Unashamed Unafraid

Sathiya Sam is an author, and recovery coach and pastor for recovery. Sathiya is very passionate about this because he struggled with getting free from addiction and was frustrated by the lack of resources available for those who struggle with addiction and want to get out. Have a listen to his story and a taste of his book.

Oftentimes men feel the need to fight their battles alone out of fear of appearing weak and incapable. A brotherhood can remind them that they’re not alone. In a brotherhood men truly care for each other and within the brotherhood there is safety to talk about any aspect of your life. CT, Doug, and Seth join Steve and Jason to discuss what their brotherhood means to them and how it was formed through vulnerability with each other. They talk openly about how they’ve battled for each other’s hearts. This episode illustrates that you don’t need to live within a certain proximity of others to form a brotherhood of your own. If this episode resonates with you, or you know someone who might benefit from it, please feel free to share the link to the episode with them.  At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.

After Devin and Tanna agreed to tell their story on Unashamed Unafraid, they faced unexpectedly difficult obstacles and even thought about turning the car around on their way to the recording. We're very glad they fought through so we could share this beautiful episode that shines a light of hope on the sometimes very messy and confusing processes of recovery and healing. Devin and Tanna share helpful insights through their story. Tanna talks about discovering the reality of pornography and later shares a personal story of childhood rejection and confirms that it matters. They share about their marriage today and Devin describes discovering that he's not alone in his addiction. You may just shed a tear when right there in the recording room, God confirms that he loves him deeply.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.

Unashamed and unafraid, Josh boldly shares his story of a poser life by day and a life of acting out with multiple partners while trying to keep it a secret from his first wife by night. But now Josh is willing to give up everything to God to make things right and get back into good standing with his church, his family, and start new with his second wife Heather and her kids. Heather’s story is one of struggling with her first husband who was also an addict. Thinking “never again” she was surprised to feel at peace when Josh revealed his struggles with his addiction and she found that the secrecy of her first husband hurt worse than the acting out. Within a week of her divorce being finalized, she said yes to Josh’s proposal two years ago despite him confessing to her when he’d been having a hard day and relapsed.Josh’s story is one of redemption from living in his car to living his best life with Heather. Thinking he’d have to spend as many years in recovery as he’d spent in addiction, Josh has found Christ’s healing powers are not confined to the constraints of a calendar or stopwatch. Heather’s story is one of  continual work on their marriage and Heather has loved seeing how open Josh is to sharing his story to help others come out of shame and fear to embrace recovery and strengthen their relationship with Christ. Now their teenage boys are counting down the days until they are old enough to go to a warrior bootcamp weekend and are actively seeking out peers who are struggling. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.  Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid. 

We at Unashamed Unafraid are just like you. Over the past year, we've struggled and experienced failures and successes as God has tried us, changed us and loved us. In this episode, we invite you to get to know us better as we share our favorite episodes and worship songs of 2022 and speak to our own personal struggles and growth. In addition, we celebrate what 2022 has meant to the podcast. Learn how donations have been used, about our new volunteer team members and about our vision for the future.Most importantly, we follow our hearts to bring you hope and God's love in your own personal journeys to become unashamed of sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. God's hope is 100 percent real. We're evidence of it.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ. Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid"Music used with permission by: Hotham - Paradise Hope, Serge Quadrado - Sunrise Piano and Faith and Hope"

“Criticism isn’t something to avoid. It is something you should expect when you are making it big.”Sometimes our experiences can bring us more insight than years of study and practice.  In this episode Smith Alley at age 18 shares perspectives and insights that rival therapists.  Smith had a “normal” life growing up. He had a mom and a dad who showed him love and he thought he was going to conquer the world. However, at age 6 his confidence came crashing down on him. You see, he had a stutter that when he was nervous would derail the train from his head to his mouth. After he stumbled through introducing himself to his first grade class, he sat down, and immediately, he felt his identity attacked when a girl innocently asked, “Why don’t you talk right?” The adversary coaxed Smith into latching onto that identity and wearing it around his neck.This made Smith feel like a fraud so he isolated himself but on the outside always grinning and bearing the sadness.  At age 9 Smith innocently stumbled onto pornography. He did not think much of it until almost 10 months later. He was feeling so sad that his mind went back to when he saw his first pornographic image. So he consumed more and more. Five years later, at the peak of his addiction,  Smith describes himself as not feeling anything. He wasn’t sad, he wasn’t happy, he was just numb. He really liked this girl and she liked him. They both were consuming porn and decided to try some of the things they had seen. After the first encounter, Smith finally started to feel something. He remembers walking away from that experience and crying. He felt something! He decided that he wanted to get his life back and broke things off with this girl. She was hurt and decided to lie and told her parents that Smith had forced her to have sex with him. That is when the facade came crashing down and his parents knew the truth. The best thing that could have ever happened was his mom coming to him and saying, “Smith, I am going to fight for you but you must fight for yourself too!”  Smith said he was willing to and attended the appointment she had scheduled with his church leader to talk to him about his addiction and the charges against him. Smith was extremely afraid of his church leader, however, his fears were calmed by a hug and the comfort he felt from Jesus Christ.Since this experience, Smith has organized a non-profit organization which fights against pornography. He is a big advocate of not holding kids back. At 18 years old, he is making a difference in the world, living his best life. The song he shares at the end of this episode speaks to how emotionally connected he is to His Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ.If you want to be able to think differently about generation Z, you need to listen to this episode. Smith Alley shares so many great inspirational ideas and thoughts that it will change your perspective about Generation Z! If you think someone can benefit from this episode, we suggest you share it with them. We here, like Smith Alley are unashamed about our struggles with addiction, and unafraid of the healing power of Jesus Christ. If you want to know more you can find us on social media, Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.

Choosing to Live in ExpectancyJoin us as Steve and James sit down with Magic Marc once again, to explore the topics of living with expectations versus living in expectancy. Marc explains that living with expectations means we have a tight attachment to end results.  Those expectations are actually just premeditated resentments. Often we place the highest expectations on ourselves. This can cause us to feel shame when we aren’t able to meet those expectations. So, when you are trying to avoid carrying around unresolved resentments, how do you live without expectations?  Marc’s solution is to live in expectancy.  What does living in expectancy mean? Living in expectancy helps us to have a looser grip on life. It allows room for God, creativity, and breathing. Expectancy allows the space and grace for imperfections and curiosity. It also allows for the spontaneity of the moment to arise. Steve, Kayla, and James share their personal experiences of where they have set expectations.  Marc helps them explore what living in expectancy can mean for them and as you listen you are invited to find where you can live in expectancy too.  To learn more about Marc Pimbsler visit his website at https://marcpimsler.com or tune into his podcast The Magic Well.  If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who might benefit from it, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.  Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.

D.J. Bishop is a client centered, experiential therapist, dedicated to helping people transform their life stories. His work focuses on supporting his clients in identifying and challenging harmful narratives and cultivating more connected relationships with themselves, their loved ones, and the world around them. D.J. is a unique therapist in that he “walks the walk.”  Everything he asks his clients to do he’s done for himself in his own personal therapy work which gives D.J. a unique perspective.  In this episode, James, Steve, and D.J. discuss humility, confidence, and self care. D.J. explains how the function of humility changes for a person as they work through a 12 step recovery program. Step one requires humility for a person to admit they need help. By the time they arrive at step seven, humility is now the way this person maintains serenity. Humility is also a vehicle for connection. It helps us acknowledge that we don't know everything or have all the answers and there’s something to gain through connecting with another person, a higher power, or the earth. D.J. describes confidence as being built upon self-worth which is derived from our level of self-care. The more we take time for self-care the more self-worth we will have, which in turn helps us feel more comfortable in our own skin. D.J. shares that in the same way addiction is a maladaptive form of self-care, recovery gives us an opportunity to reclaim our self-care for mind, body, and spirit. If you’re interested in working with D.J. you may contact him at the following:Richard “D.J.” Bishop LPC, LAChttps://www.djbtherapy.com/(850) 572-3178dj@djbtherapy.comIf this episode resonates with you, or you know someone who might benefit from it, please feel free to share the link to the episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.  Please subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid

The Sami Bingham StoryWhen I was eighteen years old. I did not have anything figured out. I knew that I had to go on a mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints; then go to school and get married. But what did I want to do? I had no clue what I wanted to do. That is not the case for Sami Bingham. She is a financial coach for her company Financial Business Solutions.She is a certified coach of Dave Ramsey Financial Solutions. Sami grew up in an artistic household. Her dad was an actor, director, producer and English major. Her mother was a dancer. So, naturally, she wanted to be on Broadway. She studied at Salt Lake School of performing arts. She also received a scholarship to the University of Utah to study musical theater. So, why is Sami’s name not on the big lights on Broadway right now? It is because she realized the environment within the performing arts was not a very secure and stable one. The culture can be very cutthroat and discouraging. That is when she went to her parents and told them she wanted to work individually with people and help them with their finances. So, naturally, performing arts goes hand in hand with accounting right? Sami found a lot of happiness in helping those people who could not see for themselves what money was doing to them and their relationships. She has some personal experience with this from her first marriage.There were times in her first marriage when she did not know where the money was coming from to pay bills. Her ex-husband would sell off personal items to pawn shops to cover bills. Her ex sold off a very expensive guitar to a pawn shop. Sami felt betrayed about this because she had given that guitar to him on their first anniversary. Sami realized that something had to change. She realized that she needed to change her view and behavior with money. She realized this type of behavior is also found in pretty much every addictive behavior. She was not proud of the life she was living. She felt unworthy of Christ’s love and therefore did not go to church or have much of a relationship with Him before she married her first husband. After she was married, she realized she needed Jesus Christ in her life. Through the dark days of her marriage she knew she could only rely on Christ.  She also has come clean about some struggles with porn addictions and has been sober since she started listening to the podcast. She wants those who are going through similar struggles with finances, betrayal or addictive behaviors to know they are stronger than they think they are. There is always a way out. We are all stronger for getting to know Sami. She is an amazing person that has lived through both sides of addiction. She has felt betrayal, and been the one struggling with addiction. If you would like to know more about Sami Bingham you can visit her website, https://ramseycoach.com/financial-behavior-solutions You can also find her on Instagram and Facebook @financialbehaviorsolutions.  We here at UnashamedUnafraid are also giving away two scholarships to Sami’s coaching classes. Please go to www.unashamedunafraid.com/scholarships for more information. If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who might benefit from it, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.  Subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid.

The only relationship you need in order to find recovery is with God.  In this episode, Jason jumps to the other side of the mic with Steve to talk to Troy about his journey through his addiction and subsequent divorce.  Growing up Troy held on to two beliefs.  The first, that he could never tell anyone about his addiction and second, that he would never be worthy.  He grew up feeling that he was his father’s least favorite son and translated some of that belief to his perception of how God saw him; feeling that he always had to prove he was worth something.  After serving a mission Troy quickly got married and he describes those early years of marriage as being very miserable because he felt unsafe to let his wife see any of his weaknesses.  Troy checked out of his marriage and fell hard back into his struggle with addiction which soon escalated.  He felt caught in the exhausting circle of trying to hide his addictive actions and still continue to seek addiction. Even with a second chance in his marriage, when he witnessed amazing changes in his wife, he struggled to overcome the shame of his previous actions and thought he didn’t deserve to be happy.  Troy shares how wonderful and supportive his wife was through his struggle. He admits he was white knuckling and while being stationed overseas he soon dove back into his addiction. His wife’s discovery brought an end to their marriage.  Troy tenderly shares the pain of his shame, and how encompassing it became.  His divorce brought on depression and suicidal thoughts.  Hope wasn’t immediate, but a sliver of hope came from hearing Chris and Autumn's story.  Troy learned that God speaks to him through stories and he shares some of those stories with Steve and Jason.   Through enduring the loss of his marriage he realized he needed to fight for his needs and for his relationship with his kids.  Troy found that in letting go of his need to validate his worthiness from others, his relationship with God deepened.  He now knows that God sees him as beloved, is crazy about him and about each one of us.If this episode resonates with you, or you know someone who might benefit from it, please feel free to share the link to the episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.  Please subscribe and follow us on Facebook and Instagram @UnashamedUnafraid