This week, we have two of our very best friends, Blake and Allie. We raised our kids together. At least 50% of the things we tried with our kids, we got from Blake and Allie. WHEN I TELL YOU they have raised 4 of the greatest women on Earth! It’s been a joy to watch them grow.In 2011, when I ruined my life and my family’s lives, they were the ones that said to me “you can live with us.” (If you don’t know this story, you can read about it in my book Kill the Spider). I don’t know that my healing could have happened without this family.Now you know the guts of the relationship… Today we talk about the importance of COMMUNITY when parenting…How to create a safe space for our kids to not be okay… The importance of not SHELTERING our kids from real life, but SHEPHERDING them to show the fruits of the Spirit through it all…_______Purchase my book Kill the Spider HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Kill-Spider-audiobook/dp/B075X1RCJM/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=kill+the+spider+carlos+whittaker+book&qid=1692808769&sprefix=kill+the+spider+%2Caps%2C145&sr=8-1 Watch our swimming with manatees vlog on YouTube HERE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kROMGYSALaIGet 15% off of my merch with code SUMMER HERE: https://loswhits-merch.myshopify.com/ You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotesPurchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotesLet’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotesInterested in advertising with us? Reach out here._____ELIC: ELIC is dedicated to changing lives by equipping and sending people to teach English in these unreached areas. If you are ready to create hope with a global impact, visit: elic.org/humanhopeSIMPLE MODERN: Go to www.simplemodern.com/humanhope and by sharing your email you’ll get a unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school.INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My kids' therapists are here!! I am SO grateful for David Thomas and Sissy Goff. They are the hosts of the Raising Boys and Girls podcast and are SO wise. They are also both Executive Directors of Daystar Counseling Ministries here in Nashville, TN. With a combined 50+ years of experience, they KNOW what they are talking about!!! I’ve had each of them on separate episodes but never together. YOU AIN’T READY FOR THIS! You are going to need to grab a journal and a pen because some of what they share will literally change your life. We lean into boys, we lean into girls, we lean into socialized behavior, we lean into medicated behavior, we lean into girls anxiety and perfectionism and how we tend to ask boys about what they do or think RATHER than how they feel. This episode is PACKED. I cannot tell you enough about how this episode will impact you!! ____ Learn more about Daystar HERE: https://www.daystarcounseling.com/  Listen to Raising Boys and Girls HERE: https://pod.link/1366344369  Pre-Order Sissy’s brand new book The Worry-Free Parent HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Worry-Free-Parent-Living-Confidence-Your/dp/0764241028/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2P93DGMXE16XS&keywords=worry+free+parent+sissy+goff&qid=1692213411&sprefix=worry+free+%2Caps%2C143&sr=8-1  Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes _____ ELIC: ELIC is dedicated to changing lives by equipping and sending people to teach English in these unreached areas. If you are ready to create hope with a global impact, visit: elic.org/humanhope SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/humanhope to take your business to the next level today. INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now.HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your Favorite, Heather Whittaker is HERE to begin the series on Parenting! If you have ANY kids in your life, this series is for YOU! Even if you don’t have any kids in your life, this series can still help you! We touch on fostering relationships with your kids, how to navigate drama and emotions in the tween years, some family rules and guidelines, what happens when you start parenting their kids when they’re over 18, and SO MUCH MORE. _____ You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotes Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. _____ Thank you to our sponsors! SIMPLE MODERN: Go to www.simplemodern.com/humanhope and by sharing your email you’ll get a unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school. ATHLETIC GREENS: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/HUMANHOPE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am FINALLY home from Rwanda and in Nashville for a minute before going out on TOUR!!! Last week’s episode with Emmanuel really laid the groundwork for this episode, so if you haven’t listened to that one yet, go back and listen to it first!  This week, we are going to go deeper into the story and into the beauty of what the human spirit can accomplish… This week’s episode is very specific on FORGIVENESS and RECONCILIATION. Mathias and Steven were the worst of enemies. Mathias actually murdered Steven’s entire family in the Rwandan Genocide.  You get to hear their story of forgiveness and reconciliation from THEM! Not only do you hear about the forgiveness between these two people who are now as close as brothers, you get to hear about how Mathais forgave himself, which is something we could ALL use a little bit of. Just a warning, this is a heavy episode, and there are talks of violence, so this may not be the episode for our younger Instafamilia. _____ Listen to the first Rwandan episode HERE: https://pod.link/1249486443/episode/200cf7c2a03f3464cc47b68a320706e5  You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotes Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. _____ ATHLETIC GREENS: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/HUMANHOPE. INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. BETTER HELP: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HUMANHOPE and get on your way to being your best self. HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

INSTAFAMILIA! WE DID IT! You helped us raise money for a church building, Hope Center, AND a school in Rwanda!!!!! I've been sharing with you all about my time in Rwanda on Instagram but wanted YOU to hear from the people I have spent the week with. This is episode one of two from Rwanda and this one will help lay the groundwork for the next episode about supernatural forgiveness that maybe we have never been able to find before… Mathias murdered Stephen’s family in the Rwandan genocide and NOW they are closer than brothers… HOW?! This episode, will help us understand what led to the genocide from someone who LIVED it all, including bullet holes to prove it, my new friend, Pastor Emmanuel.... _____ Learn more about ICM here: https://www.icm.org/ You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotes Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. _____ Check out our sponsors! AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! SIMPLE MODERN: Go to www.simplemodern.com/humanhope and by sharing your email you’ll get a  unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we have an incredible conversation with my friend Eugene. Eugene is an advocate for justice, an intellectual, and very grounded in his theology and humanity. He is such a good human that SEES humans.  Eugene is the president of Bread for the World - a Christian advocacy organization that urges U.S. decision makers to do all they can to pursue a world without hunger, whose mission is to educate and equip people to advocate for policies and programs that can help end hunger in the U.S. and around the world. He shares with us parts of his story I have never even heard before.  We talk about immigration and how it has shaped his whole life AND his faith.  We get into what we can do to truly and honestly end hunger around the world.  I think you’re really going to love this conversation with my friend, Eugene Cho…. _______ Learn more about One Day’s Wages HERE: https://onedayswages.org/  Learn more about Bread for the World HERE: https://www.bread.org/  You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotes Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. _______ Check out our sponsors! SIMPLE MODERN: Go to www.simplemodern.com/humanhope and by sharing your email you’ll get a  unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school.  HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. ZOCDOC: Find a top-rated doctor today – go to Zocdoc.com/HUMANHOPE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This podcast discusses the negative effects of excessive content consumption, including doom scrolling and the mental health crisis it causes. It explores the Amish community's choice to abstain from driving cars and emphasizes the importance of therapy. The detrimental impact of consuming bad news is explored, along with the need for empathy. The chapter also emphasizes cleaning up social media lists and provides tips for managing doom scrolling.

Roman candles, fireflies, and sweet tea… I LOVE the Fourth of July. I love this country and the ideas that it was founded on, and I love the opportunities it has given me and my family. But just because I love America doesn’t mean that I have to accept its DYSFUNCTION.  It’s okay to be PROUD of your country and celebrate. And it’s okay to have a COMPLICATED relationship with this holiday. This episodes gets into WHY the Fourth can feel complicated… And why there is still HOPE for this country. THANK YOU for leaning into these conversations with me and for sharing them. Our empathy will be the thing that leads us all toward freedom! _____ Watch my trip to Panama with my dad here: ⁠https://youtu.be/BasID3OFg-E  Listen to my conversation with Kobe Campbell here: ⁠Episode 113: Mental Health Series - Our Bodies and Trauma with Kobe Campbell Read NPR's 6 Immigrants Reflect on their Complicated Relationships with the 4th of July here: https://www.npr.org/2022/07/04/1109722326/4th-july-independence-day-immigrants  Get tickets for Summer Worship Nights with Phil Wickham and Brandon Lake and ME here: https://summerworshipnightstour.com/ You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: ⁠https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotes ⁠ Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, here: ⁠https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes⁠ Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates: ⁠https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes⁠ _____ Check out my sponsors! ATHLETIC GREENS: Athletic Green is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/HUMANHOPE. INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. HIYA: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time OFFICIALLY meet the Black Aunties! A few of these ladies have been on the show before, but today they are coming in FULL FORCE. The Black Aunties are going to nurture you, uplift you, correct you, and call you higher.  If you want to know what REAL, RICH, AND THICK FRIENDSHIP looks like, this is the conversation for you. These women have been a HAVEN for one another as they walked through 2020 and navigate the aftermath in ALL the spaces.  There are TEARS, WISDOM, and a whole lot of LAUGHING.  There is something HEALING about this friendship. Come and hang out!  _____ Find Sharon’s Juneteenth message here: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Ctra7irgQT7/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Love the Black Aunties and want to hear more? Check out their podcast here: The Black Aunties Podcast Find the Black Aunties on Instagram (@blackauntiesgang) here:https://www.instagram.com/blackauntiesgang/ You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotes Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, here: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates: https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes ______ New partner alert! Thanks to our new sponsor, AquaTru! AQUATRU: Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier! Visit aquatru.com/HUMANHOPE and use the code HUMANHOPE at checkout!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is our final week of the Mental Health Series and these have been some of my FAVORITE episodes of ALL. TIME.  This week, I have Dr. Dan Allender, Founder and Lead Instructor, of the Allender Center at the Seattle School. I have been following his work for a long time and he is literally a hero of mine. I wish this episode could be 15 hours long it is SO GOOD. This was one of the more special podcasts I have ever recorded… We unpack the “shattering of shalom” and what shalom really means. All the ways we numb our pain AND the difference between numbing and truly moving forward… Why we NEED one another to heal from our trauma and how to GRIEVE with each other… Dan also gives us practical next steps if you yourself are dealing with trauma. I am so excited to share this special conversation with you!  _____ Follow the Allender Center on Instagram (allendercenter( here: https://www.instagram.com/allendercenter/ Learn more about the Allender Center and Dr. Dan Allender here: https://theallendercenter.org/  You can find me on Instagram (@loswhit) here: https://bit.ly/CarlosIGNotes Get tickets to see me and my friend Annie F. Downs on the Here For You Tour HAPPENING NOW!! Get tickets to the rest of the tour dates HERE: https://bit.ly/CarlosTour Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. _____ Thank you to our sponsors! BETTER HELP: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HUMANHOPE and get on your way to being your best self. INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. SUNDAYS: Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/HUMANHOPE or use code HUMANHOPE at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices