One of the finest qualities you can have is the desire to grow and learn. You know yourself well enough to understand that you can always improve, so that is part of the mindset you bring to your relationships.  But when you are engaging with narcissists, it eventually becomes apparent that they don't share the same eagerness to grow and learn. Instead, they think competitively, meaning they are constantly vying for the upper hand. And what is worse, when you eventually pull away, your adjustments will come with a high price. Dr. Les Carter addresses this matter with compassion, as he reminds you of what you can and cannot change. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/

If you're trying to manage life honestly, your entanglements with a narcissist can prove to be especially difficult.  One of the defining features of narcissism is phoniness...the commitment to living behind the shield of a False Self.  In this episode, Dr. Les Carter offers multiple ways of identifying how narcissists illustrate their phoniness, then he goes behind the scenes to describe how and why this develops.  Once you are able to spot what is happening, you can develop the objectivity necessary for a much better way of managing your relationships. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/

In an effort to convey how narcissists think in real time, Dr. Les Carter draws upon testimonials from members of Team Healthy who have received haughty comments from narcissists.  Not only do these comments reveal egotism, but they also illustrate how illogical (to the point of ignorant) narcissists can be.  As you are able to see through their entitled attitudes, you will be poised to make the necessary adjustments so you will no longer be ensnared by their efforts to find control over you. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/

It should come as a shock to no one that narcissists have a pervasive need to control people and circumstances, and in this episode Dr. Les Carter describes how it plays out.  But as you pull back and reflect upon the effectiveness of a controlling approach to relationships, you can quickly conclude...it doesn't work.  Control is an illusion.  Even as narcissists seem to score "victories" in their efforts to control, over time, their influence wanes greatly.  Simply put, most people who are on the receiving end of a narcissist's controlling agenda eventually seek the exit.  So what if you decided not to participate in the narcissist's control illusion?  What would that look like?  Join us as we zero in on practical ways to unhook from a narcissist's ill-advised strategy of control.  There is a much better path that you can take. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/

Narcissism is defined by the need for control, a lack of empathy, an attitude of entitlement, self-absorption, and more.  Overt narcissists leave little to the imagination, and you can spot them rather quickly.  Covert narcissists have the same defining features, but they are much more deliberate in hiding their inclinations.  Over time, however, their real colors will eventually surface, and it can be a great disappointment to you.  Yet, as you learn to spot the indicators, you can become positioned to protect yourself with necessary boundaries. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/

Narcissism is definitely a hot topic in the world of psychotherapy, and as such, the word "narcissist" is prone to being misused or misunderstood. Dr. Les Carter gives you a solid working definition of narcissism so you can know what you're dealing with as you encounter individuals on the spectrum. The more clearly you understand this pattern of life, the more successfully you can plan to overcome the difficulties it presents. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Talk charge of your mental health and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at:https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter's NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://survivingnarcissism.tv/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Surviving Narcissism YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/SurvivingNarcissism Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/