Be Mythical

This week's show is with Jeremie Mercier. Jeremie is a natural health coach who helps his clients to find the nutrition, emotional hygiene and natural health practices that will bring them back to full health. An interesting factoid is that Jeremie is married to one of our previous guests, the amazing Flora Douville who we had on the show a month or so ago talking about her incredible approach to expressing your unique essence. What an amazing couple they are! In this conversation, Jeremie and I talked his research into the Blue Zones - the regions of the world with the highest concentration of centenarians - and what he's seen about the three most impactful things you can do to create a long healthy life. What you'll learn from this episode: The importance of eating a wide range of fresh, natural foods, especially plant foods such as legumes and grains. This can be challenging in this modern world where we typically don't have access to locally grown food but I thought the example of Loma Linda in California was a great one for showing that it's possible to still eat healthily when living in a city. What's seen to be true in all of the Blue Zones is a lack of chronic stress. Stress is a natural feature of humans, it's only when it becomes chronic that it often creates health issues. As we often talk about on this show, when we're in our natural state, our primal state, we move in and out of stress when it's useful. Movement (and the all important rest) are a common feature of all the Blue Zones. It's not typically intense, high impact exercise like going to the gym for a session of cardio, it's more lots of natural movements such as walking, stretching and crouching as they're going about their day.

This week's show is with Dr Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer, and author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City. In this conversation, we spoke about understanding how we got to where we are today where so many people are having bad sex, what good sex is, and how can we let ourselves have it. I suspect it's much easier than you might think. What you'll learn from this episode: Good sex is about feeling 'dumb and happy'. A similar way of experiencing the world to when we were babies who could just relax and enjoy sensations without feeling responsible for creating them. As a culture we're not cool with men having pleasure. Women are seen attractive on based on being whereas men are seen as attractive based on what they're doing. Be relaxed about these expectations and have a sense of humour about them. Be open about what you would like and what would give you pleasure. Finally, we're designed for around the year sexual attraction and sex. As Dr Snyder said "We're the sexiest species on the planet!" I think that understanding that about ourselves allows us to be lighter and more playful about something that we probably going to spend a lot of time thinking about and doing!

This week's show is with JP Morgan, JP guides creators in being more powerful in every area of their life and work. The entrepreneurs and artists he coaches all share an aspiration for excellence and an obsession with mastery. Through regular loving and confronting dialogue, which compliments their daily practice of self-cultivation, JP's clients discover how their mind creates their world and how through surrender they can gain greater control, more fulfilment and exponential results in their life and work. In its essence, JP Morgan has been supporting entrepreneurs and artists around the world since the late 90's, though this work became his profession in 2010. Since then, he has supported numerous individuals in growing their peace, joy and success in the world through growing themselves. Beyond his the daily work with clients, he has been invited to share his ideas and spirit on numerous stages. (TEDx, Global Citizens Forum, BBC & SkyTV, YES Group, Interesting Talks London, InsideOut Movement, METal International, educational institutions, etc.) At a private event, attended by many of the world's billionaires, JP was invited to speak on creating a world world without borders. At the University of Cambridge, he was the subject of a covert study between the psychology and business departments where researchers sought to understand the impact of his state of being. Previous to his current work with leaders, and post formal studies in Physics and Mathematics, JP founded a real estate business and then (from a backpack) founded a web media company serving local and global non-profits. He has lived nomadically while travelling the world for three years, coached human rights leaders, toured as a musician in bands, developed a children's library in Cambodia, published travel writing and photography, competed as a black belt and triathlete, performed as a professional magician, studied with Buddhist monks and spiritual teachers, paraglided the Swiss Alps, cycled solo for thousands of miles and has gone on many other adventures. In 2013, in the Riveria Maya, JP married a wise, loving and beautiful British-Indian woman. In March of 2016 they gave birth to their first child, a boy. Today his family calls Santa Monica, California home although they spend many months abroad each year, including extended visits for work, friends and family in London. In this conversation, a follow-up to the last episode with JP (about how to create your dream life via the energy of thought), we got stuck into how growing our awareness of our creative potential can actually produce tangible results out there in the world. We explored all kinds of interesting stuff including creating abundance, whether we're spiritually bypassing by always going into creation of new stories or beliefs rather than exploring through the shadow, and the biggie of responsibility vs innocence! This episode has stiff competition from last week's show, that was blooming awesome but this one might have just edged it. I'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode: Magic happens when we embrace the marriage between recognising the illusionary nature of life whilst using our ability to create amazing things in our lives - JP's story about Byron Katie and Steve Hardison exemplifies this perfectly! As JP quoted Steve "If you want peace: drop your story. If you want to produce: create your story." The topic of money kicks up thinking in almost everyone - it's something that looks very real. That can make it a cool place to explore, as JP said "Go where the pain is". I particularly loved what he said about the relationship many of us have with debt vs being grateful that we can get the money to allow us to invest in ourselves as an asset. Our state of being has a tangible and direct link to what is created in the world. From a grounded state of being everything flows towards us - people, experiences and money. I think we all kind of know this at some level but it's something we seem to forget and then think that success, connection and all kinds of good things comes from somewhere else. So I think it's a brilliant reminder that how we are in the world is what creates results in the world.

This week's show is with JP Morgan, JP guides creators in being more powerful in every area of their life and work. The entrepreneurs and artists he coaches all share an aspiration for excellence and an obsession with mastery. Through regular loving and confronting dialogue, which compliments their daily practice of self-cultivation, JP's clients discover how their mind creates their world and how through surrender they can gain greater control, more fulfilment and exponential results in their life and work. In its essence, JP Morgan has been supporting entrepreneurs and artists around the world since the late 90's, though this work became his profession in 2010. Since then, he has supported numerous individuals in growing their peace, joy and success in the world through growing themselves. Beyond his the daily work with clients, he has been invited to share his ideas and spirit on numerous stages. (TEDx, Global Citizens Forum, BBC & SkyTV, YES Group, Interesting Talks London, InsideOut Movement, METal International, educational institutions, etc.) At a private event, attended by many of the world's billionaires, JP was invited to speak on creating a world without borders. At the University of Cambridge, he was the subject of a covert study between the psychology and business departments where researchers sought to understand the impact of his state of being. Previous to his current work with leaders, and post formal studies in Physics and Mathematics, JP founded a real estate business and then (from a backpack) founded a web media company serving local and global non-profits. He has lived nomadically while travelling the world for three years, coached human rights leaders, toured as a musician in bands, developed a children's library in Cambodia, published travel writing and photography, competed as a black belt and triathlete, performed as a professional magician, studied with Buddhist monks and spiritual teachers, paraglided the Swiss Alps, cycled solo for thousands of miles and has gone on many other adventures. In 2013, in the Riveria Maya, JP married a wise, loving and beautiful British-Indian woman. In March of 2016 they gave birth to their first child, a boy. Today his family calls Santa Monica, California home although they spend many months abroad each year, including extended visits for work, friends and family in London. In this conversation, I took the opportunity to mine JP's wonderful mind for his take on creativity and living an incredible life. JP and I explored what it means to be a creator, the potential we all have to create the experience of life that we want whilst also recognising the paradox that it's all illusory and made-up. I loved this episode so much that we suddenly realised that we were out of time and still had so much we wanted to get into so we then agreed to come back and do a part two.

This week's show is with Eliane Sainte-Marie, the founder of Parenting for Wholeness, creator of the acclaimed Clean Parenting Program where she guides parents in experiencing the ease and harmony she promises is possible in families, author of the book Clean Parenting: the Peaceful Parent's Essential Handbook, and mother to three wonderful adult daughters. She's passionate about helping parents raise children who are whole, as well as helping them shed what's in their way of living from a place of wholeness. In this conversation, we spoke about one of the main reasons many parents who try gentle parenting struggle and why adding in the missing ingredient of leadership makes so much difference. It's actually quite magical! What I especially love about Eliane is that she grounds everything she talks about in what's natural for humans and also what's she's seen herself as a parent and as a parenting coach. She's wonderful! I know you're going to love her too! I'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode: Why is leadership in parenting so important? As Eliane says: imagine if you were moving somewhere with a completely different culture. Or even to a different planet. Picture yourself being there alone, not knowing the language and not knowing any of the local customs; not knowing what is considered rude or might upset people or possibly even make them want to harm you; not knowing how to operate any of their technology or how to operate in their society, organizations, businesses, etc. How would that feel? And now imagine that you have a local guide who is there to help you acclimate. Would you do whatever you want, or would you check with that trusted person to find out what's appropriate? Would that person be controlling you or helping you adapt to the culture? As far as that guide goes, would you prefer someone who is afraid to give you information, who is apologetic and who avoids giving you directions as much as possible? Or would you want someone who knows you well, knows what you already know and what you haven't encountered yet, and matter-of-factly presents you with the information you need when you need it. Find your tribe: Surround yourself with parents who are parenting this way, this stuff is so much easier when we're not doing it alone! And be very choosy about who you talk to parenting challenges with - Eliane's suggestion of having a phrase to politely rebuff unwanted parenting advice is a great one! Understand your non-negotiables, personal non-negotiables and preferences and give your children clear and benevolent leadership around them accordingly, I love Eliane's example of crossing the road - almost all of us will know that feeling of guiding children to cross the road safely - it's that same feeling that informs clear, benevolent leadership elsewhere.

This week's show is with Arthur Haines, who describes himself as a forager, ancestral skills mentor, author, public speaker and botanical researcher... but that's just because he's so humble! In reality, he's an oracle of deep knowledge and understanding of the natural world. He's been helping people explore human ecology for over 20 years, with the mission of developing deep awareness of and connection to nature, promoting individual health, and fostering self-reliance. If understanding botany was a super-power (and it probably is), Arthur is a true super hero! He grew up in the western mountains of Maine, a rural area that was home to swift streams known for their trout fishing. He spent most of his childhood in the Sandy River Valley hiking, tracking, and foraging. Arthur now runs the Delta Institute of Natural History in Canton, Maine, where he teaches human ecology, focusing on the values of foraging, wildcrafting medicine, and primitive living skills. He continues to spend a great deal of his free time practicing his skills as a modern hunter-gatherer. As a research botanist for the New England Wildflower Society, he recently completed a comprehensive flora of the New England region entitled "Flora Novae Angliae" and has authored over twenty publications in peer-reviewed journals and books, including naming species of plants new to science. His series of YouTube videos has inspired thousands of people interested in foraging wild edible and medicinal plants. In this conversation, we spoke about the importance of community - another of Arthur's passions and areas of deep knowledge... Arthur explains what he means when he talks about 'community' (and it might be a little different to your definition), why being part of a community is in accordance with our evolutionary expectations, and how these days most of us lack community (as Arthur said in this show 'Almost everything about the current structure of society stands in stark contradiction to how we lived as people prior to the agricultural revolution.'), and what the issues with that are. We ended on a positive note with Arthur's practical suggestions of how we can all create community in today's modern world. I'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode: Human's real need for community sits alongside other aspects that we understand are critical to human health that have been formed by our evolutionary history, such as food and movement. The issues of going it alone include conditions that are considered the norm in modern culture such as anxiety, depression, shame, struggles and stresses. Arthur defines community as 'place and commons'. In indigenous communities, everyone held the land in common, they all have common landscape that they get to feed themselves from, heal themselves from, and get to connect to that place that they share with all of the members of their community. True communities are bound by a cohesion created by a common needs and is exemplified by real equality and wealth distribution, such as indirect reciprocal gift economy. Everyone is in it together and no-one gets to step outside the stresses that the community is experiencing. We are typically held back from creating real community because of our attachment to convenience and comfort - we are used to privacy and doing what we want when we want. We can take baby steps in this direction by keep our communities small enough so we can know every member deeply, have a connection to our common place, and no hierarchy: everyone is equal, no matter their age or ability.

This week's show is with Kerri Hummingbird. Kerri is a Soul Guide, Best-Selling Author, and Host of Soul Nectar Show where she interviews luminaries and spiritual thought leaders about essence and purpose. Kerri's has a powerful story of total transformation from a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder and Manic Depression into being a renowned empathic intuitive healer and spiritual mentor. Kerri believes that many empathic and clairvoyant people are being told there's something wrong with them, and are being given a pill for life, when all they need are some new skills in energy management, emotional transmutation, and awareness. In this conversation we spoke about her traumatic and also beautiful story, her work with earth spirituality through healing through natural elements, and she shares ways you can personally use her practical approach to bring about healing in yourself. This is yet again a great example of something that would come very naturally to us if we were living in more natural ways, and is a wonderful baby step back in the direction of reclaiming your primal power. Oh and there's a bonus in this episode... Kerri's incredible singing! What you'll learn from this episode: When we store trauma as a child (especially between the ages of 0-5), it isn't something that can usually be healed with words, especially if the trauma happened when we were pre-verbal. That's why it's so powerful to allow energy to be moved in other ways. Instead of focusing on your sight and thoughts, focus on your experience, the sounds, the smells, the textures, your feelings. Reconnect to the consciousness of the earth, water, the four directions, the stars and the sky. Allow yourself to open up to feeling and knowing something new. Create an earth painting by making a sacred space, finding objects to represent the parts of your life you'd like to change, breathe your feelings into the objects, and then be a witness to it. And when you're ready start moving the objects around and see what feels right. You can even burn or bury the objects if you like! I know this can seem like a really out there or woo thing to do but logically it makes sense to me that using tangible objects as metaphors to see your life from a new perspective could be powerfully transformative.

This week's show is with Flora Douville, an anti-image consultant. Flora is a hybrid of an intuitive and a mystic, plus a personal coach and a professional consultant. She is an expert in teaching you to feel the different layers of your personality — who you are and how you show up in the world. She can help you put more of YOU in your life, business and relationships. She will also ​match your energy to the right clothing to have your life and wardrobe fully aligned on who you are at your core — so that you feel invincible in your everyday life, all by being you. ​She has been refining her process with her clients for over 10 years and has trained 50+ ​professionals who now use her method with their own clients. She lives between France, the US and Costa Rica, where she works with leaders, coaches and artists who are making a difference in the world. In this episode we spoke about getting to know yourself deeply, separate what comes naturally from what you've learned to be accepted into the world, and how that shows up in clothing, the colours, textures and shapes that work for you and represents who you are. For those of us who have come from a spiritual path such as the 3Ps, it can seem irrelevant or shallow to focus on our personality, let alone our clothes but the more I've contemplated this stuff, the more I've seen that we live the richest lives when we accept and unleash our unique gifts and traits. Yes, it's all one, and yes, that oneness shows up in all kinds of weird and wonderful ways! I adored recording this, so much so that you can probably hear the excitement in my voice throughout the show! What you'll learn from this episode: Flora is all about getting to know yourself deeply, separate what comes naturally from what you've learned to be accepted into the world so you can show up as who you truly are, free of conditions and expectations. When you put an item of clothing on, instead of looking in the mirror, close your eyes and see how something feels. Does the weight feel right? Does the fabric feel good against your skin? Flora has gifted us with a list of specific questions that you can ask yourself to really understand whether something's right for you (see below for the link to download Flora's questions). We're made up of three layers: Physical: colours, Emotional: textures, Mental: shapes. The elements are fire, water, earth and air and we can be a combination of all different elements or can have repeating elements. Even without knowing Flora's method in depth, I think most of us can connect to an intuitive sense of the elements and develop a practice of listening to your body and contemplating what we pick up, from there we can begin to understand our uniqueness more deeply.

This week is the first of its breed! It's the first Lian & Jono show in which we, Lian Brook-Tyler and Jonathan Wilkinson, go deep on a topic that we're seeing is coming up with our one-to-one clients. On this week's show, we're talking about the super power vision. What we see comes up over and over in coaching sessions is the importance of having a vision, what happens when we don't have one, and also why it's vital to include all parts of life in your vision. So many people don't have a vision, And sometimes that just an oversight but we also know some people actually believe that it's somehow a bad thing - or unspiritual even :) to have one. So we'll dig right into what's going on there. When we have a vision it really acts as a powerful guiding light so you can be more present, open and adaptable to whatever's showing up in the moment. We'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode: Firstly, what a vision is: It isn't: Goals or solely achievements or a list of material items and it is: An holistic and aligned sense of how you'd like to be showing up in the world. Whether you're aware of having a vision, you have one! You've either have a vision that you've consciously created or you're living out the one you've been given by the culture you're in. Why it's natural to have a vision - Purpose/reason for being, for the good of our tribe, for the good of the generations to come, to honour our ancestors way, etc. So why not create vision that actually works for you?! Get it out there by writing it down, drawing it or creating a vision board And lastly, give yourself permission!

This week's show is with Phil Goddard, an internationally renowned coach, author, speaker, leadership trainer, and lover of life and humanity. He is a published author and the host of The Coaching Life Podcast. His work centres around transforming relationships through a deeper understanding of love and the nature of how our experience of life is created. With humour and sincerity, he combines over twenty-one years in I.T. and Telecoms corporate leadership with twelve years as a professional coach, to help organisations build harmonious teams utilising the most potent force in leadership - love. He also works with individuals to help them develop a deeply grounded understanding of the principles behind our human experience and live wonderfully productive, happy lives, connected to love, ease and compassion for humanity. He has coached Hollywood actors, international models, journalists, artists, authors, film directors, corporate executives, and numerous business owners, leaders and entrepreneurs. In this week's show, Phil and I explored whether it's possible to harbour resentment in one part of your life and be truly, deeply happy in another. This topic was inspired by a post that Phil wrote in which he said 'True happiness is the heart that holds no resentment, the crystal clear untainted by drops of red.' we explored this through our own personal experiences and insights. It was actually pretty revealing for me personally! I always love talking to Phil - he has such honesty, humour and depth and as ever, he didn't disappoint - this is a delightful episode! What you'll learn from this episode: Resentment often comes with a potency and a proactivity which means it takes up our time and energy to engage with it, when our thoughts are filled with resentment they can't also be filled with joy. Whilst it's pretty normal to feel resentment for someone doing someone negative to us is that part of our deeper nature to feel that way or is it simply our conditioning? As Phil said 'normal isn't always natural'. If we were living in a more primal way, it may well be that a lack of resentment is what we would consider normal! As we understand why people are behaving the way they are - that they're doing the best according to their thoughts in the moment - it makes little sense to feel resentment, instead a natural outcome is that we feel compassion. The wonderful thing is is that we all have the capacity for this to happen: to lose resentment, and to gain love and happiness.