
Love, your Money - Wealth, Money, and Financial Advisor for Women
If you are seeking your path to real financial success – this show is for you. Truly achieving financial freedom requires you master the “inner” world of money - your money mindset - and the “outer” world of money - consistently growing your net worth. One without the other is not enough. This show contains powerful systems and methodologies for women who run businesses and women who don’t. Love, your Money® with Hilary Hendershott tackles money beliefs and financial planning strategies like:What your family life growing up may say about your credit card debtWhat tax strategies make the most sense for business ownersHow to leverage compound investments to build truly passive incomeHow the quality of your relationships rise and fall on your money habitsWhether index funds are better to invest in than actively managed fundsTaking charge of your income and cash flow so you have money for today and tomorrowHilary Hendershott is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional with more than two decades of experience as a wealth manager. She’s NBC’s “Investor’s Voice of Reason”, an Investopedia Top 100 Financial Advisor five years running, and a TEDx speaker with her own personal experience of making money mistakes before multi-million-dollar success. Love, your Money With Hilary Hendershott is an ongoing conversation for you to improve your relationship with money, deepen your understanding of how money works in every area of life, and gain the clarity you seek about strategic wealth building and investing decisions and questions.Subscribe to Love, your Money® with Hilary Hendershott wherever you find your other favorite podcasts. And if you love what you hear, show some love with a five-star rating!For more information, visit https://hendershottwealth.com
Latest episodes

Jun 10, 2025 • 32min
282: Do You Really Need Alternative Investments As Your Net Worth Grows?
Today we’re diving into the world of alternative investments (a.k.a. alts)–opportunities that are often marketed with the promise of high returns and diversification, but frequently come with hidden risks and complexities. In this episode, Hilary shares the professional insights and experiences she’s gleaned about alts in her 25+ years as a fee-only fiduciary financial advisor with deep expertise in public markets. From high fees and lack of transparency to liquidity issues and potential for fraud, she breaks down why these investments may not be the golden ticket they're often marketed as–and explains how Hendershott Wealth Management® designs client portfolios instead. Tune in to learn: Why alts are so appealing to high net worth investors, Some of the biggest risks and pitfalls of alternative investments, How to make informed decisions about your investment strategy, and Why we believe a well-diversified, low-cost portfolio is the best–and most evidence-based–path to financial security. Bottom line: The actual experience of holding alternative investments is not conducive to the kind of elegance, simplicity, or peace of mind we pursue for our clients and want for you. Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:01:40 What alternative investments are, what contributed to the rise of them, and why they remain so alluring05:20 The fee structure of alts compared to the fee of a low-cost, globally-diversified index portfolio–and an example of their impact on returns06:00 Talking liquidity: How accessible is your wealth when invested in alts, and what are typical lock-up periods?08:25 Strike three against alts: Lack of transparency and the difficulty of actually being able to value your holdings 10:07 Alternative investments + fraud = a few real-world stories you might recognize 11:33 Comparing returns from the Teacher Retirement System of Texas (TRS) with the Public Employees' Retirement System of Nevada (PERS) – and making it real for you14:35 Stories about the failures of alts, including high end art, a managed futures fund, angel investments, and CEO theft20:30 The Hendershott Wealth Management® investment philosophy, AKA why we will never accept default risk and what we do prioritize, instead24:12 My final verdict on alternative investments, and how to evaluate investment opportunities Show NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/do-you-need-alternative-investmentsFollow Hilary on:LinkedIn InstagramYouTube Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

May 27, 2025 • 33min
281: Don’t Risk Bad Investments for Good Tax Breaks: Introducing Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠, Part Two
In this episode, we’re continuing our conversation about Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠—a new-to-market investment strategy designed to help high net worth investors defer capital gains taxes while keeping their portfolios liquid and growth-oriented. If you haven’t listened to Episode 280 yet, go back and do that because it lays the foundation for everything we’re covering today, including how Robert and I discovered this strategy, vetted it thoroughly, and ultimately decided to offer it to our clients at Hendershott Wealth Management. Today, we’re diving deeper into UTEWM℠ to talk about: How this strategy compares to other common tax-deferral methods (and why others fall short) What makes Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠ uniquely effective, flexible, and IRS-compliant The technical underpinnings of the investment strategy, including the application of a long-short market-neutral overlay How UTEWM℠ can be applied to retirement distribution planning to potentially save millions in taxes over a lifetime Unlike most capital gains strategies that require sacrificing liquidity or chasing high-risk alternatives, UTEWM℠ relies on publicly traded stocks in efficient markets and uses a smart approach to defer gains while realizing strategic losses. It’s a new way of thinking about wealth management, and it could significantly improve your long-term outcomes. It’s exciting, it's flexible, it's widely applicable, and it is better than most–if not all–of the current methods to minimize capital gains taxes. The bottom line? You don’t have to settle for “bad investments with good tax benefits.” With UTEWM℠, you can aim for great investments with excellent tax benefits. So if you have (or will have) substantial unrealized capital gains from assets such as employer/highly appreciated stock, business sale proceeds, or real estate, this episode is a must-listen. Let’s get into it! ⬇️ Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®: 01:26 A reminder of what UTEWMSM is: the strategic creation of taxable losses to offset gains, potentially saving you millions of dollars in capital gains taxes03:28 Alternative ways to avoid capital gains that are “bad investments with good tax benefits”, like Qualified Opportunity Funds–and the opportunity costs they come with, especially if you’re saving for retirement07:09 Solar Tax Equity Financing, and why it doesn’t meet Robert’s “big benefit, low risk” requirement for a good investment08:13 What happens when you break IRS tax rules for the sake of a return–which is what we’d call “bad tax benefit, bad investment” 11:10 How UTEWM℠ differs from all other ways to defer paying capital gains taxes, including tax loss harvesting–where the opportunity to take losses tends to dry up over time13:01 The difference between active management and UTEWM℠, why we’ve traditionally avoided it, and the mindset shift we had to make to embrace (and unlock) the potential of this strategy15:05 The reliability and predictability of tax benefits, and why, in this case, “small return benefits” should be of interest to you as an investor15:54 The breakdown of the costs of an Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠ strategy: trading, financing, and managing – and what can offset those costs19:1 Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

May 13, 2025 • 49min
280: Maximize Gains and Minimize Taxes: Introducing Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠, Part One
Tax deferral is one of the most powerful wealth-building tools available to investors. Why? Because it allows you to reinvest money that would have gone to the IRS, compounding returns on that money and significantly increasing your long-term wealth.In this episode, I’m joined by Robert Hendershott (HWM’s Chief Investment Officer and my husband!) to talk about Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠—a suite of services that uses cutting-edge strategy designed to minimize taxes on your capital gains without sacrificing returns or adding unnecessary risk–and why he came out of retirement to help us implement this strategy with our high net worth clients. Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠ creates its benefits through realizing investment losses while deferring gains using a long-short overlay composed of individual stocks, which allows tax savings that can continue to compound for as long as the gains are deferred. And over a lifetime, that can be huge.We can’t overestimate how powerful this new-to-market wealth building strategy is, and in today’s conversation, we’ll start at the beginning, talking about: ✔ Why tax deferral benefits investors and follows the letter of the IRS law ✔ How Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth ManagementSM works, as well as the risks and rewards of this tax-aware investing approach ✔ Why personalized tax management is a must for sophisticated investorsThe bottom line? Tax planning isn’t one-size-fits-all. But with the right strategy, you can legally and effectively minimize taxes while maximizing your wealth.If you know someone who has capital gains in their life, listen to this episode and forward it to them–because this conversation could really alter your financial trajectory for the better by deferring millions in taxes–while keeping more of your money working for you. ⬇️Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:02:32 The genesis of Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠ at Hendershott Wealth, including my “it can’t really be this good” moment, and the decision to bring Robert out of retirement 06:18 The general benefits of tax deferral and why compounding returns are such an important piece of wealth building09:20 How concentrated stock portfolios affect your ability to leverage tax deferral, plus how tax loss harvesting works – and where it falls short12:03 Breaking down financial jargon to help you understand the high level functioning of Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠ and how it is designed to create reliable, predictable losses to offset gains15:38 Playing by the rules of the IRS to generate market gains and create recognized losses–so you can have your cake and eat it, too19:24 A simplified-but-illustrative example of a long-short strategy in action for an investor looking to diversify $1 mil of Amazon stock (don’t try this at home!)28:14 How we know UTEWM℠ is legit with the IRS, and why it’s so effective at creating tax benefits28:58 What makes someone a suitable candidate for this strategy, why it hasn’t been widely implemented by financial advisors or investment managers yet, and what’s changed to make it attractive–and approachable–now33:46 The three main strategy risks and uncertainties of UTEWM℠ , and the silver lining it creates when the market goes down38:50 The true pote Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

Apr 29, 2025 • 32min
279: 5 Strategies to Minimize Capital Gains Tax (and Keep Your Portfolio Growing) in 2025
In this episode of Love, Your Money®, we’re tackling a hot topic: capital gains tax. While many investors assume paying high taxes is inevitable, there are smart, legal strategies that can significantly reduce—or even eliminate—what you owe.Some people avoid taxes by never selling their investments, but that means never enjoying the wealth they’ve built. Others chase tax-advantaged, underperforming assets that often do more harm than good.In just under 30 minutes, we’re breaking down five effective strategies that help minimize capital gains taxes while keeping your portfolio growing—without sacrificing liquidity or returns. From foundational tools like tax loss harvesting to advanced strategies like tax-aware investing with Separately Managed Accounts, this episode offers practical, proven tactics for high-net-worth investors.You’ll learn when and how to use each strategy, the pros and cons of each, and why some popular options (like Opportunity Zones and oil & gas investments) often fail to deliver lasting benefits.If you’ve got appreciated assets—like real estate, employer stock, or a taxable brokerage account—and want to keep more of your gains instead of handing them to the IRS, this episode is a must-listen.Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:02:15 A common misconception about capital gains tax, and why simple tax deferral by never selling is NOT a viable long-term strategy04:23 The benefits–and limitations–of tax loss harvesting and tax-conscious investment vehicles 06:31 What NOT to do with the proceeds once you’ve harvested your losses, or, the Wash Sale Rule09:04 Specialized tax-managed mutual funds, ETFs, and other tax-conscious investment vehicles we use with our clients10:26 Borrowing against appreciated stock (the poorly nicknamed "buy, borrow, die" strategy)—and when it becomes risky13:27 Stock collars: An example of what they are and how they work, when to consider them, and when to avoid them17:35 What made direct indexing a game-changer for high-net-worth investors, and how it impacts capital gains taxes 20:27 Separately Managed Accounts & Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth ManagementSM: the most advanced, effective way to minimize capital gains taxes without compromising returns or liquidity25:35 Where you can go to learn more about Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth ManagementSM and optimize your portfolio for tax efficiencyShow NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/minimize-capital-gains-tax Follow Hilary on:LinkedIn InstagramYouTube Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

Apr 15, 2025 • 26min
278: 5 Reasons Hiring A Virtual Financial Advisor Might Be Your Smartest Money Move
Once upon a time, managing your finances meant sitting across from an advisor in a big office, flipping through stacks of paper. But times have changed and thanks to technology, you can work with an expert financial team from anywhere—without sacrificing trust, personalization, or expertise. In fact, you might prefer working with a virtual advisor, and we’re going to explain why!In this episode, Hendershott Wealth Management advisors Jen Rupp and Alyssa Hause break down a few key advantages that come from working with a virtual financial planner, including: ✔ ️ Why location doesn’t have to limit your choice (or ours!) ✔ How technology helps us deliver better service and build more meaningful relationships ✔ The benefits of choosing a firm that aligns with your vision and values ✔ Why virtual advising makes financial planning easier, more efficient, and less stressfulIf you’ve been debating whether a virtual financial advisor is right for you, this episode just might have your answer. 👀Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:02:18 What the old days of working with a financial advisor looked like03:47 How working virtually keeps fees reasonable without compromising quality06:37 What it really means to work with a fiduciary advisor who puts your best interests first08:07 How a tech-forward, process-driven firm can save you time and sanity–and keep your finances more secure11:30 Here, there, and everywhere: The value of continuity with a financial advisory team, no matter where your life takes you12:56 How we build even more meaningful relationships when working virtually17:32 What you’re investing in when you pay a virtual advisor–and exactly what you can expect when you make Hendershott Wealth Management your financial advisory teamShow NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/hiring-virtual-financial-advisorFollow Hilary on:LinkedIn InstagramYouTube Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

Apr 1, 2025 • 23min
277: Should You Diversify Your Employer Stock? Here’s the Data… And a Plan
Welcome back, Money Lover! In today’s episode, we’re tackling a financial risk I see far too often: holding too much of your employer’s stock. If you’ve built up a significant position in company shares through stock options, RSUs, or other equity compensation, this conversation is for you.Many people assume that because they work for a successful company—especially one of the Magnificent 7 (Apple, Microsoft, Nvidia, Google, Amazon, Tesla, Meta)—their employer stock is a safe and smart investment. But when it comes to investing, diversification is key. Today, we’re breaking down the risks of concentrated stock positions, and talk about why even the biggest companies rarely stay on top forever. Then we’ll get into how diversification helps protect and grow your wealth, and wrap up by sharing smart, strategic, and tax-efficient ways to sell your employer stock.It’s easy to feel attached to your company’s stock—after all, you’ve invested your time and energy in its success. But holding too much employer stock exposes you to unnecessary financial risk, and today’s episode is all about how to minimize that risk while maximizing your long-term returns.The key takeaway? You don’t need to time the market perfectly—you just need a plan. (We can help with that.) Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:01:16 An intro to the financial risk we see far too often, and who this episode is perfect for 02:42 The illusion of safety in holding onto concentrated employer stock05:34 The past performance of top 10 stocks, risks associated with not diversifying–and, why most people still want to hold on to their company stock 07:31 How your own biases can sabotage your wealth building efforts, and a unique reframe to approach your decision with 08:59 Understanding your equity and the kind of stock you own 10:58 Developing a tax-smart strategy for diversifying your investment portfolio14:05 The four-step process we use to structure client investment portfolios 16:02 The tax implications of selling your employer stock, and, more importantly, how to minimize those taxes and keep more of your hard-earned money 17:57 The new-to-market strategy we’re helping clients with large unrealized gains utilize: Ultra Tax Efficient Wealth Management℠ Show NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/diversify-your-employer-stock/Follow Hilary on:LinkedIn InstagramYouTube Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

Mar 18, 2025 • 19min
276: Why Tax Planning Beats Tax Prep: How to Take a Tax-Forward Approach to Your Money
Many people wait until tax season to think about their taxes, only to feel overwhelmed and unprepared. But the truth is, tax season isn’t really a “season” at all! Tax planning is an ongoing process that plays a crucial role in your financial success, and should be a consideration all year long. Because when approached strategically, proactive tax planning and preparation can help you keep more of your hard-earned money.In this episode, Jen Rupp (our Director of Financial Planning/Senior Financial Advisor) and Alyssa Hause (one of our Lead Financial Advisors) take the mic to talk about the value of proactive tax planning–and how you can take some of the stress out of tax prep.They break down the difference between tax planning and tax preparation, explain why looking ahead instead of reacting can make a huge impact on your financial future, and walk you through examples of how working with financial professionals who understand tax strategies can help you minimize what you owe–and maximize your long-term wealth.Even though we’re still in the first quarter of the year, now is the perfect time to start thinking about your 2025 taxes–and how small changes in your income, investments, and overall financial decisions can lead to significant tax savings down the road.So whether you’re preparing for this year’s tax deadline or looking to set yourself up for long-term success, we hope this conversation helps you take control of your tax strategy and ensure your money is working for you in the most tax-efficient way possible. 💪Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:02:54 Why taxes aren’t the once-per-year headache you might be treating them as 03:51 The key difference between tax planning and tax preparation, plus examples of what tax-forward planning looks like 06:31 How to reduce the stress of tax season by preparing early, and a checklist of documents you need to file 07:57 How Jen and Alyssa approach their own tax planning and preparation, and why they’re particular about accurately assessing withholdings 11:08 Working with a tax-savvy advisor, the best way to avoid filing amendments, and why we take a proactive approach to communication 13:51 Advanced tax strategies you should know–beyond tax loss harvesting and 401(k) contributions–to increase your savings and wealth accumulation Show NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/why-tax-planning-beats-tax-prepFollow Hilary on:LinkedIn InstagramYouTube Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

Mar 4, 2025 • 20min
275: Protecting Women's Wealth
Welcome back, Money Lover! In today’s episode, we’re diving into a topic that I’m incredibly passionate about: protecting women’s wealth. This is a conversation that applies to everyone—whether you’re a woman looking to safeguard your financial future or someone who wants to support the women in your life.Protecting wealth isn’t a new topic around here. It’s the final step in our 7 Steps to Wealth framework, and we spent the last few episodes talking about different ways to protect your wealth in relationships–with yourself and others. This week we’re wrapping up that series with an episode focused on financial planning considerations for women.Women have long been praised for their generosity, often being encouraged to give their resources away. However, true financial security begins with keeping and growing wealth, not sacrificing it. This is especially important when you consider some of the life experiences women tend to go through, particularly as they relate to longevity and the evolution of our financial needs in different stages of life.Financial empowerment starts with recognizing that no one cares more about your money than you do. Staying informed and actively engaged in financial decisions is essential to building lasting wealth–and that’s exactly what we’re going to talk about today. ⬇️Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:03:10 The societal belief that has held women back, why we need to stop celebrating self-sacrifice, and the mental reframe we need when it comes to women and wealth 05:07 The three best practices we recommend for building long-term wealth, and how longevity impacts financial planning 06:43 How work-life balance, traditional gender roles, and caregiving responsibilities impact women’s earning capacity and financial well-being 07:40 How to stake a claim in your household’s wealth management, and why trust isn’t a substitute for knowing9:33 What you need to know if you want to be informed and empowered about your finances, retirement planning for surviving spouses, and benefit distribution12:53 Reviewing beneficiary designations, estate plans, and insurance coverage as your financial needs fluctuate and change over time14:27 What your mindset, emotional needs, and personal goals have to do with your financial planning 16:10 Signs it’s time to find a new financial advisor, and how our team works with high net worth women and couples with wealth to protect their best interests and their assets Show NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/protecting-womens-wealthFollow Hilary on:LinkedIn InstagramYouTube Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

Feb 25, 2025 • 29min
274: Skipping "I Do": How to Safeguard Your Finances as an Unmarried Couple with Melanie Lockert
A lot of people have purely romantic notions about marriage, but the truth is that marriage, in its simplest form, is a contract that provides legal protection. That contract is meant to cover ownership of real estate, division of assets, determination of healthcare directives, and more. Not everyone wants to enter into the terms of that contract, but their relationships still deserve respect and their wealth and assets still deserve protection. So if you’re interested in a long-term romantic partnership and want to build a life with someone–without the legal commitment–this is the episode for you. 👇 I’m joined by Melanie Lockert, an award-winning finance writer, public speaker, event planner, and founder of Lola Retreat for women. We talked about why many people are opting out of marriage, how unmarried partners can be legally vulnerable, and steps you can take to protect yourself–and your partner–financially, in case of separation or unexpected health events.Today’s interview is a follow-up to last week’s conversation with estate attorney Kara Foster about prenups and postnups–head to hendershottwealth.com/273 if you missed that one!Whether you’re on the fence or fully decided about your personal stance on marriage, both episodes are worth a listen… especially if you need a reminder to update the beneficiaries on your policies and accounts. 👀Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money®:02:44 Why Melanie became interested in writing about the financial implications of unmarried partnerships and how people can protect themselves 03:33 Making medical decisions for your partner, the importance of getting a healthcare power of attorney, and what happens without that paperwork07:02 Melanie’s reasons for not getting married, how that decision aligns with her values, and why she considers it a money-saving move11:15 Things people forget to consider about when they’re considering moving in together, especially when it comes to finances or real estate investments 16:49 What Melanie has learned about protecting her finances from her partnerships, and how her boundaries have changed over the years18:33 What Melanie would say to an unmarried couple who is considering buying real estate together, and the potential risk of taking title as joint tenants23:52 The reframe Melanie wants listeners to consider when they’re thinking about legal and financial protections in long term partnershipsShow NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/melanie-lockert-skipping-i-doFollow Hilary on:LinkedIn InstagramYouTube Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.

Feb 18, 2025 • 32min
273: Prenups, Postnups, and Talking About Finances in Marriage with Kara Foster
It’s often said that money is one of the most common sources of conflict in a marriage, and a leading cause of divorce. Today’s episode has me rethinking that positioning: What if money isn’t the one to blame, and the actual culprit is a lack of communication?You’ve likely heard me talk at length about the 7 Steps to Wealth, which is the framework I used to climb out of debt and build lasting wealth. The final step in that framework, Protect, is all about safeguarding your financial future. It’s one of the most important–and often neglected–steps. I did a deep-dive into the seventh step in episode 264, but today we’re taking a closer look at one crucial part of Protect: how to protect your wealth when you’re in a relationship. Specifically, we’re going to talk about prenups, postnups, and how they can help you preserve your wealth *and* your relationship.To help us unpack this topic, I’m joined by Kara Foster, an attorney from Foster Hsu, LLP. Kara and Lydia, her partner at the firm, are experienced in all aspects of California family law including divorce, legal separation, domestic violence, guardianship, stepparent adoption, and—what we’re focusing on today—prenuptial and postnuptial agreements. In this episode, we discuss:What a prenup covers and when to consider oneWhy prenups can be good for a relationshipHow to create a prenup and how much they costBut my biggest takeaway was this: What’s more important than any piece of paper you sign (or don’t) is that you have open, honest, and consistent conversations with your spouse about your finances. You should be on the same page about what’s going on, and the only way to do that is to talk about it.I learned so much from this conversation, and am grateful to Kara for lending her voice and expertise to the show. Now without further ado, let’s talk about what to do before you say “I do!”Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money:03:44 What a prenup is, what it covers, and what can not be included in it 05:44 When should couples consider a prenup, and why businesses and real estate make asset division more complicated 08:05 How a prenup allows couples to keep assets separate during the marriage–and the pivotal thing a prenup “forces” you to do before getting married that will change your relationship (for the better!) in the long term12:49 How a postnup differs from a prenup, when it’s worth getting one, and the limits or enforceability of the agreement14:43 The process of creating a pre- or postnup, what can make the cost go up, and the importance of financial disclosure 18:30 Sticky situations a prenup can help couples avoid, the stigma of prenups, and why Kara doesn’t agree with the bad rap–even though she hears it a lot21:51 Why unmarried couples who purchase real estate should get a cohabitation agreement, what it means to be joint tenants, and the importance of taking title25:22 Why Kara didn’t get a prenup, the importance of ongoing communication about finances in marriage, and red flags to look out for Show NotesTo get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned, visit: https://hendershottwealth.com/podcast/kara-foster-finances-in-marriage Hendershott Wealth Management, LLC and Love, your Money do not make specific investment recommendations on Love, your Money or in any public media. Any specific mentions of funds or investments are strictly for illustrative purposes only and should not be taken as investment advice or acted upon by individual investors. The opinions expressed in this episode are those of Hilary Hendershott, CFP®, MBA.