Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

This week’s show is a solo show- the third of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. We get into kindness and firmness and explore an experiential activity that invites listeners into their teen's shoes.See more shownotes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Cynthia Kane.  This week is all about communication! Cynthia shares all kinds of advice and help for intentional communication including: the four pillars of right speech and accessing the space (or the pause) to choose how to engage. We pull out some metaphors - why the teen years are a river & behavior as an iceberg. Cynthia and I talk on the importance of authenticity with your teen, what authenticity means, & how to get better at it. Cynthia ends by sharing two concrete strategies for sitting with sensation.  Takeaways from the show The four pillars of right speech  The pause/the space  The teen years as a river  Choosing & getting better at authenticity  Sitting with sensation For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the second of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment.Takeaways from the show Reviewing the “why” of this series Natural consequences Personal awareness Nurturing relationship Becoming your most conscious self Getting curious around what’s behind behavior Powerful opportunities to grow relationship  Having no agenda but curiosity Punishment is a short term tool For show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Dana Dorfman is here today, and we’re talking all about parental anxiety. We talk on how it’s ingrained in us that education, achievement, and productivity are so important, which makes us anxious parents. We talk about how adolescents are dealing with a lot of stuff we didn’t - active shooter drills, the pandemic, constant social media & news. The pressure on our teens is real and accelerated, but there’s also some hope & inspiration there. Dr. Dorfman shares about her 8 parent anxiety reaction types and how we can use that info to do better.  Takeaways from the show Dr. Dana Dorfman’s new book: When Worry Works  Parental anxiety Generational divides & what adolescents are dealing with today   Not letting our narrative get in the way of our teen’s path  Achievement pressure 8 parent anxiety reaction types  When & how our anxiety can be helpful  Defining your values For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Excited to be revisiting this limited series on alternatives to punishment! Part one explores allow for things to unfold for our teens, validating feelings and offering support if needed/asked for.See full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-1/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Cindy Muchnick.  Listen in this week as Cindy and I talk about “The Parent Compass” book & movement, a guide for parents on how to pull back & let go through the teen years. Moving from managing everything for your little kids to pulling back & giving your teens the reins can be really hard, but we have to do it. Cindy shares some tips for inviting feedback from your adolescent and why, sometimes, we do want our kids to struggle. I ask Cindy about how to talk to teens and stay solution-focused when they don’t seem to be a good fit or interested in a typical, four-year college path. We end by sharing thoughts on over-tutoring, letter grades, monitoring your teen’s grades, & picking colleges. Takeaways from the show “The Parent Compass” book & movement  Moving from manager to consultant during the teen years  Inviting feedback from your teen  Staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached”  Building resiliency by doing hard things  Gap years & options outside of four-year colleges  Conversations when your teen is struggling with academics  What does “do your best” really mean? Over-tutoring, letter grades, & choosing colleges  For full show notes, including transcriptions, visit our website here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's podcast is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty.Today the content comes straight from the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Facebook group. I talk a lot with my clients and here on the pod about "energetic responsibility" and a mama posted a question asking me to go deeper. The result is this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is someone who is a friend to the JC pod, DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson.This episode is all about mutual respect. Casey and DJ start by talking about how the idea of respect has changed from the 1950’s to today, and how kids & teens today are asking to & expecting to be respected. We teach respect by being respectful. They dig into whether or not kids need to earn their dignity, our respect, and our love (spoiler: they don’t). DJ points out that the way we treat our children at home is the basis for what they expect from other adults outside of the home, and Casey explains how kids being disrespected in their home can show up as defiance & disconnection. DJ shares stepping stones you can use when young people are disrespectful, a bit about how teenage brain development plays in, and how to be a leader from a place of service for your teen. Casey finishes up by touching on the power of “and” - teaching & expecting kids to respect themselves AND the person in front of them.Takeaways from the show: Showing up respectfully and modeling respect for our teens  The difference between respect and being nice  Cultivating and teaching respect by being respectful, not by demanding it  Kids deserve respect, dignity, & love - they don’t need to earn it  Disrespect in the home showing up as defiance and disconnect  Softening, respecting, and loving your kids regardless of how they’re showing up  Leading from a place of service  Teaching teens to respect themselves AND the person in front of them  For full show notes including transcriptions, visit our website here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's show is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty.It's you and me, babe! You. And. Me. Another solo show for diving into work of parenting teens and rolling around in it together. Today I am talking about how encouragement can be a tool for relationship, skill building and showing up as our best. I share language and thoughts about how to uplevel the encouragement in YOUR home so that your teens are more likely to step into cooperation and collaboration. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Rachel Macy Stafford.  Rachel joins Casey today to share about her new book, “Soul Shift,” and how to find joy and get back to yourself. Rachel shares the painful truth that started her journey. Casey and Rachel connect over the challenges that raising teens can bring, and how we can be present, relationship-focused, and connected with them during the tough times. Rachel shares a beautiful story about how being human and vulnerable with your teens allows them to be authentic with you, too. They touch on the messiness of teens and how we need to deeply know our children so we can best support them. Rachel shares some of her best practices to find self-worth & growth, like speaking to yourself compassionately and taking time for yourself.   Takeaways from the show Cultivating the practice of presence  Asking yourself and owning why you do what you do  Finding time to nurture yourself  Uncovering and responding to one’s deepest truths  Connecting with your teen through presence  Being real, authentic, & vulnerable with your teen  Presence as a door opener for your teen  Letting go of distractions and prioritizing connection  Finding your self-worth  Being in your experience vs. observing the experience  For more show notes including full transcripts, visit our website here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices