The Happy Pear Podcast

Why can’t we talk to our kids about sex?“Sexual negativity is the lense most of us are born into… we are fed shame”, we are made think it should be a “secretive thing”, we allow judgment and scrutiny of others. With this in mind how are we equipped to speak to the younger generation about it - How can we be sure we are passing down a healthy relationship towards sex? The big question being; is our own inability to speak openly about sex pushing our children towards porn for their sex education?This week we speak to the amazing Dr Kate Balestrieri, a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, PACT Therapist and Founder of Modern Intimacy.Dr Kate came into her practice through her involvement with sex offenders. She began to see a pattern amongst these offenders and the therapists allocated to them and felt she needed to delve deeper.Her out look is one of compassion, open mindedness, and honesty. She gives many practical tips on nurturing a healthy sex life. We talk in length about so many things including safety, curiosity and diversity. As she puts it; “humans are diverse so why would our sex lives be any different”An insightful listen. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did!Big Love,Dave & Steve xYou can find out more about Dr Kate from her IG @drkatebalestrieri and her podcast, Modern Intimacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sexual longevity - How do we keep going?When Amy asked her mum at the age of 11, “mum what’s a virgin?”, her mother responded “it’s someone who is not married”. Fast forward 20 years, Amy is now a trained and highly sought after Doctor in Sexual Health, Anti-Aging and Regenerative Medicine in aesthetics and sexual optimisation.How did this week’s podcast guest go from a sexually repressive religious background to dedicating much of her life’s work to promoting a long and healthy sex life?“Sexual health is more like a gateway to other underlying issues. When people come to me about their sexual health, it’s rarely an issue with their genitalia. It’s usually something else like hormonal problem, cardiovascular problem, stress, diet…”After years of working on the medical ward, Amy soon began to see a rise in patience being more and more interested in their skin and their sex lives. So she took the plunge!We talk stem cells, nitric oxide, PRP, hormone replacement, nutrition, fitness, how she deals with the topic sex and her own children… we cover it all!A fascinating conversation! Enjoy! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is sex a skill? How do we get better at sex if we don’t talk about sex?! This week’s electric guest is the wonderful Jenny Keane. Jenny is a professionally trained, trauma informed, holistic sex educator and Tantra yoga teacher. A crusader for self love through self exploration and pleasure, Jenny is on a mission to ignite a sexual revolution in Ireland!“If you want to change the way that you live, change the way that you have sex… Because the way that you show up in bed is more than likely the way you show up in life.”A fascinating conversation, that has no boundaries; Jenny takes us through the menstruation difficulties that first brought her down this journey of sexual education; how the contraceptive pill changed her libido and even her sense of smell. We explore how in today’s society we are programmed to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves: sex has become a "performance or obligation”. Finally, we dive deep into how “to live erotically is to live in tune with your body”As Jenny puts it, “there is no recipe for pleasure”. We are all on our own unique discovery and should not shy away from it. Rather, we should educate ourselves and our children so that they grow up with a healthy understanding of their own bodies and its abilities.So let’s all try and take some advice from Jenny, Ireland’s sexual revolutionary, and slow down, remove the goal, pay attention, learn to connect with our breathe, body and mind; and most importantly have the right mindset! As “all tips are useless if you don’t have the right mindset first”.We hope you enjoyed this episode as much as we did, we will be continuing this season with more topics all related to sex and relationships, so stay tuned! Please subscribe and share if you like what you hear.Lots of love,Dave & SteveTo find out more about Jenny and her work, check out her site www.jennykeane.com and instagram page @hellojennykeane Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if nutritional information was simple and accessible so that people can make informed decisions about the food they feed themselves and their family? Well, Simon Hill has dedicated a decade to doing just that. Through podcast and website, plant proof, Simon has given a platform to world-renowned doctors and public figures. During this chat, we learned what happens to the health outcomes of identical twins when they change lifestyles, the potential connection between diabetic dog and diabetic dog owners. Simon also bravely shared the role that a traumatic family incident kickstarted his interest in fighting chronic disease.This episode is for people who like data, academic studies and want to use evidence based science to make decisions about their health. Lots of insightful anecdotes so grab a pen and notepad!To find out more about Simon and his work checkout, Plant Proof Podcast and his book, The Proof is in the Plants  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you want to live to 100? How about 200?!This week’s podcast is all about longevity and who better to speak to other than Mr Young himself: Sergey Young!Sergey’s life’s mission is to live to 200—and to find an affordable way for everyone else to do the same. Founder of the $100M Longevity Vision Fund, Sergey has coached people from his own housekeeping lady to Forbes Billionaires, to rethink and redesign their lives with the aim to live as possible.According to Sergey, the technology already exists, trials are already happening, so it is now only a matter of time and "the biggest obstacle for us living longer is not going to be science, it’s not going to be technology. It’s going to be human ethics and regulations…”How does that make you feel? What if I was to tell you that a massive part of the longevity game starts now, and requires no science or technology! Sergey takes us through his 3 main widely available and affordable steps to gaining 3 extra healthy years to your life and so much more…However, we don’t stop there! We go much deeper and battle through the morality of living so long… “Unless we change this world; our relationship with mother nature and the inequality gap, it’s going to be very difficult for us to enjoy the idea of living longer… that’s why my mission is to bring affordable and accessible health technology to the world…I'm really interested to work on that because it's an opportunity to democratise healthcare”A fascinating episode that we feel everyone can relate to.Big love,Dave & SteveTo find out more about Sergey, his book and his work, visit https://sergeyyoung.com/This episode is sponsored by WILD Go Wild today and get yourself this natural, refillable deodorant that genuinely works.  You can order by going to WE ARE WILD dot com to get 20% off your first order when you use code “HAPPYPEAR” at checkout. That’s WE ARE WILD DOT COM and Code “HAPPYPEAR” at checkout for 20% off. Enjoy! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome podcast listeners to this week's infamous guest - the impressive powerhouse that is John Joseph!John is a musician, author and Ironman triathlete from New York City, most famous for his work as the lead singer of the Cro-Mags in the 1980s, '90s and 2000s. He was raised in foster care and grew up on the streets of New York City, dodging a federal prison sentence in the late ’70s by enrolling into the Navy.A character with many layers to say the least! Aside from his colourful background, he is author to a number of books including the slightly controversial, “Meat is for Pussies”, a book on vegan nutrition, training and a healthy lifestyle.Whether John is your cup of tea or not, there is no question that he has been through life, he has seen and experienced things most of us could never dream of experiencing. “You know people talk about rock bottom… I was below the fucking rocks! I was with the fucking maggots and the worms… and the fucking dead carcasses. I literally had no less than 5 fucking drug gangs in New York wanting to kill me, I burned every bridge... I had nothing.”From rock bottom to up top - John has an appetite for life that is beyond none. His motto is tough but warranted, “You have to face your demons head on, you can’t run away from it. Whatever it is you are doing, whatever you went through, you gotta face it… show up, work hard and don’t make excuses!”His book “The P.M.A Effect” delves deep into the power of a positive mental attitude. He has spent much time dedicated to the learnings of the Hare Krishna’s and Bhagavad Gita, which has massively shaped who he is today.A fascinating and inspirational character. Enjoy! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when you mix a life of media expertise with the desire to help us collectively look after our health, planet and ‘precious life’? Well, we think you get Sarah Wilson!We used to call her the Sugar Lady, as she wrote, best selling book, I Quit Sugar and founded IQuitSugar.com, a program that has been completed by 1.5 million people in 133 countries.But will find no mention of sugar in this episode as Sarah is so much more than that we discovered! Why? In 2018, Sarah closed the business and gave all money to charity. She now lives minimally, cycling her hand-built bike to red carpet events.Sarah is also the author or two other books: another best seller, First, We Make the Beast Beautiful, and her latest book, This One Wild and Precious Life  which explores the complexities of climate change, coronavirus, racial inequalities and our disconnection from what matters.Enjoy this delightful exchange!Big Love,Dave & Steve x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not a pleasant question, but have you ever wondered what the biggest killer of men in the Western world is? This week, meet Rip Esselstyn, a former professional athlete and firefighter who has dedicated decades to helping people improve their health and fight this biggest killer.“The number one cause of death amongst fire fighters is heart attacks, not fires!”But don’t worry! There’s a happy ending to this fact. Rip Esselstyn has helped thousands of people to regain their health and thrive without surgery or spending loads of money.Did we say thousands? We meant millions: Rip is the Exec producer of the most viewed health documentary of all time, Game changers, which has been viewed over 100m times."We are finding that by exercising, eating plant based, optimum sleep… you can really start pushing the boundaries”Rip embodies commitment to demonstrating longevity and also helping others achieve it. We learnt a lot about health from Rip so hopefully you will, too. Enjoy!Big Love,Dave & SteveFurther Information:If you want to learn more about Rip, visit his site: https://plantstrong.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever heard of Dr. Melanie Joy? Well, if you haven’t you should! Is it acceptable to say this could be our favourite episode to date?Joy has an incredible capacity to distill information in the most tangible way. She effortlessly cuts to the core of so many major issues that impact us all. From the macros like climate change or racism to the micros of personal relationships.“When you look at systems of oppression like racism, classism, carnism/animal exploitation. All of these are expressions of the same type of thinking. Each set of victims of these forms of oppression will always have unique experiences, but the systems themselves are structurally similar and the mentality that drives these systems are the same.”Melanie Joy, Ph.D., is a Harvard-educated psychologist specialising in relationships, communication, and social change. She is the author of six books, including the award-winning Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows, Beyond Beliefs: A Guide to Improving Relationships and Communication Among Vegans, Vegetarians, and Meat Eaters, and Getting Relationships Right. Joy is the eighth recipient of the Institute of Jainology’s Ahimsa Award, which was previously given to Nelson Mandela and the Dalai Lama. Her work has been featured by numerous media outlets, including the BBC, ABC Australia, NPR, and the New York Times. She is also the founding President of the non-profit organisation, Beyond Carnism.Moving from effective and ineffective forms of communication and relation literacy to veganism and her own perfectly coined term, Carnism - We delve deep into her formula for successful relations, and really how attainable it is. “Every communication, has two parts to it; it has the content, that’s what we are communicating about and then there’s the process, and that’s HOW we are communicating. We tend to all over-focus on the content “I just want to get the words right, I just want to get my answer out there”, but the process matters much more. If you think about a conversation that you had, 6 months to a year ago. It’s possible that you actually forgot the content entirely -somebody you talked to at a party or something- but you probably remembered how you felt in that conversation. The process determines how you feel and when your process is healthy, you can communicate about anything without arguing…when your process is not healthy, you can’t communicate about anything without arguing. You probably know people who have so much in common, and yet always seem to find a reason to butt heads and argue together.”A truly awakening episode. Please let us know your thoughts on socials and if you like what you hear, please subscribe and share.Big love,Dave & SteveYou can learn more about Dr. Melanie Joy and her work at carnism.org. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Coined “The Death Metal Irish Baron”, this re-wilding, filmmaking, vegan Lord is not only continuing in the lineage of great ancestors before him but also going against the grain. How? By giving back what he inherited to its true owner: Mother Earth herself… This week's podcast guest is Lord Randal Plunkett.He has been described as an idiot, a moron and crazy but that doesn’t stop him. Randal is aware of the mantle he must withhold;“When you are born into privilege, you must live in servitude… I have a responsibility… I must make things better..”With a lineage of philanthropists, saints and scholars behind him, this is not an easy feat! However, despite the seriousness of the tasks Randal has taken on, he has a great sense of humour and is not what you would expect when you hear the word “Lord”:“The only time I ever go by Lord is when I am wearing a cape, and yes, of course, I have a cape.”We laughed, we went deep, we spoke about his past, the hate from locals that comes with the title, the various places he grew up in, the relationship with his lineage, his love for horror, death metal, filmmaking, and how he came to re-wild his estate.“This is now the most important thing I have ever done."A fascinating character and a natural-born storyteller, Randal and this episode will keep you entertained, will stimulate your curiosity and potentially even start you on your own re-wilding journey!We hope you enjoy it and if you like our podcast please subscribe and share.Big love,Dave & Steve xREFERENCESFILM: The Green Sea by Randal PlunkettInstagramDunsany Natural Reserve Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.