Heart of Dating

Heart of Dating welcomes Justin and Abi Stumvoll to the podcast! Justin is a nationally sought-after speaker and life consultant. He has spent over a decade facilitating emotional healing in the lives of thousands of individuals and training others to do the same. His dream is to redefine love in practical and empowering ways. He is the author of The Tree of Life and co-hosts The Connected Life, an international podcast focused on healing the human soul, with his wife and best friend Abi.  Abi travels the worlds speaking and teaching others how to encounter unconditional love and live fully alive. When she was 12 years old she prayed "God, if you can teach me how to love myself, I will change the world". This simple prayer ignited her adventure of uncovering the power of love. Throughout her journey she has seen love conquer the fear and torment that once seemed impossible to overcome. Both Abi and Justin run a life consulting business together where they meet with clients and train others to do the same. Abi and Justin discuss how they overcame shame from their past and restored relationships with themselves first, Abi discusses her journey with depression, they both discuss childhood trauma, and the idea of needing to feel "complete". Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heart of Dating is so excited to welcome one of Kait’s best guy friends, DeAngelo Moss to the show! Deangelo is a man on a mission to deliver truth to his generation. Known for his fearless and uncompromising approach to God’s Word, DeAngelo believes that the understanding and practice of biblical principles is key in realizing one’s potential. With a proven ability to inspire and connect with people, his relatable approach to communicating serves him well in his pursuit to help people live their best lives.  He is here to share his personal experiences as a Black man. Last week we had a conversation with Kait's dear friend Tiffany McLeain, discussing her experience dating as a Black woman.. We love Tiff so much for her willingness to share. Her vulnerability was just so beautiful and generous. And with that, we also want to say, we know her story is only one part of the pie, and doesn't represent the extent of everyone’s situation or experience. Going into this week's interview with DeAngelo Moss, talking about dating as a Black man, we recognize both conversations are only just the beginning. We are just getting into the tip of the conversation. With that we welcome your feedback, thoughts, suggestions, all of it, as we continue to engage in this conversation as a ministry! Deangelo shares about some stereotypes he's faced a black man when it comes to dating and interracial relationships. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heart of Dating welcomes one of Kait’s good friends to the show today! Tiffany McLeainn is an entertainer, speaker and Bible scholar based in Los Angeles.While in pursuit of a PhD, Tiffany has a passion for discovering ways to point to the story of Jesus through conversation, relationships, speaking, worship and Biblical Languages.She has a background in live performance theatre, stage management, group teaching and leading worship. Tiffany is currently documenting her journey to financial freedom at @ghettogazelle on Instagram, starting her 25th year of vegetarianism, committed to an hour of prayer and meditation everyday and patiently waiting for John Mayer to announce his next tour. On this episode Tiffany and Kait get #real about dating as a black woman in today’s world as well as discuss how we can react to ongoing events in regards to racism and injustice. Tiffany shares about some stereotypes she's faced a black woman when it comes to dating and interracial relationships. Are you always saying that there are no ‘good Christian singles’? We have hundreds of eligible singles in our Drop the Hanky Dating Program!  Women: https://www.heartofdating.com/dth-girls  Men: https://www.heartofdating.com/dth-guys Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Heart of Dating Podcast welcomes Nathan Clarkson to the show today! He is an actor, best-selling author, filmmaker, and full-time wannabe philosopher on the podcast The Overthinkers. He has appeared on numerous TV shows and films, runs indie film studio Clarkson Creations, and just recently released his new book Good Man. Nathan lives between New York City, Los Angeles, and his hometown of Monument, Colorado, where he hangs out with his golden retriever, Darcy. On this episode Nathan and Kait tackle the age old question of… what a “real man” is by changing the narrative to discussing what makes a GOOD man.  Nathan talks about toxic masculinity, what it means to be a man of God, and how to lead in a dating relationship. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heart of Dating is kicking off a BRAND NEW Season with a BRAND NEW Episode! We welcome Season 5 with an incredible conversation with John Van Epp! We are grieved, heartbroken, and sick over the injustices and acts of hatred regarding the murders of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and countless others within the black community...murders and injustices that have been going on not just in this last year, but for hundreds of years. Not only do we mourn, but we are committed to doing even better as a community, podcast, and ministry when it comes to talking about social injustice, racism, white privilege and white supremacy, as well as many other conversations surrounding these topics. We wholeheartedly support the movement for equality and justice and we commit to being joining forces and standing with our black community to use our ministry as a voice to fight against racism, not just today but day after day after day until we break the terrible bonds of racism in our country.We commit to becoming allys, and we stand with our black brothers and sisters for for justice, truth, and love. We want to be clear, we are not leading this cause. Our role is rather to listen and learn from our black brothers and sisters who have carved the path. To follow black leaders, friends, artists, voices, and creators who have already paved the way, begging for change to happen for hundreds of years. As for future of the podcast, we are actively looking for more diversity in our guest lineup and plan on having more episodes regarding race and ethnicity in dating. We would love to invite YOU, our amazing listeners into this dialogue as well. Please email us with any suggestion you have :) Our ears are open: info@hodpodcast.com Moving into today's episode... HOW TO AVOID FALLING IN LOVE WITH A JERK! John Van Epp is a therapist, former adjunct professor, author and lecturer. He wrote the book, How to not Fall in Love with a Jerk and is the President and Founder of LoveThinks, LCC, an organization dedicated to the development of resources that promote healthy individuals and relationships. In this episode we talk about how we connect in dating and why recognizing our heart vs. our head in a relationship is vital. Kait and John have in depth and practical conversations throughout this episode as they discuss how you can avoid... falling in love with a jerk.  Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are always looking for new amazing books to read on dating and someone earlier this year recommended the book Single.Dating.Engaged.Married. Our host, Kait, read it and really thought that everyone needed to read this book! So today Kait got the privilege of sitting down with Ben Stuart who is not only an author but also the pastor of Passion City Church, Washington D.C. He has a LOT to say about dating and this entire process and it is SO good.Prior to joining Passion City Church, Ben served for 11 years as the executive director of Breakaway Ministries, a weekly Bible study attended by thousands of college students at Texas A&M. Him and and his wife, Donna, live to inspire and equip people to walk with God for a lifetime… and they also have one heck of an incredible dating story!So something Ben and Kait discuss today is the evaluation process of dating.How do you KNOW that you KNOW if this person is for you or not?How do we truly figure this out? What if you fight a lot, how do you discern?What if you are really not sure, what should you do to work through that? Ben Stuart discusses the feelings of "knowing" when you found a spouse and breaks down some important stereotypes. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the Heart of Dating podcast Kait talks to Meygan Caston from Marriage 365! Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365, a nonprofit dedicated to helping couples connect on a deeper level. She and her husband Casey reach millions of couples around the world each month with their resources including books, retreats, online courses, webcasts and they just released a brand new membership site called MyMarriage365. Meygan, her husband Casey, their two kids and dog Hobie live in Orange County, California. She loves the beach, dance parties, writing, spa days, and of course — Jesus! Her life-long dream is to walk the Camino, have lunch with Brené Brown (which the ladies talk about at length) and get on The Price is Right. On this episode Meygan and Kait talk about some of the most popular and biggest red-flags to become aware of when it comes to dating. They also talk about how to become more self-aware, work on yourself in different seasons of dating, and why connecting with someone who has the same values in God is SO important. We are so excited for you to listen to this episode filled with so much wisdom! Meygan lays out different red flag to look for, and what should be labeled as deal breaker vs a red flag. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, Kait has a conversation with Jon Tyson, a fearless pastor who, if this gives you any idea of his fearlessness, most recently did a sermon series called “The Controversial Jesus,” that talks about controversial topics like the transgender movement and cultural sexuality. He is originally from Australia, has authored many books, has an incredible accent, and has pastored a couple of prominent big churches in New York. In this conversation, we answer questions that YOU sent in about regarding singleness, a theology of dating, and sexual formation! We get honest and real as Jon provides his incredibly insightful thoughts and wisdom on these topics. So, let’s get right to it! Jon discusses different aspect of dating our culture has had influence on. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has this season of quarantine been difficult for you? Have you been struggling with anxiety? This week, Kait talks to training Clinical Psychologist and online educator Brittney Moses about triggers and anxiety within dating. Brittney is passionate about sharing the love of Christ by encouraging others to discover their self-worth and purpose in Him. She is an advocate for mental health and well-being as well as encourages others that “it’s human” to go through emotional difficulties. Brittney’s blog proposes tools on how the healthily maneuver through these struggles and find peace in Christ. Brittney discusses mental health and how anxiety can hold us back in dating if we don't deal with it properly. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you struggling with feeling lonely during this season of quarantine?Today we wanted to do an episode on singleness and thriving in it, as well as how to combat loneliness.Kait brought on a phenomenal woman is is doing all of these things as a 38 year old single woman…the lovely Carrie Lloyd! Carrie Lloyd is an author, speaker, pastor at Bethel Church, and a coach. She originally worked in film and TV advertising in the UK and then went on to become a journalist for British national magazines where she found herself writing about love and relationships. Now she pastors people of all ages, guiding them through marriage, singleness, writing and destiny dreaming in northern California!She is also a podcast host of the The Carrie On Podcast…’which can be found on iTunes and Podbean. Her books on dating and sexual ethics: Prude and The Virgin Monologues are PHENOMENAL you guys should go check them out on amazon!Today Kait and Carrie talk about all things singleness. Carrie shares her heart and journey of finding freedom and HOPE in her singleness life, as well as how she has learned to be 39 and single and still love the journey. She is living a life of vibrancy and fullness, and has found ways to truly combat things like comparison and loneliness.Carrie discusses being a single woman later in life and how to overcome being frustrated in dating.Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interestWant to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-libraryKait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB:https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcastCome hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitness. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices