Shonda Moralis, MSW, LCSW is on a mission to help ambitious moms play big without burning out. Author of the award-winning book, Breathe, Mama, Breathe and Don’t Forget to Breathe, she is a Psychotherapist, Life Balance Coach, Therapreneur, and Podcast Host. Shonda serves on the board of Shanthi Project, an education nonprofit providing evidence-based mindfulness services to children and adults. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and two kids, loves to play outside, endeavors to practice what she preaches, and is perennially fascinated by what makes people tick.The timing of this interview was so serendipitous. The day before I interviewed Shonda, my therapist told me I would really benefit from mindfulness meditation. I was skeptical, if not downright doubtful. So, I loved picking Shonda’s brain as we dug into all the ways mindfulness as a practice can shift our brains to help us achieve balance (although not in the sense you might assume), greater productivity, creativity, and overall energy. Listen in to hear Shonda share: Her experience raising two children 10 years apart in age Her parenting philosophy: good enough is great How “balance” shifts over the course of motherhood and should be a gentle recalibration over time, not massive sweeping overnight changes How to integrate 1-5 minutes of mindfulness to shift your day - and the importance of keeping it short & doable The science of mindfulness and how meditation changes the shape, function, and efficiency of your brain The difference between mindfulness, meditation, and mindful breaks - and the benefits of each How to use breath, becoming, and balance breaks in short (like 1 minute) ways to increase your calm, increase your energy, or restore a mindset of balance to your day Links mentioned:  Connect with Shonda and get her free 5-minute mindfulness meditation: shondamoralis.net Shonda’s podcast: Therapeutic Perspective Podcast  Shonda on Instagram Shonda on Facebook Shonda on Linkedin Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I’m working with private business & leadership coaching clients, one of the things we are always talking about is building traction. When you’re eager to grow and evolve in your leadership (in a business, the workplace, or your community), it’s easy to overlook the significance and impact of small (tiny!) actions over time.  Tiny action adds up. But you have to be paying attention. Notice how you are showing up to do the little things each and every day that further your growth toward your goals. Be methodical and strategic in taking tiny actions and tracking your traction. This can be done by tracking tiny wins as you tick little things off your To Do List, or writing down small accomplishments and achievements at the end of each day.When I am in seasons of struggle and I feel like my growth is stunted or things are just not going the way I want, I commit to taking small, simple steps each day to keep going, while also noting the small (sometimes minuscule) wins each day that prove to me that simple action creates momentum (ie: traction!) and that always feels good. In this episode, I talk through 5 ways to build traction by taking tiny action. Let’s keep going and growing together! Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Denisha Seals was raised by her mother, a single parent, who had not had a childhood. She was a teenage mom in an abusive relationship. Unfortunately, the unresolved trauma from her mother’s past was projected onto Denisha from the time she was very young, leaving Denisha with low self-esteem and vulnerability to people who exploited her innocence.  A high school teacher helped Denisha realize she had a choice: to continue to hurt and to follow in her mother’s footsteps, or to start her own healing journey. She began counseling and realized that her traumatic childhood was not her fault.   Denisha is now engaged in converting the pain of the past into lessons that can be shared with people in a myriad of creative ways for the greater good. She is a writer and a speaker, impacting the world through her storytelling and powerful messages of hope.Listen in to hear Denisha share: Her documentary, HINT: Historical Intergenerational Nutritional Trauma, about the nutritional genocide of people of color How her childhood trauma of incestual sexual assualt inspired her work and her support of her Indigenous culture The significance of her Indigenous culture and African culture in her birth experience and how that informs how she shows up in the world today How growing up as a Afro Indigenous child who had been neglected and violated in foster care and phases of homelessness impacted her youth How she has intentionally shaped relationships and specific boundaries with her parents in order to heal Her book, Butterflies In Me, written and designed to support children’s mental health How she intentionally made her book inclusive of many children’s marginalized backgrounds and struggles from race to mental health  Links mentioned: www.water2spirit.com Water2spirit on Instagram Water2spirit on LinkedIn LinkedIn Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/water2spirit1 Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the last few weeks, I have had the opportunity to speak to multiple groups on mindset. In researching and prepping for these conversations, I dug into some hard truths around our current culture. Namely, the fact that we are all enduring Collective Trauma - and no one is talking about it.  An article in Psychology Today (linked in this episode’s show notes) teaches that “Collective trauma is a response that can follow a variety of traumatic experiences. Situations that may elicit a collective trauma response may include but are not limited to: wars, natural disasters, mass shootings, terrorism, pandemics, systematic and historical oppression, recessions, and famine or severe poverty.”It goes on to say collective trauma “can change the entire fabric of a community… In fact, collective trauma can impact relationships, alter policies and governmental processes, alter the way the society functions, and even change its social norms.” Once we acknowledge that we are experiencing this, we can see how our mindsets have shifted to match this arduous cultural moment in history. In fact, it stands to reason that we have quite possibly (and very understandably) shifted our default mindset to a fixed mindset framework, instead of a growth mindset framework. As a refresh, fixed mindset vs growth mindset is the work of the great Carol Dweck. Author of the book Mindset - which every human should read! In this episode, I explore why you might be defaulting to fixed mindset, how it’s limiting you, and how to shift out of it in order to see more opportunities, potential & possibility in your life - instead of defaulting to seeing obstacles & roadblocks. This isn’t to say the obstacles aren’t real. Things are hard. But let’s uncover how to hold space for two truths: Things are hard.  You are resourceful and resilient and can make great things happen in your life.  Links mentioned: Psychology Today article: What is Collective Trauma? Book: Mindset by Carol Dweck Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amy Lang, MA has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. With her lively, engaging and down-to-earth style she helps parents become comfortable and confident talking to their kids. Amy’s books, online solutions center and podcast, show parents they really can become their kids' go-to birds and bees source. Amy is still married to her first husband and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle WA.  Amy was on the show to talk about how to talk to younger kids about bodies a few years ago. This time she is back to talk about how to talk to your tweens about sex. Given that Vinnie turned 10 just a few days ago, I was in desperate need of this convo. Amy is an incredible educator who makes talking about sex one million times easier and more fun than anyone else I know.  Listen in to hear Amy share: Why sex talk nearly always falls to the mom as a result of our own conditioning and experiences around sexuality  How to get tweens to listen to you when you talk about sex and sexuality The importance of knowing how to talk about sex with your kids BEFORE you actually engage in conversation The importance of knowing your values around sex/sexuality before you talk to your kids about it How to make up or redo a conversation if you feel like you made a misstep Why we don’t need to worry about giving our kids too much information on sex and sexuality How to talk to our kids about sex in an inclusive way that honors a variety of sexual orientations Why must talk to your kids about porn - no matter what you think your kid is or is not seeing on the internet How to talk to your kids about porn in a really clear way Specific steps to take to monitor, filter and bock web exposure Links mentioned: Amy’s Book: Sex Talks with Tweens Amy’s Podcast: Just Say This Connect with Amy: birdsandbeesandkids.com Amy’s first interview on the SMA: Birds and Bees and Kids Amy on IG Amy on FB Bark Parental Control app: Bark.us Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This one is for all my friends who have spent their lives collecting A+’s and doing all the extra credit.  I know perfectionism kept me in my own way for a lot of my first 20 years of life. If I couldn't do something to an A+ level, I didn't want to do it at all. In the last 15 or so years, I've learned that the fun, power, and momentum that allow me to have the most impact in the world comes when I am intentionally imperfect. Doing things well, but "good enough" instead of sitting on them until they are absolutely 100% A++ perfect. In my mid-twenties, I started giving myself permission to try things I hadn’t done before. This was a huge departure from never trying anything new out of fear of failure and even more fear of looking foolish.  By my mid-thirties, as I was growing businesses, I learned that trying new things, giving myself the space to be a newbie, and sitting in the discomfort of learning were actually really rewarding.  Now, in my mid-forties, I am able to have so much FUN doing things I’m not great at. This is how I was able to learn to ski at age 42, get back into triathlons at age 46, try new things in my business, allow myself to be more creative, and laugh at my imperfections #everydamnday, while riding out the massive momentum that comes with staying in imperfect action and never taking myself too seriously.  In this episode, I talk you through what I’ve learned from getting great at doing things I’m not great at, why we stop ourselves from doing things we’re not great at, and what we gain when we get great at doing things we’re not great at.  This one is for my fellow perfectionists and recovering perfectionists. I GOT YOU.  Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Peter Mutabazi is an entrepreneur, an international advocate for children, and the founder of Now I Am Known, a corporation that supplies resources that encourage and affirm children. A single father of one white son and foster dad to many, Peter is a former street kid who has worked for World Vision and the International Committee of the Red Cross and has appeared on media outlets such as the BBC and the TODAY show. A passionate and popular speaker, he currently lives in Charlotte, North Carolina.I am so delighted to welcome Peter back to the show. He recently released his first book, Now I Am Known. When I heard he wrote a book about his experience of not being known and literally not having a name as a child living on the streets of Uganda through his present-day reality of having fostered 27 children, I knew I wanted him to come back for another conversation. Listen in to hear Peter share: The current makeup of his family includes an adopted son, 3 foster children, and 2 dogs How his experience growing up as a street kid in Uganda informed his life and his commitment to helping other children who have traumatic pasts How one stranger seeing him through a different lens changed his life entirely and how he has used that experience to see others through a different lens How to meet your kids where they are at vs where you want them to be His advice to those living in survival mode His really important mission with his book, Now I Am Known All the ways we belong to each other - as he supports foster kids, bio parents, and asks his community to step up and support him and other foster kids Links mentioned: [Time Sensitive] Become a member of The Shameless Mom Academy: shamelessmom.com/academy www.NowIAmKnown.com Peter on YouTube Peter on Instagram Peter on Facebook Peter on TikTok Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are really good at finding reasons to wait. And sometimes waiting is warranted. But often, we wait because we have made up a story that we are not yet ready, worthy, capable, or qualified. Often that story is a bold-faced lie.  When we wait to go after what we want, take action, or accomplish something that makes us proud, we waste our precious mental and emotional resources, our energy, and our TIME.  While we are waiting, we often compromise our values, stall our growth, and stay STUCK in a headspace that lends itself to self-doubt and negative self-talk. I’m not a leap person. I don’t make big bold moves. But I am an action taker. I take small action steps to test the waters and collect data. Those small steps and pieces of data determine my next steps and move me toward what I want so I’m not stuck in the emotional and mental purgatory of waiting to accomplish something. In this episode, I’m going to dig into what is wasted while you’re waiting. You’re costing yourself more than you know. You are ready. You are capable. You are qualified. Now. Link mentioned: For a limited time, become a member of The Shameless Mom Academy: shamelessmom.com/academy Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fareedah Shaheed is the CEO and Founder of Sekuva SehKOOvuh, where she helps parents and caretakers protect their kids online. She has taught thousands of people online security & safety, has hosted lunch and learns, and has delivered keynotes on the subject. She is a Forbes 30 Under 30 honoree and is currently serving on the Forbes board for the Under 30 community. Fareedah was named Cybersecurity Personality of the Year 2020. And her work has been featured in Cisco, NASA, FOX 25, FOX 46, FOX Carolina, NBC Washington, The Grio, Yahoo!, AfroTech, The Every Mom, StartPage, TripWire, Infosecurity Magazine, and most recently on the NASDAQ. Fareedah is on fire when it comes to spreading her message. I connected with Fareedah via LinkedIn and as I got to know more about her work and her personal story, I knew she would be a fantastic guest. She did not disappoint! Listen in to hear Fareedah share: Her experience growing up as a third culture kid How her identity as a Black Muslim gamer raised in Saudi Arabi inspired her work in cybersecurity How her relationship with her mom especially informed her experience around her own cybersecurity The significance of her mom embracing imperfection in order to create a more safe, secure and soulful mother/daughter relationship What holistic online safety is and why it’s so much more important than blanket rules that might serve only as bandaids  The importance of connection over control and a strong parent/child bond in online safety Why she champions parental therapy and therapeutic practices in order for parents to have a connection to self as a foundation to protect your child from the online world First 3 steps to take toward cybersecurity for your child Links mentioned: From September 14th-20th only, become a member of The Shameless Mom Academy: shamelessmom.com/academy Connect with Fareedah: Cyberfareedah.com Join Fareedah’s Safe Kid Movement: safekidsmovement.com Fareedah on all social media: @CyberFareedah  Fareedah’s podcast: The Accidental Arab   Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last weekend I did my first triathlon in 18 years. It was an incredible experience - which I almost put it off until next summer. I’m so glad I didn’t wait. I shifted a 12-month goal to a 2-month goal and it paid off - big time.  Whether you’re working toward a new goal or returning to a goal from the past, I want to invite you to take a look at how you’re approaching your goal. Your perspective and approach will deeply impact your experience and your outcomes.  When I did triathlons 18-22 years ago, it was so much work and so much stress. A lot of the training felt like a grind. It was all very intense.  You would think, at age 46 and being out of the game for so long, I would have felt that intensity and stress return as I took up training again. I did not.  I was really intentional about how I approached this goal. My approach allowed me to enjoy every moment of training and every second of race day.  In this episode, I talk you through 5 Important Lessons On Trying Something New in hopes that you can cut your deadlines on your goals in half in order to get to the finish lines faster - and with a ton more ease and joy! Link mentioned:Join my free workshop: How to Calm Your Chaos & Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm Sponsor info and promo codes: Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices