

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Welcome to "The Intimate Marriage Podcast," the podcast where we explore the secrets to cultivating passionate and intimate relationships. I'm your host, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, aka "The Intimacy Doctor," an experienced intimacy coach and marriage expert.
In every committed marriage, intimacy and connection are the foundation for a fulfilling relationship. Join me as we delve into how small shifts and being uncompromising in your daily interactions can lead to profound and nourishing physical/emotional intimacy.
During each episode, we'll explore topics such as sexual intimacy, emotional awareness, and building an intimate connection that feels comfortable and authentic for you and your partner. I'll share practical advice and strategies to help you unlock the full potential of your relationship.
As "The Intimacy Doctor," I've helped countless couples transform their relationships and create a life filled with passion, purpose, and deep satisfaction. With over two decades of experience, I believe that true intimacy and success stem from being unapologetically yourself. Together, let's uncover the secrets to a juicy, nourishing, and intimate marriage.
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Download the first chapter of my bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=book
If you're ready to take your intimacy skills to the next level, explore my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. It's designed specifically for couples who refuse to settle for anything less than extraordinary love and connection. Visit https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/aligned-hot-marriage/?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ahm to learn more.
Join my email list to stay connected—it’s where I share my latest insights and offer opportunities for live Q & A: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=subscribe
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WHAT DOES AN INTIMACY COACH DO?
An intimacy coach is a trained professional who specializes in helping individuals and couples cultivate deeper connections and enhance their intimate relationships. The role of an intimacy coach is to guide and support their clients in exploring various aspects of intimacy, including emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy.
Intimacy coaches create a safe and non-judgmental space for their clients to express their needs, desires, and concerns related to intimacy. An intimacy coach helps clients develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence, enabling them to better understand their own desires and those of their partner. They provide guidance on effective communication techniques, conflict resolution, and exploring new ways to deepen emotional and physical intimacy.
In every committed marriage, intimacy and connection are the foundation for a fulfilling relationship. Join me as we delve into how small shifts and being uncompromising in your daily interactions can lead to profound and nourishing physical/emotional intimacy.
During each episode, we'll explore topics such as sexual intimacy, emotional awareness, and building an intimate connection that feels comfortable and authentic for you and your partner. I'll share practical advice and strategies to help you unlock the full potential of your relationship.
As "The Intimacy Doctor," I've helped countless couples transform their relationships and create a life filled with passion, purpose, and deep satisfaction. With over two decades of experience, I believe that true intimacy and success stem from being unapologetically yourself. Together, let's uncover the secrets to a juicy, nourishing, and intimate marriage.
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Download the first chapter of my bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=book
If you're ready to take your intimacy skills to the next level, explore my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. It's designed specifically for couples who refuse to settle for anything less than extraordinary love and connection. Visit https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/aligned-hot-marriage/?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ahm to learn more.
Join my email list to stay connected—it’s where I share my latest insights and offer opportunities for live Q & A: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=subscribe
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WHAT DOES AN INTIMACY COACH DO?
An intimacy coach is a trained professional who specializes in helping individuals and couples cultivate deeper connections and enhance their intimate relationships. The role of an intimacy coach is to guide and support their clients in exploring various aspects of intimacy, including emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy.
Intimacy coaches create a safe and non-judgmental space for their clients to express their needs, desires, and concerns related to intimacy. An intimacy coach helps clients develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence, enabling them to better understand their own desires and those of their partner. They provide guidance on effective communication techniques, conflict resolution, and exploring new ways to deepen emotional and physical intimacy.
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Sep 25, 2024 • 43min
197. Sex and Success: The Hidden Addictions of High Performers with Roland Cochrun
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD, explores the hidden addictions of high performers with guest Roland Cochrun, focusing on the complex issue of sex and porn addiction and how it plays out in the lives of highly successful individuals. Dr. Alexandra sets the stage for a profound discussion on addiction, recovery, and sustaining fulfilling relationships. Roland shares his personal journey and the innovative strategies he has developed to support high achievers in overcoming sex and porn addictions. Together, they articulate the multifaceted nature of these addictions, highlighting the differences between substance addictions and process addictions. Roland sheds light on how societal norms and masculine stereotypes contribute to the development of addictive behaviors, and underscores the importance of tailored recovery pathways for high-performing individuals. Also in this episode: Discussion on how societal expectations and masculine norms influence and perpetuate addictive behaviors. The importance of creating recovery programs that cater specifically to the lifestyles and needs of high achievers. The successful outcomes of high achievers who commit to recovery and the significant improvements they experience in their relationships. About the Guest: Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a specialized sex and porn addiction recovery program tailored for high achievers and entrepreneurs. Recognizing the crucial role of human connection in recovery, Roland established a mastermind-style group that brings together like-minded men on their journey to overcome addiction. His program offers a deeply connected support network, featuring weekly calls, daily accountability, and transformative 4-day in-person retreats. With a focus on finding your tribe, Roland’s approach empowers high achievers and entrepreneurs to achieve long-term recovery and reclaim their lives. If you are a high performer seeking a supportive community and a path to sustained recovery, The Successful Addict is the group for you - https://successfuladdict.com Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: Simplified Impact

Sep 18, 2024 • 42min
196. Intimacy in Politically Polarized Marriages
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, MD, addresses politically polarized marriages, offering perspectives and strategies for navigating political disagreements with your spouse, especially during the 2024 presidential election. She shares insights from her own experiences in her family, and times spent living in rural Kansas in a community with members holding different political, religious, and educational values than her own. Dr. Alexandra emphasizes prioritizing connection over content as she shows couples how to maintain intimacy and respect even when they support different political parties. This episode provides practical advice for couples facing major differences in opinions whether it’s in a politically polarized marriage or on other issues, and offers guidance on how to leverage your differences in order to build a stronger, more connected relationship. Also in this episode: Learn strategies for maintaining a respectful and loving marriage despite political disagreements. Focus on the foundation of your relationship by appreciating differences and aim to deeply understand each other rather than trying to change one another’s viewpoints. Engage in structured conversations about political viewpoints with set start and end times, and avoid discussions when emotions are high. Discover the keys to a deeply fulfilling relationship with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell's audio course, "The Surprising Secret to Having a Fantastic Relationship." In this transformative guide, Dr. Alexandra shares actionable insights and practical tips on how to build intimacy, improve communication, and connect more deeply with your partner. – https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/secret/ Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: Simplified Impact

Sep 11, 2024 • 1h 1min
195. Everyday Intimacy with Dr. Erica Bove
Erica Bove, MD, is a double board certified OB-GYN and reproductive endocrinologist who also specializes in life coaching. In this engaging discussion, she shares insights on balancing a high-powered career with romantic relationships. The conversation dives into maintaining intimacy through meaningful communication, even during busy times. They introduce innovative strategies, like the Rose, Bud, Thorn exercise, to foster connection. Erika emphasizes the importance of sensual awakening and how to sustain romance across distances, offering practical tips for couples.

Sep 4, 2024 • 20min
194. Date Nights are Overrated
Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, a medical doctor specializing in relationships and intimacy, shares her insights on reimagining date nights. She argues that traditional date nights are not a cure-all for relationship issues and advocates for intentional, meaningful interactions. Couples are encouraged to engage in activities that foster emotional connection, such as heartfelt conversations and learning new skills together. Dr. Stockwell emphasizes that nurturing intimacy requires customizing quality time to fit each couple's unique needs, rather than relying on routine outings.

Aug 28, 2024 • 50min
193. Erotic Intimacy After 40
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the topic of erotic intimacy after 40 in the context of a captivating conversation with holistic health coach Leah Vachani. They explore the intricate dynamics of maintaining intimacy and passion in long-term relationships, particularly during and after menopause. Dr. Alexandra and Leah debunk the myth of libido mismatch, and explore the crucial roles of self-awareness and emotional intimacy, while covering practical strategies to rekindle desire and pleasure in the bedroom. The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing daily pleasures, fostering open and honest communication with partners, and challenging the idea that compromise is the foundation of a happy marriage. Also in this episode: Genuine intimacy comes from being true to oneself and sharing those truths with a partner. Deepening emotional intimacy paves the way for richer, more fulfilling sexual experiences. Practical advice includes improving non-sexual daily pleasures, having vulnerable conversations with partners, and focusing on sensual quality over sexual quantity. About the Guest: Leah Vachani is a seasoned Holistic Health & Hormone Coach with nearly two decades of experience in the wellness industry. Her journey began with a personal mission to reclaim her energy and health as she navigated the challenges of her forties. Realizing that her old strategies were no longer effective during perimenopause, Leah embarked on a transformative exploration of new foods, supplements, lifestyle habits, and biohacks. Now, feeling more vibrant and energetic than ever, Leah is dedicated to helping women thrive through menopause and beyond. Her unique approach focuses on stress management, circadian rhythm balance, and integrating simple yet impactful lifestyle changes. Connect with Leah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leahvachani/ Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: Simplified Impact

Aug 21, 2024 • 25min
192. 5 Steps to Prevent Gray Divorce
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, dives into the importance of nurturing long-term relationships and how to prevent gray divorce, the term referring to divorce among older adults. She explains that having a fulfilling marriage requires constant attention and nurturing, much like tending to a garden. Dr. Alexandra dispels outdated myths about divorce rates and emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning and growth in a marriage. This episode is filled with practical tips and strategies to keep your marital connection vibrant and strong. Also in this episode: Thriving marriages require constant nurturing and should not be taken for granted, especially when life gets busy with careers and children. Having a fulfilling marriage is a learnable skill, essential for emotional and physical well-being; it's never too late to learn. Actionable advice includes holding hands, spooning, non-sexual caressing, and having regular relationship check-ins to maintain intimacy and connection. Join the Waitlist for Honeymoon 2.0 - www.alexandrastockwell.com/honeymoon Download Your Guide For Relationship Check-ins - https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/checkins Transform Your Relationship with the Aligned and Hot Marriage Program and get $300 OFF using coupon code: PODCAST99: - https://www.stockwellinstitute.com/offers/t9F8NfEe/checkout Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: Simplified Impact

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Aug 14, 2024 • 24min
191. The Problem with Having a Sexless Marriage
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the significance of sex in marriage and explores whether a sexless marriage can be a happy one. She breaks down the various dimensions of intimacy and connection within marriages, noting that societal trends show a decline in sexual activity. Even as collaborative companionship and emotional intimacy are crucial, the enriching experiences brought by sexual intimacy are invaluable. Dr. Stockwell notes that some couples attempt to overcome challenges and dissatisfaction in sex by opening their marriage, and others do so by letting go of sex–the most fulfilling option is to learn how to have really great sex with your partner so that you want more and more of it! Also in this episode: Emotional and physical intimacy are both essential components of a thriving marriage. Societal trends show a decline in sexual activity, but individual fulfillment should not be dictated by statistics. Enhancing one’s sex life and relationship quality are learnable skills requiring attention and intention Building emotional intimacy sets the foundation for improved sexual connections. Transform Your Relationship with the Aligned and Hot Marriage Program and Use Coupon Code PODCAST99: https://www.stockwellinstitute.com/offers/t9F8NfEe/checkout Interview on Erotic Blueprints: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/sensual-vs-sexual-exploring-the-mysteries-of-erotic-power-through-identifying-your-erotic-blueprint-w-julianne-vaccaro/ Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: Simplified Impact

Aug 7, 2024 • 48min
190. Enhancing Emotional Intimacy in Relationships with Coach Annie Lalla
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD and Annie Lalla discuss how to enhance emotional intimacy in relationships. Annie shares her insights on the importance of emotional fitness and how feelings manifest as physical sensations in the body. She describes subconscious fears that often keep couples from experiencing deeper intimacy, and provides actionable advice on overcoming these barriers. They also delve into the intricate dynamics of power within relationships, discussing how unresolved power imbalances can manifest as sexual disinterest or withholding. Also in this episode: The speed of recovery from an upset or conflict is a key indicator of emotional fitness in a relationship. Exploring and addressing unconscious power dynamics within a relationship is crucial to resolving sexual disinterest and enhancing intimacy. Even in busy lives, short but fully present moments significantly enhance intimate connection. Sexual intimacy is essential for nourishing the relationship, just as food is to a growing child. Addressing emotional disconnections revitalizes sexual desire. Connect with Annie Lalla: Heartcoach.com www.annielalla.com https://www.instagram.com/lallabird/ About Annie Lalla: As a cutting edge Relationship Coach, Annie maps the complexities of romance and upgrades emotional skills. Specializing in love, sex & conflict resolution, Annie's created a suite of practical tools that resolve unconscious relational patterns, attachment wounds and recurrent conflict. She helps clients cultivate relational esteem and develop collaboration skills that go beyond power struggles, shame or blame. Annie is a fierce stand for creating intimate relationships that last a lifetime. Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: Simplified Impact

Jul 31, 2024 • 23min
189. Unlock the Secrets of Female Orgasms
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD discusses female orgasms in great detail, in honor of National Orgasm Day. She explores the origins of the day, various types of orgasms, and the differences between "masculine" and "feminine" orgasms. She also explores different types of orgasms, emphasizing that the classification is based on the anatomy and physiology being stimulated. Dr. Alexandra speaks on one way to enhance orgasmic potential, namely slow, deep breathing, as she encourages listeners to explore new realms of erotic intimacy with their partners. Also in this episode: Feminine orgasms are diverse and often misunderstood, requiring an open perspective to fully appreciate their complexity. Unlike masculine orgasms, feminine orgasms can be non-linear, with varied patterns of arousal, climax, and resolution. Deep, slow breathing can significantly enhance one's ability to experience richer and more fulfilling orgasms. For many couples and individuals, male and female, they aspire to the typical masculine orgasm model that aims for climax. But in fact, some of the richest, expansive, erotically vital experiences happen with a more feminine approach to orgasm. Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: Simplified Impact

Jul 24, 2024 • 35min
188. Family First: Dr. Alexandra Stockwell’s Guide to Welcoming Your Future Son-in-Law
Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, an MD, and her husband discuss welcoming their future son-in-law into the family. They share insights on preparing for important conversations, focusing on mutual respect and genuine understanding. The guests emphasize giving blessings and support, building deeper connections, and nourishing family support systems. The podcast explores navigating traditional marriage proposals, welcoming a future son-in-law, and building positive relationships with new family members.