How to have Extraordinary Relationships

Jennie Young, founder of the Burned Haystack Dating Method and author, shares her expertise on navigating online dating. She reveals her lightbulb moment that led her to create effective strategies for women, emphasizing communication and recognizing toxic patterns. The importance of setting boundaries and focusing on meaningful connections is highlighted. Jennie also introduces intriguing techniques like the ‘Block to Burn’ and the 'test and apologise' method, aimed at enhancing women's dating experiences while encouraging a shift in male behaviors.

Barbara Ayozie Fu Safira is a remarkable Italian-Nigerian creative powerhouse based in London. She is celebrated as a creative director, art director, costume designer, and fashion stylist, whose work spans across editorial, commercial, film, music, and more.  Her styling and creative direction have appeared in prestigious publications, including Vogue Italia, GQ, Elle, Glassbook, Metal, and Aesthetica. Her editorial work “Unfolded Love” was published in both Vogue Italia and Nataal. Key points of the episode:How they met and how people were taking pictures of her!How she is treated like a celebrity even though she is not really one!How she is of Nigerian origin but has never lived there.How living in London has helped her appreciate multiculturism.Her signature style.The first time she experienced avant-gardeHer parenting and her parents values.How iconagraphy and religion has influenced her work.How she broke into the industry of art direction.How she keeps focused and grounded.The things she had to negotiate being Italian/Nigerian first generation.Her time in Paris.Her future direction and dreams.Check her out!Insta: @fu_safiraWeb: www.barbarafusafira.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Wendy Holden, also sometimes known as Taylor Holden, is an experienced author and novelist with more than thirty books published, fifteen of which are bestsellers. She has also had numerous works transferred to radio and television, and four of her books have been optioned for film. A journalist for eighteen years, her first novel THE SENSE OF PAPER was published by Random House, New York, to widespread critical acclaim and has recently been released as an ebook. Her second novel THE CRUELTY OF BEAUTY has been published in English as an ebook and in Czech as a hardback. Her non-fiction titles have chiefly chronicled the lives of remarkable subjects, including the international bestseller BORN SURVIVORS which tells the true story of three young mothers who hid their pregnancies from the Nazis and gave birth in the concentration camps.TOMORROW WILL BE A GOOD DAY chronicles the amazing life story of Captain Sir Tom Moore, the 99-year-old war veteran who raised almost £40m for the NHS during the coronavirus pandemic. ONE HUNDRED MIRACLES tells the true story of the teenage piano prodigy Zuzana Ruzickova who survived three concentration camps to become one of the world’s foremost Baroque musicians.FIVE MINUTES OF AMAZING is the moving memoir of a young soldier with early onset Alzheimer’s and how he chose to deal with the hand Fate dealt him. Her other memoirs include that of the only woman in the French Foreign Legion in TOMORROW TO BE BRAVE (soon to be a film), the mother of a woman killed after marrying a Sudanese warlord in TILL THE SUN GROWS COLD, A LOTUS GROWS IN THE MUD the memoir of actress Goldie Hawn and LADY BLUE EYES, the autobiography of Frank Sinatra’s widow Barbara – all of which were New York Times and Sunday Times bestsellers. Key points of the episode:How she became a journalist......and why she took a big leap to become an author.Her incredible (yet terrible) historical knowledge garnered from the research for her latest book, "The Teacher of Auschwitz".How her father is an incredible inspiration.How she ended up with PTSD....and the surprising experience of it.How "Born Survivors" was the first book in 70 years that chronicled babies being born in the holocaust... and survived....and how she discovered the story.Her new incredible project on someone who's true character has never been truly shown, even though there are over 1000 books about her.What she does to relax.Her experience of "flow"Her life philosophy.www.wendyholden.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

From her website:I don't just study longevity — I've lived the cost of ignoring it.After 25 years in medicine, leadership, and entrepreneurship, I've seen firsthand what relentless drive can do to a body.But I’ve also seen what precision, strategy, and lifestyle mastery can rebuild.My journey began at the University of London, Guys and St Thomas’, where I earned my MBBS in medicine and surgery.A fascination with the body and brain led me to deepen my expertise further — gaining advanced qualifications in lifestyle medicine, functional medicine, coaching, therapy, gynaecology, obstetrics, and dermatology.But true mastery comes not just from study, it comes from lived experience.A hospital bed became my greatest teacher — not knowing whether I would see my three children again. That was when I finally realised: success means nothing without sustainable health.Since that day, I've devoted my career to helping ambitious individuals secure the energy, clarity, and resilience their future demands. Using data-backed biohacking and personalised longevity strategies, I put tour healthspan potential back in your hands.What if you could have the vitality of 20, 30, 40 years ago??It's feasable.Key points of the episode:Living longer, fitter, better, healthier.Redefining "old" and "aging"How an optimist can add 7 years to their lives.How lifespam is determined by lifestyle.The importance of purpose.The "LQ" - Longevity Quotient.How to blend mindset and physical actions to optimise health - using leading edge technology.The AHEAD acronym.How self care should be bespoke to the individual and fun!The Million Hour Club - and what it is.How what we do in this decade determines the next one..."Sniper alley" - What is it and is it a thing?"Inflammaging" - what is it?How to take control of your own health and how the choice is yours.The incredible opportunities to thrive that exist as you read this. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Helen Margaret Lederer (born 24 September 1954 is a British comedian, writer and actress who emerged as part of the alternative comedy boom at the beginning of the 1980s. Among her television credits are the BBC2 sketch series Naked Video and BBC One's Absolutely Fabulous, in which she played the role of Catriona.In 2015, her comedy novel Losing It was published by Pan Macmillan It was nominated for the P.G. Wodehouse Comedy Literary Award and the Edinburgh Book Festival First Book Award.She recently released a biography,  " Not That I'm Bitter" she wanted people to connect with her experiences in a humourous way. At the time of writing she is in a run starring in the stage version of Fawlty Towers.In 2018, Lederer launched a new literary prize for comic fiction written by women. The 2019 published winner of the CWIP award was The Exact Opposite of Okay by Lauren Steven- Kirsty Eyre was the inaugural winner of the unpublished prize with her comic novel, Cow Girl, which was published in 2020. The 2020 awards added a humorous graphic novel prize.The award was created because of dissatisfaction with the Bollinger Everyman Wodehouse Prize , which was not awarded in 2018 and had up to that point only been won by a woman three times.Key points of this episode:How writing her book gave her a second confidence,,How people were not mean about woman in comedy back then as such, but it was simply a different time.How she "accidentally" stole someones comedy partner for a year!Her thoughts on comedy, connection with an audience and performance.What can make an audiance angry.Her book - "Not that I'm bitter"Her run being on the stage version of Fawlty Towers.Her appearance on "The Pilgrimage"You can see more about this talented lady here:@helenlederer on X and Instagram Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

From her website:Since I could first hold a pencil I have been writing stories. It was my most enjoyable hobby and one I never expected would become a career in adulthood. I am so lucky to do something I adore and luckier still that you, my readers, enable me to do it. For that I am incredibly grateful.Over the last four decades my love of storytelling has never changed, the only thing that has changed is my audience (once only me), which now includes you! I hope to carry you away to sunnier shores, while at the same time to remind you of all that is wonderful about England. Above all, my novels are about love – not just romantic love, but Love with a capital L, because when you boil life down to its essence, love is what you’ll find. I hope to sweep you away, to make you laugh and cry in equal measure, but most of all to make it possible for you to escape for a while.Key Points of the Episode:How her extraordinary childhood spiritual experiences now influence her writing.The complex and enthralling (yet hard to plot) storyline of her new book.How we all lose (but can relatively easily regain) our psychic ability.How she was visited by her sister (who was not alive) - seriously!How people many times come round to the idea.Her ghastly book tours!How she came back from the ghastly book tours- and how you need to be a rock star to break America!How she never believed she would have 34 books in her!Her key to a 34 year marriage!www.santamontefiore.co.ukEmail through contact in website Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

From the website:My determination to reduce my dementia risk grew out of my personal story.I spent 12 years caring for my mum, who had severe dementia. When she was diagnosed, I was 36 years old with a toddler, new born and a full-time job. My world was turned upside down – not only was I mum, wife, boss, I was now a carer too. What made this even harder to bear was that, as a teenager, I’d watched my mum going through the same thing with her mother. Now, I have two teenage daughters myself and I do everything I can to reduce the chance that they will have to look after me.I started researching everything I could about ageing well. I read a PhD paper, claiming that a healthy lifestyle at 50 reduces the risk of dementia, by up to 90%. This research is controversial – that’s a huge reduction – but at the time it felt like the sun bursting through some very dark clouds. Most importantly, it gave me a sense of purpose: an idea that I could change the way I age.  So I spent years studying scientific data on healthy ageing, Qualifying as a health coach and overhauling my own health. And guess what? I’ve found that as I’ve worked to do all I can to prevent dementia, I feel better than ever right now. And I want to share that with you.Key Points of the episode:How the greatest relationship you can have is with your brain.How to interpret the information without the hype...And how it can be applied to your life (especially as a busy working mum!)How her Mum was diagnosed with dementia at when Susan was 36.How suspected dementia is not always accurate and needs addressing differently.How she helps people with the 6 pillars of brain health.(eg bright coloured and crufiferous veg have been shown to lower dementia risk)...and strength training...How novelty and difficulty are really helpful.www.agewellproject.comhttp://www.susansaundershealth.comSee her 3 books available here.More group coaching coming soon. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

From her website: Anne Sebba HistorianWelcome to 2025! Worries about Covid may have receded but war, brutality and uncertainty are still with us four years on. So it has seemed fitting that I have been researching a new book about a grim subject for grim times… the extraordinary story of the Women’s Orchestra of Auschwitz. It’s about female solidarity and the redemptive power of music as well as survival against the odds and will be published in March 2025 in the UK to commemorate the 80th anniversary of the liberation of the camps. there are various translations planned in the course of 2025 and 2026! watch this space.  2023 was the 70th anniversary of the execution of Ethel Rosenberg, electrocuted for for Conspiracy to Commit Espionage without any evidence against her, and I was very honoured that my biography of Ethel was published in France. Having spent years thinking about one woman in one prison, I am now contemplating the lives of hundreds of women in one of the most appalling prisons in history.  Living in isolation during Covid helped me a little in my understanding of the tragedy which befell Ethel.  But entering imaginatively into the lives of women in Auschwitz is a far harder task and listening to their testimonies (thankfully there are hundreds of these online) does keep me awake at night. I never forget that as the great giant of biography Richard Holmes wrote, self identification with one’s subject is the first crime of the biographer, but it still is a kind of duty to try and help the women who survived as well as those who did not bear witness to what they saw. I tried to tell the story of an era through the story of a woman, Ethel Rosenberg, I shall try and do the same with the current book.Incidentally Ethel has a variety of titles – An American Tragedy in the US Ethel Rosenberg: A Cold War Tragedy in the UK and for the paperback it is called The Short life and Great betrayal of an American wife and mother.My previous book was published on July 14th 2016 – Bastille Day –  Les Parisiennes, about women in Paris from 1939-49, in US, UK, France, Czech Republic, China and other countries. There are stories in it about resisters, collaborators, spies, writers and actresses, couturiers and jewellery designers, housewives, concierges and prostitutes. It won a prize and is being turned into a multi-part screenplay for TV (watch this space!)  I have always been fascinated by French History and the reverberations from this period are still being felt in the country today. Although I loved writing the story of Wallis Simpson (and she even has a cameo role in this book) I wanted to write a book of history this time and move away from biography for a change.For two years of my research I was chair of the Management Committee of Britain’s Society of Authors, a great honour and privilege in  difficult and challenging times for authors as the Society fights for Authors’ rights in a number of areas and is desperately needed. I am now on the SOA Council. But when I am not busy reading or reviewing someone else’s book, I will be concentrating on talking about my books, including Les Parisiennes. As any writer will tell you, you never quite leave your old books behind. New material keeps coming your way and you are constantly re thinking your work!In 2011, I published That Woman: a life of Wallis Simpson Duchess of Windsor in the UK alongside a C4 television documentary ba Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

WELCOME TO SEASON 3!Sarah Rosemary Vine was born in Swansea, Wales on 16 April 1967.When she was five, the family moved to Italy, initially staying in Rome before moving to Frascati. After graduation, Vine worked in customer services for the retailer Hobbs Ltd. She then worked in a series of jobs within journalism, including TV listings sub at the Daily Mirror and features editor for the magazine Tatler before joining The Times. She was promoted to arts editor at that newspaper.And now, she ia an author and in this podcast you will understand why and perhaps have a shift in perception....Key points of the episode:Her new book, as the ex of Michael Gove, "How not to be a political wife"How being in those circles makes you very much having (if you'll pardon the pun)  -toe the party line.Her "Lady Macbeth" moment....and the fallout of that.What it feels like to have horrible things written about you in the paper.How she feels the need to "have a conversation" with the reader and share who she really is.Her parents, and how they have affected her.Her people pleasing tendencies.How she feels about her upcoming book tour. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

In this anonymous episode we talk to "Mary" who shares her experience of coercive control. **TRIGGER WARNING**How coercive control is hard to notice until you are out of it.How it tends to happen slowly.How, 30 years ago, the words "Coercive Control" wew not even in our lexicon.The stages of coercive control and how red flags can be innocently and easily missed.How she hated being married and how it started to go wrong in a year.How it lasted over two and a half decades.When the physical violence kicked in and how to the police at the time it was "just a domestic"The divorce process and avoiding manipulation.Her experience of gaslighting.How materially "on paper" she had everything, but was screaming inside.How she has recently- very very recently found her sensible side.The reasons why people stay - the rationale they use to stay.Her new, free life and what she most desires now.For obvious reasons there are no contact details here.We hope this podcast has helped and inspired you.If you have been affected by anything you have heard here - support and help can be found here:https://www.womensaid.org.uk Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/