Shameless Leadership

Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach and strategic parenting expert who helps ambitious women become leaders at work and home.Drawing from her professional experience as a social worker and her life experience raising three boys, Heather created a signature approach to focus her clients on sustainability, profitability, and ease in business and life.She is the host of the Mom Is In Control Podcast where she reveals her most vulnerable truths about womanhood, marriage, parenting, living through stage 4 cancer, and running a successful business—without burning out.Heather has been featured as a TEDx speaker and on The OWN Network, CTV, and The Jenny McCarthy Show. She has also appeared in Entrepreneur and Real Simple.When Heather isn’t being a classic Canadian by driving her boys to hockey practice, you’ll find her curled up on the couch with her husband surfing the internet, researching their next family adventure.Heather is a returning guest to The Shameless Mom Academy. She’s joining us to talk about her outstanding new book, Dying To Be A Good Mother.Listen in to hear Heather share: What inspired her book, Dying To Be A Good Mother How we are all dying to be good mothers and how it’s killing us figuratively and literally Why it’s not your job to make other people comfortable The power of stillness and why you need it #everydamnday The power of energetic time management Why she doesn’t buy into “we can do hard things” Her empowering and liberating alternative to doing hard things The truth about resistance and how to specifically determine what you want Why we need to give ourselves permission to want what we want Links mentioned: Get my newsletters and email updates Connect with Heather Get Heather’s book: Dying To Be A Good Mother Heather on IG: heather Chauvin Heather on FB: heather chauvin coaching Thank you to our sponsor: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30 day free trial and 50% off your next month!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

People are going to tell you NO. You will be rejected.Over and over and over.One of the gifts of being an entrepreneur is that you get rejected so often (especially early on) that you get a little callous to it - meaning, you let it roll off you easier and faster each time. This is a blessing. Without this gift (which definitely doesn’t feel like a gift early on), you may find yourself crippled by the NO’s.The rejection you face often has nothing - NOTHING - to do with you. Yet we are masters at internalizing it and defaulting to a place of self blame and self doubt, and sadly, even self loathing when we are faced with a NO.In this episode I’ll talk you through the actual causes of rejection (vs the stories you make up in your head) and 5 ways to manage rejection in an objective way so you can KEEP GOING and get what you want out of relationships and circumstances. Links mentioned:Get my newsletters and email updates   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nikki Tucker, a Finance Professional, and Divorce Financial Strategist, talks about empowering women through financial independence in divorce. She debunks divorce myths, redefines family dynamics post-divorce, and discusses the pandemic's impact on divorce rates. Nikki emphasizes the importance of women being financially independent and offers support through her signature program Silent Preparation Series.

If you were to sit down and make a list of all the identities you hold, what would be on your list? I made a quick list recently.I hold the following identities (in no particular order):woman, mom, wife, infertility warrior, anxiety manager, speaker, leader, hetero, cisgender, white, Seattleite, athlete, skier, writer, ally, podcaster, daughter, sister, business owner, child of divorce, 18 year entrepreneur, CEO, advocateI’m sure I could come up with even more layers to my identity if I gave it more thought. We are made up of SO MANY layers. This makes each of us a true unicorn.As we navigate our lives, we have the opportunity to embrace different layers of our identity in different ways during different seasons of life. What layers are you leaning into right now? What ones are most significant to you as we sit here in 2021?You get to choose which parts of yourself you really want to lean into at any time. So, how do you lean into the most powerful parts of yourself? Here are a few tips: Take responsibility for the stories you hold around your identities Call yourself by your titles - out loud in front of other people Find people who share your identities and be in community with them In this episode, I talk you through how to lean into the layers of your identity that mean the most to you and have the most potential to deeply impact the world.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rho Thomas is an attorney, mindset strategist, and personal finance coach who believes that true wealth is having control of your time. She helps lawyers make intentional lifestyle and money decisions to regain control of their time, build wealth, and live the lives of freedom and choice they deserve. She has been featured in outlets such as Yahoo! Finance, Refinery29, and Mic and hosts the Wealthyesque podcast, which explores how lawyers can achieve lifestyle freedom by reframing their mindset and by managing their money to achieve financial independence.Listen in to hear Rho share: How she has restructured her law career during the pandemic in order to step out of the hustle How her and her husbands’ money stories around being raised by single moms on very limited incomes influenced them How they ended up $670,000 in debt after having their first child How they found hope and inspiration to start paying off their debt The first strategic steps they took to start working on their debt How paying down debt built her confidence and created momentum in her life Why financial independence is a form of self care How to rejigger finances based on what brings you joy - instead of mindlessly How women are conditioned to shrink around money and finances and how to build financial confidence The difference between media messages around money for women vs men How she juggles motherhood, marriage, being a lawyer, and running her business to support women and finances How Kobe Bryant’s death inspired her to start her business Links mentioned:Book: Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominguez and Vicky RobinWebsite: Rho ThomasFind Rho on InstagramFind Rho on FacebookFind Rho on TwitterFind Rho on LinkedInThank you to our sponsor: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to www.talkspace.com/, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are coming up on a full 12 months of enduring a pandemic that we initially thought would last 2-6 weeks. How are you? No, really?This time is very much like navigating Newbornland - that phase when you’re totally sleep deprived, but you’ve been sleep deprived for so long that it just feels normal and you don’t know what it feels like to actually be rested. That’s where we’re at. We’ve been in survival mode for a year. So long that it feels normal and we don’t remember what it feels like to not have to juggle constant worry and uncertainty. So, in the face of this chronic worry and uncertainty, how are you holding on to hope, power, and connection? We must be able to harness these if we are to stay sane and functional. In this episode I’ll give you tactical steps to restore hope, power, and connection in your everyday life. Links mentioned:Get my Shameless Mom Con updates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shaunda Head is a Shameless Mom to her 2 year old daughter and a Shameless full time caretaker of her 96 year old Granny. She is also an Atlanta-based brand strategist and digital marketer who helps women align ALL THE THINGS in their brand so that their brand message can impact more powerfully. She creates and implements strategies in marketing, branding and copy to help her clients SHOW UP as their whole selves, and drive higher connection with their true, dream clients.Shaunda has 16 years of experience, including brand design, marketing, communications and business development for global companies like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), UPS and E! Entertainment Television. She now coaches and consults for emerging and growing entrepreneurs — past clients consist of coaches, podcasters, stylists, therapists, bloggers, e-commerce site owners and more.Listen in to hear Shaunda share: How she juggles taking care of her 96 year old grandmother and 2 year old daughter full time - while running her business from home How she leans into flow and alignment to thrive in her life and grow her business How she started relying on her intuition and shut out the noise in 2020 How she leveraged being the only Black person and the only woman in many spaces inspired her career What it’s like to be a caretaker in a multigenerational household The decision process of bringing her grandmother to live with her immediately following the loss of her mother How taking care of her grandmother prepared her for motherhood What she wants her daughter to remember about growing up in a multigenerational household The biggest gifts and biggest challenges of being a caregiver to 2 generations at the same time Links mentioned: Connect with Shaunda Take Shaunda’s branding quiz Shaunda on IG Shaunda on FB   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Months of unpredictability, instability, and chaos can leave a mama feeling disoriented, exhausted, and chronically overwhelmed. I know I’ve been feeling this as the last year has started to catch up with me. One of the things that really helped me to start feeling grounded again was to identify a few “anchors” that can consistently connect me back to who I am becoming, how I want to show up, and how I have promised to take exquisite care of myself this year.The anchors I identified for myself are: Self Trust Nourishment Nimbleness Deep Work  In this episode, I explain what each of these anchors look like for me and how I’m consistently returning to them to stay grounded this year.If these anchors appeal to you - STEAL THEM! They are all yours! And if they aren’t quite the ones for you, this episode will help you discern some other ones that might be a good fit for you.2021 is your year to take back the reins and double down on YOU. Links mentioned: Join Abbi Perets and me on FB live Feb 8th at 10am PST/1pm EST: Facebook SMA Ep 501 with Mia Hemstad: Nourishing Oneself While Living With PTSD and Depression   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dayna Parish Dennis is a wife, Shameless Mom, and doctor. Originally from Oklahoma, she relocated to the Bay Area to complete her residency in pediatrics. She has served patients in low income, urgent care, private practice, and Hospitalist settings, and just recently made partner at a multi-specialty group practice in the Bay Area. She speaks a couple of languages, loves reading books with happy endings, and raising 2 free Black children.Listen in to hear Dayna share: What it’s like to be a doctor in this pandemic How she’s managing her mental health as a physician, wife, mom, and woman during this time What it was like to be the only Black person in her medical school class The pressure of being the sole Black representative in conversations around race The relief she found in moving from Oklahoma to Oakland for residency and to work with other Black doctors How her employer (Kaiser Permanente) responded to George Floyd’s death and supported the Black Lives Matter movement The benefits she’s seeing in living through this pandemic and why we need not desire going “back to normal” The power in making partner in her medical practice this year The legacy she is building to show her daughters that Black girls can do anything Links Mentioned: Connect with Dayna IG: @wittyacronym IG: @bookish.black.nerd FB: Dayna Parish Dennis   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rae McDaniel, MEd, LCPC, CST (They/Them) is a Gender and Certified Sex Therapist and Coach who works with folks feeling anxious and lost about a transition they’re experiencing in sex, gender, sexual identity, or relationships. Rae also provides consultation & training for professionals and organizations wishing to uplevel their knowledge and expertise in these areas.Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a Gender & Sex Therapy group practice in Chicago, and GenderFck: The Club, an online group coaching community designed to help transgender/non-binary/questioning folks transition with less suffering and more ease.Listen in to hear Rae share: Their experience growing up adopted into a family of evangelical christian missionary puppeteers The evolution of their identity from bisexual to queer to non binary The relief of coming out as non binary Why not everyone in your life needs to know all the ins and outs of your identity and how you can prioritize safety when coming out How gender exists on a spectrum, not just two categories of male and female Why they are having top surgery and how they came to this decision Why they use they/them pronouns and why pronouns matter Why it’s inaccurate to refer to someone’s pronouns as their “preferred pronouns” How they are working to take the suffering out of transitioning for trans people Linke mentioned:Connect with Rae: Practical AudacityJoin Rae’s Genderfck programRae on IG/FB: @practicalaudacity  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices