Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Melanie Curtin
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Feb 18, 2022 • 51min

192: Opposites attract, but can they repair? (ft. Azrya & Benjamin Bequer)

When you're in a relationship, how do you navigate the really hard conversations — the ones where you know you could be risking everything by even engaging the topic. Like, for example, "I want kids" when you know the other person doesn't. Coordinating moments or even long periods of tension in a relationship with grace is part of what a healthy relationship is about. But it turns out you need to have a strong relationship with something else to even be able to do that in a romantic partnership. Listen for what that is.Benjamin & Azrya's site: https://www.beqoming.meTheir IG: @beqoming
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Feb 11, 2022 • 1h 5min

191: Supporting a woman in her sexual pleasure & healing (ft. Violet Lange & Keri Nola) [replay]

Sexual trauma shows up in different ways — both physically and emotionally. For example, some folks may not have undergone sexual abuse or assault, but have experienced religious trauma that actually impacts their physical body and experience of sex. If you've ever had a woman partner who struggled with vaginismus, vaginal dryness, sexual trauma, or other issues with ladyparts, you'll appreciate this non-judgmental, open conversation about sexual pleasure on the feminine side. Topics include vaginal steaming, the jade egg, sexual healing, and more. Plus shifts in levels of libido (what if hers is higher?) and how lubrication changes over time.Violet's site: https://violetlange.com/
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Feb 4, 2022 • 54min

190: Responding to a woman's criticism masterfully (ft. Jason Lange)

Ever wished you were better at receiving feedback in dating or relationship? For many men, it's a challenge to respond with grace instead of defensively when getting hard feedback – especially from a woman. Here, Jason shares how he has grown in his own marriage around feedback, criticism, and expression. (We also acknowledge that there's a difference between a woman shaming you and offering you a heart-based message.) When you can skillfully incorporate feedback, it's extremely nourishing to women. Master this, and you'll often have a woman who wants to open herself to you in a number of ways, including sexually. Who doesn't want hot, openhearted sex?Jason's site: https://evolutionary.men/
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Jan 28, 2022 • 50min

189: GirlTalk: Does size matter?

Yep, we're talkin' about cocks! When it comes to penises, there are all different kinds, and as women who have sex with men we've seen a whole variety. Sex, dating, and relationships with penis-owners wouldn't be the same without that magical appendage. Your cock is sacred and we love it. Here we discuss whether size matters in sex, and what kind of cock play we enjoy. ;)My sex research and course mentioned in this episode: www.pleaseherinbed.com
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Jan 21, 2022 • 46min

188: Want to date well? Getting to the "hard stuff" fast can help (ft. CanWe founder Russ Haywood)

Ever been frustrated by the dating apps? If so, you're not alone -- studies show 40-50% of people using them are frustrated! Maybe there's a better way to evaluate your fit with someone, and be guided through the "hard" questions that can make or break a relationship (even if it's casual). CanWe is a dating/relationship guidance application that helps potential new couples get to know one another in a new way. Imagine being able to see how your new dating partner actually feels about having kids, critical political issues, sharing finances, or polyamory in a smooth way, without having to "pry" or ask questions that might feel too personal too soon.
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Jan 14, 2022 • 1h

187: Sex worker talks virgins & threesomes & brothels, oh my! (ft. Alice Little)

Ever wondered what it's like to work at a high-end, legal brothel? Alice Little, attuned sex worker and essentially intimacy coach, discusses her work with men, women, and everyone in between — including neuro-divergent men who are first-timers when it comes to sex, as well as what it's like guiding a couple through their first threesome. We also talk about sex toys, legalization, and what Alice's dating life is like!
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Jan 7, 2022 • 1h 4min

186: GirlTalk: Approaching us in the wild (the "cold approach") [replay]

Ever seen an attractive woman at a coffee shop, grocery store, or just on the street who you'd love to get to know -- but don't know how to approach her? It can feel challenging to "cold approach" in a way that feels safe to her. Here, four of us women who have sex with men share stories about times a man approached us that didn't feel so great, and times when it was fantastic! Dating and relationships can feel daunting but can actually be smooth; it always helps to get an insider view.
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Dec 31, 2021 • 57min

185: A Sex Journal for Couples (ft. Levina Li & Caleb Spaulding) [replay]

Both men and women want even better, more connected sex (for that matter, who doesn't)? Whether you're having casual sex, in a dating relationship, or married, all couples can use a boost when it comes to high-quality communication about sex. This is a great episode for those who want an easy way to deepen their sex life.
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Dec 24, 2021 • 1h 7min

184: GirlTalk: Men, money, and masculinity

What if she makes more than you -- or vice versa? Should you pay for dates or go Dutch, and is one of those somehow rude/sexist? How do women really feel about the connection between finances and masculinity? Here, we reveal how we feel about men, money, connection, vulnerability, and love.
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Dec 17, 2021 • 50min

183: "I'm fine." Handling passive aggression with grace (ft. Jason Lange)

Mixed messages in your relationship can be one of the most frustrating elements of communication. Whether it's about sex, love, or something in between, what do you do when you think your partner is upset but they say everything's fine? How do you handle little jabs -- and what do you do when you're the one issuing them? Here we discuss the ins and outs of passive aggression, as well as what healthy anger looks and sounds like (yes, healthy anger is a good thing). Grasping the dynamics of passive aggression and how to handle things instead could just save your relationship -- or help you build a better, healthier, and more rewarding one in the future.

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