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Before you get too excited about kicking off a new year and a new decade, I’m going to invite you to release a few things from this year and this decade that are no longer serving you. While I don’t want to speak for you, I think many (maybe most) mamas could benefit from releasing these three things in particular: Procrastination & Perfectionism (they are sisters, btw) Other People’s Expectations The Lie: Everyone Else Has It All Figured Out If you want to make space for things that delight you and fill you up, you gotta release the things that are keeping you stuck and filling you with dread. If you want to make space for growth, you must see where your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors are keeping you small. So… let’s release all this ish together, shall we?!?Tune in to learn why these 3 releases are particularly important.Links mentioned:Shameless Mom Con Early Bird & Buddy Tickets: shamelessmomcon.com Thank you to our sponsors: Honey: Get Honey for FREE at JoinHoney.com/SHAMELESS. Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to www.thirdlove.com/shameless   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mridu Parikh is a Shameless Mom of two teen boys, a Productivity Speaker, Trainer, and Coach who helps high achieving women skyrocket their time and energy while squashing overwhelm. She excites, educates, and entertains audiences all over the country on simple strategies to stop feeling scattered, overcome procrastination, and exceed goals, professionally and personally.Her strategies on streamlining tasks and mastering habits have been featured in The Huffington Post, US News & World Report, Good Housekeeping and many other media outlets, in addition to her own ROKU channel with over 200 videos on organizing. A former serial procrastinator, Mridu is a best-selling author of "Accomplish It: 7 Simple Actions To Get The Right Things Done And Achieve Your Goals."Listen in to hear Mridu share: How her practice of saying NO has given her tremendous clarity The power and importance of saying NO to yourself especially when you’re in the habit of creating undue urgency 3 tips to “doing it all” as a busy mom with lots of balls in the air Her BPS method to minimize overwhelm and stress The #1 thing moms say is missing from their life - and how to find it! Why she calls BS on people who say that can’t have structure in their life Links mentioned: Get your discounted tickets to Shameless Mom Con 2020: shamelessmomcon.com Connect with Mridu: lifeisorganized.com Free download: 21 Killer Hacks To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed https://lifeisorganized.com/hacks/ Book: Accomplish It: 7 Simple Actions To Get The Right Things Done And Achieve Your Goals Mridu on FB https://www.facebook.com/LifeIsOrganized/ Thank you to our sponsors: Framebridge: Go to framebridge.com and use promo code SHAMELESS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order. Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to stamps.com, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box go to fabfitfun.com and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The media has been lying to you. They have been telling you to take bubble baths and drink copious amounts of wine and get manis & pedis all under the guise of self-care. While indulgent self-care is awesome and important, self-care is about much more than the infrequent pedicure. And sometimes the habits we label self-care are more of an escape that fills a void than a tool that serves us (read: copious amounts of wine.)The self-care you actually need is habits and routines that preserve your energy, promote excellent physical and mental health, and provide restoration from the hard days and long nights of motherhood.This kind of self-care looks like going to bed earlier, maintaining an exercise routine, taking time for yourself before your family rises, going to therapy, practicing meditation, being conscientious of your wine and sugar intake. This kind of self-care requires discipline. I know it’s not sexy and sometimes it’s not fun. Sometimes it actually feels like work, which feels unfair. But the results and the rewards will improve your physical and mental health, help you sustain your energy all day #everydamnday, and restore a sense of harmony that you didn’t think could exist - all of which is to say that your disciplined self-care might bring actual magic into your life.Listen in to learn: 9 ways you’re doing self-care wrong 8 ways to mindset upgrade around your self care Simple self-care upgrades that will dramatically improve your quality of life The difference between self-care as a discipline vs self-care as an indulgence (and why you need BOTH!) Links mentioned:Grab your discounted Shameless Mom Con tickets: shamelessmomcon.com Thank you to our sponsors: Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 30% off your first order, go to mylola.com and use the code SHAMELESS30 when you subscribe. Honey: Get Honey for FREE at JoinHoney.com/SHAMELESS.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stephanie Dalfonzo is a speaker, coach, hypnotist, and author of “Goodbye Anxiety, Hello Freedom!” She’s been researching holistic, natural and scientifically proven strategies to calm stress and anxiety for over 20 years.She is hired by people who are determined to create the life of their dreams but don’t know where to start. She helps them resolve past traumas to clear the way to truly living the life they’ve always dreamed of.Sharing inspirational empowerment with simple action steps, Stephanie has freed thousands of people, from tweens to 82, from their anxiety, stress, and fears.Listen in to hear Stephanie share: The difference between worry and anxiety and what is normal worry vs abnormal or heightened Simple and quick techniques you (and your kids) can use to immediately decrease anxiety The power of cellular memory and the power of healing your cellular memory to release your traumas and anxiety How you can change your brain to overcome anxiety How to use meditation in a more positive and blissful way Links mentioned: Meditation app: Insight Timer Connect with Stephanie: com/ Stephanie on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.dalfonzo/ Stephanie on Twitter https://twitter.com/sdalfonzo Stephanie on Linked In https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniedalfonzo/ Thank you to our sponsors: Honey: Get Honey for FREE at JoinHoney.com/SHAMELESS. Canvas People: To get your FREE 11x14 canvas, text SHAMELESS to 64000. Just pay shipping and handling. This offer won’t last. Text SHAMELESS to 64000. That’s SHAMELESS to 64000. Stitch Fix Kids: Get started today at StitchFix.com/KIDS/shameless to try Stitch Fix and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box! And as a bonus, Stitch Fix will waive their $20 styling fee when you use this show’s special URL! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

From the time you were a little girl you were likely told to quiet or completely shut down your own instincts in order to make other people happy. “Give Uncle Bob a big hug!”“Wear the pink dress. That one looks the prettiest on you.And then you watched your mom seek your dad’s approval and permission over and over as if it were required. Maybe it was.And then you had your own baby and you got really good an ignoring your body as it screamed at you:“I’m hungry!”“I’m tired!”“I need a break.”You couldn’t eat or sleep or take a break because this baby needed you in order to stay alive. And now you’ve existed for perhaps decades silencing your instincts in order to meet others expectations, make others happy, and keep babies alive.And you’ve completely lost any sense of self-trust. You wonder why you don’t know what you’re passionate about or why you can’t figure out your purpose or why you don’t even have a favorite food anymore. It’s because you’ve lost the ability to trust your gut, to listen to your instincts, to trust that you are smart and worthy and qualified and deserving.If you’re reading this and thinking, “SHIT. She’s talking about me.”, this episode is for you. This is where you get to start building back your self-trust.  This is where you learn to get quiet and curious and conscientious. This is where you begin.Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Blue Apron: Check out this week’s menu and get sixty dollars off when you visit http://www.blueapron.com/shameless.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hitha Palepu is a Shameless Mom, a multi-hyphenate - an entrepreneur, investor, and author. She is the CEO of Rhoshan Pharmaceuticals, a specialty pharma company that develops injectable presentations of common oral drugs. Hitha is also an active angel investor, having invested in or advised 10+ women-led companies. How To Pack: Travel Smart for Any Trip is her first book and an extension of her popular blog, Hitha On The Go. Her #5SmartReads series reaches 35,000 women every week. Hitha is equally committed to philanthropy, serving on the board of Sundara Fund and Youth Represent, the steering committee of Lincoln Center Kids, and an ambassador of Beyond Capital. She lives in New York City with her husband and two sons.I stumbled upon Hitha during some Instagram stalking and I haven’t stopped stalking her since. She is a woman with a mission - or like 37 missions. I’m inspired by her daily. I think you will be too. I think we all need a little more Hitha in your lives. Listen in to hear Hitha share: How she carves out self-care every single week, even on the fullest weeks Her desire and methods around raising emotionally intelligent sons How she is raising her boys in two heritages - as Indians and Americans Her identity as a multi-hyphenate and all the roles she embraces Her hobby-that-may-become-a-business, #5smartreads How she got into angel investing, how it works, and how to get started Links Mentioned: Subscribe to Hitha’s #5smartreads updates: 5Smartreads @hithapalepu Instagram @tejalvpatel Apps: Instapaper or pocket Thank you to our sponsors: Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Grove Collaborative: For a limited time, when my listeners go to Grove you will get a FREE FIVE PIECE gift set from Mrs. Meyer’s in festive holiday scents like Peppermint or Iowa Pine! Check out Grove and our special offer at Grove. Best Fiends: Download FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every year since launching The Shameless Mom Academy podcast, moms have asked me about how to manage families and boundaries around the holidays. So, every year I talk about it. Because I don’t believe you should compromise your joy to meet someone else’s needs. I want you to own your holidays. Own your peace. Own your joy. Own the magic. Own the boundaries. Own your disregard for others' expectations of you. That last part might sound harsh, insensitive, even downright selfish. And maybe it is. And maybe that’s ok!It is not your job to manage the expectations of 4 sets of grandparents, 7 aunts, 3 uncles, 37 cousins, 4 step-siblings, a half-sister and a partridge in a pear tree. IT’S NOT. Your job is to meet the needs of your immediate family unit - to create joy and magic and meaningful traditions for these most intimate relationships with the few people you adore more than anyone else in the world. It might be possible to do this and meet the needs of some extended family. And it might not. And that’s ok. If you have any dread over the upcoming holiday season, this ep is for you. Tune in to learn how to prioritize all the right things (your joy and peace!) and how to set boundaries around all the noise (even if you love the heck out of those noisy folks!)Links mentioned:SMA episode 371: Train People How To Treat You Thank you to our sponsors Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy’s and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Farnoosh Torabi a Shameless Mom of 2 littles, a celebrated financial expert, host of the award-winning podcast So Money, and bestselling author of multiple books, including her latest: When She Makes More. She appears frequently on the NBC Today Show and is the resident financial contributor for O, The Oprah Magazine. She is also part of the founding team of Stacks House, the first-ever pop-up museum dedicated to financial literacy and empowerment. Farnoosh studied finance at Penn State and holds a Master's from The Columbia Graduate School of Journalism. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and two children.Listen in to hear Farnoosh share: Her relationship with money having grown up in an immigrant family that had to build financial security How to talk to your kids about money in the context of your family’s values The importance of teaching your kids delayed gratification with money When to have your kids open bank accounts Why she is owning being the purposeful breadwinner in her marriage - after previously claiming it was accidental The global impact when women make more money How she made more money after having kids Links mentioned:Join my FREE virtual workshop on November 16th:5 Mindset Resets You Need To Shine Like A Mother >>> Shine My interview with Farnoosh on the So Money podcast: Farnoosh Book: When She Makes More Connect with Farnoosh: farnoosh Listen to Farnoosh’s podcast: So Money Farnoosh on Instagram: Farnoosh Torabi Thank you to our sponsors: Canvas People: To get your FREE 11x14 canvas, text SHAMELESS to 64000. Just pay shipping and handling. This offer won’t last. Text SHAMELESS to 64000. That’s SHAMELESS to 64000. Yumi: Head to Yumi and enter promo code shameless for $60 Off your first month of yumi! Equal Parts: Get into the rhythm of the kitchen, with friendly and inviting cookware, coaching, and guidance from Equal Parts. All with free shipping and free returns. Visit Equal Parts and get 15% off any purchase with code shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are a BIG DEAL.No, really.You are a BIG DEAL.And the sooner you embrace this, the sooner you can amplify your identity and impact in this world.The world needs more of you.Seriously.We need you to SHOW UP and SHINE.We need you to be LOUD and PROUD.We need you to believe in yourself the way we believe in you.If every mom knew she was the BIG DEAL that she already is, women would have exponentially more power in the world.Being a BIG DEAL is not about leading with your ego or grandstanding all around town. It’s about owning your strengths and gifts and talents so you can leverage them in the most powerful ways. It’s about living in your confidence so you can cultivate joy and power while having a positive impact in your household, your communities, your organizations.It’s about living out loud so you can lead with purpose, passion, compassion, and conviction. There are 4 essential keys you need to embrace in order to own being a BIG DEAL: Belief Hope Desire Self Trust Listen in to this episode of The Shameless Mom Academy for a deep dive on all four of these keys so you can be more of a BIG DEAL #everydamnday!Links mentioned:Join my FREE virtual workshop on November 16th:5 Mindset Resets You Need To Shine Like A Mother >>> SLAM WorkshopThank you to our sponsors: Care: To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership— visit Care when you subscribe. Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Alexia Vernon is the author of Step into Your Moxie: Amplify Your Voice, Visibility, and Influence in the World. Branded a “Moxie Maven” by President Obama’s White House Office of Public Engagement for her unique and effective approach to female empowerment, Alexia’s equal parts practical, poetic and playful delivery style makes her a sought-after speaking and leadership coach, consultant and trainer. Alexia has presented transformational keynotes and corporate trainings for Fortune 500 companies and professional associations, spoken at the United Nations and delivered a TEDx talk. She has gotten her gab on with media including CNN, NBC, ABC, CBS, and Forbes.com. She lives in Las Vegas, Nevada with her partner in business and life, Stephen, and their precocious, wide-eyed, preschool-aged daughter.Listen in to hear Alexia share: How to step into your moxie - and what that means & why it’s crucial Why speaking triggers women's shame and self-doubt and how to work through this Why speaking to large crowds can be easier than intimate conversations with just a few people Why her first 8 weeks of motherhood were the worst weeks of her life How she managed and treated her postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD How to teach your kids to speak with moxie and why it’s so critical - and her own experience of speaking with moxie when she was molested by a family member Links mentioned: Join my FREE virtual workshop on November 16th: 5 Mindset Resets You Need To Shine Like A Mother Connect with Alexia: Alexia Vernon Book: Step Into Your Moxie Free Guide: Alexia Vernon Social media: @alexiavernon Thank you to our sponsors: Stamps: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in SHAMELESS. EverlyWell: For 15% off an EverlyWell at-home lab test, visit EverlyWell and enter code SHAMELESS. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native and use promo code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices