

It Starts With Attraction
Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement & Relationships
Revealing secrets on how to become the most attractive you can be Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually (or as us insiders call it...the PIES). Hosted by Kimberly Beam Holmes and her husband, Rob Holmes, they dive into new and interesting topics released every Tuesday morning.
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Nov 1, 2022 • 43min
The Science Of Wisdom with Dr. Dilip Jeste
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!What are the 6 components of Wisdom? Why is wisdom important for relationships? We answer all these and more on today's episode of It Starts With Attraction!Today's Guest: Dilip Jeste, M.D.Dilip V. Jeste, M.D. is Former Senior Associate Dean for Healthy Aging and Senior Care and Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry and Neurosciences at University of California San Diego. He obtained his medical education in Pune, and psychiatry training in Mumbai, India. In the US, he completed psychiatry residency at Cornell, and Neurology residency at George Washington University. He was a research fellow, and later, Chief of the Units on Movement Disorders and Dementias at the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) before joining UC San Diego where he retired in July 2022.He started a Geriatric Psychiatry program from scratch at UC San Diego; it became one of the largest Geriatric Psychiatry Divisions in the world. Dr. Jeste has been Principal Investigator on a number of research and training grants. His main areas of research include schizophrenia, neuropsychiatric interventions, and successful aging. He has published 14 books, including his most recent book entitled “Wiser”, over 750+ articles in peer-reviewed journals, and 160+ invited book chapters. He was listed in “The Best Doctors in America” and in the Institute of Scientific Information list of the “world's most cited authors” comprising fewer than 0.5% percent of all publishing researchers of the previous two decades. Dr. Jeste has received many awards including NIMH’s MERIT Award; Commendation for Dedicated Service from the Veterans Affairs; and awards from Society of Biological Psychiatry; APA; Institute of Living; American College of International Physicians; National Alliance on Mental Illness; National Alliance for Research in Schizophrenia and Affective Disorders; American College of Psychiatrists; International Psychogeriatric Association; Universities of Pennsylvania, Pittsburgh, Cincinnati, and Maryland, and Cornell. He has also received Honorary Fellowship, the highest honor it bestows, from UK’s Royal College of Psychiatrists; and Honorary Professorship from Universidad Peruana Cayetano Heredia, Lima, Peru.Links Mentioned:Book: amazon.com/Wiser-Scientific-Roots-Wisdom-Compassion/dp/1683644638Website: dilipjestemd.comWebsite: aging.ucsd.eduTedMed: tedmed.com/speakers/show?id=526374YourYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Oct 25, 2022 • 34min
The Five Pillars Of Self-Care with Dr. Gregory Scott Brown
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Sleep, spirituality, nutrition, breath-work and movement; These are the five pillars of self-care, but which one is the most important? Find out on today's episode of It Starts With Attraction!Today's Guest: Dr. Gregory Scott BrownDr. Gregory Scott Brown, M.D., is a board-certified psychiatrist, mental health writer, and author. He is an affiliate faculty member at the University of Texas Dell Medical School. He believes we can work together to fight mental health stigma by having open and honest conversations about mental health. Dr. Brown is an advocate for evidence-based integrative care that includes incorporating exercise, mindfulness, meditation, and nutrition with standard of care treatments for mental illness.Dr. Brown is a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. He completed a fellowship in integrative medicine at the Academy of Integrative Health and Medicine, specialty training in general psychiatry at the University of Texas Dell Medical School, and received an M.D. from the McGovern Medical School in Houston. Dr. Brown is an alumnus of Rice University, where he received a bachelor's degree in anthropology, and Johns Hopkins University, where he completed a post-baccalaureate premedical program. Prior to his transition to medicine, Dr. Brown studied music at The Juilliard School in New York.During his time in residency, Dr. Brown was awarded a SAMHSA Minority Fellowship by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) and he was later appointment to and currently serves on the APA's Council on Communications .Dr. Brown believes in the therapeutic value of yoga, and he often writes and speaks about its benefits for mental health prevention and treatment. Dr. Brown resides in the Houston area with his wife and their rescue dog, Kai.Dr. Browns Website: gregoryscottbrown.comThe Self-Healing MindYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Oct 18, 2022 • 40min
How Sexual Mindfulness Can Increase Intimacy with Dr. Chelom Leavitt
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, we talk all about how important sexual mindfulness is, how to practice it, and how it can increase intimacy between you and your spouse.Today's Guest: Dr. Chelom LeavittDr. Chelom Eastwood Leavitt grew up in Yakima, Washington with seven sisters and one brother. She attended BYU as an undergraduate in Economics and then went to J. Reuben Clark Law School. One the first day of law school Chelom met David Leavitt and they married after their first year of law school. Chelom practiced family and estate law for years and then returned to get her Master’s degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. In 2010 Chelom was invited to be a Fulbright Fellow in Ukraine and teach in Schevshenko University in Kyiv. She also ran a research study in Ukraine on how religious and secular traditions were associated with couple and parent-child relationship well-being.Chelom Leavitt received her PhD from Penn State. She is an Assistant Professor at Brigham Young University. She studies healthy sexuality in committed relationships and focuses on how mindfulness during sex may be associated with positive outcomes for both men and women. Dr. Leavitt’s work on sexual mindfulness included an intervention to teach couples how to be mindful during sexual experiences. This research taps into how the sexual experience is full of meaning, emotions, as well as physical sensations.Additionally, Dr. Leavitt’s examines how women experience and contribute to sex differently than men–and that’s great for both women and men! Dr. Leavitt’s recent publications include cross-cultural work on sexual mindfulness, women’s sexual response cycles, and a study examining the role of orgasm in sexual and relational satisfaction for men and women.Chelom and David Leavitt have been married for 31 years and they have eight children ranging from 29 to 4 years old. Four of their eight children are married and these wonderful couples have brought Chelom and David four granddaughters.Link to Dr. Leavitt's website: chelomleavitt.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Oct 11, 2022 • 41min
Overcoming Anxiety And OCD with Jon Seidl
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!"You are not powerless against anxiety. And you are not alone."This is what we talk about in today's episode of It Starts With Attraction with our guest Jon Seidl. For the last decade, Jonathon M. Seidl (Jon) has been telling stories. In fact he’s written over 6,000 of them, first after helping start a top-50 news site, then as the editor-in-chief of the popular non-profit I Am Second, and most recently as the head of a special digital media product for actor Kirk Cameron. He now runs his own digital media consulting and content creation firm called The Veritas Creative. Jon has seen how the power of storytelling can transform people, businesses, and culture, especially after sharing his own story of battling anxiety and OCD. His passion is to help people with mental health struggles, while also sharing what he’s learned telling stories for — and working with — some of media’s biggest names and organizations, including Glenn Beck, Kirk Cameron, and Chip and Joanna Gaines.His book on anxiety, “Finding Rest,” released on September 28, 2021 and instantly became a #1 Amazon bestseller, toping the charts in several categories like anxieties and phobias, mood disorders, and obsessive compulsive disorder. In fact, it shot up to become the #17 new release on all of Amazon and became a top 100 bestseller on all of Amazon as well.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Oct 4, 2022 • 44min
Living In The Waiting: What To Do When It's Not Your Turn with Dr. Heather Thompson Day
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Being in a waiting season can be difficult. But what if it’s not your turn for breakthrough?On today’s episode of It Starts With Attraction, Dr. Heather Thompson Day answers that question and explains the importance of knowing that even if your breakthrough doesn’t come soon, YOU are enough.GET DR. HEATHER THOMPSON DAY'S NEW BOOK!I'll See You Tomorrow - AVAILABLE NOW! Today's Guest: Dr. Heather Thompson DayDr. Heather Thompson Day is an interdenominational speaker, an ECPA bestseller, and has been a contributor for Religion News Service, Christianity Today, Newsweek and the Barna Group. She is also the host of Viral Jesus, a new podcast with Christianity Today that already has over 100k downloads. Heather is an Associate Professor of Communication at Andrews University. She is passionate about supporting women, and runs an online community called I’m That Wife which has over 260k followers. Heather’s writing has been featured on outlets like the Today Show, and the National Communication Association. She has been interviewed by BBC Radio Live and has been featured in an article by Forbes.She resides in Michigan, with her husband, Seth Day, and their three children, London, Hudson, and Sawyer Day.Resources Mentioned In This Episode:The Work Is The Platform - Viral Jesus PodcastI'll See You TomorrowIt's Not Your Turn Connect with Dr. Heather Thompson Day on Instagram Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degreYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Sep 27, 2022 • 36min
Understanding The Importance Of Spiritual Attraction (PIES Webinar Series)
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Why is spiritual attraction so important? Because it is the CORE of who we are. In this week's episode, Kimberly answers YOUR questions about all things spiritual attraction, and why working on yourself is so important.PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and this week is the last week of the four week PIES webinar series.Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, we love hearing from you!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Click here to join The Foundations Course!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Sep 20, 2022 • 30min
Why Emotional Attraction Is SO Important (PIES Webinar Series)
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!In this week's episode, Kimberly answers YOUR questions about all things emotional attraction, and why working on yourself is so important.PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and this week is week two of the four week PIES webinar series.Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, we love hearing from you!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Click here to join The Foundations Course!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Sep 13, 2022 • 30min
Answering Your Questions About Intellectual Attraction And Setting Goals
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!In this week's episode, Kimberly answers YOUR questions about setting goals, building habits, and intellectual attraction. PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and this week is week two of the four week PIES webinar series.Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, we love hearing from you!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Click here to join The Foundations Course!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Sep 6, 2022 • 21min
Breaking Down Physical Attraction (PIES Webinar Series)
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Have you ever heard us use the term "PIES?" PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and in this week's episode, Kimberly goes in depth on what physical attraction is all about and even answers some of your questions!This episode is taken directly from a webinar series on the PIES, and for the next 4 weeks, Kimberly will be breaking down each area of attraction, as well as answering questions.Be sure to subscribe to the It Starts With Attraction podcast and leave a review!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Visit marriagehelper.com to learn more about The Foundations CourseYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Aug 30, 2022 • 51min
Why Dieting Almost Always Fails with Amanda Nighbert
Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Do your diets and lifestyle choices almost always fail? Between work, relationships, and parenting, it becomes more difficult to reach your healthy eating goals.In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Amanda Nighbert joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to share how to achieve long-term success and increase your physical attraction with the 80/20 approach.Learn how to ditch the "all or nothing" mindset, maintain consistency, and feel better overall.Join the LEAN Program and use code "PIES" at checkout for $10 off!Visit Amanda's website for all the resources mentioned in this episode!Today's Speaker: Amanda Nighbert, R.D.Amanda Nighbert is a registered dietitian specializing in weight loss nutrition. Her passion and purpose is to empower others to break the all or nothing mindset and find sustainable change for long term weight loss success. She presented this powerful message on the Ted X stage March of 2021. With 20 years of knowledge and experience under her belt, she provides upper level nutrition education and support to everyone she works with. With her custom LEAN Program, range of coaching services, and multiple shop offerings, she has cultivated a brand that focuses on giving participants the leading tools and resources to help reach the best versions of themselves. Amanda’s goal is to provide the most current, cutting edge nutritional techniques that not only provide results but are also sustainable for life. Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 117 - Why Dieting Almost Always Fails with Amanda NighbertYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ


