Shameless Leadership

Kim Evey is a Los Angeles-based actor, writer, and stand up comedian. She has appeared in numerous commercials and TV shows, written for children's animation, and created and starred in one of the first web series on Sony's Crackle.com entitled "Gorgeous Tiny Chicken Machine Show." She produced Felicia Day's trailblazing series "The Guild," a web show so successful that it was actually put on display in The Smithsonian American History Museum. As a stand up comedian, Kim's online clips have been viewed over 8 million times. She is the proud Mom of a boy who is five going on fifteen.I met Kim through a story telling event where she shared her journey into motherhood through adoption. Her story touched me so deeply. I knew I had to invite her onto the show. What I didn’t know at the time was that Kim is also an adoptee. She was adopted from an orphanage in Korea when she was 2. Her journey from adoptee to adoptive mom so beautifully demonstrates the magic of adoption.Listen in to hear Kim share: How motherhood fuels her comedy career Her indecision around becoming a mother The moment she knew she actually did want to become a mother, and was ready to pursue adoption Her journey from a foster home in Korea to her adoptive parents in the US when she was 2 years old How her being an adoptee influenced her choice to adopt her son through open adoption The process of being one of 3 chosen prospective families to adopt the baby who would become her son The most profound and magical moment of meeting her son, Charlie Links Mentioned: Join us for the Shameless Mom Con Collective Connect with Kim: Kim Evey Kim on IG & Twitter: @kimevey Kim on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Thrive: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to ThriveCausemetics.com/shameless for 15% off your first purchase! Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30-day free trial and 50% off your next month! Episode art credit: Kevin McIntyre  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“Sara, I’ve been getting your emails for 7 years and I’m finally ready to sign up for your program.”This is the email I got from a prospective gym member back when I had my gym. This woman had been waiting for 7 year - SEVEN YEARS - to finally qualify herself to change her life. She came in to check out the gym a few days later and we immediately hit it off. After about 10 minutes, she confided in me, “I can’t believe I waited so long. I keep thinking where I would be if I just decided to start earlier. I’m so mad at myself.”I have to tell you, I have had this conversation with so many women. We excel at waiting, don’t we??Waiting to join the gym.Waiting to go for the promotion.Waiting to ask for the raise.Waiting to ask for help.Waiting to start the hobby.Waiting to take time for yourself.Waiting to take a chance.Waiting to say YES.Waiting to say NO.Waiting to do what you want to do even if no one else gets it.Waiting to go for it even if no one believes in you.Waiting to choose yourself.You know you want more - but you’re afraid of failure, worried what others might say, and filled with self doubt.You wait because you think there will be a better time, a better option, another chance. You tell yourself you’ll be more ready next week, next month, next year.You watch others go before you and you decide they are more capable, more qualified, more worthy.And you wait.While you wait, you compromise your dreams, your desires, your sense of selfWhile you wait you chip away at your happiness and your worth.The waiting is ruining your life.I’m here to invite you to STOP WAITING.Listen in to hear how you can stop waiting and start living a fuller life without regret.Link mentioned:Join us for the Shameless Mom Con Collective   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shannon Kenny Carbonell grew up in Sydney, Australia, and moved to the U.S at 18 to study acting. After earning a BFA in Theater from The California Institute of the Arts (CalArts), she worked in regional theater where she had the privilege of playing some classic roles like Nina in The Seagull, Julie in Miss Julie, and Helena in A Midsummer Night’s Dream. She then transitioned into television guest star roles, one of her favorites being Katrina Banks on HBO’s Dream On— a parody of Courtney Love—where she got to shoot heroin between her toes, sing in a music video with Brian Benben, and (being the excitable girl she was) experience the thrill of meeting Warren Zevon. Her other favorite guest star role was playing Alison, George’s girlfriend, on NBC’s Seinfeld. Shannon was cast in series regular roles on TV shows and if she fails to rank the show Muscle as her best experience, she’d risk offending her wonderful husband Nestor, whom you might recognize from his role on LOST, or more recently on The Morning Show; it was on this show the two of them defied producers orders to not date other cast members. After many roles in movies and TV, Shannon pushed pause on acting to focus on motherhood while Nestor was traveling to film LOST. Shannon and Nestor currently live in Los Angeles with their two sons Rafa and Marco and their dog Donna Borrelli Carbonell. Shannon just published her first book All Is Not LOST, which talks about her journey into motherhood and her journey back to herself and all the ways her life paralleled the show LOST, which has been so near and dear to their family.Listen in to hear Shannon share: How she lost her sense of identity after motherhood The unexpected sense of loss, grief and emptiness she felt as she left her career and stepped into motherhood The risks of space and silence when we no longer have reasons to lean into our gifts and creativity How being in HA for LOST played a role in her reconnecting to her identity How her life parallel storylines in LOST and how the show helped lead her back to herself What it was like for Nestor to see Shannon struggle with her identity Why we all want to be seen and our constant search for meaning Links mentioned: Get your Early Bird ticket to the Shameless Mom Con Collective Connect with Shannon Book: All Is Not LOST Shannon on Instagram Nestor on Instagram Thank you to our sponsor: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30 day free trial and 50% off your next month!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week, we had to very quickly and unexpectedly say goodbye to our sweet dog of 14 years, Granny Dani.Our hearts are broken. My husband and I lost our first baby - this creature we doted on with all of our love and affection before welcoming Vinnie 6 years later.Vinnie lost his sister - his best friend with whom he spent hours each day, snuggling and singing fart songs (that no one else in our house wanted to hear…) We didn’t realize how much space our sweet girl took up in our home and our hearts until she was gone. Every room I walk into seems so big and so empty without her. Piper, our puppy, roams from room to room and dog bed to dog bed searching for her sister.Our family is grieving for sure. But there have also been many gifts over the last week that have made this loss beautiful in unexpected ways. These gifts make the grief bearable.We have all lost something over the last year. We are all grieving. I made this episode thinking of all the ways we all are grieving, in hopes that it might help you find the gifts in moments of loss that feel absolutely unbearable.Link mentioned:Get your Early Bird ticket to the Shameless Mom Con Collective   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tiffany Bluhm is the author of She Dreams, Never Alone, and her newest book Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up. She is a sought after speaker, writer, and podcast co-host of the popular podcast Why Tho, a show answering the existential and nonsensical questions we ask ourselves, with author and speaker, Ashley Abercrombie.She speaks at conferences and events around the world, and her work has been featured in World Vision Magazine, TODAY Parents, the Hallmark Channel, The Jenny McCarthy Show, and more. She was named a Woman to Watch in 2018 by Premier Media.Tiffany leads an engaged audience online around women’s issues, identity, and faith. As a minority, immigrant woman with a interracial family, she is passionate about women’s equality, justice, and dignity.Listen in to hear Tiffany share: How she operates at the intersection of women and justice Why women are disposable vs men are indispensable How white women’s proximity to power makes them complicit in many cases The important difference between women being nice and being kind How systems have been intentionally architected to oppress and silence women How WOC are silenced in ways white women are not The difference between fighting for power vs fighting for equality How we are all passive vs active enabling of abuse and oppression Specific ways you can help start breaking down systems of oppression Links mentioned:Get your Early Bird ticket to the Shameless Mom Con CollectiveConnect with Tiffany: Tiffany BluhmTiffany on InstagramTiffany on FacebookTiffany’s podcast: Why ThoThank you to our sponsor: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30 day free trial and 50% off your next month!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you spend a year (or any season of life) worrying about what’s next and wondering how you’ll manage all the things you cannot control, you are likely to find yourself in exhausting cycles of fear and doubt. Then, to combat the worry and fear and doubt, you find ways to numb so that you may quiet the fear and the doubt. This happens to us in the year after having a baby, the season after losing an important relationship, and certainly after a year of enduring a pandemic. This leaves us feeling stuck as all get out - stuck in our heads, stuck in poor habits, and stuck in a life without much joy on the horizon. At a certain point, you have to decide that you will stop staying stuck. You will take action to start moving forward. You will process the season you’ve been in so that you may move forward with less fear, less doubt, and better coping skills. Also, you will create joy. Because joy matters. Even when you’re too tired to plan the joy, you need the joy. Create the joy, dammit. In this episode, I’ll walk you through 3 ways you are likely staying stuck right now and how to get unstuck. Links mentioned:Join us for the Shameless Mom Con Collective   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As a podcast visibility expert and host of the Go Pitch Yourself podcast, Angie Trueblood knows that the only 'perfect pitch' is the one that leads with value and focuses on building a genuine connection. Whether she is teaching entrepreneurs how to pitch themselves or working behind the scenes to secure opportunities for others, Angie leverages her super-connector powers to grow businesses and build long-lasting relationships. When she's not working with her clients or being active in her local community, she loves exploring Richmond, Virginia's parks and playgrounds with her two kiddos, checking out new restaurants with her hubs, and laughing about motherhood over cocktails with friends.Listen in to hear Angie dig into: Why she elected to homeschool her kids this year and the gifts that have resulted Why she left the corporate workforce even though she had loved her work and always been ambitious How her corporate ambition in work transferred to ambition in motherhood The significance of making the ask in order to get what you want The power of curiosity in networking and and connecting How motherhood led her to building a business amplifying women’s voices Where to start if you have a story you want to share with the world What you need if you want to pitch yourself to podcasts Links Mentioned: Apply for one-on-one business and leadership coaching with Sara Get on me email list to get Shameless Mom Con Collective info Connect with Angie: Angie Trueblood Angie on IG Sara’s interview on Go Pitch Yourself Podcast: Go Pitch Yourself Thank you to our sponsor: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 years ago today I launched the first episode of The Shameless Mom Academy. To be honest, if it hadn’t been for a pushy coach I would likely still be saying, “I think I’m going to do a podcast soon.” Starting is the only way to find the magic and I’m so glad I started when I did. I wasn’t quite sure what I was doing and I wasn’t quite sure why I was doing it. I only knew I had some things to say. I wanted - no, needed - to talk about the trauma of motherhood. It had shaken me to my core. Nobody warned me about that part. Everyone told me I would be tired. No one told me I would be completely lost.I also needed to talk about the shrinking of women. I was pissed that I had been a participant in an industry that thrives - to the tune of many billions of dollars a year - on telling women they must be smaller in order to be valuable.So, yeah - I had things to say.5 years, 264 powerhouse guests, 528 episodes, 3.5 million downloads.I’ve a few learned things - and most of them haven’t been easy lessons. In today's birthday episode I will share the top 5 lessons I’ve learned on leadership and motherhood over the last year.Thank you for listening and inviting me in to your ear week after week. It is a privilege I do not take lightly. I’m so honored to be on this Shameless journey with you.Links mentioned: Apply for one-on-one business and leadership coaching with Sara Get on me email list to get Shameless Mom Con Collective info Leave a review for the show   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As an award-winning business strategist, host of the Promote Yourself to CEO podcast, and best-selling author, Racheal Cook is on a mission to end entrepreneurial poverty for women. Over the last 10 years she has helped thousands of female entrepreneurs design predictably profitable businesses without the hustle and burnout that doing #allthethings inevitably accomplishes. In fact, Racheal is a sought after speaker on entrepreneurship, marketing, and productivity and has been featured by the US Chamber of Commerce, Forbes Coaching Council, Female Entrepreneur Association, and more. Her real passion, though, is supporting savvy, soulful women as they implement the strategy, systems, and support to uncomplicate their business so they can work less and live more.Listen in to hear Racheal dig into: The concept of entrepreneurial poverty and why women and moms are especially susceptible How mismanaging time by overgiving time uses all your precious energy for the things that matter most to you The problems of hustle culture and how women fall so easily into it Boundaries around our different identities - employee vs mom vs woman How the pandemic has amplified hustle culture for women Her projections for women starting businesses in 2021 Why moms actually have new and more opportunities for employment in this pandemic How she and her husband have navigated Racheal being the breadwinner How they systematized their household to work for both of them The gift and importance of therapy, now more than ever Links Mentioned: Apply for one-on-one business and leadership coaching with Sara Submit your question for an upcoming Ask Me Anything episode Racheal on Facebook: Racheal Cook Racheal on Instagram: Racheal Cook Racheal on Twitter: RachealCook Racheal on YouTube Racheal of Pinterest Racheal Cook LinkedIn: Racheal Cook Thank you to our sponsor: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30 day free trial and 50% off your next month!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have repeatedly likened our survival of this pandemic to our survival of Newbornland. We have endured a year of uncertainty and upheaval. We have made accommodations and adaptations to our lives that we never imagined - and often thought were not possible (hello virtual learning).This has taken a toll on us physically, mentally, and emotionally. And, like surviving Newbornland, we cannot fully process the toll it has taken because we have had to focus on keeping our family units alive and safe - without having the time or energy to give any consideration to our own deep and chronic exhaustion.We have carried the worry of our family’s health, security, and sanity as we have wondered how much worse things could get. And then we watched them get worse.We have worried about the lasting impact of this pandemic on our children’s mental health, without considering that we ourselves are also moving through a chronic traumatic event.We have used wine and workouts and Netflix and sourdough starter as coping mechanisms in hopes of a moment of reprieve. We have cried in closets and bathrooms, and screamed at the people we love the most, and thrown in the towel as we’ve thrown ourselves on the floor, and then picked the damn towel back up and dried our tears and tucked our kids into bed - for 365 nights now.We are not ok.Links mentioned: Apply for one-on-one business and leadership coaching with Sara Submit your question for an upcoming Ask Me Anything episode: shameless Mom   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices