I probably say sorry at least twenty times a day. Of course I want to take accountability, but sometimes I apologize when I didn’t do anything wrong. Which got me thinking, is there a problem with saying sorry too much? This week on the podcast, Penn and I invited Award-Winning Leadership Strategist & Global Peak Performance Consultant to Fortune 500s, Shadé Zahrai, to talk to us about what our sorries mean and what to say instead.If you have “Saying Sorry Syndrome” you can flip from apology to appreciation. Shadé helps us with some tips and tricks this week. Click here if you want to learn more about Shadé and her guide to stop over apologizing: https://www.shadezahrai.com/sorry. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the start of summer, which means going to the pool, grilling out, and heading to the beach… all of which usually include an adult beverage. But lately, Penn and I have been drinking less. For me, too much drinking greatly impacts my sleep. For Penn, cutting back on drinking is about protecting his brain health and trying to prevent Alzheimer’s disease which runs in his family. We discuss our experience with being sober curious and social pressures around drinking. Are you in a similar boat?Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I want my kids to be happy. (I know, I know, I know. It’s an impossible and unrealistic goal.) I’ve been in enough therapy sessions to know that chasing “happiness” is a fool's errand. We should really be appreciating all the moments we have on this planet. Being “happy” is a fleeting emotion. So when you get to see your child experience joy, true unbridled joy, you want to bottle the feeling and carry it in your heart forever. Last week, we had the chance to see Taylor Swift's Eras Tour in New Jersey and I got to witness what every mother wants. I got to see my kid (and about 70,000 others) really, really happy.This week Lola and I had debrief the entire concert experience on this week’s podcast. She shared her favorite moments, the touching story behind my new favorite picture, and how Swifties came to our rescue after the concert. Lola also answers some of your most commonly asked questions. (And we give concert tips if you're going!) Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My goal this year is to put myself in as many uncomfortable situations as possible. I wanted to get out of my comfort zone. On The Amazing Race, we were put in MANY uncomfortable positions. I found that it was easier for me to tackle bigger-picture things (like bungee jumping) than the everyday things. Something as simple as making a take-out order makes my pits sweat (and in a recent social media post, we found out many of you feel the same about phone calls to strangers!)Penn and I wanted to know why phone calls are making people anxious, so we asked Dr. Selena Snow. She says humans tend to pay more attention to negative information because we are hard-wired to spot danger. However, avoiding things that make us uncomfortable can make things worse. So, let's get uncomfortable and learn more...Learn more about Dr. Selena Snow here: https://snowpsych.com/in-the-media/ Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/ Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on the podcast, we wanted to laugh so we brought in "our Midwest neighbor" to help. Her name is Ann Marie Taepke, and she’s been playing our on-camera neighbor for over 2 years. (She isn’t our real neighbor, but she is really from the Midwest.) What you may not know, is that Ann Marie is a producer, writer, and manager of our weird family business. We talk about how we got connected, funny stories over the years, and we have a 20 minute Midwest good-bye that plays out in real time.We read your most heartfelt or funniest neighbor stories along with our conversation with Ann Marie... one tip: watch out for chipmunks. You can follow more of Ann Marie's Midwest antics here: https://www.instagram.com/annmarietapkey/ or on our channel. You can also check out our first video with her as well as our Next Door video below.My Midwest Neighbor In The South: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cc-7Se9XlEUMichael McDonald Sings Next Door: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_JSg0j88ORATell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every time I learn about another mass shooting in this country, I lose at least a day. Though a school shooting in my community is my worst fear—it is happening at outlet malls like in Allen, Texas and at banks like in Louisville, Kentucky. It’s happening at grocery stores, music festivals, movie theaters, and birthday parties. Mass shootings have changed the way we live our lives. So, we wanted to ask the question: How did we get here and what will stop gun violence in our country?This week we spoke with Ryan Busse, former top-performing firearms executive and author of the book, Gunfight: My Battle Against the Industry that Radicalized America. Ryan talks with us about why he left the gun industry after 25 years and the reality of what it will take to change the culture around guns. Whether you agree or disagree with our concern around gun violence, I hope you will listen and approach this podcast with an open mind. You can learn more about Ryan here: https://ryanbusseauthor.com/Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Imagine you are headed into your first day at a new job. You walk in the door and suddenly your mind is overwhelmed with thoughts: Nobody likes me. I’m a fraud. I’m dumb. I don’t belong here. Suddenly, you are catastrophizing. Congratulations, you are in a thought trap.Thoughts traps happen to all of us, but anxious people the most. I knew immediately I needed to know more about what was happening to me, so we got in touch with author Morra Aarons-Mele. Morra recently wrote in the Harvard Business Review about thoughts traps…and how to make anxiety your superpower. She hosts the award-winning podcast The Anxious Achiever, and has written two books: Hiding in the Bathroom: How To Get Out There (When You'd Rather Stay Home) and The Anxious Achiever: Turn Your Biggest Fears into Your Leadership Superpower.Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Any parent with school-aged children can tell you how crazy the month of May is. Just like the month of December, the calendar is packed with activities, gatherings, and ceremonies. Except no presents, cookies, or twinkling lights. So we call it: Maycember. This week, I needed to a pick-me-up knowing we were headed into a crazy month. I figured if I was feeling like I needed a pick-me-up, maybe you did too. So I asked all of you on Instagram: What’s the best advice you’ve ever received? And let me tell you, we got some good ones. Enjoy some of our favorites and tell us what we missed! Thanks for being here.Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You guys. It happened. I blinked and my tiny colicky-baby got her license. I keep repeating to myself, “She’s a good driver. She’s ready for this. She’s a good driver.” But still, I think one of the hardest parts of parenting is celebrating the well-earned independence of our growing children, while trying not to openly grieve the stage we’re leaving. I needed to call a friend to help with this transition. And it just so happens that I have a friend who is a parenting coach who always knows the right thing to say. Dr. Hope Seidel has been a pediatrician for more than 20 years. About ten years into her career, she began to notice she was healing parents more than children. She is now a parenting coach offering regular parenting classes and 1:1 parent coaching in her practice, Parent with Hope. Her words were so helpful. We invited her on this week’s podcast to help us all deal with these big transitions in parenting.Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Recently, Kim said something to me that sort of hit me like a ton of bricks… “I can’t always tell when you’re listening to me.” We wrote a whole book on marriage communication called Everybody Fights with a section on active communication and magic words you can say for conversations that require extra care and attention. But the problem is that I learned how to cheat them. So I am working on new strategies for my ADHD brain not to space out - and I've got some tips. For whatever reason, truly listening takes a lot of effort for someone like me with ADHD. But I am trying to get better. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929. Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Shop our merch: https://holdernessfamilyshop.com/Play our game: https://amzn.to/3NBEiRPGrab our book: https://amzn.to/3NiQxBLJoin our newsletter: https://theholdernessfamily.com/newsletter/Follow us on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race. Through their comedy, they tackle topics like living with ADHD and anxiety. Penn and Kim have been married for 18 years. They live in Raleigh, NC with their children, Lola and Penn Charles, and their dog, Sunny.  The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Trujillo Media and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, Sam Pressman, and Ashley Cimino. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.