Black Girl Burnout

In this nourishing and mindset-shifting episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley reclaims the word “budget” and reframes it as an act of radical self-love. Instead of treating budgeting as punishment, she introduces the concept of “soft-life budgeting”—a compassionate, values-driven approach that centers rest, joy, and protection. If traditional budgeting has ever felt restrictive or shame-based, this episode is your invitation to rewrite the rules.💡 Today You’ll Learn:Why budgeting should feel like a love letter, not a lectureHow racism, classism, and trauma shape our relationship with moneyWhat it means to create a soft-life budget rooted in joy and nervous system regulationThree key categories of a self-love budget: joy-centered spending, self-protection, and boundariesThis episode is all about aligning your money with your values and creating space for abundance, rest, and peace. It’s budgeting, but make it soft, intentional, and healing.✨ Episode Highlights: 01:06 Reframing budgeting as a form of self-love 03:00 Why traditional budgeting methods often fail us 05:18 Understanding the roots of financial trauma 07:37 What a soft-life budget actually looks like 10:06 Joy-centered spending, safety essentials, and healthy financial boundaries 14:04 Rituals and practices to make budgeting sacredThis isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present. Tune in and learn how to design a financial life that reflects who you are, protects your peace, and prioritizes your joy.Ways To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (Goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently. Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: Substack🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Want To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.com#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this eye-opening and affirming episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley unpacks the powerful connection between burnout and your bank account. If you’ve ever looked at your finances and felt exhausted, overwhelmed, or ashamed—this one’s for you. Burnout isn’t just emotional—it shows up in how we spend, overgive, and self-soothe with money. But with softness, intention, and joy-first budgeting, we can start to opt out of burnout spending and into financial ease.💡 Today You’ll Learn:How exhaustion and emotional depletion impact your spending habitThe difference between life-giving and life-draining expensesWhy budgeting should be a reflection of your values—not just your billsHow to create a “joy-first” budget that honors rest, softness, and self-loveThis episode is a gentle invitation to do a financial energy audit and begin aligning your spending with what truly nourishes you. No shame. Just awareness, intention, and healing.✨ Episode Highlights: 01:06 The emotional roots of burnout spending 03:00 Why burnout leads to impulsive and avoidant spending 05:18 Introducing “joy-first” budgeting 08:00 How to align your finances with your values 10:24 Doing a 7-day life-giving vs. life-draining spending audit 15:00 Reframing budgeting as self-love in actionYou don’t need to overhaul everything—just start with noticing. With tenderness and grace, you can rebuild your relationship with money from a place of joy and rest.Ways To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (Goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently. Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: Substack🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Want To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.com#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Explore the journey towards financial peace and break free from the anxiety often tied to money. Discover how success can be redefined beyond societal pressures and flashy purchases. Learn practical steps to shift from a scarcity mindset to one of ease and abundance. Embrace the emotional complexity of managing finances, particularly for Black women, and prioritize feelings of safety and alignment over mere financial goals. It's time to heal your relationship with money and reclaim your financial power.

In this uplifting and transformative episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley explores the power of opting into joy and allowing life to get sweeter with time. Healing isn’t about grand gestures or one-time breakthroughs—it’s about the small, daily choices that shape a life of peace and ease. Through personal reflections and powerful metaphors, Kelley unpacks the importance of emotional conditioning and the power of consistent, intentional self-care.💡 Today You’ll Learn:Why healing is a daily practice, not a one-time eventHow emotional conditioning can create lasting joy and easeThe importance of small, intentional choices in building a fulfilling lifePractical ways to integrate rest, joy, and self-affirmation into your routineThis episode is an invitation to shift your mindset, embrace ease, and choose practices that make life sweeter. It’s time to move beyond survival and into a space where peace becomes second nature.✨ Episode Highlights:01:06 The myth of overnight transformation 02:44 The power of emotional conditioning and daily reps 05:18 Personal reflections on healing and growth 09:09 Practical ways to choose joy and ease daily 15:07 Celebrating your progress and embracing a sweeter lifeTune in and take a step towards making joy, rest, and ease - your birthright. Let your life be sweet—and let it get sweeter with time.Ways To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently. Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: Substack🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Want To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.comBGB Community Minute l Aline LopesATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.Note From Aline Lopes:My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.About The Play:The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025. The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering. This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible. Where:Strand Theater543 Columbia RdDorchester,, MA 02125When:Friday April 4, 2025Saturday April 5, 2025Attire:Evening / Cocktail AttireTime:The play begins at 7pm - 8:30 (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time. Art:We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery. Purchase Your Ticket:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-many-faces-of-the-strong-black-woman-the-dark-day-tickets-1242367557809?aff=oddtdtcreatorLearn More About This Organizationhttps://www.thecrewproductions.com/#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this powerful and truth-telling episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley unpacks a hard but necessary reality: you can’t perform your way into healing. We often use relationships, achievements, and overgiving as survival tools, but true healing requires something different—softness, presence, and rest.💡 Today You’ll Learn:Why survival tools are not the same as healing practicesHow overachieving, overgiving, and over-controlling keep us stuckThe importance of rewriting the narratives we’ve carried for so longPractical ways to embrace softness, rest, and true intimacy with yourselfThis episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and start moving differently in your life. It's time to choose healing over performance and create space for the sweetness that comes with doing the real work.✨ Episode Highlights:01:06 The trap of performing your way through life02:44 Personal experiences with survival vs. healing05:18 The societal rewards of overgiving and overachieving09:09 The importance of rewriting our internal narratives10:50 Practical steps for stepping into softness and true rest15:07 Final thoughts and next steps in your healing journeyWays To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently. Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: Substack🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Want To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.comBGB Community Minute l Aline LopesATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.Note From Aline Lopes:My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.About The Play:The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025. The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering. This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible. Where:Strand Theater543 Columbia RdDorchester,, MA 02125When:Friday April 4, 2025Saturday April 5, 2025Attire:Evening / Cocktail AttireTime:The play begins at 7pm - 8:30 (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time. Art:We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery. Purchase Your Ticket:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-many-faces-of-the-strong-black-woman-the-dark-day-tickets-1242367557809?aff=oddtdtcreatorLearn More About This Organizationhttps://www.thecrewproductions.com/#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this closing episode of the series, Kelley concludes her conversation with Resmaa—the first male guest on the podcast—for a profound discussion on healing, embodiment, and the power of taking the time to “Be”. Together, they explore the deep-rooted impact of generational trauma, the necessity of somatic healing, and why true transformation happens in the body, not just the mind.💡 Today You’ll Learn:Why healing must be embodied, not just intellectualizedThe role of community in breaking cycles of traumaHow discomfort signals growth and expansion✨ Episode Highlights: 01:15 Welcoming Resmaa and the Importance of Embodiment 05:40 The Weight of Generational Trauma and Its Impact 10:25 Discomfort as a Pathway to Growth 14:10 Healing Through Collective Support 18:30 Closing Reflections and What Comes NextThis final conversation is an invitation to embrace healing on a deeper level and to step fully into the work of transformation. Tune in for a thought-provoking and moving conclusion to this series with Resmaa.Ways To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently.🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: SubstackWant To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.comConnect With Resmaa MenakemWeb: www.resmaa.com www.culturalsomaticsuniversity.thinkrific.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.com/subscriptions/Instagram:@resmaamenakemBGB Community Minute l Aline LopesATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.Note From Aline Lopes:My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.About The Play:The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025. The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering. This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible. Where:Strand Theater543 Columbia RdDorchester,, MA 02125When:Friday April 4, 2025Saturday April 5, 2025Attire:Evening / Cocktail AttireTime:The play begins at 7pm - 8:30  (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time. Art:We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery. Purchase Your Ticket:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-many-faces-of-the-strong-black-woman-the-dark-day-tickets-1242367557809?aff=oddtdtcreatorLearn More About This Organizationhttps://www.thecrewproductions.com/#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this vulnerable and reflective episode, Kelley shares a truth many high-achieving Black women can relate to: she’s been hiding—and it’s been holding her back. She introduces the concept of the visibility wound, unpacks the connection between undergiving and burnout, and shares what’s changing on the podcast to support your healing in real-time.💡 Today You'll Learn:Why the visibility wound runs so deep in our communityThe connection between undergiving and hidingWhat’s changing with the podcast (👀 hello new cadence!)And a preview of a powerful new free guide to help you start showing up fullyThis episode is a loving truth-telling moment—and a call to begin practicing presence, visibility, and self-honoring in everyday life.✨ Episode Highlights: 01:06 The Visibility Wound in the Black Community02:44 Personal Achievements and Professional Background05:18 Addressing the Visibility Wound09:09 Changes to the Podcast Schedule10:50 Upcoming Tools and Resources15:07 Encouragement and Final ThoughtsWays To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently. Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: Substack🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Want To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.comConnect With Resmaa MenakemWeb: www.resmaa.com www.culturalsomaticsuniversity.thinkrific.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.com/subscriptions/Instagram:@resmaamenakemBGB Community Minute l Aline LopesATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.Note From Aline Lopes:My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.About The Play:The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025. The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering. This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible. Where:Strand Theater543 Columbia RdDorchester,, MA 02125When:Friday April 4, 2025Saturday April 5, 2025Attire:Evening / Cocktail AttireTime:The play begins at 7pm - 8:30 (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time. Art:We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery. Purchase Your Ticket:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-many-faces-of-the-strong-black-woman-the-dark-day-tickets-1242367557809?aff=oddtdtcreatorLearn More About This Organizationhttps://www.thecrewproductions.com/#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Relationships should be a place of rest—but what if they often feel like the opposite?In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, host Kelley Bonner dives deeper into the spirit of annihilation—a concept introduced by Resmaa Menakem—to explore how inherited trauma fuels conflict in Black relationships. She unpacks how historical wounds manifest in our interactions today and why choosing rest is a radical act of healing.But here’s the truth: Healing doesn’t come from ignoring the wounds or making excuses. It comes from recognizing the ways we perpetuate cycles of harm, setting boundaries, and choosing rest as a form of resistance.Kelley Highlights✅ The difference between frustration and the spirit of annihilation—and why it matters✅How generational trauma shapes Black relationships today✅Why cultivating accountability is an act of love✅ A new approach to healing—by rejecting toxicity and embracing restIf love has ever felt exhausting, if relationships have left you feeling drained—this episode is for you. Because healing begins when we stop making excuses and start making space for peace.Ways To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently. Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: Substack🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Want To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.comConnect With Resmaa MenakemWeb: www.resmaa.com www.culturalsomaticsuniversity.thinkrific.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.com/subscriptions/Instagram:@resmaamenakemBGB Community Minute l Aline LopesATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.Note From Aline Lopes:My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.About The Play:The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025. The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering. This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible. Where:Strand Theater543 Columbia RdDorchester,, MA 02125When:Friday April 4, 2025Saturday April 5, 2025Attire:Evening / Cocktail AttireTime:The play begins at 7pm - 8:30  (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time. Art:We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery. Purchase Your Ticket:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-many-faces-of-the-strong-black-woman-the-dark-day-tickets-1242367557809?aff=oddtdtcreatorLearn More About This Organizationhttps://www.thecrewproductions.com/#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Relationships should be a place of safety—but what if they often feel like the opposite? In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, we explore what Resmaa Menakem calls annihilation energy—the deep, destructive force that lives in our bodies and relationships due to inherited trauma. We unpack how Black Men and Women engage with each other, the unspoken tensions that shape our connections, and why healing is more than just self-care—it’s an act of resistance.But here’s the truth: Healing doesn’t come from tips and quick fixes. It comes from deep inquiry, from tending to the wounds we’ve inherited and the ones we’ve created. It requires learning new ways to be with ourselves and each other.Kelley & Resmaa Highlight✨ The difference between anger and annihilation energy—and why it matters✨ How historical trauma shapes our relationships today✨ Why safety and tenderness must be cultivated, not assumed✨ A new way to approach healing—without urgency or shameIf love has ever felt like a battleground, if connection sometimes feels impossible—this episode is for you. Because healing begins when we stop fighting and start tending.Ways To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently.🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Stay engaged! Follow us on Substack: SubstackWant To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.comConnect With Resmaa MenakemWeb: www.resmaa.com www.culturalsomaticsuniversity.thinkrific.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.com/subscriptions/Instagram:@resmaamenakemBGB Community Minute l Aline LopesATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.Note From Aline Lopes:My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.About The Play:The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025. The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering. This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible. Where:Strand Theater543 Columbia RdDorchester,, MA 02125When:Friday April 4, 2025Saturday April 5, 2025Attire:Evening / Cocktail AttireTime:The play begins at 7pm - 8:30  (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time. Art:We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery. Purchase Your Ticket:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-many-faces-of-the-strong-black-woman-the-dark-day-tickets-1242367557809?aff=oddtdtcreatorLearn More About This Organizationhttps://www.thecrewproductions.com/#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, host Kelley Bonner is getting real about reciprocity—what it means, how we often block it, and why it’s time to shift our mindset. Too often, we take from the spaces that pour into us—our friendships, our communities, and even the creators and entrepreneurs who inspire us—without giving back.This conversation isn’t about guilt; it’s about unlearning old habits and making reciprocity a daily practice. If we truly believe in community and abundance, then we must match our actions to our values.Kelley shares:✅ The ways reciprocity (or the lack of it) shows up in our relationships and communities✅ How the legacy of over-giving has shaped Black women’s experiences✅ Simple, actionable ways to give back daily (and they take less than 5 minutes!)✅ A direct challenge to listeners: Let’s get Black Girl Burnout to 1,000 reviews on Apple & Spotify!Let’s make reciprocity a movement—together! If this podcast has poured into you, this is your moment to give backWays To Support The Podcast:⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify (goal: 1,000 reviews!)📲 Follow on TikTok & Instagram (@blackgirlburnout)💬 Tag a Black creator, artist, or entrepreneur you’ve supported recently. ⭐ Stay engaged! Follow us on SubStack: SubStack🎧 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!👉 Let’s continue this conversation: What’s one act of reciprocity you’ve done this week? DM us or comment on our latest IG post!Remember, support isn’t just about money. Visibility, engagement, and amplification matter, too.Want To Partner With Black Girl Burnout: sponsorships@blackgirlburnout.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.comConnect With Resmaa MenakemWeb: www.resmaa.com www.culturalsomaticsuniversity.thinkrific.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.comhttps://blackoctopussociety.com/subscriptions/Instagram:@resmaamenakem#BlackGirlBurnout #OptOutOfStruggle #ReciprocityMatters #SupportBlackWomenOur Sponsors:* Check out Global Healing: https://globalhealing.com/healAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy