Saved by the City

We're not looking for a rebound.We've talked a lot — both on and off the podcast — about purity culture. We've critiqued the way it treated our bodies, our sexuality and even our futures. It's taken work (and some therapy!) to untangle many of the deeply toxic lessons of purity culture from our views on sex. But here's the thing: after purity culture, we're not totally sure where to turn for a better alternative. Mainstream sexual ethics are confusing, without a script and quickly changing. On this episode, Katelyn and Roxy are joined once again by author Christine Emba. Christine came on during season one as we took a hard look at purity culture. Since then, she's thought a lot about sex! (Because she wrote a book on it.) And how modern ideas of liberated sex can be just as damaging as restrictive purity codes.GUEST: Christine Emba is an opinion columnist and editor for The Washington Post. She is the author of the new book Rethinking Sex: A Provocation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Et tu, CT?Nary a week seems to go by these days without revelations of leaders behaving badly in Christian organizations. Last week, the headlines hit close to home when a new report came out from the the flagship evangelical magazine — and our former workplace — detailing a history of sexual harassment going unchecked within Christianity Today's leadership. The report was heartbreaking to read — and yet not entirely surprising for either of us. In this episode, we react to the report and reflect on our experiences at CT, as well as at other male-dominated Christian organizations. We also explore some tough questions — about the ways in which theology can undergird a sexist workplace culture, how internalized misogyny can keep women silent and what we might do differently if we worked there now.Read the whole report from Christianity Today here.A post-production clarification: While the CT report indicated that HR didn't add formal disciplinary updates to former employees' files, HR leaders did take notes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I can't go in. Nobody is wearing a mask.Look, pandemic polarization was a real thing. We all saw it: school board blow ups, fist fights on air planes, anti-vax protests at state capitols. But for most of us, the fallout was more personal, closer to home. We felt conflicted over whether to attend a friend's wedding. Our parents cancelled Christmas — or didn't. An aunt is no longer on speaking terms with a cousin over vaccine differences.But do you ever worry ... maybe all those judgment calls you had to make made you judgmental?Katelyn and Roxy are back for season three and they are joined by the fabulous podcasting duo Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers from Pantsuit Politics to discuss, well, the politics of the pandemic. But, more really, whether there's a path forward together. Can we heal the deep divides between us? And what will that take from me?GUESTS: Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers are the hosts of Pantsuit Politics podcast, named by Apple Podcasts as one of the Best Shows of 2021. They are also the authors of "I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversation" and the forthcoming "Now What?: How to Move Forward When We're Divided (about Basically Everything)." Learn more about streaming the podcast as well as their books and live events.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Philip Yancey was deconstructing before deconstructing was cool.Much ado has been made in recent weeks about deconstruction — particularly from pastors and leaders who decry it as "trendy" or a slippery slope to sin. On this episode, Katelyn and Roxy discuss their own experiences questioning the Christian faith, the evangelical church and the teachings handed down to them from both pulpit and pen. They are joined by author Philip Yancey, something of an evangelical darling himself, whose books have long been a guide for the doubting Christian.Plus: some thoughts from the Twitter hive mind on what pastors should know about why people deconstruct.GUEST: Philip Yancey is the author of 25 books, including "The Jesus I Never Knew," "What’s So Amazing About Grace?" and his most recent book and first memoir: "Where the Light Fell." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's an age-old question for transplants the world over — at what point does your chosen city become home?It's that time of year — when the holly is hung and the carols are sung and the wayward wanderers return from places far flung. There's nothing like going home for the holidays to make a person wonder where they really belong. In this week's episode, Katelyn and Roxy discuss how New York City has come to feel like home ... but so too does Ohio and Colorado. How do we create a new home as adults while holding onto the traditions and values of the places and people that formed us?The hosts are joined by Elizabeth Passarella, a southern evangelical transplant who moved to NYC more than 20 years ago. She's embraced the big city grit — without losing that southern charm.GUEST: Elizabeth Passsarella is a contributing editor for Southern Living, where she writes the "Social Graces" column, and a former editor at Real Simple and Vogue. She is the author of Good Apple: Tales of a Southern Evangelical in New York. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mary did you know we'd soften all your hard edges? Temper your anger? Moderate your radicalism?To be a woman has always meant being caught between expectation and reality — between all that society says you should be and all that you believe you are not. In this episode, Katelyn and Roxy ask themselves what they like about being women — and how embracing those qualities can be revolutionary. They are joined by author Kaya Oakes to talk about how women — past and present — are so often being shaped into the image men want. Including the Virgin Mary, the Mother of God. GUEST: Kaya Oakes is an award-winning journalist and the author of several books, including her newest: The Defiant Middle: How Women Claim Life's In-Betweens to Remake the World. She teaches writing at UC Berkeley and speaks regularly on topics related to religion, writing and feminism. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seven is a holy number, after all. Growing up evangelical in the 1990s meant purity rings and teen study Bibles and focusing on the family. But it also meant participating in activities and events that were part of larger cultural forces we were very unaware of at the time. Katelyn and Roxy reflect back on the seminal moments of their own evangelical journeys in the late 20th and early 21st century — and examine how those events not only shaped them, but evangelicalism writ large.GUESTS:A whole lotta nostalgia.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's rewind.Thanksgiving may still be a favorite holiday, but its origin myths have long since been revealed to be just that: myths. But those myths are more than just cute children's stories, they are dangerous erasures of people groups, cultures and the violent atrocities committed against them. On this episode, Katelyn and Roxy reflect on what they did — and did not — learn about the Indigenous people groups who have populated the places they've called home. Terry Wildman joins the episode to share his process for creating an Indigenous translation of the New Testament — following a storytelling tradition of oral cultures — and why that work is valuable for all Bible readers. Plus, a field trip! Katelyn and Roxy head to the National Museum of the American Indian to learn more about the stories and history of the Native groups who lived on the lands of New York long before it became New York. GUEST: Terry Wildman, born and raised in Michigan, is of Ojibwe and Yaqui ancestry. He is the lead translator and project manager for the First Nations Version New Testament (IVP, 2021), and is an author, recording artist, songwriter, storyteller, and public speaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Every day someone asks me for money. And I never know what to do."Living in a big city offers daily encounters with those who are experiencing homelessness. Seeing neighbors who are sleeping on the streets, pleading for something to eat and taking refuge on subway trains is an ever-present heartbreak — and one that can lead to despair as the situation feels so beyond our ability to help. Homelessness is on the rise around the country, and in this episode, Katelyn and Roxy ask: What can we actually do to help? How should we respond when someone asks for money? What are the implicit biases and misunderstandings we have toward those living on the streets? And, yeah, what would Jesus do?Katelyn and Roxy are joined by homeless advocate Kevin Nye to discuss the systemic issues that contribute to homelessness and keep people on the streets. We also hear from Shams DaBaron, "da homeless hero," who experienced homelessness in New York City and has become an unexpected activist in the space.GUESTS: Kevin Nye is an advocate for the homeless in Los Angeles. His book "Grace Can Lead Us Home: A Christian Call to End Homelessness” is forthcoming in fall 2022. Read his work and learn about his trainings at kevinmnye.com. Shams DaBaron, "da homeless hero," is a hip-hop artist, filmmaker and activist. Read more about his story and his advocacy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's an art to being alone in a crowd — that doesn't mean it's always pretty.New York City may be jam packed with people, but it's also been referred to as "The Lonely City." In this episode, Katelyn and Roxy talk about living alone — the good, the bad and the ugly cries. But loneliness isn't just for the single folks out there — survey after survey has observed an uptick in people describing themselves as lonely. Ekemini Uwan joins to discuss the difference between solitude and loneliness — how we can lean into being alone and also seek meaningful connection.And a fan favorite returns to the show to PREACH!GUESTS: Ekemini Uwan is a public theologian and co-host of the award-winning podcast, Truth's Table. Her writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Huffington Post Black Voices, Christianity Today, and The Witness: A Black Christian Collective. She is a contributor to the forthcoming Truth's Table book.  The Rev. Ben DeHart, vicar of The Parish of Calvary-St.George’s and co-host of the podcast “Our Triune Pod." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices