It Starts With Attraction

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are you the type of person that wants to hide in a corner instead of facing conflict? Or, are you the person that is ready to face conflict head-on? In this episode, you'll learn how to resolve conflict without getting defensive, yelling, or criticizing the other person. Conflict and disagreements are actually healthy if handled properly. When people have a conflict or disagree about something, and they can talk about it and resolve it without attacking, that means that they are secure enough in the relationship to voice their opinions. Tune in to gain insight on how to have healthy disagreements, address conflict by listening, and by getting to the core issue. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnHow to handle conflict in a respectable and healthy wayThe best way to respond to criticismHow to provide feedback without attacking Ep 056: AMA: Having Healthy Conflict & Handling Criticism, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are you wondering how to know if you are healthy?Over the next few weeks, I'll be answering questions from the podcast listeners and subscribers in my Ask Me Anything series.  This week's question comes from Josh.  Josh asks: "How do I know that I am a healthy single dad raising two daughters successfully?"In this episode, Kimberly shares the areas of your life to focus on so you are striving to be the healthiest you can be. She talks about the importance of sleep and why you need more than you think you do. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comAsk Me Anything!  Submit Your Question HereYou’ll LearnHow sleep affects your physical and mental well-beingThe importance of eating whole foodsThe importance of moving your bodyHow to work on all your PIES to become the healthiest you can beEp 055: AMA: How Do I Know if I am Healthy, with Kimberly Beam HolmesYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Wondering how to stay attracted to your significant other? Over the next few weeks, I'll be answering questions from the podcast listeners and subscribers in my Ask Me Anything series.  This week's question comes from Sheila.  Sheila asks: “How can I maintain or sustain the attraction that I have to my partner?"In this episode, Kimberly unpacks how attraction really works and how attraction changes over time. Tune into this episode to hear how to keep that attraction alive and what you can do to stay attractive and stay attracted to your spouse. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comSubmit Your Question HereEpisode 50: Encouraging Others to Work on Their PIESYou’ll LearnHow to encourage your spouse to work on their PIESThe difference between gain versus gap The importance of communicationHow to not compare your relationship as it started to nowEp 054: AMA: Staying Attracted to Significant Other, with Kimberly Beam HolmesYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!In the next few episodes, we will be switching things up! Starting today, I will be answering your questions about attraction. In this episode, I share my answers to Phil's question about physical attraction:"I've always been very active, and my wife and I used to run together and work out together quite a bit. I'm currently in a season of life where I feel I honestly have zero time I can spend working out without either completely neglecting my family or never getting enough sleep. There are so many get fit quick schemes out there that I don't know what to believe. What would be the least number of days I can work out that would still provide physical benefit. And what would you recommend as a good full body but short on time required workout?"If you also feel like time has slipped away and you don't have time to work on physical attraction, tune into this episode to hear key tips to working out when you're short on time. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comSubmit Your Question HereYou’ll LearnHow stress impacts working outTips to find the time to accomplish your goalsThe importance of sleepHow to choose the right workout for youHow to increase your joyEp 053: AMA: Working Out When Short on Time, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Have you ever struggled with not feeling good enough?Most times when we're doing something of importance - pursuing a dream, starting a new job, becoming a parent - we feel so unqualified at the outset. Rather than trying to fight off the feeling, Ella Lucas-Averett shares how to embrace that feeling and use it to accomplish the most daunting of tasks.If you're feeling fearful about starting something, this episode is for you. Learn how to lean into those feelings of not being good enough and the key to overcoming it. Today’s Speaker - Ella Lucas-AverettElla is a professional speaker and host of the On Air with Ella podcast. She is Managing Partner of a strategic consulting firm she co-founded in 2003, entrepreneur, part-time triathlete, and a caffeine enthusiast.Her true passion, though, lies in helping people build their best lives as they define it. Ella wants to live better every day, and to help others do the same through her global platform.Ella creates podcasts and events for people who want more out of life - now. There's no magic pill, no specific morning routine or diet that's going to help manifest the confidence, motivation, personal development, mindset, lifestyle or relationships that we want. It's 100% up to us. But, can't we do it together and have some fun along the way? Ella says YES, THANK YOU, MORE PLEASE, and invites you to join her on the journey. See what happens "behind the scenes" by following Ella on Instagram.Website: onairella.comYou’ll LearnThe reason we feel less than enoughHow to overcome fearfulnessThe importance of accountabilityIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 052: Unqualified: What to Do When You Don't Feel Good Enough with Ella Lucas-AverettYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!When times get difficult, have you found it challenging to have courage?In this episode, Margie Warrell shares what to do when things are difficult and you're scared. Tune in to hear practical things to do to move forward and have courage in your lives even when life is feeling uncertain.Learn how to start changing your mental state to increase your courage to  live a courageous life. Gain insight on how to tell yourself you ARE capable of achieving the things you wish for yourself. Don't let another day pass by being scared of pursuing your dreams. Start today.Today’s Speaker - Margie WarrellMargie Warrel is an author – keynote speaker – media commentator – certified coach – podcast host – Forbes columnist – board member – women’s advocate – leadership facilitator – adventure traveller – amateur barista – ball juggling/dropping mother of four… you get the drift.Twenty-five years of living around the world coupled with her passion for personal development has taught her a thing or two about rising above the fears that dim our lights and hold our potential dormant. Of all the lessons she's learned since leaving her parent’s small farm in rural Australia, the most important are that courage is required for every worthwhile endeavor and that the human spirit is greater than any challenge we face. Individually and collectively.In today’s culture of fear, living bravely is indispensable for living well.Website: https://margiewarrell.comYou’ll LearnMargie's definition of courageHow to build courage to have hard conversations Tips to change your mindset to be courageous instead of fearfulKey practices to build courage in your daily lifeIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 051: Finding Courage in Your Situation  with Margie WarrellYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Have you ever tried to encourage those in your life to work on becoming the best they can be only to come across like you don't accept them for exactly who they are right now? In this episode, I share how to motivate those you love without seeming pushy or forceful. I'll share what I have found most helpful in getting the people in your life to work on themselves. Learn how to ultimately get to a place where you and those around you are becoming the most attractive and best that you can be. Learn how to connect with those around you through working on PIES.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnIdeas for creating positive connections with those around youHow to encourage others to become the best version of themselves The best approach to take when motivating othersEp 050: Encouraging Others to Work on Their PIES, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Has something ever caused you to feel triggered into a fearful or angry state? Do you feel like you have a hard time understanding what emotions you feel or how to respond to them?In this episode, we are continuing our discussion of polyvagal theory - which is essentially the science of how people connect and respond to danger. Polyvagal theory affects us every moment of every day. It helps us understand why we feel the way we feel and react the way we react.If you are wanting to have a better understanding of how to self regulate and co-regulate with your family members, this episode is for you. Learn simple ways to reach a safe and social state for yourself and your loved ones. Today’s Speaker - Justin Sunseri, LMFTJustin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who teaches about trauma and mental health. From East Side San Jose to the Mission District of San Francisco.  In Stockton or even the more affluent Palo Alto. Trauma has been a constant underlying factor with nearly everyone he's worked with since 2008 - in the public schools, county outpatient clinics, group homes, foster care, juvenile halls and online private practice. It's become the core focus of his professional development, especially the Polyvagal Theory. His Stuck Not Broken podcast is just another way he educates and assists people in their journey of becoming unstuck, in a way that is easy to understand and utilize.Website: https://www.justinlmft.comYou’ll LearnSteps to take to return to a safe and social stateHow to show up for those that need usHow to inwardly assess your stateIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 049: Being in a Safe and Social State Part Two with Justin Sunseri, LMFTYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Has something ever caused you to feel triggered into a fearful or angry state? Do you feel like you have a hard time understanding what emotions you feel or how to respond to them?In this episode, we are taking a deep dive into polyvagal theory - which is essentially the science of how people connect and respond to danger. Polyvagal theory affects us every moment of every day. It helps us understand why we feel the way we feel and react the way we react.If you are wanting to have a better understanding of how to self regulate and co-regulate with your family members, this episode is for you. Learn simple ways to reach a safe and social state for yourself and your loved ones. Today’s Speaker - Justin Sunseri, LMFTJustin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who teaches about trauma and mental health. From East Side San Jose to the Mission District of San Francisco.  In Stockton or even the more affluent Palo Alto. Trauma has been a constant underlying factor with nearly everyone he's worked with since 2008 - in the public schools, county outpatient clinics, group homes, foster care, juvenile halls and online private practice. It's become the core focus of his professional development, especially the Polyvagal Theory. His Stuck Not Broken podcast is just another way he educates and assists people in their journey of becoming unstuck, in a way that is easy to understand and utilize.Website: https://www.justinlmft.comYou’ll LearnWhat polyvagal theory isHow to self regulateHow to get in a safe and social stateTips for co-regulating with your familyIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 048: Being in a Safe and Social State Part One with Justin Sunseri, LMFTYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!What is trauma? How can you overcome it?Trauma comes in many different forms such as relational, emotional, societal, environmental, and more. Whether you have experienced trauma or not, it is important for all of us to understand. In this episode, Dr. Karol Darsa shares how to interact and show empathy with those who are struggling with traumatic experiences.If you  are trying to overcome trauma in your life or if you would like to understand trauma more, this episode is for you. Dr. Karol Darsa explains what trauma is, how to identify it, and how to heal from it. You do not want to miss today's episode. Today’s Speaker - Dr. Karol DarsaDr. Darsa is a licensed psychologist, an author and founder of Reconnect. She has more than 20 years of clinical and administrative experience in trauma and mental health disorders. Dr. Darsa began her career in 1998 as a foster care social worker and continued her work with abused children and their families and adults abused as children.  In 2002, Dr. Darsa began studying with Christine Schenk, founder of the CHRIS-Technique, a unique energy work focused on teaching clients how to ground themselves in their bodies. Dr. Darsa has completed numerous evidence-based trainings in the treatment of trauma and mental health disorders, including Level III in Brainspotting, Level I and II trainings in EMDR, and Somatic Experiencing and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy. With each advanced training, Dr. Darsa developed a deeper understanding of trauma processes and healing, and developed Reconnect Integrative Trauma Treatment Model which is an integration of evidence-based, cutting-edge trauma treatment models.  In 2012 Dr. Darsa became the co-creator of Invisible War Recovery, a program designed to treat military sexual trauma survivors. She has been interviewed by Katie Couric, Susan Ortolano, and Lisa Tahir, and was featured on the Voice of America. She lectures about trauma treatment at various universities such as the University of Southern California, UCLA and Cal Lutheran. She also speaks at treatment centers and conferences.  Dr. Darsa realized that what is often missing in trauma treatment is a finely attuned, gentle, body based process to help heal and reconnect mind and body when clients become disregulated due to traumatic events, developmental trauma, or emotional disorders. Reconnect Center embodies that philosophy in offering intensive one on one work to help truly heal each individual that comes through her doors. A native of Turkey, Dr. Darsa has been living in the United States for 25 years. She has also lived in Spain, France and Brazil. Dr. Darsa’s exposure to numerous ethnic and social groups Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ