The Big Drink Rethink

Are you showing up for Christmas wanting change, but feeling swallowed up by old patterns, pressure, or the ever-present invitation to pour a drink? In this uplifting milestone episode of The Big Drink Rethink (100 episodes!), your host Anna Donaghey offers a heart-to-heart Christmas Day pep talk for anyone questioning their drinking, or simply craving a more honest and intentional holiday experience.Through lived experience and a coach’s insight, she gently unpacks why Christmas stirs up overwhelm, exhaustion, and even unexpected loneliness, alongside the pressure of old habits. She guides you back to your own intentions, with a practical, simple toolkit for resetting and choosing the version of you that feels truest even if you’re the only one who sees it right now.Here are the Highlights: 00:00 Anna’s gratitude for every listener whether brand new or following since the beginning00:31 Why Christmas is such a complicated mix of comfort and challenge01:53 Today isn’t about perfection02:17 You’re not the sum of your past Decembers03:03 Experiment: What does Christmas feel like without alcohol?03:52 How to navigate triggers: Pause, Check In, Choose. 05:21 You’re allowed to take up space in a different way06:13 Gentle encouragement to hold your ground with clarity06:39 Have a proud and present Christmas Day, plus where to find resources.Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebigdrinkrethink.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebigdrinkrethink.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Are your Christmas traditions serving you or just sabotaging your intentions for change? This time of year isn’t just about parties and presents, it’s a complex mix of family dynamics, old patterns, emotional triggers steeped in decades of drinking. In this powerful episode of The Big Drink Rethink, host Anna Donaghey takes a gentle yet practical approach to surviving (and actually enjoying) Christmas and New Year, especially if you’re rethinking your relationship with alcohol.Drawing on lived experience, psychology, and coaching tools, Anna unpacks why Christmas stirs up excitement, dread, and everything in between. She shares a step-by-step plan for protecting your peace, setting boundaries, dealing with triggers, and redefining who you want to be this season. Whether you’re aiming for your first alcohol-free Christmas or just want it to feel more intentional (and less chaotic), this episode puts clarity, self-kindness, and genuine joy at the heart of the festive season.Here are the Highlights: 00:41 Why Christmas stirs up mixed emotions and challenges03:09 How old patterns and family roles shape festive drinking06:32 The power of identity: Who do you want to be this Christmas?09:46 Mel Robbins “let them” theory to deal with other people’s behaviour11:10 Own your choices, and protect your peace13:54 How environments trigger old habits16:53 Staying rooted in your intentions19:11 Planning for emotional flashpoints over the Christmas period23:41 Visualisation worksheet: How to map out your big days27:34 Dealing with New Year's Eve hype and midnight pressure29:57 Why a “fresh” January is more important than a “perfect” December32:11 Regulate your nervous system with breathwork & micro-resets34:00 Moving through the season with clarity and pride35:00 Anna’s Alcohol Experiment and extra support for Dry JanuaryAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebigdrinkrethink.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebigdrinkrethink.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

What if the festive season could bring more connection, confidence, and genuine fun… without the dread (or the hangover)? In this episode of The Big Drink Rethink, your host Anna shares how to survive Christmas parties, whether you’re alcohol free, moderating, or just rethinking your relationship with drinking.  Drawing on personal stories and practical coaching insight, Anna covers how Christmas parties often trigger reflex drinking and cultural pressures, and shares simple, powerful strategies to help you stay true to what you want from the season. From pre-party mindset resets to mastering your exit plan (hello, Irish Goodbye!). This episode is packed with real-life tools, gentle encouragement, and tips for waking up clear-headed, proud, and totally FOMO-free.Here are the Highlights:00:41 Why Christmas parties stir up both excitement and anxiety  03:25 How cultural scripts and past habits hijack our choices  08:05 The three key questions to set your party intentions  11:25 Alcohol free versus moderation, how to pick your best path  12:50 Busting myths, you’re not the only one cutting down!  16:23 Pre-party grounding and creating “joy drinks”  22:05 Social pressure, responses, and the power of changing the subject  24:22 Finding your wingman and safe spaces  26:42 Micro check-ins: Don’t confuse boredom with wanting a drink  27:52 Planning your exit and mastering the Irish Goodbye  30:37 End of night rituals for real rewards  Ready to rethink your Christmas party season? Tune in to get inspired, energised, and equipped for whatever December throws your way.Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebigdrinkrethink.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebigdrinkrethink.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

What if your relationship with alcohol was more about nourishment than willpower? In this eye-opening toolkit episode of The Big Drink Rethink, Anna shares one of her most powerful tools yet, a framework to help you discover what truly fuels and sustains you, making it easier to outgrow alcohol for good. Drawing on personal experience and Tara Mohr’s Core Nutrients Framework, Anna Donaghey guides you to uncover what you’re genuinely “thirsty for,” and how meeting these deeper needs naturally eases your reliance on booze. Whether you’re navigating the pressures of the holiday season or simply wanting to rethink your drinking habits, this episode is packed with practical exercises and gentle wisdom to help you feel more alive, grounded, and connected - no willpower required!Here are the Highlights:00:00 Habits stick not through willpower, but by feeling nourished 03:10 Christmas amplifies everything, joy, loneliness, and chaos 09:12 Alcohol offers temporary comfort and connection10:08 Reflect on your true cravings and emotional needs13:48 Creativity, belonging, and connection energise your inner life25:13 Prioritise self-nourishment, download the reflection sheet at thebigdrinkrethink.com/tools26:57 Identifying core needs brings clarity, immediate well-being, and builds lasting habits.Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebigdrinkrethink.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebigdrinkrethink.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Have you ever questioned whether alcohol might be quietly dimming the best parts of your life? In this episode of The Big Drink Rethink, Anna Donaghey chats to Dan D'Souza, co-founder of MUUSH to explore how quitting alcohol made room for more meaning, creativity, and connection. From high-flying networking in boozy city jobs to finding real nourishment in purpose and daily joy, Dan shares his journey through the “grey area” of drinking and the practical, inspiring steps he took to rethink his relationship with alcohol. Here are the Highlights:00:00 Intro: Dan D'Souza, co-founder of MUUSH, quit alcohol to prioritise purpose, and connection04:00 Missed grades led to studying marketing at Sussex09:54 Alcohol remains a social expectation and facilitator in business15:54 Drinking can still be a problem if it depletes or distracts you17:33 A turning point in 2023, after losing a bag with a phone and laptop21:08 Focus on what feels good and kind23:57 Removing alcohol creates space for reflection, opens new chapters, and fosters clarity for life's next steps27:44 Spending less on alcohol allows for more purposeful spending 35:24 Focus on identifying priorities37:07 Bridging taste and function in non-alcoholic drinks43:00 Balance values and small pleasures while maintaining clarity and energy46:02 Seeking professional help and finding inspiration from others49:14 Friendships can evolve to provide emotional supportAnna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukAbout Dan D’Souza:Dan D’Souza, co-founder of MUUSH - Lion’s Mane-based drinks brand. On a mission to bridge taste and function with Lion's Mane based drinks.10+ years marketing experience at household name brands including Virgin, Octopus investments, Citibank.His story really captures the grey area so many people find themselves in with alcohol. Dan stopped drinking in October 2023 whilst working in previous businesses and felt there needed to be more functional and non-alcohol  drinks available. Connect with Dan:Linkedin:: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-d-souza/?originalSubdomain=uk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dan_d.souza/?hl=en Linkedin (MUUSH): https://www.linkedin.com/company/104243925/admin/dashboard/Instagram (MUUSH): https://www.instagram.com/drinkmuush/?hl=en Website: www.muush.coMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Letting go, relaxing, and releasing especially without alcohol can feel out of reach for many. In this insightful, toolbox-packed Q&A episode, Anna Donaghey tackles questions from listeners and coaching clients about why it can be so hard to relax or "let go," even after quitting drinking. This episode explores how patterns of control, nervous system wiring, shame, and old beliefs shape our inability to relax, and offers practical, compassionate tools for beginning to unlearn these habits and find true safety and release.Here are the Highlights:00:00 Introduction: Listener questions about “letting go”01:57 Listener feels unable to soften and release03:18 The nervous system doesn’t know how to release on its own04:24 It's not that you're broken, the body has learned holding on is safe05:33 Why we grip so tightly, and the link to safety and self-protection06:42 Fear of falling apart, feeling emotions, and losing control 07:38 What does your tightness think it’s protecting?08:05 Why “trying hard” to release is counterproductive09:18 Create conditions where release can happen naturally12:05 The importance of permission in self-care and self-worth12:48 Seeking support, therapy, and accepting oneself14:06 Start with possibility17:19 Replace drinking rituals with calming alternatives18:04 Healing is slow, small acts accumulate and become safety signals19:09 Layers of trust: trust in self, trust in others, and (even) trust in life22:31 “I don’t have to carry this anymore”; letting go doesn’t mean giving up22:50 Release isn’t a destination, it’s a returning rhythm like breathing25:03 Micro-moments of softening as daily healing gestures26:16 Please submit your questions for future episodes.Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

How deep do the patterns that drive our drinking really go? In this transformative episode, Anna talks to Dr. Evette Rose, internationally renowned holistic counselor, trauma recovery expert, and author of Metaphysical Anatomy to reveal how trauma, inherited stress, and family conditioning can hardwire us for coping mechanisms like alcohol, long before we ever pick up a drink. You’ll discover addiction is not just about willpower or habits. It’s about healing the imprints left by childhood, family history, and even foetal development. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking not just sobriety, but true freedom from old emotional wiring.​Here are the Highlights:00:00 Introduction: Exploring trauma, nervous system wiring, and alcohol03:25 Growing up: alcoholism, violence, and longing for connection07:36 How childhood patterns of stress shape identity09:18 Repeating family patterns in relationships12:09 Intergenerational trauma and addiction predisposition15:10 The impact of maternal stress on addiction risk17:01 The placenta as a “memory bank” for trauma18:36 Not just nurture, trauma transfer at a cellular and biological level22:01 How generational trauma can be “programmed” into you28:38 Coping mechanisms beyond alcohol33:00 Why focusing only on “fixing” yourself keeps you stuck 35:37 Rapid regulation exercises for triggers and cravings 41:22 Practical body-based tools for rewiring safety48:00 What if you don’t know your family history? 51:05 Healing not as correcting flaws, but updating old survival patterns.Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukAbout Dr. Evette RoseDr. Evette Rose is an internationally renowned holistic counsellor, trauma recovery expert, and author of 21 books, including the global best-seller Metaphysical Anatomy Volume 1: Your Body Is Talking, Are You Listening? This groundbreaking work explores 722 ailments and the emotional roots behind them, based on over 7,000 client case studies from around the world.Evette specialises in helping people decode the hidden emotional messages behind physical symptoms  -  and her methods have helped thousands break free from chronic pain, trauma, and emotional stress. Her work has been recognised globally, not least when she recently presented her latest research at a prestigious medical conference in London, UK.Website: https://www.metaphysicalanatomy.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.evetteroseofficial/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/metaphysicalanatomy/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGkoVX_JnMTvGGH3Q5LJIWwEvette’s Free eBook: https://metaphysicalanatomy.com/free-ebook-restoring-the-emotional-body/Mentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Is quitting alcohol just about the drink itself, or is there something deeper at play? Anna Donaghey sits down with trauma-informed healer Emma Lyons, founder of The Trauma Matrix, to explore how shame hides beneath so many of our habits, including drinking, and keeps us stuck in self-judgment, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. If you’ve ever felt that gnawing ‘not enough’ feeling, or wondered why cutting back on booze feels so hard, this episode will help you see what’s really fueling the urge and give you powerful new tools for release.Here are the Highlights:00:00 Introduction: Why releasing alcohol requires releasing shame02:08 Meet Emma Lyons04:49 Family scapegoat, inherited shame & the roots of addiction07:54 Why therapy doesn’t work until you address shame09:00 Shame vs. guilt: The toxic cocktail that attacks our sense of self12:40 Manipulation, compliance, and the gaslighting of “for your own good”13:39 How shame hijacks the body and drives coping strategies17:16 Shame shuts down empathy19:37 Narcissists, repression, and the Velcro effect of internalised shame22:01 Scapegoats, golden children, and not being yourself25:54 Imposter syndrome, perfectionism and anxiety are all just shame with better PR28:43 Numbing shame with alcohol30:51 How not-enoughness fuels drinking32:01 Why shame is always toxic and why society says otherwise35:41 How children can pick up parental shame, accidentally and unconsciously38:39 Drinking to numb, feeling flawed, and repeating the pattern39:31 You can’t bully shame into submission48:17 What happens when shame is released48:42 Why alcohol loses its job when shame no longer needs numbing49:28 Where to find Emma Lyons (+free gift for listeners)Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukAbout Emma Lyons:Emma Lyons helps women break up with the shame voice that’s been sabotaging their power.She’s not here to help you “overcome self-sabotage”, she’s here to help you dismantle the internalized narcissist posing as your inner voice.Emma’s work dives deeper than mindset. She exposes the nervous system-level survival responses that keep brilliant women stuck in guilt, people-pleasing, burnout, and invisibility, even after years of therapy, coaching, and healing.Her approach blends somatic work, trauma decoding, and intuitive energy healing to guide women out of shame loops and back into embodied self-trust.Through her signature framework, The Trauma Matrix, and her new program Evict the Narc Within, Emma calls out the cultural and familial systems that condition women to abandon themselves -  and shows them how to finally break free.Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/trauma.matrixLinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/emma-lyons-b482021b3/For Emma’s FREE guide: "5 Signs You Need to Break Up with Your Inner Narcissist"https://tinyurl.com/nottodaynarcMentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Is change really something to fear or the doorway to a brighter, more intentional life? What if the moments when everything feels uncertain are precisely when new possibilities emerge? In this uplifting episode of The Big Drink Rethink, host Anna Donaghey welcomes author and coach Eleanor Tweddell, whose book Another Door Opens explores the messy, hopeful, and deeply human process of navigating personal transformation.Together, Anna and Eleanor unpack what it means to face closed doors whether it's about drinking, work, relationships, or life itself and how to turn endings into powerful new beginnings. If you’re grappling with resistance to change (or maybe just a nagging sense that something isn’t right), this conversation is packed with understanding, psychological insight, and practical strategies to help you move forward.Here are the Highlights:00:00 Introduction: Meet Eleanor Tweddell, author and change expert02:08 Why closed doors aren’t the end—change as an opening03:04 Redundancy, discomfort, and listening to the inner voice04:38 The Do Lecture Bootcamp, risk, and growth05:48 Resistance vs. readiness: why “I’ll do it tomorrow” feels safer08:33 The power and necessity of ownership when facing change12:40 Micro-change in daily life: choice, triggers, and how we respond14:55 The inevitability of change: we’re already masters at adapting17:37 The importance of the pause: creating space and acknowledging what you need19:32 Why alcohol is often our default “pause” and what listening to our emotions can reveal22:14 Turning resistance into reflection: the first step to possibility24:45 The messy middle: limiting beliefs, discomfort, and the courage to stay and learn33:34 Support, connection, and the ripple effect of personal change34:56 Playfulness as a tool: experiments, brainstorming, and expanding your sense of what’s possible.Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukAbout Eleanor Tweddell:Eleanor Tweddell is a specialist in helping people, teams, and organisations navigate change with confidence and clarity. As the founder of Another Door Opens, she encourages individuals to rethink work and embrace change as an opportunity rather than a setback. Her work spans organisational transformation, leadership development, and personal reinvention, guiding businesses and individuals through uncertainty with practical tools and powerful change narratives. Buy the Book - Another Door Opens; 5 steps for navigating change.Find out more about Eleanor Tweddell at https://www.eleanortweddell.com/Connect with Eleanor:Website: https://www.eleanortweddell.com/Instagram: instagram/anotherdoorukLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eleanor-tweddell/ Mentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607

Is drinking stopping you from becoming the parent (and person) you want to be? Why is alcohol so deeply woven into fatherhood and what does it take for men to resist those powerful cultural norms and rewrite their story for good? In this honest and inspiring episode of The Big Drink Rethink, host Anna Donaghey sits down with Luke Jones, sober transformation coach and NLP master practitioner, to explore identity, masculinity, and the “aha” moments that spark lasting change.Luke shares how alcohol slowly shifted from social glue to coping crutch, the subtle (and not-so-subtle) self-justifications men use to keep drinking, and the moment his son’s simple question forced him to confront the truth. Together, Anna and Luke shine a light on the unique pressures facing dads and offer powerful tools for mastering the discomfort of change and finding a new (genuinely fun) way forward.Here are the Highlights: 00:00 Introduction: Meet Luke Jones, sober transformation coach for dads04:33 From backpacking party scene to family life06:00 Everyday drinking creeps in using alcohol as a “coping” tool08:30 When your own kid asks if you’re an alcoholic12:06 The pressure to keep up and blokey culture,14:07 Why the fear of loss keeps us stuck18:05 Personal development vs. just quitting drinking22:08 Drinking as self-definition, who am I if not a drinker?23:03 From self-awareness to education26:31 Your WHY: Role modelling, fatherhood, motivation trumps fear30:39 Social anxiety and building the muscle of sober connection33:19 Why it’s not all-or-nothing and every attempt counts36:27 Is this life enough? How growth and learning return after sobriety43:14 The most common challenges dads face44:50 Why men don’t want to talk (but desperately need to)47:36 Luke’s advice for men: find support, vulnerability is strength49:54 Resistance is natural, fear is overcomable… and your WHY is everything.Anna’s group coaching community ‘Unstuck!’ helps identify your alcohol ‘stories’ and beliefs, breaking the cycle of alcohol and all the shame that goes with it. For more information and to find out how to join, please follow this link: https://www.winetowatercoaching.com/unstuck-1 To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment:  https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experimentAnd apply the code POD99 to purchase for just £99 as a podcast listener.If you’re loving the podcast and would like to give Anna a warm, fuzzy feeling of appreciation, then you can buy her a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/bigdrinkrethinkAbout the host Anna:Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.Connect with Anna:Website: thebeliefscoach.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonagheyInstagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethinkProduced by winteraudio.co.ukAbout Luke Jones:Luke Jones is a sober transformation coach based on the Isle of Man, dedicated to helping dads quit drinking and become stronger role models for their families - without sacrificing fun or connection. An ICF-accredited life coach and NLP master practitioner, Luke draws from his personal journey of overcoming alcohol and regaining presence in his own family life. Through his 12-week Sober Freedom Blueprint program, he blends practical strategies with empathy and real-life experience. When he’s not coaching or running his business, Luke balances life as a plumber, dad, and advocate for positive change.Connect with Luke:Website: https://lukejonescoaching.com/Mentioned in this episode:To pre-order my book, What Are You Thirsty For on Amazon select here: https://amzn.eu/d/3v3T6Mq Or on Waterstones here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/what-are-you-thirsty-for/anna-donaghey/9781915780607