Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This episode is about accepting where we are in life and enjoying it to the fullest. Today’s caller, Lindsey, has wanted to find a partner to share her life with for a long time. She has done personal development work but still believes she needs to fix herself before calling in a partner. We work through ways she can trust life, trust divine timing, and enjoy her life.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode371]   When we have hindsight, it is easy to move into acceptance. We look back and consider that something happened for a reason it makes it easier to accept. When we have to accept something, or we choose to accept something that isn’t what we want, that is when the real spiritual ninja work comes in.   The constant trying to figure out why — which is something we all do to some degree — we don’t have something we want or something in our life isn’t working. We pick ourselves apart with a fine-toothed comb trying to find the reason. Because if we find the reason, it gives us control and then we can do something to solve it. It is a pattern of constantly looking.   Acceptance is when we move into the peace of what is. It is when we stop wishing for something to be different or when we have feelings about circumstances not being what we want, we don’t bypass them. Resignation is when we give up. Acceptance has relief energy. When we surrender we can be open to something shifting.   When we move into full acceptance of who we are and where we are in our lives, the acceptance keeps us in the energetic of love and shifts what we are broadcasting.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there something you want badly and think you will be happier when you get it? Are you single and don’t want to be single but you can’t move into acceptance of it? Have you done work to change an issue or circumstance but it isn’t shifting and you keep trying? Do you believe your life would be better if you had something you don’t?   Lindsey’s Question: Lindsey has been single for most of her life and would like guidance on how to call in a partner.   Lindsey’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been single for 10+ years but wants to call in a partner. She is an adventurous woman in life and work. She has a belief that men find her good enough to sleep with but not good enough to date. She believes she would be better in a relationship. She is sad because she doesn’t have a partner. She feels she has no control over finding a partner and pities herself. She feels looked over by the people in her life. She has limiting beliefs about herself. She is constantly doing to not think about the uncertainty of life. She believes that if she doesn’t work hard to get something she won’t get it. She is incorporating practices to keep herself present. She surrenders in water and with music.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Accept where she is right now. Move toward acceptance and let go of wanting something else. Make a playlist of songs that make her love her life in the now. Stop herself from going down a spiral. Stop trying to fix something that isn’t broken. Trust life and trust divine timing.   Takeaways: You can’t always get what you want but you can get what you need. If we can move into acceptance of wherever we are or are not, we have more enjoyment and freedom in our life.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you feel like you have done lots of personal development work yet certain patterns or issues keep coming back, then don't miss this episode! Christine explains why you must plant flowers after you weed your consciousness and break circuits that are currently running your mental programming.

This episode is about the protective patterns we create when we don’t feel safe. Today’s caller, Amanda, says she wants guidance on how to access her sensuality but the core issue is truly about how she can feel safe and be vulnerable. We can’t feel safe in our sexuality or sensuality unless we feel safe in our vulnerability.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode370]   When women don’t feel safe in their bodies we tend to go into our heads. We talk, talk, talk, and don’t notice what is going on in our bodies. As human beings, we are a combination of doing and being, flowing and going, masculine and feminine, sensual and productive, right and left. So, one of our biggest turn-ons is safety. If we feel safe, we can let go. If we don’t feel safe, forget about it. We need to learn that it is safe to feel and to be emotionally vulnerable.   When we attempt to make changes while in frustration, it is important to shift into vulnerability and full self-expression. We need to accept all aspects of ourselves. Sensuality can feel scary because it feels out of control when we keep our safe place in our heads.   When we don’t feel safe, we have protective patterns that frustrate us. We judge the patterns and try to change them. But, nothing heals judgment. The first step of healing is to love, accept, and thank the pattern for protecting us.   If you don’t feel safe expressing yourself emotionally, you won’t feel safe expressing yourself sensually and sexually. When an expression is muted, all expressions are muted.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel blocked from your sensuality? Would you like to be more expressed in your life, especially sexually? Did you have the space to be expressed as a child? Was vulnerability encouraged in your house or did you have to hide or numb your feelings or deal with them on your own? Are you in a relationship and feel inhibited with your own partner? Do people in your life give you feedback that they would like to be closer to you? Do you feel your relationships could be deeper but you are scared to go there?   Amanda’s Question: Amanda feels shame and guilt when it comes to sensuality and would like guidance on how to embody her sexuality without guilt and to feel good.   Amanda’s Key Insights and Ahas: She will be 40 this year. She is in a loving, committed relationship. As a child, she was raised Christian and was taught to believe that “good girls don’t” do certain things. She wants to let go of things that don’t serve her. She feels awkward when expressing her sensual self. Feeling uncomfortable and numb stems from her childhood. She doesn’t feel safe being vulnerable. People care about her and want to be honest with her. She wants to break the pattern. She commits to being in her body and creating opportunities to be emotionally vulnerable.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Remind herself that it is safe to feel. Feel her discomfort but also feel she is safe. Practice vulnerability. Write three questions to evoke emotional vulnerability. Recreate an opportunity to be fully expressed. Forgive herself for judging herself and being hard on herself.   Takeaways: If you want to be more sensually or sexually expressed, look at how emotionally expressed you are. Do you make safe spaces for your sensuality?   Sponsors: Organifi — is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and acceptable. I love Organifi’s Gold and Gold Chocolate, which include relaxing mushrooms and root spices. It doesn’t spike your blood sugar like other hot chocolates. For 20% off your order use the code 'OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about upper limiting and discerning deal breakers versus growth opportunities in relationships. Everything seems to be finally working out for today’s caller, Daria, but she is having difficulty accepting it and her fiance. She asks for guidance on how to break existing patterns to make sure she doesn’t self-sabotage herself or her relationship.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode369]   It is very common that once we start to get the things we want, we start to wonder if we deserve them and if they are fleeting. We often have unexpected feelings when things start to go well.   When the hormones and infatuation of a new relationship wear off, in the realness of a relationship, there may be things about our partner that we don’t like. In most relationships, there are things about our partners we just don’t like and that we want to change. These things fall into several categories but more definitive would be to think of them as deal breakers or growth opportunities.   There are some things about our partner that we need to decide if it is truly annoying or not. Focusing on what we love about our partners and accepting them for who they are can go a long way. We can choose to focus on the great things about our partners.   When we want to request a change of behavior from our partner, they must feel safe in the relationship.   My Women’s Retreat is this weekend, October 7‒9, 2022 in Austin. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this gentle and nourishing life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you sure about your relationship? You don’t have doubts but there are some things about your partner you wish they would change. Do you tend to have high standards and wonder if you are settling? Are you good at communicating what you need in a relationship? Or, maybe you are not as good at it as you think you are? Are you willing to be the change you want to see in the relationship?   Daria’s Question: Daria is feeling a sudden change of feelings toward her fiance and would like guidance to ensure she doesn’t self-sabotage.   Daria’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is upper limiting herself. She discovered her ex-husband deceived her. Her upbringing drastically changed when her mother got sick. She loves her fiance. She feels herself pulling away from her partner. She wishes he could be more of a grownup with her. She feels comfortable asking for things from him but feels she has to do it constantly. She loves his sense of playfulness and is a good friend to people. She is not sure when she is trying to change her partner or change the things he does. She is trying to learn how to deal with him and her feelings. Her relationship feels lopsided. She wants to make the relationship work.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Read The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks. Get turned on by the things she loves about her partner. Realize her fiance feels her come-and-go energy and it can make him feel unsafe. To break her pattern, consider when and how she can lean into how much she loves him. Trust life and know that it is safe to be happy.   Takeaways: Experiment with a person who annoys you. For one week, choose to only recognize the amazing things you like about them.   Sponsors: Caraway Cookware — Now that I am cooking for my baby I want to make sure I have the least amount of toxins in my house. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. It has a naturally slick ceramic surface and comes in cookware and bakeware sets. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use Overit at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Author, speaker, teacher and force of love Danielle LaPorte joins Christine to dive deep into inner child work, forgiveness, radiance, choosing higher quality thoughts and so much more. Make sure to get her new book  How To Be Loving: As Your Heart is Breaking Open and Our World is Waking Up which is a nuanced perspective on the life-changing power of Self Compassion, shadow work and being more receptive to Higher Guidance. This is a guide on how to use the genius of your heart to create conditions for healing.   Learn more at https://daniellelaporte.com/

This episode is about being the parent you always wanted and wanted to be. Today’s caller, Carrie, wants to repair a strained relationship with her children. She feels shame about her past behaviors and wants guidance on how to build a connection with them and their children. There is a lot of vulnerability and courage in this honest conversation.   It can be scary to be a generational pattern breaker and it takes a lot of courage to follow through but it can transform our relationships.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode368]   Many parents carry around a silent shame about some of the choices they made as parents. Parenting is hard. It doesn’t come with a manual. Creating a healthy environment for our children is challenging when we don’t have good parenting ourselves. We are still impacted by our trauma and our hurt; it can feel impossible not to pass it on.   The hard part about trauma, or behavior we categorize as hurtful or bad, is that it is not due to anyone setting out to hurt another person. People who have unprocessed trauma and don’t know how to deal with it. People who are hurt and sad all the time haven’t gotten to their anger. People who are angry and explosive haven’t gotten to their hurt and sadness.   What happens with parent-child relationships is the hurt parent wants a two-way street. Meaning, the hurt parent wants the child to make it okay for them as well, but that is not the child’s job. It is the parent’s job to make it okay for the child.   Give your children the opportunity to hear the things they always wanted to hear.   Register for my upcoming Women’s Retreat which will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this gentle and nourishing life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a parent that has guilt or shame about how you parented or how you treated your child or children? Do you know that you are passing on generational patterns and trauma? Have you told yourself you would never do it yet you find yourself doing it? Do you have a strained or strange relationship with one of your children that you want to remedy? You want to have a connection with them but you are not sure how. Do you trust yourself enough to parent yourself in a way that can help you parent your child better, and your adult children who still need parenting?   Carrie’s Question: Carrie was a parent who inflicted trauma on her children. She would like guidance on how to repair their relationship.   Carrie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was a single mother. Her children were teenagers when she made regrettable decisions. She acted in ways that made her children feel unsafe. Inconsistent behaviors were common while she was raising her children. She is a full-time traveler. Her children don’t acknowledge her as family. Her children’s father isn’t accessible. She feels shame about repeating the actions of her parents. She fears triggering her daughter when around her grandchildren. Her daughter doesn’t reach out to her. She doesn’t want to hear what her daughter may say to her. She fears confronting her anger.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Trust that it is time to remove her shame. Step into her mama bear and expect more from herself as a mother. Have a heart-to-heart conversation, apologize to her daughter, and listen and love her. Allow herself to feel her sadness. Do the Anger Release process.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about navigating a relationship with a new baby coming. Today’s caller, Cassie, is about to have a child but is uncertain about staying with the baby’s father. She would like guidance about how to feel supported emotionally and financially during this trying time.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode367]   It is difficult enough for women who are becoming new mothers but for them to not have support can be really challenging. But, on the other hand, couples who stay together for the children who are not in a healthy relationship don’t have kids that turn out any better than the kids whose parents got divorced. Kids pick up on unhealthy relationships when they are not aligned and may model their future relationships on them.   When a baby comes, it transforms and changes a relationship. The focus of attention is on the baby and not as much on the partners. That is why it is important to have clear agreements in place about parenting responsibilities before a child is born.   I’m excited about my upcoming Women’s Retreat which will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a relationship and you don’t know whether to stay or go? Do you have children and you are concerned the relationship isn’t a fit and you don’t know if you should stay in it for the children? Do you feel your partner isn’t holding up their end of the agreement? financially, personal development, or any other way? Do you have clear agreements with your partner so each of you knows what you can expect and count on from each other to prevent expectation hangovers?   Cassie’s Question: Cassie is pregnant with her partner of 2-plus years. She is having some difficulty in her relationship and would like guidance on whether or not to leave the relationship.   Cassie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is seven months pregnant. Her pregnancy has highlighted some of her fears about her relationship. She is unsure if her intuition is telling her to step away from the relationship. She is excited about becoming a mother. She and her partner have different values around money. She is confused about her next steps. Her partner wants to be in the relationship. Her partner recently left his career. She feels emotionally distressed from their disagreements. She wants her partner to monetarily provide for the family. She is not yet sure about what agreements she will need to clarify.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Get clear agreements from her partner about the upcoming parenting responsibilities. Consider how she can respond to his requests without anger or resentment. Recognize that she is a co-parent with her partner. Appeal to her partner’s heart about the parenting and healing opportunity. Pay attention to the things she appreciates and loves about her partner.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine shares five reminders that may come at the perfect time for you. If you are disappointed with something in your life, judging yourself, lacking in self-care,  don't feel like all the "work" you are doing is paying off, or just need some inspiration today - don't miss this episode!

This episode is a couple’s coaching session with the partners currently experiencing struggles in their relationship. Rory & Tyler have listened to their partner’s individual sessions and spoken with each other about what they heard. Christine discusses strategies and opportunities the couple can use to move their relationship forward.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode366]   Relationships are challenging. It is generally easy in the first year when there is infatuation and hormones but afterward comes the depth, transformation, and healing. In any relationship, struggles and doubts are normal and natural. It is important to uncover where the doubt is coming from. Does it come from red flags or deep intuition?   There is a difference between a relationship that has potential versus a relationship that has the key ingredients to go the difference. Love isn’t always enough for a relationship to go the distance and to be healthy. However, love plus a commitment to do the work independently and together can be the game-changer in a relationship.   Making loving requests is a great way to not build resentment in relationships. Requests from a loving place are much different than demands from a defensive or pissed-off place. People who come from a defensive or pissed-off place have difficulty getting their needs met.   Consider/Ask Yourself: When you hear your partner give feedback about you, can you hear it or do you get triggered immediately? Are you playing out little boy or girl behavior in your relationship that is a turn-off for your partner? Are you respecting and tending to the little boy or girl inside your partner? Are you willing to go the distance in your partnership by doing the work? Is your partner willing? Are you willing to be in a relationship where your partner isn’t doing the work? Can you make powerful, loving requests of your partner to get your needs met?   Rory & Tyler’s Question: After their separate coaching sessions, Rory & Tyler come together to work through their issues and discuss ways to move their relationship forward.   Rory & Tyler’s Key Insights and Ahas: Tyler wants to hold space for Rory to really see her. Rory wants to be her whole self and allow Tyler to be his whole self in the relationship. They both would like unclouded, infinite, real love. Tyler would like words of confirmation from Rory. Tyler finds it hard to release anger. Tyler feels triggered when Rory acts a certain way. Tyler needs to be inspired romantically. Rory loves Tyler for his support. Tyler loves Rory for her joviality.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Tyler, do emotional release work. Rory, explore her sensuality and sexuality. Get specific with each other about what they want. Work with a therapist together and separately. Tyler, when he is triggered to remind himself that Rory is not his mother. Use a simple codeword to help their partner recognize their triggers. Rory, inspire Tyler romantically.   Sponsor: Mind Doc App is an easy way to bolster your mental health and get constructive suggestions. Whether you are generally fine or struggling with something, you can answer a few questions in the Mind Doc app a few times a day and the app’s algorithm provides you with an overview of your mental wellbeing. Get 50% off a 6-month subscription to the app at https://minddoc.onelink.me/D1u6/qryj27lw, and use the code CHRISTINE50   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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