Helping Couples Heal Podcast

The Unchangeable Truth: We Can't Change OthersIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks about the pain and confusion that arises for couples when one partner is not doing the work to heal. She gently and compassionately addresses the hard truth that nobody can force another person to do recovery work, demonstrate empathy, tell the truth, change and/or heal. Using the metaphor of a bridge, we will explore the frustration and grief that accompanies the healing process, specifically when one partner isn't willing or able to cross the bridge together.  

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks to HCH coaches Susan and Scott Rankin, a husband and wife with their own story of relational betrayal and healing. Susan and Scott vulnerably share their journey of healing and rebuilding their relationship and open up about the painful impact the addiction had on their lives and their relationship and the path that led them back to themselves and each other. Listeners will hear about the pivotal moments in their recovery journey, including the decision to seek therapy, the role of honesty and vulnerability, and the long, challenging process of rebuilding trust. Susan and Scott share the tools and resources that helped them, the support systems they leaned on, and the personal growth they each experienced.This episode offers a powerful message of hope for anyone facing similar challenges, highlighting the possibility of healing and resilience even after the deepest wounds. Whether you're dealing with betrayal in your own life or simply seeking to understand the complexities of addiction and recovery in relationships, this conversation provides valuable insights and inspiration.

In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode, Marnie sits down with "Jess", who bravely shares her experience with pornography addiction. Jess discusses the roots of her addiction, the emotional and psychological impact it had on her life, and the challenges she faced in seeking help.She opens up about the stigma surrounding female pornography addiction and the misconceptions that often prevent women from seeking the support they need.Through her story, Jess sheds light on the recovery process, the strategies that helped her heal from pornography and sex addiction and the importance of self-compassion and community support.This episode aims to break the silence on a taboo topic, offering hope and encouragement to others who may be struggling with similar issues. Join us for a candid and inspiring conversation that demonstrates the power of vulnerability and the possibility of healing.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with her friend, colleague and author of the Complex Partner Trauma magazine, Hope Ray, about integrity abuse and betrayal violence. With compassion, Marnie and Hope have a brutally honest conversation about the power and control dynamics present in relationships where betrayal has occurred.  Recognizing and acknowledging abusive behaviors, especially those tied to deceptive sexuality, is a challenging but crucial step toward healing. It requires a deep level of self-awareness and honesty, as well as a willingness to confront difficult truths about one's actions and their impact on others. This process can be painful but is essential for personal growth and the restoration of trust and relationships.

In this episode of the helping couples heal podcast, Marnie speaks with Ilyse craft, Joni ogle and Stephanie roman about the complexity of finances and more specifically, in the aftermath of betrayal.Navigating financial fears can be daunting, especially after betrayal. It's common to feel avoidant, but it's crucial to face these issues head-on to make informed decisions and move forward. There are options and plenty of support available to help you through this.Our own issues and fears about money can often be what keep us feeling stuck.Developing financial confidence is key to effectively handling financial matters.Resources for the podcast notes and/or to referenceTOP PODCASTS Money Girl with Laura AdamsClick here for Money Girl podcastHerMoney with Jean ChatzkyClick here for HerMoney podcastHer Honest Money TalkClick here for Her Honest Money Talk podcastWomen & Money with Suze OrmanClick here for Women & Money podcastThe Ramsey Showodcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ramsey-show/id77001367BOOK RESOURCESSmart Women Finish Rich - David BachRich Dad, Poor Dad Robert T. KiyosakiThe Richest Man in Babylon - George S. Clason.I Will Teach You to Be Rich: No Guilt. No Excuses. No BS. Just a 6-Week Program That Works -Ramit SethiWomen with Money” The Judgment -Free Guide to Transforming your Relationship with Monday and Achieving Financial Independence - Vivi Robin and Joe DominguezJoni Ogle - Heights Treatment, Houston Texas

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with HCH President and betrayal trauma coach Ilyse Craft about the complexities partners face after experiencing betrayal, specifically the decision of whether to stay or leave their relationship.Finding clarity about the future of a relationship traumatized by betrayal involves navigating a spectrum of emotions, from hurt and anger to confusion and doubt. Factors such as the history of the relationship, finances, the extent of the betrayal and the presence of children further complicate this decision-making process. Each individual must weigh their emotional well-being against practical considerations, often seeking clarity over time as they contemplate the impact on their future and that of their family. This episode explores these multifaceted dynamics, shedding light on the complexities that partners face when grappling with the aftermath of betrayal.

The podcast explores how shame impacts men in relationships post-betrayal, discussing healthy vs. toxic shame, the role of shame in relational repair, and the importance of men embracing vulnerability. Strategies for building shame resilience and fostering deep connections are highlighted, emphasizing the journey towards authentic self-acceptance and meaningful relationships.

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast we are sharing Marnie's segment with Dr. Jake Porter at the Choose Connection Summit, discussing the loss of memories resulting from betrayal and integrity abuse. If you're facing the trauma and impact of betrayal, you will likely relate to what you'll hear. Take a listen to how the grief and loss is described by both the betrayed and the betrayer and the difference between their experience.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Ilyse Craft, Certified Transformational Coach, about the "A" word that many betrayers seek to avoid.Marnie and Ilyse dive deep into integrity abuse through the lens of deceptive and compartmentalized sexuality. Using the metaphor of the "secret sexual basement", they turn the spotlight on the word that nobody wants to say (or hear) because developing a language based in truth and creating a shared narrative is necessary for couples to heal. Accepting and naming the integrity abuse inherent in sexual betrayal is profoundly helpful for both betrayers and betrayed partners. 

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Stan about the original episode they recorded back in 2021 and explore why that episode was so popular with our listeners. Their conversation is followed by the re-release of the original episode.