitioner, and author of the powerful book "Mama, You’re Not Broken". Together, they explore the emotional realities behind the “perfect mother” myth, the pressures that lead many mums to reach for a glass of wine, and the real-life support systems that are often missing in our lives. This episode challenges common narratives around alcohol, coping, and what mums truly need.Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction06:52 Experiences of pre-birth mental health issues and anxiety in postpartum.09:08 Dr. Sophie Brock studies inspired the creation of Anna’s book "Mama, You’re Not Broken" 12:19 Pandemic isolation and the impacts it had on expectant mothers14:57 Facing the pressures of parental ‘perfection’17:54 Conflicting emotions like shame, anger, and guilt during motherhood22:54 Australian data shows increased alcohol use among mothers as children age28:57 Community is essential for enjoying parenthood 37:53 In motherhood, there's lots of pressure to meet unrealistic ideals.44:54 Caring for children is exhausting and many use alcohol as a quick fix to relaxIf you’re feeling stretched thin, tired, and in search of support, you’re not alone. This episode - and the ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ group - are for you. Join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, break the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD 99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukFind out more about Anna Cusack:Anna Cusack experienced postnatal anxiety after the birth of her unputdownable, sleep hating, first child in 2019. With a background in allied health, she added to her skill set, retraining as a postnatal doula and motherhood studies practitioner. As the pandemic rolled along, Anna focused on making sense of the emotional turbulence of motherhood in a mixed up world, and communicating this with others online, through her podcast “Anna Asks”, and eventually, through her book "Mama, You're Not Broken: Unmasking the Unspoken Emotions of Modern Motherhood". A second child and mental health journey later, Anna now offers circles and support programs for parents who may otherwise “fall through the mental health cracks”, specialty birth debriefs that actually help people feel better not worse, and one to one postnatal mentoring and care. She is based in Newcastle, Australia, and has lived alcohol-free for almost 7 years.Connect with Anna:Website: www.annacusack.com.auInstagram: instagram.com/annacusackpostpartum/Facebook: facebook.com/annacusackpostpartumMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

In this special Q&A episode, Anna tackles a powerful listener question about what happens after the buzz fades from going alcohol-free. You've made it past those first few transformative months, and maybe you don't miss drinking, but the excitement has levelled out, and you're wondering how to stay motivated for the long haul.Anna explores the “middle” of the alcohol-free journey when things become routine and life feels a little flat, but also wide open with new possibilities. She reframes this phase not as the end of the road, but as the beginning of something deeper: a time to discover what you want your new energy, presence, and clarity to create in your life. Here are the highlights:00:00 Introduction00:55 Life is feeling flat - I don’t need alcohol but I’m not excited anymore05:56 Removing alcohol is the main event; the challenge becomes deciding what to build or plant next.11:50 Discover what your fully energised self desires beyond chasing milestones17:06 Reflect on progress, list and revisit simple joys for fulfillment28:34 Embrace emotional sobriety with self-compassion29:53 Pause and reconnect with your whyIf you’re feeling stretched thin, tired, and in search of support, you’re not alone. This episode - and the ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ group - are for you. Join ‘Mummy Doesn’t Need Wine’ here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mummydoesntneedwineAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, break the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: Unstuck! community informationTo further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD 99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listenerFor the free resources accompanying this series, please head to https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/registrationIf you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do. Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607