It Starts With Attraction

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Plenty of research talks about how a parent's interaction with their child will affect that child's future. It's called attachment theory, which boils down to the consistency and the quality of a parent's interaction with their child. The research shows there are four primary outcomes in attachment theory, but the only positive one is secure attachment. Secure attachment means that the child will believe that mom and dad will always be there when they need them.There are seven characteristics of strong families, the most important being quantity of time, not quality. The question is, what is most important to you? Financial stability is vital for any family, but is there a way to balance your work and family life? Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Yasmine Williams Woods became a mother at the age of 14. After being a single mother for years, it was a difficult adjustment to blend her life with another’s when she got married. Now a mother of four, she is on a mission to help women lead lives that prove that love conquers all. She talks about the importance of intentionally making time for God in her busy life. It’s not always feasible to start your day by spending time reading scripture but prioritize beginning your day with Him and worshiping when you can. How can we be doing more courageous acts of love for the people we have in our lives?How are you making it intentional to spend time with Jesus?What does it look like to live in total submission to God's way, His will, and His purpose for your life?Mentions:Yasmine's website: https://yasminewilliamswoods.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yasminewilliamswoodsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yasmine_williamswoods/Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yasmine_williamswoodsYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!How can you stay calm when everything around you honestly just sucks?Does it feel like all hell is breaking loose around you? In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares tips for how to stay calm during chaos.Until next week, stay strong.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Sex is one of the ways we stay attracted to each other in a marriage. Dr. Corey Allan found in a study that the higher your level of religious dogma, the less sexually satisfied you are because of the shame and guilt associated with it. This early discovery led him to be a voice that helps couples discuss and frame conversations around sex and marriage. He believes if you can't talk about what you want to do or about sex with the person you wish to have it with, you're not ready to have it yet.Dr. Allan joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss how you can walk beside your child, helping them create their own informed decision about sex based on your family’s morality. They talk about the effects of porn on a relationship, the introduction of sex robots, and how social media and tech have led to a digitized life to protect oneself from rejection in this week’s episode of It Starts With Attraction.PIES Takeaways:Ask yourself "Would I want to have sex with me?"Great sex is about being your full self and staying yourself throughout.Communication is key!Mentions:Dr. Allan's site - https://smrnation.com/Naked Marriage book - https://amzn.to/3G9mpVmSubscribe to the Sexy Marriage Radio podcast: https://smrnation.com/subscribe/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Did you know that I was once ADDICTED to Crossfit?It's true. And I ran myself into the ground. I hurt myself physically, to the point that I still have lasting effects from that time in my life. There are great, impactful, and life-changing ways to work on your PIES but they also have to be mindful, careful, and life-giving ways. Today I'm offering some advice on some different ways you can work on your PIES without overdoing it or sacrificing the long-term goal of a lifetime of attractiveness for short-term gain.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!This week I was joined by Christa Hardin. Christa is the host of the Enneagram + Marriage podcast, and I am so happy to talk to her when I have the chance.Christa gives us a brief rundown of each of the enneagram types and then we got into a discussion about how interactions play out with different groupings. It's SO fascinating to think about all the ways we interact with each other in these archetypal ways.It's important to remember that, while they aren't the final word, we can use tools like the enneagram to have a better understanding of ourselves and our spouse.PIES Takeaways:It's important to understand ourselvesEvery pairing has its strengthsYou are who you are today because someone has lifted you up and formed youEnneagram institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/rheti?gclid=CjwKCAjw9-KTBhBcEiwAr19ig-K0GFTzPnET9G83GhFt28dy2Y7r3rySj8UnKTV7llOvOJZZ1CGnRhoCzBgQAvD_BwEHer website - https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/Truity Test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-testKatherine Fauvre Tests: https://www.katherinefauvre.com/Free Resources: https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/general-4Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Ben Higgins, of The Bachelorette and The Bachelor fame, joins us on our 100th episode of It Starts With Attraction! Ben discusses why he joined the reality TV shows and how he was looking to shake up what he felt was a boring and uninteresting life. He talks about his battles with addiction, feeling lonely and unseen, and how difficult it is to stand for your values when questioned about why you believe them. Finally, Ben reminds us that we've all experienced pain and have a story worth sharing.What can you do to surround yourself with a community of people who will support and encourage you to do what you should do with your life?In what ways do you work on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction?When you have a belief and value that is different from the world, society, and the people you're with, are you going to stand firm on it?Mentions:Generous CoffeeBen's InstagramAlone in Plain Sight BookHope Still Wins PodcastDr. John Gottman EpisodeYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Couples don't have great conversations about sex. We all know we want to do it but very few of us know how to talk about it. Adam and Karissa from the Young Married Couples podcast lets us know how to begin talking about it and some pitfalls we might see along the way.Website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.comSocial links:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYivgxbFI_VKkA4milNsr5A/featuredFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dearyoungmarriedcoupleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dearyoungmarriedcouple/?hl=enLink to Sexpectations card deck on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3MtcDiSFree PDF "10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life"www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/sexpectationsYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!This week Kimberly chats with Laura Heck from Marriage Therapy Radio. Laura is a Gottman Certified therapist in Washington State. Of course, they talk about communication but also self-care, the top issues Laura sees as a marriage and family therapist, how to work on yourself, conflict...all the things!Laura sees a lot of couples living as "roommates" and having a lack of intimacy, and how to add more to your marriage. Intimacy fades with time because it's the assumption that you know your spouse already.They also talk about the Gottman 5-1 ratio. For every 1 negative thing, there should be 5 positive things to counteract them. Having emotional intelligence and understanding when your spouse took what you may have said or done negatively, and correcting it, is vital to a healthy marriage.Everyone has blind spots and Laura suggests asking the people closest to you that aren't your spouse to help you find them. And because you want to be your best self, be ready for the hard truths and tell them "thank you." when you're done.PIES TakeawaysBe an interesting person/work on your PIES - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/3468169There is always hope, even in difficult situationsWatch your body language and tone with your spouse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/4938500Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!This week I sat down with my husband Rob to talk about spiritual attraction.We get into how we met, what attracted us to each other, and how to have discourse with friends and family that may not agree with you 100%. We believe people who model what they say and it's up to us to make sure that we're living in line with our beliefs and values.Don't weaponize your beliefs and valuesDon't judge othersLean into your curiosityAssess your own valuesFind people to hold you accountableYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ