

The One You Feed
Eric Zimmer
Transformative ideas from the best thinkers on the planet including guests like James Clear, Susan Cain, Michael Pollan, Deepak Chopra, Nicole LaPera, Yung Pueblo, Gabor Mate, Maggie Smith, David Whyte, Macklemore, George Saunders, Anne Lamott, Frank Turner, Mark Manson, Tara Brach, AJ Jacobs, Oliver Burkeman, Ryan Holiday, Parker Palmer. It’s not about perfection; it’s about direction.
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Oct 1, 2021 • 52min
Luke Burgis on Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life
Luke Burgis is an entrepreneur who has founded and led multiple companies. He is currently Director of Programs at The Center for Principled Entrepreneurship at the Catholic University of America. He is also the founder and Director of Fourth Wall Ventures, an incubator that he started to build, train, and invest in people and companies that contribute to a healthy human ecology. In this episode, Eric and Luke discuss his book, Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday LifeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Enrollment for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is now open through October 12. Click here to learn more and signup!In This Interview, Luke Burgis and I Discuss Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life and …
His book, Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life
Human desires and how they apply to the wolf parable
Mimetic desire refers to how we imitate the desires of other people
How particular modeled desires come from a sense of lack
The importance of understanding that our desires are driven by imitation
Learning to exercise more freedom in what we desire
Desire is the energy of movement toward or away from something
Anti-mimetic desire is having the ability to not engage in what you desire
The differences between thin and thick desires
The paradox of desires and values: “Do we desire what we value or do we value what we desire?”
Recognizing the hierarchy of our values and evaluating our desires accordingly
A fulfillment story is sharing a personal story with someone else about something in your life that gave you enduring joy
Understanding the social nature of our desires
Luke Burgis Links:Luke’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Luke Burgis, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Find Zest in Life with Dr. John KaagFinding Zen in the Ordinary with Christopher KeevilSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 28, 2021 • 59min
Najwa Zebian on How to Build a Home for Your Soul
Najwa Zebian is an activist, author, speaker, and educator. Najwa recently launched a digital school, Soul Academy, and a podcast, Stories of the Soul. Her work has been featured in the New York Times, Glamour, Elle, Huffington Post, and more. She’s well known for her TEDx Talk “Finding Home Through Poetry“In this episode, Eric and Najwa discuss her new book, Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home For Your Soul.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Enrollment for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is now open through October 12. Click here to learn more and signup!In This Interview, Najwa Zebian and I Discuss How to Build a Home for Your Soul and …
Her book, Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home For Your Soul.
Her search for the feeling of home within herself
Learning to see herself through her own eyes and not other’s eyes
The feeling of being loved needs to come from within
How to balance being at home in yourself with your relationships with other people
Identifying your “guest list” who you’d welcome into your home
Being at home in yourself allows for the best connections with others
Being worthy of love is not based on pleasing others or working hard for it
Self-acceptance is about knowing who you are and not focusing on what other people think
Changing the question from “why can’t I have that” to “why don’t I have that”
The self-fulfilling prophecy of what you believe is what you will live
Self-accountability and choosing your actions
Forgiveness is not a one-step thing, but a constant process of choosing to let go
The activities of the blank canvas mirror and the unveiling mirror
Finding clarity and asking yourself “what’s next?”
Choosing to speak to yourself kindly
Najwa Zebian Links:Najwa’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE one-month trial of Skillshare premium membership.If you enjoyed this conversation with Najwa Zebian, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Finding Grace with Eiman Al ZaabiIntimate Conversations with the Divine with Caroline MyssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 24, 2021 • 28min
Carol Dweck on Fixed and Growth Mindset
Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading researchers in the field of motivation and is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University. Her research has focused on why people succeed and how to foster success. She has held professorships at Columbia University and Harvard University, has lectured all over the world, and has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. Her work has been featured in such publications as The New Yorker, Time, The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Boston Globe, and she has appeared on Today and 20/20. In this episode, Carol and Eric discuss her book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Carol Dweck and I Discuss Fixed and Growth Mindset and …
Her book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
How in the growth mindset we believe in our ability to grow and change
In the fixed mindset we become afraid to not know or to fail
Listening to and accepting what our minds think
Learning to talk back to our default mindset
Recognizing that we have a choice of our mindset
How we can have a fixed and growth mindset in different areas of our lives
A growth mindset doesn’t say that there aren’t differences in skills and ability
How people with the fixed mindset are not inspired by role models
The mindset approach can be used in regards to personality
That teenagers that are taught the growth mindset are less likely to become depressed
Learning to use the growth mindset
In a growth mindset we can see criticism as feedback, as a way to change
Relationships grow better in a growth mindset
Carol Dweck Links:Mindset WorksTwitterInstagramTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Carol Dweck, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Brandi Lust on Growth via the Present MomentEmma SeppalahSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 21, 2021 • 50min
Jonathan Fields on Discovering Your Sparketype
Jonathan Fields is a father, husband, award-winning author, executive producer, and host of one of the top-ranked podcasts in the world, The Good Life Project. He also speaks globally to groups and organizations and his work has been featured widely in the media including The New York Times, The Washington Post, Oprah Magazine, and many others. In this episode, Jonathan and Eric discuss his book, Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Fields and I Discuss How to Discover Your Sparketype and …
His book, Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive
The 10 impulses that underlie the drives that humans have
Why the words “life purpose” and “passion” often lead us down the wrong path
How very often in life there’s not A “right” answer
How to find out your Sparketype
The difference between primary, shadow, and anti sparketypes
Eric’s Sparketype
How to align your work with your Sparketype (without blowing up your life!)
How to figure out the answer to “what am I going to do with my life?”
How to step into the important work of self discovery
Jonathan Fields Links:Jonathan’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfPeloton: Of course the bike is an incredible workout, but did you know that on the Peloton app, you can also take yoga, strength training, stretching classes, and so much more? Learn all about it at www.onepeloton.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Jonathan Fields, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan Fields (2016)Jonathan Fields (2014)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 17, 2021 • 55min
Dr. Miles Neale on Gradual Path to Awakening
Dr. Miles Neale is among the leading voices of the current generation of Buddhist teachers and is a forerunner in the emerging field of Contemplative Psychotherapy. He is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice, an international speaker, and a faculty member of the Tibet House (US) and Weill Cornell Medical College. In this episode, Miles and Eric discuss his book, Gradual Awakening: The Tibetan Buddhist Path of Becoming Fully HumanBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Miles Neale and I Discuss Gradual Awakening and…
His book, Gradual Awakening: The Tibetan Buddhist Path of Becoming Fully Human
How a person’s mythology is held in the unconscious with the framework that was formed in childhood
Shadow work is diving deep into the unconscious or the inner child
The process of going from understanding our behavior to changing it
How processing emotions need to be included in behavior change
The importance of establishing a new framework in the complex inner work
Becoming fully human is complex and requires commitment
The gradual and direct paths to awakening experiences
How awakening requires a new framework within the psyche
The importance of understanding the complexities of psychedelics
The paradigm of the current wellness movement and materialism
How we can miss the power of many transformative techniques
Aligning ourselves with the greater good
Dr. Miles Neale Links:Miles’s WebsiteInstagramYouTubeIf you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Miles Neale, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Awakening in Life with Ryan OelkeSpiritual Awakening with AdyashantiSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 14, 2021 • 57min
Maia Szalavitz on The Case For Harm Reduction
Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and New York Times best-selling author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She has won awards from the National Institute on Drug Abuse, the Drug Policy Alliance, the American Psychological Association and the American College of Neuropsychopharmacology for her 30 years of groundbreaking writing on addiction, drug policy and neuroscience.In this episode, Maia and Eric discuss her book, Undoing Drugs: The Untold Story of Harm Reduction and the Future of Addiction.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss The Case for Harm Reduction and…
Her book: Undoing Drugs: The Untold Story of Harm Reduction and the Future of Addiction
What “harm reduction” means in the case of addition
The truth behind why we have the drug policies that we currently have
Differentiating between the terms dependence and addiction
The real problem of addiction being the compulsive behavior that’s ruining your life
The role of moderation in substance use in people in recovery
How to know whether or not moderation or abstinence is right for you
The problem with a binary approach to drug use
The harm reduction recovery approach as any positive change
The difficult but crucial role of being a beginner to learn what’s right for you
Maia Szalavitz Links:Maia’s WebsiteTwitterFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Maia Szalavitz, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Maia Szalavitz on a Different Lens of Addiction (2017)Judson Brewer on Addiction and the Craving MindSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 10, 2021 • 51min
Bob Thurman on How to Find Bliss
Bob Thurman is a professor of Indo-Tibetan Buddhist Studies in the Department of Religion at Columbia University. He’s also the President of the Tibet House US, a nonprofit organization dedicated to the preservation and promotion of Tibetan civilization. He’s also the President of the American Institute of Buddhist Studies. In this episode, Bob and Eric discuss his book, Wisdom is Bliss: Four Friendly Fun Facts That Can Change Your LifeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Bob Thurman and I Discuss How to Find Bliss and …
His book: Wisdom is Bliss: Four Friendly Fun Facts That Can Change Your Life
How our civilization is based on fear
The wisdom in the bliss view is that reality is good and that you get back what you put into it.
The Four Friendly Fun Facts he renamed from the four noble truths
How altruism strengthens our sense of self-worth
To be noble means you become more “we” oriented than “me” oriented
The deepest level of reality is love, abundance, energy
First Friendly Fact is to take responsibility to understand our ultimate reality or we will suffer
Second Friendly Fact is the diagnosis- to understand that we are not the center of everything
Third Friendly Fact is the prognosis or needing to unlearn and opening ourselves to what we really are
Fourth Friendly Fact is the “therapy” or the eightfold path of how we can open our own minds to find freedom and bliss
Our tendency to see things as absolute rather than relative
Investigation is the real practice of Buddhism and meditation is a tool
Realistic mindfulness is noticing what’s going on in the real world
The three types of wisdom are born of learning, unlearning, and freedom
Bob Thurman Links:Bob’s WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you enjoyed this conversation with Bob Thurman, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Robert Thurman on Buddhism and The Dalai LamaPaul Hannam on The Wisdom of Groundhog DaySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 7, 2021 • 1h 19min
Eric & Chris on Friendship
In this very special episode hosted by our very own Ginny, we dive deep into the longtime friendship of Eric and Chris. They share how their friendship began many years ago, how they began the podcast together, and answer some great questions submitted by our wonderful Patreon supporters.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Ginny Interviews Eric & Chris Where They Discuss Friendship and …
How their friendship began
Their shared love of music
Eric and Chris describe each other’s best qualities
Their shared sense of humor and how they laugh at themselves
How Eric hired and fired Chris, twice
Their favorite memories of attending Waterboys concert and going backstage
How they shelter their friendship when working together
The life-changing gift that Chris gave to Eric
Their ease in sharing important things in life with each other
How their dark moments can be their funniest moments
What makes them best friends
Their friendship through the ups and downs of each other’s recovery
The importance of understanding and not judging in the darkest moments
The pros and cons to working with people you love
Eric and Chris Links:Friendship Playlist on SpotifyInstagramFacebookTwitterSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE one-month trial of Skillshare premium membership.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Eric and Chris, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mike Scott of The WaterboysEric and Chris Get Interviewed for the 100th EpisodeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 3, 2021 • 46min
Nedra Glover Tawwab on How to Set Boundaries
Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times bestselling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. Nedra helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries.In this episode, Nedra and Eric discuss her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming YourselfBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Nedra Glover Tawwab and I Discuss How to Set Boundaries and …
Her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself
Boundaries are defined as something needed to feel comfortable in relationships and in life
Her exploration of boundaries in her work and personal life
How the things that we keep talking about likely need boundaries
The importance of setting boundaries early in relationships
Being yourself and honoring your own boundaries
Porous boundaries are when we are passive and afraid to express them
Rigid boundaries are when boundaries become walls
Healthy boundaries have flexibility based on different situations
How setting boundaries can be uncomfortable but necessary
Healthy and unhealthy approaches to setting boundaries
The 3 steps to set a boundary: be clear, be direct, and deal with your discomfort
Working through conflicting boundaries with others
The difference between ultimatums and threats
Nedra Glover Tawwab Links:Nedra’s WebsiteInstagramFacebookUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Nedra Glover Tawwab, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob GowerBeing Heart Minded with Sarah BlondinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Aug 31, 2021 • 59min
Greg McKeown on How to Make Life Easier
Greg McKeown discusses making life easier by practicing gratitude, letting go of grudges, and choosing forgiveness. He emphasizes the power of deep listening and explores the impact of trust and attachment on relationships.