Emily Balcetis is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University. She is the author of more than 70 scientific publications and her work has been covered in Forbes, Newsweek, Time, National Public Radio, Cosmopolitan, GQ, and many others. She has also received numerous awards for her work.  Eric and Emily discuss her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the WorldBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Emily Balcetis and I Discuss How to Focus and Accomplish Goals and…Her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the WorldHer decision to tackle learning to play drumsThe four tools of accomplishing a goalWhat it means to materialize a goalHow our brains can’t be trusted to accurately assess our progress toward our goalThe importance of writing down and tracking progress Figuring out what we want to accomplish AND creating a plan of actionForeshadowing obstacles that might get in our way and how you’ll deal with them increases your chances of successThe value of narrowing your focus of attentionHow time is a big determinant of what goals we set and whether we reach those goalsFinding ways to connect your current self with your future self can make it easier to make tougher choices that lead to better outcomes laterHow it sometimes makes sense to have a “wide bracket” or broader perspectiveThe power of framing and how what we see predicts what we doEmily Balcetis Links:Emily BalcetisTwitterWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Emily Balcetis, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Change with Katy MilkmanBehavior Change with John NorcrossSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Regina Louise] is an American author, child advocate, and motivational speaker, who is best known for successfully navigating through more than thirty foster home placements as a ward of the California Juvenile Court system.Eric and Regina discuss her book, Permission Granted: Kick-Ass Strategies to Bootstrap Your Way to Unconditional Self-LoveBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Regina Louise and I Strategies for Unconditional Self-Love and…Her book, Permission Granted: Kick-Ass Strategies to Bootstrap Your Way to Unconditional Self-LoveGrowing up in difficult circumstances and still feeling her worthHow we can all benefit from a cleared-out heart Learning to grow through what we go throughUnderstanding that you can’t change the past, but you can reclaim your dignity and self-worthLearning to be with the difficult feelings inside of usUnderstanding that the tragedy she endured was not personalHow she learned to protect and value herself when her caregivers couldn’tHer introjections leading to her growthThe tendency to feed the “less than” of herselfTaking responsibility for her own healingCreating distance and making meaning of her past experiencesRegina Louise Links:Regina’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Regina Louise, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Radical Self Love with Sonya Renee TaylorPerfecting Self Love with Scott StabileSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stephen Guise is an international best-selling author, blogger, and entrepreneur. His books have been translated into 17 languages, including his latest book, Elastic Habits: How to Create Smarter Habits That Adapt to Your Day.Eric and Stephen discuss his unique approach to creating good habits that are adaptable to your life and unique circumstances.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Stephen Guise and I Discuss How to Form Elastic Habits and…His book,  Elastic Habits: How to Create Smarter Habits That Adapt to Your DayHow bad habits fulfill some needsAn elastic habit is one that creates flexibility and more points of progressHow flexibility is strength when it comes to obstaclesLateral flexibility is having several different options to achieve the same goalVertical flexibility is having the option to move the intensity of the activity up or downThe roles of the different levels: mini, plus, and eliteHow to work with feelings and motivation in establishing habitsHow to apply the lateral and vertical flexibility to habits Cues or triggers are what prompts you to do the behaviorThe different types of cues or triggers: time. activity, daily, emotional, and window Intelligent tracking and why it’s important in establishing new habitsThe process for creating and implementing “elastic” habits Stephen Guise Links:Stephen’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Stephen Guise, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Behavior Change with John NorcrossTiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ FoggSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

James Clear is the author of Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur, and he has taught in colleges around the world.  James is also the creator of the Habits Academy, the premier training platform for organizations and individuals that are interested in building better habits in life and work.  In Part 2 of this interview, Eric and James discuss more specific ideas and concepts for establishing good habits and eliminating bad habits.If you’d like to make 2022 a better year for you, bring clarity to what matters most, and discover the tools to help you become the person you really want to be, Eric can help you! To book a FREE, no-pressure 30-minute Discovery call to see if working with Eric is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!James Clear and I Discuss the Compounding Nature of Habits and…His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad OnesHabits are a response to the physical cues in our environmentLearning to make it obvious or reduce friction when trying to create good habits Habit stacking and priming your environment for successClarifying the action: “After _____, I will _____”Getting specific with your actions (when, where)How social environment affects the attractiveness of habitsMaking habits easy and convenientThe two-minute rule for establishing good habitsA habit must be established before it can be improvedOptimize for the starting line rather than the finish lineMake it satisfying – how positive emotions cultivate good habits and negative emotions destroy themBring the long-term consequences into the short termReinforcing your identity by your actionsJames Clear Links:James’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramIf you enjoyed this conversation with James Clear, you might also enjoy these other episodes:James Clear (2015)Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ FoggSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

James Clear is the author of Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur, and he has taught in colleges around the world.  James is also the creator of the Habits Academy, the premier training platform for organizations and individuals that are interested in building better habits in life and work.  In Part 1 of the interview, Eric and James discuss habits and how to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change.If you’d like to make 2022 a better year for you, bring clarity to what matters most, and discover the tools to help you become the person you really want to be, Eric can help you! To book a FREE, no-pressure 30-minute Discovery call to see if working with Eric is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!James Clear and I Discuss the Compounding Nature of Habits and…His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad OnesHow habits are like the compound interest of self-improvementYour outcomes are a lagging measure of your effortsHow bamboo growth is like habit growthThe importance of building a foundation of habits to see resultsHow work isn’t wasted, it’s storedFocusing on systems rather than goalsHow the outcome is a natural consequence of habitsHow goals can create an artificial finish lineThe role of identity in behavior changeHow you choose to act leads to the kind of person you want to beLearning to adopt a growth mindset as opposed to a fixed mindsetHow humans are learning machinesThe 4 stages of habits: cue, craving, response, and rewardThe 4 laws of behavior change: make it obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfyingTo break a bad habit, invert the 4 laws of behavior changeJames Clear Links:James’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with James Clear, you might also enjoy these other episodes:James Clear (2015)Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ FoggSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

John Zeratsky was a designer in the tech industry and became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s also the author of multiple books and his work has been published in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, Eric and John discuss his book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day If you'd like to make 2022 a better year for you, bring clarity to what matters most, and discover the tools to help you become the person you really want to be, Eric can help you! To book a FREE, no-pressure 30-minute Discovery call to see if working with Eric is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!John Zeratsky and I Discuss How to Make Time for What Matters and…His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every DayUnderstanding the limits of will-powerSetting up our environment so it’s easier to make the right decisionsThe two powerful forces that compete every day for our time“The Busy Bandwagon” and the feeling you’re not in control of our time“The Infinity Pools” of neverending options of distractions Questioning the “defaults” in our lives and finding ways to change our behaviorCreating a highlight for everydayStructuring your day around your “highlight” Finding more meaningful momentsTaking back control of your time and energyCreating barriers to distractionThe fundamentals of managing your energyThe importance of focusing on the process, not the outcomeBecoming aware of how our interaction with technology makes us feelJohn Zeratsky Links:John’s WebsiteTwitterIf you enjoyed this conversation with John Zeratsky, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Time Management for Mortals with Oliver BurkemanBeing a Procrastinator with Tim PychylSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker, and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and how to go about getting things done.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss How to Get Things Done and…His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To DoneHow kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyoneThe Tao Te ChingFocusing on your input and letting go of the resultsWe don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing themCreative constipation breeds toxicity We’re either creating something or destroying somethingWe don’t do ideas, we do projectsHow doing our best work is often really hardThe myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easyThe myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do itDoing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing itThe 5 things that get in the way of doing our best workHead Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or notThe problem with automatically believing our thoughtsHow discipline limits decision fatigueHow action expresses priorityCharlie Gilkey Links:Charlie’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity, and MeditationDavid Kadavy on Getting StartedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Arthur Brooks is a bestselling author, social scientist, and the President of the American Enterprise Institute. He teaches Leadership and Happiness at the Harvard School of Business.In this episode, Eric and Arthur discuss happiness as well as his book,  Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Arthur Brooks and I Discuss What It Takes to Find Happiness and…His book, Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of ContemptThe four extrinsic things that feed off fear are money, power, pleasure, and fameThe four intrinsic things that feed off love are faith, family, friendships, and meaningful workHow happiness requires meaning and having meaning requires challenge and/or difficultyThe three aspects of meaning are coherence, purpose, and significanceHow writing out the thing you learned from a bad experience can bring meaning to itLearning to find significance in the small thingsHow we need to stop living in the future and appreciate being in the presentThe freeing idea that nobody really cares like we think they doThe more you judge others, the more you will feel judgedThe therapy for feeling insecure is to stop judging and start observingThe link between humor and happinessHow we should reject grimnessRejecting the expectations of the holidays can lead to more happinessArthur Brooks Links:Arthur’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookNovo Nordisk - Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management. To learn more, visit truthaboutweight.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Arthur Brooks, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan Rauch – The Happiness CurveRuth Whippman on The Complexity of HappinessSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a Harvard-trained and published neuroanatomist. In 1996, Jill experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain, causing her to lose the ability to walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life. John Britton is a former anesthesiologist who suffered a right brain injury leaving him with only his left brain to function. After hearing Jill’s previous episode on this show, John contacted Eric and they thought it would be interesting to host a conversation with John and Dr. Bolte Taylor to discuss their respective experiences.In this episode, Jill, John, Ginny, and Eric talk about what it’s like to experience the world through your right brain vs. your left brain and how they come together to make for whole-brain living. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, John Britton, and I Discuss Right Brain Injury vs Left Brain Injury and…The functions of and interaction between the right and left hemispheres of the brainHow the left brain governs past and future, me the individual, details, boundaries, languageThat the right brain governs the present, the “we” collective, connections, expansive, and opennessThe way the two hemispheres of our brain interact with one another in a healthy brainHow John experienced the world before, during, and after his right brain injuryThe most helpful rehabilitation approach for John post his injuryDr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s experience of her left hemisphere traumatic brain injury and her recovery storyDr. Jill Bolte Taylor Links:Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor and John Britton, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Whole Brain Living with Dr. Jill Bolte TaylorThe Divided Yet Connected Brain with Iain McGilchristLessons About the Brain with Lisa Feldman BarrettSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ethan Kross is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. He is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business and also the Director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. In addition to countless television appearances, Ethan’s research has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and many others. In this episode, Ethan and Eric talk about his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Ethan Kross and I Discuss How to Harness the Chatter in Our Head and…His book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness ItHow we have both emotional and cognitive needs when dealing with the “chatter” in our headsCommon triggers for internal chatter are uncertainty and lack of controlThe three main categories of tools to work with chatterLearning to zoom out and broaden our perspectiveDistance self-talk is talking to yourself like you’d talk to another personTemporal distancing (mental time travel) Expressive writing about negative experiencesUsing your imagination to replay a past experience to gain objectivityHarnessing our internal chatter rather than silencing itHow to think about thinking and what we can and cannot controlBeing aware of how easy some of these tools are to implementCreating if/then plans increases the likelihood you’ll remember to use the toolsEnvironmental tools and the benefits of getting outside in nature How cleaning and organizing our physical space impacts our mental stateEthan Kross Links:Ethan’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Ethan Kross, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Overthinking and Internal Soundtracks with Jon AcuffScott GorntoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.