
The Modern Therapist's Survival Guide with Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy
The Modern Therapist’s Survival Guide: Where Therapists Live, Breathe, and Practice as Human Beings It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. We are human beings who can now present ourselves as whole people, with authenticity, purpose, and connection. Especially now, when clinicians must develop a personal brand to market their private practices, and are connecting over social media, engaging in social activism, pushing back against mental health stigma, and facing a whole new style of entrepreneurship. To support you as a whole person, a business owner, and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.
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Jan 30, 2025 • 28min
Identifying the Graduate Program for the Career You Want – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Eden Lathem
Identifying the Graduate Program for the Career You Want – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Eden LathemIn this new series, Curt and Katie interview graduate students and will follow them on their journey to becoming a therapist. Our final interview is with Eden Lathem, a second-year Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) student at Lipscomb University in Nashville, Tennessee. Eden shares her path from working in prison education and with individuals with disabilities to finding her passion for systemic thinking and family therapy. She candidly discusses the challenges of grad school, balancing internships, and navigating financial constraints while exploring her future career aspirations. She also talks through how she did due diligence to find the “right” graduate program.Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!In this podcast episode, we meet Eden Lathem, an aspiring therapistWe continue our new series on becoming a therapist, with Eden Lathem, who is a first career professional who has done a lot of due diligence and strategic thinking to plan her trajectory as a therapist and professional. Eden’s Background and Path to Therapy
Eden shares how her experiences in prison education and working with individuals with disabilities shaped her desire to support families and underserved populations.
Initially hesitant about becoming a therapist, Eden found her passion for MFT through her commitment to systemic thinking and helping others.
She highlights the unique role of MFT in addressing the needs of families with disabled members, a demographic often overlooked.
Grad School Expectations vs. Reality
Eden discusses her experience in an in-person, cohort-style program that meets weekly.
She was surprised by the program’s emphasis on self-awareness and the “self of the therapist” work, which has become a significant focus.
While expecting more hands-on training, she found the program leaned heavily on didactic learning with limited opportunities for shadowing and hands-on therapy practice.
Balancing Dual Internships and Financial Challenges
Eden balances two internships: a paid position at a family therapy center and an unpaid internship, navigating the complexities of these experiences.
She shares the financial struggles of grad school, reflecting on the challenges of unpaid internships and the economic realities of the helping professions.
Eden highlights the need for strategic financial planning and managing responsibilities while pursuing a meaningful career.
Advice for Prospective Therapy Students
Eden encourages prospective students to thoroughly research programs by talking to professors and alumni.
She stresses the importance of aligning program values with personal goals and considering the broader implications of the chosen education.
Her advice emphasizes due diligence in selecting a program that supports future career aspirations.
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Jan 27, 2025 • 42min
Becoming a Therapist as a First Generation Immigrant – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Marvin Vasquez
Becoming a Therapist as a First Generation Immigrant – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Marvin VasquezIn this new series, Curt and Katie interview graduate students and will follow them on their journey to becoming a therapist. Our third interview is with Marvin Vasquez, a first-year Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) student at California State University, Northridge (CSUN), which is an all in-person program. Marvin shares his journey into therapy, shaped by his immigrant background and personal struggles, as well as his passion for serving underserved communities. He opens up about the unexpected sense of community within his cohort, the financial challenges of grad school, and his concerns about the future of therapy in an increasingly technological world.Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!In this podcast episode, we meet Marvin Vasquez, an aspiring therapistWe continue our new series on becoming a therapist, with Marvin Vasquez. Marvin’s Background and Motivation for Becoming a Therapist
Marvin reflects on his upbringing in a large immigrant family and how his experiences inspired his desire to help others.
He explains how his personal struggles and a passion for underserved communities led him to pursue a career in therapy.
His goal is to use his background and understanding to make therapy more accessible and impactful for marginalized groups.
The First Semester of his MFT Program: Expectations vs. Reality
Marvin discusses his expectations of a theory-heavy and clinical program, contrasting it with the surprising sense of community within his cohort.
He highlights the supportive environment, where vulnerability and shared resilience among students foster personal and professional growth.
Marvin appreciates the program’s emphasis on creating a safe space for learning and self-awareness.
Community and Support in an In-Person Therapy Grad School
Marvin contrasts his undergrad experience, which lacked connection, with his current program's close-knit and empathetic cohort.
The program’s in-person setup has created a unique intensity and camaraderie among students, helping Marvin grow as both a person and a therapist.
He emphasizes the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in building strong connections within the cohort.
Navigating Family Dynamics and Self-Awareness
Marvin shares how the program has deepened his empathy for his parents, particularly their struggles as first-generation immigrants.
He reflects on how their survival strategies shaped his upbringing and his understanding of family dynamics.
The program has helped Marvin foster greater authenticity and emotional awareness in both his personal and professional life.
Balancing Academics, Work, and Relationships during his MFT Masters Program
Marvin explains the challenges of balancing his academic workload, job responsibilities, and personal relationships.
He discusses the financial stress of grad school, including student loans, and the sacrifices involved in pursuing his degree.
Marvin acknowledges the importance of maintaining connections with friends and family to avoid burnout and maintain a healthy work-life balance.
Financial Concerns and Career Aspirations as an MFT
Marvin shares his worries about student debt and the economic realities of being a therapist.
He expresses gratitude for his supportive employer, who provides flexibility to balance work and school.
Marvin is exploring career options, including the importance of finding fieldwork opportunities that align with his values and schedule.
Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement:Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimaginedModern Therapist’s Survival Guide Creative Credits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

Jan 23, 2025 • 38min
Finding Alignment in a Second Career – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Iris Wilson-Farley
Finding Alignment in a Second Career – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Iris Wilson-FarleyIn this new series, Curt and Katie interview graduate students and will follow them on their journey to becoming a therapist. Our second interview is with Iris Wilson-Farley, a 54-year-old trans woman and graduate student pursuing her Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology. Iris shares her journey moving from a 32-year corporate career to becoming a therapist, her passion for working with the LGBTQ+ community, and her reflections on safety, technology, and additional training opportunities.Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!In this podcast episode, we meet Iris Wilson-Farley, an aspiring therapistWe continue our new series on becoming a therapist, with Iris Wilson-Farley, who in her process of self-discovery realized that her career was misaligned. She is now pursuing a degree in counseling.The motivation to transition careers from HR to TherapyIris shares how her personal journey as a transgender woman and her positive counseling experiences inspired her to pursue a more meaningful career in therapy, focusing on giving back to the LGBTQ+ community, particularly older adults.The challenges and surprises in an online graduate program for therapistsIris discusses the challenges of adjusting to an asynchronous online program, balancing studies with her HR job, and the valuable multicultural and social justice emphasis in her curriculum.The perspective gained from entering therapy grad school as a second career clinicianShe highlights the wisdom, emotional intelligence, and lived experiences she brings as a second-career student, including her unique insights from being a client herself.Discussing safety concerns and multicultural awareness in the mental health professionIris reflects on addressing safety concerns as a trans therapist, particularly in the face of potential discrimination, and shares her commitment to finding a supportive and affirming work environment.How is AI and technology addressed in therapist graduate school?Drawing from her corporate experience, Iris explores the integration of technology and AI in therapy, advocating for its potential to enhance the field while emphasizing the need for ethical considerations.What additional training can be helpful when starting out as a therapist?Iris expresses interest in pursuing additional certifications in sex therapy and religious trauma to better serve the LGBTQ+ community and address gaps in her training.Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement:Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimaginedModern Therapist’s Survival Guide Creative Credits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

Jan 20, 2025 • 39min
From Broadway to Grad School – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Derek Isetti
From Broadway to Grad School – Special Series Becoming a Therapist: An interview with Derek IsettiIn this new series, Curt and Katie interview graduate students and will follow them on their journey to becoming a therapist. Our first interview is with Derek Isetti, a 50-year-old graduate student in a two-year Master of Social Work program at California State University, Stanislaus. Derek shares his journey from careers in musical theater and speech-language pathology to pursuing a career in therapy. He reflects on the challenges, surprises, and personal factors influencing his decision to return to school, offering insights into navigating graduate education and the mental health profession.Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!An Interview with Derek IsettiDerek Isetti, PhD, CCC-SLP earned his bachelor of arts in drama with an emphasis in musical theater from University of California, Irvine in 1996. After traveling the country in four national tours and performing in the musical Cabaret on Broadway, Derek returned to school and in 2008 he earned his master of science in Speech-Language Pathology from University of the Pacific. He later earned his doctor of philosophy in Speech and Hearing Sciences from University of Washington, studying voice disorders under the mentorship of Dr. Tanya Eadie. He joined the Pacific faculty in 2014 and is currently serving as Department Chair. In the Fall of 2023, he returned to school to pursue an MSW degree in hopes of becoming a psychotherapist. Derek is a member of the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA) and the California Speech-Language-Hearing Association.In this podcast episode, we meet Derek Isetti, an aspiring therapistWe are starting a new series to follow graduate students on their journey to become a therapist. We start with Derek Isetti, a third career therapist who is working full-time while attending a MSW program in Northern CA. (summary provided in collaboration with Otter.ai and ChatGPT)The experience of transitioning careers to become a therapistDerek explains his shift from a performer and speech-language pathologist to therapy, motivated by a desire to create supportive, transformative spaces for others.What graduate school can be like for aspiring therapistsHe details his MSW program structure, designed for working professionals, which includes online courses, in-person classes once a month, and 1,000 hours of fieldwork by graduation.How therapy students can balance academic and personal lifeDerek shares how his personal circumstances, being single, working in academia, and attending a state university for affordability—helped shape his path.Some challenges and surprises on the path to becoming a therapistHe discusses the variability in program lengths (some social work programs are only 1 year, for example), California’s unique licensure process for social workers, and the tension between broad social work education and specialized psychotherapy training.How current events and technology are addressed in therapy grad schoolDerek highlights the integration of national events and teletherapy technology into his program and the importance of addressing these topics with clients and students.Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement:Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimaginedModern Therapist’s Survival Guide Creative Credits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

Jan 13, 2025 • 41min
What if You Hate Private Practice?
What if you hate private practice?Curt and Katie chat about the realities of private practice and why it isn’t the idyllic career path it’s often made out to be. We dig into reasons therapists may dislike private practice, like financial instability, isolation, lack of accountability, and ethical concerns. We also share ways therapists can navigate these hurdles and find fulfillment in their work. Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!In this podcast episode we talk through what makes owning a private practice hardWe have seen both overly effusive (“living my best life”) and hopeless (“I will never be successful in private practice”) feedback about being in private practice. But what is it really like? AND if you don’t like private practice is that okay? We decided to dig into what makes being a private practitioner challenging.Doesn’t everyone LOVE private practice?· There are a lot of reasons people choose private practice as their job· Private practice is hard· Private practice isn’t for everyoneFinancial Instability is unavoidable in private practice· Private practice income can be unpredictable, often lacking benefits and paid time off· Therapists may need outside financial support to mitigate these challenges· Starting a private practice easily can rely on financial or able-bodied privilege· Charging high fees and navigating ethical dilemmas can challenge therapists’ sense of fulfillment and values.Owning a Private Practice comes with Business Challenges· With limited business training in grad school, therapists often struggle with marketing, setting up systems, and attracting clients.· Therapists can overthink how they set up their practice, causing delays and inefficiencyMany Private Practice Clinicians experience isolation· Private practice can feel lonely· Networking, consultation groups, and in-person connections are essential for combating isolation.Private practice can be boring or monotonous· If you are tightly niched or work only with the worried well, you may encounter little clinical challenge· If you are only doing one to one work, you may desire more diversity of tasks to stay interested (like teaching, podcasting, etc.)If you own your own business, figure out how to deal with accountability issues· Without structured oversight, therapists may face difficulties staying organized or motivated, which can lead to burnout· Depending on who you talk with, you might convince yourself that no one is caught up on notes or paying their taxes on time – which isn’t accurate.What can therapists do to make private practice better?· Network and nurture social and professional support· Get systems set up (and make them as simple as possible) to streamline your work· Think about diversifying what you do, to keep yourself engaged with the workStay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement:Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimaginedModern Therapist’s Survival Guide Creative Credits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

Jan 6, 2025 • 39min
REPLAY - Outside Obsessions
REPLAY - Outside Obsessions We’re still on vacation, but we wanted to share one of our favorite episodes with all of you. We start with a quick reflection on the episode and what we’ve learned since it originally aired. Today’s replay is of Episode 95: Outside Obsessions. In this episode we talk about how to handle the hobbies and goals in our personal lives that can be all consuming, especially if they come into the therapy room.You can see the original show notes and transcripts for episode 95 here: Outside Obsessions (https://bit.ly/mtsgpodcast95).

Dec 30, 2024 • 28min
REPLAY - It’s Time to Think About Your Goals
REPLAY - It’s Time to Think About Your Goals We’re on vacation, but we wanted to share one of our favorite episodes with all of you. We start with a quick reflection on the episode and what we’ve learned since it originally aired. Today’s replay is of Episode 18: It’s Time to Think About Your Goals. This is one of our first episodes and you can see what we were working on for 2018. This episode is timeless and timely. Happy New Year, all!You can see the original show notes and transcripts for episode 18 here: It’s Time to Think About Your Goals (https://bit.ly/mtsgpodcast18).

Dec 23, 2024 • 34min
An ER Doctor Reflects on Gun Violence, Health Inequities, and Moral Injury: An interview with Dr. Ruby J. Long
An ER Doctor Reflects on Gun Violence, Health Inequities, and Moral Injury: An interview with Dr. Ruby J. LongCurt and Katie interview Dr. Ruby Long, ER doctor and restorative justice advocate, about the devastating impact of gun violence in the U.S. and its designation as a public health crisis. Dr. Long highlights its rise as the leading cause of death for children and adolescents and shares the emotional toll on healthcare providers. She reflects on compassion fatigue and moral injury in the ER, which was exacerbated by health inequity and the covid pandemic.Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!In this podcast episode, we talk with Dr. Ruby Long about gun violenceDr. Ruby J. Long has been an ER doctor for a long time and has seen a lot of gun violence come through her doors. She is reaching out to help providers understand the specifics, provides a helpful acronym and is sharing her resourceful book. The Reality of Gun Violence in the U.S.
54% of U.S. adults have been directly affected by firearm violence.
Gun violence has surpassed other leading causes of death for children and adolescents.
Firearms are the leading cause of death in suicides.
It is important that providers are able to identify risk factors, particularly for senior males and veterans, and promoting secure gun storage.
How can gun violence impact the medical and mental health providers who are supporting victims?
The moral injuries and trauma healthcare professionals face from witnessing the physical and mental health impacts of gun violence.
Dr. Long shares her own experiences as an ER doctor and the profound emotional impact of treating gunshot victims.
The importance of responsible gun storage and using the "Be SMART" approach:
Secure guns.
Model responsible behavior.
Ask about unsecured guns.
Recognize the role of guns in suicide.
Tell peers about gun safety.
Provider Support and Self-Care:
Coping with burnout and moral injuries through personal limits, professional therapy, and systemic support (beyond yoga mats and pizza parties)
The importance of small, focused actions in advocating for gun safety and violence prevention.
Dr. Long’s Book: Love Letters to Patients
Inspired by her experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Offers resources for health challenges like suicide, domestic violence, and overdose.
Aims to empower patients and encourage early intervention.
Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement:Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimaginedModern Therapist’s Survival Guide Creative Credits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

Dec 16, 2024 • 43min
Reporting Back from the Behavioral Health Tech 2024 Conference
Reporting Back from the Behavioral Health Tech 2024 ConferenceCurt and Katie chat about Katie’s attendance at the 2024 Behavioral Health Teach conference. Katie reported back on investment trends, how Value Based Care is being understood and implemented, and how therapists can navigate these tech disruptors and evolving business models. Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!In this podcast episode we report back on updates in the behavioral health tech spaceWe decided to have Katie go to the Behavioral Health Tech 2024 conference to learn about innovations and leaders in the behavioral health tech space. This episode is an out brief with updates for all clinicians.What is the Behavioral Health Tech conference?· This is a newer conference that brings together VCs, founders, insurance payors, and clinicians· The focus of this conference is on innovation, especially technology solutions for what they were describing as a broken mental health systemInvestment trends in the Behavioral Health space· AI Therapy· Self-help tools· VR for social skills (i.e., in the Autism space)· Measurement-based care (including wearables, journals, and assessment tools)· Integrated EHR systems that include the ability to have “interoperability” between providersWhat is Value-Based Care and what does that mean for behavioral health providers?· There is a stepped or tiered process to implement Value-Based Care· First step is enhanced fee for service, with augmented fees for better outcomes· The next step is a rate per client model with incentives and penalties (upside/downside)· The final step is a fully capitated model where the clinician provides comprehensive care, with potential risk (you underestimated the costs) and potential benefit (you price appropriately and have the opportunity for higher per client reimbursement than in a fee-for-service model)· Solo (or “single shingle”) practitioners will have difficulty with the aggregated data that is needed to negotiate these contracts with payors.· Larger, potentially VC funded groups are aggregating this data and negotiating higher rates, but may not be passing on much of this increased rate to the clinicians they hire or contract withWhat are the opportunities and challenges facing therapists with the advances in tech?· It is critical for therapists to become more efficient, look for opportunities to collaborate, and incorporate technology effectively to be able to success in VBC models (or in the new marketplace)· Group or specialized practices are better-situated to navigate these challenges than individual practitioners· Outcome measures may be key to competing in the new marketplaceHow can mental health clinicians advocate related to these new advances in technology?· Clinicians should be involved in these conversations around how therapy and business models are evolving· Advocacy to make sure there is clinician and client input on how these systems are put togetherWhat should therapists do now to future-proof their practice?· Identify and integrate outcome measures into your therapy practice· Stay informed about what is up and coming in the field· Streamline your operations to increase efficiency and prepare for VBC models· Join advocacy groups to make sure therapist perspectives are represented in the new care models.Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement:Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimaginedModern Therapist’s Survival Guide Creative Credits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

Dec 9, 2024 • 39min
Working for 988: Insider Perspectives
Working for 988: Insider PerspectivesCurt and Katie received feedback on our recent one year follow-up episode on the rollout of 988. We received responses from a person who was working within the 988 system as well as someone who started going through the training for the text crisis hotline. We were able to put more depth into our understanding of how this system works. We explored training, supervision, funding, potential equity issues, and concerns for staff. We also share ideas for advocacy. Transcripts for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com!In this podcast episode we report back on employee experiences within the 988/crisis response systemWe share two insider experiences working within the crisis response system around 988. Listeners shared their experiences with training as an emergency worker within the 988 system:
For the text crisis hotlines, there were concerns about insufficient, online-only training models that lack supervision and focus on formulaic responses.
For the call center, there was a report of extensive initial training (9 full time weeks of training) but minimal supervision post-training.
What are 988 insider concerns regarding AI and Data Privacy?
Ethical concerns around AI tools used for measuring empathy and issues with data collection practices.
Balancing AI integration with trauma-informed care and caller anonymity.
How does 988 Funding work and what are potential equity Issues?
Fragmented funding models tied to sources like Medicaid lead to inconsistent protocols and potentially inequitable care.
Federal funding is needed to standardize practices and improve service quality.
An insider report on 988 Call Center challenges:
High burnout rates among staff due to limited resources and support.
Gaps in follow-up care for callers due to funding and staffing constraints.
Takeaways and Solutions for 988 and the full crisis response system:
Advocacy is needed for dedicated federal funding to ensure consistent training, equitable care, and trauma-informed practices.
It would be best to have standardized protocols to strengthen the 988 crisis hotline system.
Thoughtful integration of AI to enhance efficiency while maintaining ethical standards.
Support for call center staff to prevent burnout and improve service outcomes.
Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement:Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimaginedModern Therapist’s Survival Guide Creative Credits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/