The One You Feed

Key Concepts in This Episode: 1. Habits are the compount interest of self improvement in that the positive effects compound over time. You may not see change right away, but consistent effort is what brings lasting results and real change. 2. More important than goals, your systems are what lead to your success or failure when trying to change your behavior. Systems are a collection of habits leading to every outcome so paying attention to the process rather than the final goal is a critical component 3. True behavior change is an identity change. (I want _____ as opposed to I am ____). Identity and behavior are closely linked and taking small consistent actions is the best method for shaping identity and becoming the person you want to be. To learn more about this episode and James Clear, click here!   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we discuss: 1. How our thoughts and actions can shape our lives 2. The importance of paying attention to what we feed our mind 3. How our personality is not as fixed as we may think For More Show Notes, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Eric and Kimi discuss her journey to healing and how the role of identity can be helpful (or not so helpful) when dealing with depression or mental illness. Kimi Culp is a TV and film producer and is the host of the award winning  ALL THE WISER podcast.  Kimi’s unique specialty is identifying and developing stories with soul. She has traveled the world interviewing hundreds of people and creating content that motivates people to live a happier, more fulfilling life.  But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! How Identity Can Affect How You Deal with Depression with Kimi Culp How her internal narrative shifted when she started talking about her mental illness The power of knowing we’re not alone in our struggles Owning the truth of who we are and also not letting it be your entire identity Understanding that we are many parts of the whole being The healing journey and how identity can take a more prominent role at the beginning The nuances of identifying what is depression How labeling depression can be helpful, but overidentifying with that label can be harmful The importance of adult friendships Comparative suffering  Gratitude and how it is a powerful tool Her collaborative book, A Letter to My Dog Links: Kimi’s Website Kimi’s Podcasst, All the Wiser Instagram Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Kimi Culp, please check out these other episodes: Life Lessons with Dr. Edith Eger Gabe Howard on Mental IllnessSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Nicole LePera is an author and clinical psychologist in private practice.  She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University, The New School for Social Research, and the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She i the author of the #1 New York Times Bestselling Book, How To Do The Work. In this episode, Eric and Nicole discuss her latest book How to Meet Yourself:  The Workbook for Self-Discovery But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dr. Nicole LePera and I Discuss How to Meet Yourself and… Her book, How to Meet Yourself:  The Workbook for Self-Discovery Her personal and professional journey of getting and helping others get “unstuck” Understanding the power of our unconscious mind and our habitual nature How logic will not override the comfort and familiarity of our habits The critical step of setting an intention for a small manageable change How we can move from self betrayal to self trust by starting small and being consistent The importance of taking responsibility for yourself rather than blaming outside circumstances The shared human experience of shame of not being good enough that we often carry Becoming conscious of our habits and patterns How we need to tune into the body to find our intuition to find clarity Discovering our values and knowing what’s important to us The integral part of safety in beginning your journey Breathwork as a foundational practice to get to safety Grounding in the present moment is about paying attention and honoring our reactions The different ways of grounding ourselves such as being in nature, moving our body, or listening to music The “Daily Consciousness Check-In” as a foundational practice to activate conscious awareness Self witnessing is learning how to live in the active state of awareness Cycles of emotional addiction is the repetitive emotional experiences we often have Links: Dr. Nicole’s Webiste: The Holistic Psychologist Instagram Facebook YouTube By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Nicole LePera, please check out these other episodes: How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David Hilary Jacobs Hendel: How to Process EmotionsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Neil is the the author of nine books and journals including: The Book of Awesome, a spinning rolodex of simple pleasures based on his 100-million-hit, award-winning blog 1000 Awesome Things, The Happiness Equation, originally written as a 300-page love letter to his unborn son on how to live a happy life, He also hosts an Apple “Best of” award-winning podcast called 3 Books where he is on an ‘epic 15-year-long quest to uncover the 1000 most formative books in the world. and he also shares his current writing on this blog and in a series of newsletters. In this episode, Eric and Neil discuss his latest book,   Our Book of Awesome:  A Celebration of the Small Joys That Bring Us Together   In This Interview, Neil and I Discuss.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nickolas Butler is the author of many novels, including the internationally best-selling and prize-winning Shotgun Lovesongs, which has been optioned for film development and has been translated into ten languages. Nickolas is the recipient of many literary prizes and commendations and has published articles, reviews, short stories, and poetry in publications such as: Ploughshares, Narrative, and The New York Times Book Review, to name a few.  Eric and Nickolas discuss a few of his novels as well as how we can learn to embrace the important elements of life. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Nickolas Butler and I Discuss How to Embrace the Important Elements of Life and… His novels, Godspeed and Shotgun Lovesongs The fear and doubt he faces in his creative life Comparing our lives to others How we take for granted the basic things that previous generations worked hard for His relationship with his father and grandfather The differences in generations and what he hopes to teach his kids Trying to find empathy and understanding with those you don’t agree with The complexities of parent-child relationships  Why he writes essays for his local newspaper His idea of choosing a tree and practicing gratitude for that tree How friendships are special and unique human relationships Links: Nick’s Website Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Nickolas Butler, please check out these other episodes: What We Can Learn from our Bad Wolf with Matthew Quick How to Find Meaning and Live a Good Life with Jonathan FieldsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Father Gregory Boyle is an American Jesuit priest and the founder of Homeboy Industries in Los Angeles, the largest gang-intervention, rehabilitation, and reentry program in the world. He has received the California Peace Prize and been inducted into the California Hall of Fame. In 2014, the White House named Boyle a Champion of Change. He received the University of Notre Dame’s 2017 Laetare Medal, the oldest honor given to American Catholics. He is the acclaimed author of Tattoos on the Heart, Barking to the Choir, and his latest book,  Forgive Everyone Everything. Fabian Debora is the artist and illustrator of the book, Forgive Everyone Everything. His work has been showcased in solo and group exhibitions throughout the US and abroad.  Fabian served previously served as a counselor and the Director of Substance Abuse Services & Programming and a mentor at Homeboy Industries in Los Angeles and is now the Executive Director of Homebody Art Academy. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Father Greg Boyle & Fabian Debora and I Discuss How to Find Hope and Kinship His book, Forgive Everyone Everything The organization he founded, Homeboy Industries, to rehabilitate gang members Hope and how our focus must not be on outcomes How life is about removing the blindfold to see the goodness within us Joy is the love of being loving Equanimity and learning to not grasp at our pain Defining kinship as deep connection with others How we need to acknowledge privelege Fabian’s journey of recovery and his work with Homeboy Industries How his art represents his journey and lived experiences How he tells a story through his art His responsibility of an artist to combat stereotypes How he maintains hope amidst tragedy The legacy that he hopes to create for his family and community How kinship is a circle where everyone belongs Links: Father Greg’s Website Instagram Twitter Fabian's Website Fabian's Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Father Greg Boyle and Fabian Debora, please check out these other episodes: Human Nature and Hope with Rutger Bregman Donna Hylton on Healing and HopeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Eric Maisel, PhD, is the author of more than 40 books, including Why Smart People Hurt, Making Your Creating Mark, The Future of Mental Health, The VanGogh Blues, Mastering Creative Anxiety, and Creativity for Life. Dr. Maisel is at the forefront of the movement to rethink mental health. He writes the Rethinking Psychology blog for Psychology Today. Eric and Dr. Maisel discuss his books Overcoming Your Difficult Family:  8 Skills for Thriving in Any Family Situation and The Future of Mental Health But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Eric Maisel and I Discuss Why We Need to Rethink Mental Health and … His books, Overcoming Your Difficult Family:  8 Skills for Thriving in Any Family Situation and The Future of Mental Health Defining the skills needed to understand and deal with family dynamics Learning the best anxiety management tool for you, such as deep breathing or visualization The powerful device of visualizing the “calmness switch” within you Understanding that there is one of many possibilities to deal with challenges His book, Mastering Creative Anxiety Depression The importance of identifying what’s important to us and living our life purposefully  Stigmatization of mental health and how it promotes pharmaceutical  Understanding there is more help to treat depression than just medication and psychiatry His models of personality: Original Personality, Formed Personality, Available Personality Links: Eric’s website Twitter Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Eric Maisel, please check out these other episodes: Challenges of Mental Health Diagnoses with Sarah Fay Gabe Howard on Mental HealthSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We are thrilled to welcome Dr. Nicole LePera, A.J. Jacobs, Martha Beck, Susan Cain and Cory Allen as our guests on this special “Thanksgiving” episode all about gratitude! Research from Harvard Medical School shows that “gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness.  Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships."  We know that it’s good to give thanks but so many of us struggle to make it a regular practice and this episode will teach you how to do so and why it is worth prioritizing! But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Our Special Guests and I Discuss How to Practice Gratitude and … Dr. Nicole LePera – how she defines gratitude and why it’s important How verbally stating or writing can activate feelings of appreciation Our tendency to pay attention to what we lack rather than what we have Shifting from “I have to” to “I am grateful for the opportunity” A.J. Jacobs – how practicing gratitude is a way to not take things for granted The hedonic treadmill and the “I’ll be happy” when trap His active practice of texting his mom every day what he’s grateful for How the more specific the better when it comes to expressing gratitude Martha Beck – how she was impacted when she first read about the benefits of gratitude How engaging in your senses is a good way to practice gratitude Her 3:1 gratitude practice – for every negative experience, think of 3 positive ones Reveling in what the soul yearns for sharpens a gratitude practice Susan Cain – how she notices and savors beautiful things How we need to both accept the beauty and the difficult realities of our existence The best gateway to gratitude is discovering what elevates us How she teaches her kids gratitude Cory Allen – how what we associate with gratitude is what makes us feel grounded and safe How he goes deeper into gratitude How gratitude comes from being present and getting curious The benefits of practice gratitude for its own sake Links: Dr. Nicole Lepera A.J. Jacobs Martha Beck Susan Cain Cory Allen By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed these conversations about  Gratitude, please check out these other episodes: How to Make Life Easier with Greg McKeown How to Explore Our Awareness with Jonathan RobinsonSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.