The Date Brazen Podcast

This week, we are addressing how to move through the feeling of hopelessness in your dating life.  Lily answers this listener’s question related to feelings after being rejected or ghosted by someone, “Where do I go from here? What advice do you have around staying hopeful?” It sucks to feel hard feelings, to be ghosted, or rejected. Both, and, it is important to feel your feelings. This episode helps you to identify your emotions, move through them, and come out to the other side with a little more caring and self-compassion for yourself. Plus, Lily shares three steps to take that will lead you to feel hopeful and inspired for your, “What’s next?”     Links: The Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on TikTokDate Brazen on Instagram127. My response to the question, “Will I just die alone?” 128. The questions you don't say out loud.. 139. Body image and your dating life with Bri Campos140. My bless and release strategy for letting go Kristen Neff, SelfCompassion.org Simone Seol’s Joyful Marketing Podcast Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/move-through-hopelessness  

Have you ever wondered if you should sign up for a matchmaking database? This week Lily is answering a listener’s question about matchmaking databases and what to consider when thinking about what is the right choice for you. She gives her hot takes from being a professional matchmaker, what questions to ask a matchmaker if you’re considering signing up for a service, and more. Whether matchmaking is the direction you take or not, this episode gets to the heart of how to make the BEST, most powerful decision for you. Links:  The Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on TikTokDate Brazen on InstagramEpisode 135: How to create your essence-based preferencesEpisode 91: Envision your future partner meditation Episode 131: how your coupled friends can help you

This week Lily brings you an episode about the concept of blessing and releasing. It’s a strategy you can use when you are having a hard time letting go of something or someone.   This episode was inspired by a question that was DM’d: How can I let go of someone that I thought was right for me? In this episode, you’ll hear all about how, when, and why to bless and release something. You also can use this method in any facet of life, as a way to bless and release an idea, a boundary, or even a hard decision.  Blessing and releasing is a practice that helps you believe in yourself, choose yourself, and choose your next chapter. Hot-takes and how-tos: When blessing and releasing - don’t expect it to be perfect. Expect some complications.  Trust your inner knowing and make space for complexity. WTF to say when you want to bless and release someone Links: The Brazen BreakthroughDate Brazen on TikTokDate Brazen on Instagram Episode 133: Asking Someone to be Exclusive Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/bless-and-release  

We are talking about a tender topic this week and exploring how to move through hard thoughts and feelings about body image. Joining Lily to discuss things like body grief and perception of self is Body Image Coach and Educator, Bri Campos. Bri offers Body Image Coaching + Education for people who are tired of hating their bodies. She is an LPC, Body Image Coach & Educator, and host of The Body Grievers Club Podcast. Bri is passionate about using the Health at Every Size (HAES) paradigm when it comes to helping clients find freedom with food and peace with their current bodies. We hope you enjoy this episode.  Hot-takes and How-tos: “Whatever I feel about my acne or my body jiggling, it does not impact the beliefs I have about myself.” Bri shares the four aspects of body image How fat phobia or ant-fat bias is rooted in racism  Why when we are talking about body positivity we also must talk about body privilege  What is "Body Grief" and how to move through it using Bri’s Body Grief Formula Links:Bri’s website Bri’s Podcast Bri on InstagramDate Brazen on InstagramDate Brazen on TikTok The Body is Not An Apology, Sonya Renee Taylor Fearing the Black Body, Sabrina Strings The Harvard Bias TestsThe Body Liberation Project, Chrissy King Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/body-image-and-your-dating-life-with-bri-campos  

Our brains are good at focusing on the worst-case scenario when it comes to love and life. Well, this week you are invited to believe that the best-case scenario in your dating life is possible! In this episode, Lily explores some best-case scenarios that could happen. And as you listen, we encourage you to let these ideas in. As you acclimate yourself to the potential for things going well, the more ease you will feel engaging with courageous acts. The best-case scenario is possible right now. Both/and, it’s complicated. You are also human. As you listen in, think about how you can indulge in the best-case scenario, today. Hot-takes from this episode: The goal is, “How can I acknowledge what I want and open up a little space to let it in?” Ask yourself: What if you get what you want? You have your own back so fiercely AND you are the best possible decision-maker for yourself Hold yourself in compassion and get all your needs met Episode links: The Brazen Breakthrough Coaching Party + Info Session The Brazen Breakthrough Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTokTherapy Jeff on TikTok Kara Lowentheil

We are talking about the concept of what it means to be “chill,” in your dating life, how being “chill,” might be impacting you negatively, and how to embrace your intensity to find the right partner for you.  In this episode, Lily explores how you might be making yourself feel wrong for being human and encourages you to shed old stories that no longer serve you. Don’t be chill because when you are your biggest self, you will attract the right people to you. Hot-takes from this episode: Notice where you are judging yourself for being human. Look at where you are intense and how might that be a gift to people in your life. Celebrate your intensity! Take up space! Being chill can be a function of trying to belong in a world that would rather you not be too much.  What it means when someone wants "laidback" - red flag! 🚩 Episode links: The Brazen Breakthrough Coaching Party + Info SessionThe Brazen Breakthrough Las Culturistas Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok Show notes:  http://datebrazen.com/blog/dont-be-chill  

Happy New Year, gorgeous friend! Today, Lily is bringing you an episode all about creating an intentional dating life that feels like self-care and leads to extraordinary love. More specifically, she is sharing how to even start.    Whether you've never gone on a date in your life, been in a romantic relationship, ended a long-term relationship or haven’t dated very much, this episode will support you in starting your next dating chapter with power, confidence, and self-compassion.  Be sure to have your favorite note-taking tools handy as you listen. This episode has practical steps to help you attract a soul-quenching partnership and feel amazing about yourself along the way.  Hot-takes from this episode: Notice what assumptions you're having about yourself, your decision-making, and how you're feeling. Be a loving witness.  Get in the driver's seat of NOTICING Claim your essence-based preferences  Start playing and ask for what you want Links:The Brazen Breakthrough 121. Dating apps: Ask me anything124. The “Thank You, More, Please!” Challenge 135. How to create your essence-based preferences Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/where-do-i-even-start  

This episode has been a long time in the making. It's all about how to claim your essence-based preferences. Lily is taking you on a deep dive into what essence-based preferences are, how they are helpful to your dating life, how to know if you're being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode that you’re going to want to listen to time and again!  Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode: How do you know if you're being too "rigid" Essence-based preferences can apply to everything that you want Figure out how to get to the root of what you want by crafting your personal love-life vocabulary Links:The Brazen Breakthrough Brazen Coaching Party + Brazen Breakthrough Info SessionEpisode 26: How to navigate money in your dating life Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/essence-based-preferences

Today we're going to be talking about the question, “How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?” Lily shares some of her hot takes on this topic, including the productivity myth about dating, a reminder to practice self-compassion, and encouragement to try something else if pushing yourself hasn’t worked thus far.  This episode is full of massive permission and inspiration to be bold as hell in your love life and beyond. Hot-takes from this episode: You don't have to go on dates RIGHT NOW to find an amazing relationship Productivity in dating prioritizes performing over caring for your body and nervous system  When you stop to care for your nervous system, you will be more in alignment with higher decision-making AND better dates If you want to feel cared for in your love life, give that care to yourself Links: The Brazen Breakthrough Course Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-can-i-stop-being-lazy

Here's my step-by-step guide to asking someone to be exclusive. Because you deserve clarity and it's time to be courageous! Links from this ep: RSVP to my Live Coaching Party + Breakthrough Info Session Learn more about The Brazen Breakthrough