It Starts With Attraction

The podcast explores misconceptions about marriage counseling and offers advice to save a marriage by calming down, gaining clarity, and pulling the spouse closer. It discusses the importance of understanding the root causes of a broken marriage, commitment, and mindset in saving a marriage, and the power of personal growth in healing relationships.

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Feeling drained? Let's break down the surprising factors behind chronic fatigue and share rejuvenating strategies to get your energy back on track. Picture this: You're in the best shape of your life, at the peak of your health and fitness, but suddenly, you're feeling perpetually exhausted. Sounds absurd, right? But that’s precisely the perplexing predicament I found myself in due to my obsessive workout routine, dietary habits, and the relentless pressures of daily living. This episode unfolds my personal journey of grappling with fatigue and the road to recovery. I share intimate details of how my own lifestyle led to chronic exhaustion and how I gradually overcame it.Imagine your body releasing a hormone, cortisol, each time you experience stress, getting you ready for a fight or flight response. Did you know that these stressors can be anything from being chased by a bear to stress about your next promotion? I found myself in a similar situation where my body was constantly in a state of stress, leading to several imbalances. So, I learned about chronic stress, its physical and psychological implications, and the critical role our adrenal glands play. We delve into the world of adrenal glands and hormones and how they control our stress response. I also share how lifestyle changes can help you manage these stressors better.And finally, we discuss how to tame the stress beast and make health our priority. From sharing useful tips to manage food cravings to the importance of proper rest, I spill it all. We also focus on relaxation techniques like meditation, deep breathing, and journaling that have personally helped me. But wait, there's more! We talk about the power of positive self-talk, affirmations, and reflection to maintain a positive mindset amidst stress. So, join me on this personal journey, as we learn, grow, and navigate this labyrinth called life, one step at a time.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Do you know what the 3 fruits of a healthy relationship are? Have you ever heard that your relationships can only be as healthy as you are as an individual? Hear renowned psychologists and authors Drs Les and Leslie Parrott speak about what people hunger for when seeking healthy relationships and where to start to engage in a healthy, long-term relationship.  According to Dr. Parrott, “If you try to build intimacy with another person before you’ve done the difficult work of getting whole or healthy on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself and they will fall flat”.  Moreover, when you’re searching for a person to be in relationship with, “it’s not about finding the right person, it’s about becoming the right person”. Learn how to begin a new relationship with awareness of positive and negative self talk, as well as the 3 major areas of any relationship to consider on today’s episode! Today’s Guests - Drs. Les and Leslie ParrottLes and Leslie are a husband-and-wife team who not only share the same name, but the same passion for helping others build healthy relationships. Les is a professor of psychology at Northwest University and they are founders of the Center for Healthy Relationships on the campus of Olivet University. Their professional training – Leslie as a marriage and family therapist, and Les as a clinical psychologist – ensures a presentation that is grounded, insightful and cutting-edge. The Parrotts have been featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Their television appearances include CNN, The View, The O’Reilly Factor, The Today Show and Oprah.  As #1 New York Times best-selling authors, their books have sold over two million copies in more than two dozen languages.Please check out their latest work and take the free assessment for the health of your self-talk (and relationships) by visiting HealthyMeHealthyUs.com.Book: Healthy Me, Healthy UsYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!When was the last time you really paid attention to your body language? Chandra Jarrett, a seasoned executive coach, and former engineer, opens our eyes to the silent yet powerful messages we send through our gestures and postures. She challenges us to examine our daily interactions, urging us to set personal standards that reflect our values and positively influence our surroundings. This conversation is an invitation to embark on a journey of self-leadership, in a world desperate for genuine, value-based leadership.Life will often hit us with unexpected blows, and Chandra is no stranger to these. She unearths her personal journey of learning forgiveness, a road that has led her to find peace with her past and grow from these experiences. Chandra's account of caring for her mother and dealing with hurtful workplace comments, coupled with her perspective on offering grace and not letting negativity define our relationships, is an inspiring narrative that prompts us to consider our own paths to forgiveness and growth.What could you accomplish if you harnessed your tendencies instead of fighting against them? Chandra, an introvert and perfectionist, shares her experience of turning these tendencies into strengths that shaped her reality positively. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing patterns, seeking insights from those around us, and the balance between humility and assertiveness. Listen as Chandra encourages us to take a closer look at ourselves, and turn the mirror inward for personal growth and self-reflection. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Chandra JarrettChandra Jarrett is an executive coach and consultant with a broad base of experience in leadership development, training and business development. Prior to becoming a coach, she worked as an engineer in the automotive manufacturing industry for fifteen years. She also has over 20 years experience working in the not-for-profit sector. With an engineering mind and as a champion of people, Chandra assists her clients in discovering their leadership voice while unlocking untapped potential to achieve their desired goals. She understands that each individual and organization is unique. Clients can expect a supportive, creative approach coupled with just enough challenge to experience strategic, collaborative learning and liberation as a leader.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. HerYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!What does it mean to balance identity and parenthood? As a parent, we often find ourselves struggling to keep our individuality while catering to the never-ending demands of our tiny humans. In this enlightening episode, my chat with Catherine O'Brien, founder of happywithbaby.com, and a licensed marriage and family therapist, leads us down a path where we examine this challenge and more.The journey of parenthood is a rollercoaster ride - it's exciting, it's exhausting, and it's definitely transformative. Catherine walks us through her own journey from a family of two to four, and how that affected their relationship. We discuss the importance of self-care, sleep deprivation, and dealing with the added stress that comes with parenthood. Catherine also lays bare the obstacles that often prevent modern parents from reaching out for help. We talk about the pressure of being present with our children all the time and how it can lead to feeling isolated. With Catherine's valuable insights, we explore how to articulate a call for help, deal with rejection, and most importantly, make time for self-care.In the absence of nearby family, building a supportive community becomes essential. Catherine shares practical advice on finding and accessing support systems, the benefits of joining support groups, and how our hobbies and interests can be a medium of connection. Wrapping up our discussion, we delve into how we can change our perception of ourselves as parents. It’s okay to ask for help. It's okay to not be perfect. Remember, taking care of yourself is the first step towards being the best parent you can be. Join us for a refreshing perspective on parenthood and self-care! Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Catherine O'BrienCatherine O'Brien, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder of HappyWithBaby.com.Catherine's mission is to provide new parents with valuable advice and support, drawing from her own experiences as a parent. She understands the challenges that come with parenting, and her insights have been a source of guidance for many. Catherine lives in Sacramento, California, and enjoys paddle boarding and rowing with her husband and two children.Links:www.happywithbaby.comwww.facebook.com/happywithbabywww.instagram.com/happywithbabywww.twitter.com/happywithbabyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/catherineobrien/Your Host: Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Ever wondered about the science behind addiction and how our brains are wired to seek pleasure? We promise you're in for an enlightening journey as we navigate the complexities of dopamine and its role in addictive behaviors. Joining us is none other than Dr. Anna Lembke, a distinguished psychiatrist, Stanford professor, and author of the bestselling book 'Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence.' Together with Dr. Lembke, we unravel the modern epidemic of excess dopamine-driven behaviors, scrutinizing everything from substance addictions to the impact of digital media on our mental health. We then shift our lens towards the often misunderstood realm of sex addiction, which according to Dr. Lembke, is less about sex and more about maladaptive coping strategies. The power of dopamine fasting, the benefits of mindfulness meditation, and the significant steps towards recovery are all explored in-depth.Lastly, we consider the importance of nurturing healthy coping mechanisms in children, given the extraordinary plasticity of their brains. We emphasize the need to detox from dopamine-inducing activities and discuss the power of dopamine cravings, the role of religious and spiritual practices in detox, and strategies for overcoming harmful habits. This episode is a must-listen for those seeking to understand addiction better, find balance in the age of indulgence, and harness the power of dopamine to their advantage. Tune in if you're ready to embark on this eye-opening journey. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Anna LembkeDr. Anna Lembke, is a distinguished psychiatrist and professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine.Dr. Lembke is the Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic and an esteemed clinician scholar with a wealth of experience in addiction-focused research and practice. She has been a trailblazer in the field, having published numerous papers and commentaries on addiction and mental health.Today, we'll be delving into her latest book, "Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence," which sheds light on the modern-day epidemic of excessive dopamine-driven behaviors and offers insights on how to find balance and well-being in the midst of indulgence.Links:WebsiteBook purchase Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are you ready to shed old habits and transform into a more attractive version of yourself? Join me as we embark on a journey of personal growth, focusing on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects. We'll talk about the power of intentional planning and how it can lead us to the finish line of our goals. Forget wishful thinking, it's time to roll up your sleeves and dive into the trenches of transformation. Over the next 12 weeks, let's break down monumental ambitions into manageable daily actions and weekly habits. We'll tackle the importance of realistic goal-setting, especially in physical terms - because self-care isn't just a trend, it's a necessity. Discover the impact of keystone habits like sleep, nutrition and movement can have on your day-to-day decision making. We’ll also share insights on how to align your plans with your personality and the value of regular progress checks. So gear up and get ready to revolutionize your life.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are you ready to unlock your brain's full potential? Join us as we explore the fascinating intersection of learning and cognitive psychology with Dr. Dan Willingham, a distinguished professor at the University of Virginia and author of 'Outsmart Your Brain.' Our conversation isn't only for academics - it's for anyone with a thirst for knowledge and an eagerness to become the best version of themselves.We discuss how to navigate the significance of mentors, learning technologies, and high-quality feedback in shaping our learning experiences. With Dr. Willingham's guidance, we explore how to modify our daily routines to maximize learning potential, and the importance of staying motivated and focused. But it's not all work, we also touch on the psychological impacts of procrastination, planning, and distractions, offering practical advice on managing anxiety triggers and breaking the procrastination cycle.As we wrap up, our focus shifts to personal development and growth. Dr. Willingham emphasizes the necessity of intentional growth, learning, and obtaining constructive feedback. For those eager to become their best selves, we offer a deep dive into the detrimental effects of multitasking on learning and memory. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that promises to revolutionize your learning habits and strategies. Don't miss this unique opportunity to rewire your brain for success. Let's dive in!http://www.danielwillingham.com/Dr. Willingham's Book Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are your connections feeling shallow or uninspiring? On today's episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins talks about the power of emotional attunement and how it can transform your relationships. Dr. Higgins, renowned for her work in the field, shares the secrets of truly understanding and communicating our real feelings, taking us beyond just surface-level complaints. Embrace the opportunity to delve into her fascinating journey and valuable findings from her PhD research on couples' therapy.Step inside the world of attachment theory and secure functioning in relationships. Together, we decode the complexities of these constructs, concentrating on the two main insecure attachment patterns - anxious and avoidant. Through the lens of Susan Johnson's research, we illuminate how deep-seated attachment needs, longings, and fears often trigger conflicts in relationships. You'll learn the art of setting boundaries that protect, rather than jeopardize, the security of attachment, backed by the power of empathy, understanding, and collaboration.Finally, we offer a wellspring of guidance on enhancing emotional responsiveness and communication in relationships. You'll gain insights on how to navigate around the blocks to secure attachment, and how to respond to your partner in times of conflict. With advice on everything from delivering an authentic apology to cultivating empathy, we provide tools for you to navigate the intricate dynamics of adult relationships. Be ready to awaken a new understanding of your relationships, and journey towards deeper, more fulfilling connections. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Jessica HigginsDr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results. As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection.Website: http://drjessicahiggins.com/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.WebsiteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Ever felt stuck in a toxic cycle of pursuit and withdrawal with your partner, leaving you feeling unheard, unwanted, or disconnected? This stirring conversation with esteemed sex therapist and licensed marriage & family therapist, Dr Laurie Watson will offer a refreshing perspective and actionable advice to help you navigate these rough patches. We unpack this complex dynamic that many relationships fall prey to, and discuss how it impacts both emotional and sexual connection. We uncover how this pattern, often present in both romantic and sexual relationships, can lead to feelings of embarrassment, vulnerability, and shame. Our exploration into this cycle illuminates how it can affect women desiring more emotional connection while their partner tends to withdraw, leading to a disconnect that often seeps into their sexual relationship. We also shed light on the triggers that initiate this cycle and the profound impact it has on couples, making it difficult to identify and break.However, it’s not all doom and gloom. Dr Laurie shares strategies to improve communication and connection, offering a beacon of hope. We look at how understanding our own survival mechanisms can affect our partners and potentially perpetuate the cycle. We also explore how to manage fears of sexual dysfunction and ways to foster flexibility in a sexual relationship. Finally, we emphasize the shared responsibility of both the pursuer and the withdrawer in breaking this cycle and fostering a healthier relationship. Trust us, you won't want to miss this enlightening conversation with Dr Laurie Watson. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Laurie WatsonLaurie Watson, Phd, MA, LMFT, LCMHC, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor in Training, Co-Host of FOREPLAY Radio Couples & Sex Therapy Podcast, LMFT, Author, Director of Awakenings Counseling, Training in EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy (Externship and Core Skills; Completing Supervision).She’s the co-host together with global leader in couple's therapy, George Faller, LMFT, of the popular podcast – FOREPLAY RADIO – Couples and Sex Therapy which is ranked in the top 10 sexuality podcasts in Sexuality. Laurie says, "Sex is one of the greatest adventures in a relationship. It makes us feel alive. It connects our minds, bodies and hearts. In fact, sexual and emotional intimacy are intertwined; we need both to be happy. With too little eroticism - our relationship is dull and with too little emotional connection - sex is mechanical. Most of us don’t know how to find this balance. And talking about our sexual needs is so risky. We might cause a conflict; we might be judged; we might not even know what oYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ