The Date Brazen Podcast

Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt? Lily tackles exactly how you can break free from that mental loop. We dive into the real cost of overthinking—how it's draining your energy, wasting your time, and slowing down your life’s momentum. Lily shares methods to help you stop doubting yourself and start building a rock-solid foundation of self-trust. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clear plan of action so you can confidently take bold steps toward the life you want, without the exhausting mental spirals. What if overthinking was just a roadblock on your journey to becoming the main character in your own story? This is your invitation to shift into that energy, giving yourself permission to trust, transform, and take massive, messy action. You’ll learn: How to recognize the signs that you may have a self-trust deficit and how it affects your daily life Why building self-trust, even imperfectly, is an essential step toward living a rich and fulfilling life The reasons behind why you struggle to trust yourself and how fear and past experiences may be holding you back That self-trust is a skill that takes time and practice to master How to build self-trust and confidently take action, leading to more clarity and control in your life Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-trust-yourself  

Want to know how to ask for exactly what you want, nurture your biggest dreams, and crush your fears along the way? You’re in luck!  Lily and her guest break down how to tap into your main character energy and own every aspect of your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve left behind, nurture your inner light, and permit yourself to ask for – and actually receive – what you truly want.   We get into: The disconnect between showing Main Character Energy on the outside but not feeling it internally Giving yourself permission to take the chance and truly nurture your own needs The power of finding support through a community coaching space and receiving collective encouragement The challenges of asking for what you want, and learning that sometimes it’s about asking less of yourself and allowing others to show up for you How slowing down, even during success or failure, doesn’t stall your growth Understanding that listening to your desires only fuels more of them The willingness to embrace more joy and actively seek it out in your life   Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/ask-for-what-you-want-mce

Dive into an inspiring journey as Erica shares her bold leap from a draining job to thriving as a full-time romance novelist. Discover how she conquered self-doubt and societal pressures to embrace her true passions. The conversation highlights the transformative power of self-trust and prioritizing personal desires. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own main character energy, take risks, and make bold moves towards their dreams. Plus, learn about an upcoming training event designed to empower dream chasers!

What happens when you stop playing it safe and start betting on yourself? In this episode, Jackie spills on how she shifted from burnout to bold moves, and what it takes to embrace that Main Character Energy. Jackie, a former Main Character Energy Mastermind member, joins Lily for a convo about how she went from frozen in fear and burnt out to making some serious boss moves in her life. Together, they dive into the power of community and the mindset shifts that make growth happen. Spoiler: It’s all about trusting yourself, embracing the messiness, and going after what’s yours—whether it's your career goals or relationship desires. We get into: How self-trust can lead to unexpected joy and experiences  Transitioning from a background character energy to main character energy “Whatever growth you are looking to make - if you put in the effort, it will come.” Taking imperfect action and claiming that things are working out - even when it feels uncomfortable  Jackie’s experience as a researcher of joy! Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/huge-risks-with-mce-with-jackie  

Is it possible to stay true to yourself while navigating the world of dating? Absolutely! We’re pulling back the curtain with special guests Ali and Erica from Finding Mr. Height. Lily sits down with the duo to discuss how they decided to start their dating podcast and offers a glimpse into the clues, details, and breadcrumbs that help you figure out if someone is right for you. We also dig into the anxieties that surface in new and long-term relationships, offering strategies for navigating them with confidence and clarity. You’ll also hear Ali and Erica's candid thoughts on their least favorite—and most favorite—pieces of dating advice. Plus, Lily explores some uncharted territory, sharing her take on long-term relationships. This episode is packed with humor and practical tips to help you own what you want and build strong relationships. We get into: What inspired Ali and Erica to launch their dating podcast, Finding Mr. Height Spotting the subtle clues and signals to determine if someone’s right for you (or not) Relationship anxieties—whether you’re just starting out or deep in a long-term commitment Finding and building a meaningful relationship that works for you Ali and Erica’s top dating tips and the advice they’d rather skip Links: Finding Mr. Height podcast Finding Mr. Height on Instagram @findingmrheight Erica on Instagram @spericaa Lily’s appearance on Finding Mr. Height Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/finding-mr-height-ali-and-erica  

Hot-take: Bragging is key to attracting more in your dating life. That’s right! We’re diving into Lily's favorite chapter from her book, Thank You More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love. It's all about the Brazen Bragging Revolution! 🚀 Lily breaks down why bragging isn’t just a power move but the key to attracting more fulfilling relationships. She gets real about her journey, tackles the societal BS that holds us back and gives you the ultimate guide to celebrating your awesomeness. Plus, there’s exclusive bonus content waiting for you if you snag her book from her website.  You’ll learn: Why hiding your full awesomeness leads to uninspiring dates  Why it feels weird to brag and how to get over it How to choose your bragging support and community wisely  Mastering the art of brazen bragging Real-life examples of what you can start bragging about today Links: Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/brag-more-find-love

What does it take to go from feeling "behind" in dating to confidently making your move every single time? This week, Lily welcomes client Allyson, who shares her journey from feeling behind in dating to embracing self-compassion and taking control of her love life. They chat about the game-changing power of self-love, shaking off society's BS standards, and how stepping into a main character mindset has leveled up not just Allyson's dating game, but her whole life. Tune in for some real talk on how to attract meaningful relationships while staying true to yourself, taking your shot, and feeling all kinds of empowered. We get into: The struggle of feeling behind in dating – "It felt like a mountain I couldn’t climb." Why it's okay to be uncomfortable, and how to find safety even in the discomfort. Owning the fact that you are in complete control of your love life. How Allyson found the courage to shoot her shot and ask someone out Allyson’s new beliefs about her future, and how it’s all coming together Links: Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough) Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-with-allyson  

What if the key to transforming your dating life is all about owning your worth? Listen in to find out how Miriam went from dating fear to confidently choosing people who were aligned with what they truly wanted.  Join Lily and client Miriam as they dive deep into the thoughts that so many of us have about dating, worthiness, and settling, and how these can keep us stuck on a hamster wheel, going through the motions without real progress. Miriam shares their journey from feeling frustrated and scared about dating to radiating confidence and truly enjoying the experience! We get into: The dating hamster wheel: How to break free from the endless cycle of dating without progress and finally make things happen. Tips for overcoming those nagging thoughts like “I’m too much” or “All the good ones are taken” and boosting your dating confidence Dealing with fears of settling, picking the wrong partner, or just getting started in the dating world How Miriam mastered the art of blessing and releasing when there was a values mismatch, rather than sticking around to “see where this goes.” Links: ✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough) Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Date Brazen on YouTube Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/bless-and-release-confidently-with-miriam  

Hot-take: You should make the first move 100% of the time. If you read that and feel a sense of fear, that’s okay! In this episode, Lily breaks down everything from rocking a proactive mindset to embracing those awkward moments and showing yourself some self-compassion so you can confidently make the first move every time. This is the most passionate lesson Lily teaches, and she has seen a major difference in clients' ability to attract the right partner. Tune in to learn how to transform your dating life with bold confidence and get the deets on more resources to help you along the way.  You’ll learn: How to embrace the awkwardness, recognize your inner power, and remember you're resilient AF. “You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.” Take Your Shot: Every attempt brings you closer to what you want because you're actively attracting and asking for it. Use the S.O.F.T. method to move through rejection: Self-compassion, Own Your Needs, Feel Your Feelings, and remember that Thoughts Are Not Facts. Creative and practical suggestions to help you take that first step! Links: ✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please 162. The Complete Dating Detox Guide Kristin Neff’s Self-compassion.org Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/make-the-first-move-every-time  

Are you wondering, “How do I pick up the pieces after this horrible breakup?” This week, Lily dives straight into an inspiring conversation with Liz, a former client who turned the heartbreak of a broken engagement into a powerful journey of healing and finding new love. Liz keeps it real, sharing her experiences of embracing pain, seeking support, and rebuilding self-trust. Together, Lily and Liz explore the transformative process of becoming your main character through the work of Main Character Dating, formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough. Returning to the podcast after her first appearance in 2023, Liz brings a full-circle perspective, offering wisdom and insights for anyone navigating post-breakup life or re-entering the dating world.  Listen in as Liz reflects on how the principles of Main Character Dating have evolved with her, revealing how embracing self-discovery and vulnerability can be your greatest strengths. We get into: Picking up the pieces after a shitty breakup Liz shares her raw experience: “I had to fully feel all my pain,” emphasizing the importance of embracing and processing emotions to heal When you show up with your feelings, the right people show up for you as well Navigating the desire/shame see-saw means trusting your gut and understanding there's no perfect timeline for getting back into dating Liz explores, “What does self-trust look like for you now?” sharing how she found courage and rebuilt self-trust  Links: ✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/self-trust-and-love-after-a-breakup-with-liz