The Mark Groves Podcast

I am so excited to have Terri Cole back to dive deeper into codependency. I very much identify as recovering codependent, so there is no judgement at all when I say that so many of us have codependent traits that are holding us back from life and love. So many of us think we are helping others and that we would be selfish if we stopped caretaking other people’s needs. It’s human to want to care for others, it’s human to have deep empathy, but we cannot save people from themselves. We often don’t realise that our trying to save others means we are robbing another person of their own ability to take care of themselves or to become who they truly are. In all of the years I have been doing this work and the thousands and thousands of messages I receive, codependency is by far one of the biggest issues I see. That’s why I am so pumped to bring you ‘Crushing Codependency’ with Terri Cole. A 6-week interactive deep dive to free yourself from people-pleasing forever. Just us at http://crushcodependency.com/ I can’t wait to see you there!  ~ Discover: Myths about codependency What is a high-functioning codependent? How to unlearn codependency The biggest signs you are putting everyone else first The correlation between codependency, autoimmune and leaky gut Boundaries start with this How we rob each other from self-love and accountability What's below the escape? What's under "I just love big, that's all" How to have amazing outcomes in life and relationships   Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

After the murder of George Floyd and the protests across the globe that have followed, I have received hundreds of questions on the topic. The question that so many of you asked is ‘how do I have hard conversations about race?’ For many of us, we need to find ways to engage with our partners, family, friends and colleagues on issues that might be completely outside of our previous experience. Now is the time to step into the work of not only educating ourselves on racism but also leading these conversations effectively so that we can take others on the journey toward anti-racism too. That’s why I am bringing you an extended episode with Dr. Alexandra Solomon to answer this question in great detail. Dr. Solomon talks us through the 7 steps required to have conversations on racism that will help us build deeper connection, empathy and trust and ultimately help us in building a more loving society. Follow Rachel Rodgers https://www.instagram.com/rachrodgersesq/ Find Professor Ibram X Kendi at https://www.ibramxkendi.com/ Read Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s article here https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/loving-bravely/202006/how-talk-your-white-male-partner-about-race Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This week in a special episode I wanted to discuss some really challenging and common questions I receive. To make the “right” decisions in love is challenging. There are so many layers of conditioning which not only shape our fears, but also limit what we think we’re capable of. First, we look at whether we should leave when the passion dies, and why is it that passion often fades in long term relationships?! Next, we dive further into the subject of emotional unavailability. We explore the deeper levels of “friends with benefits”, as well as the fear of asking about our relationship status. And finally, we chat about inconsistent texting and what a lack of someone replying can mean. These are some of the most important questions that so many of us struggle with, join me! Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so grateful that my main man Sylvester McNutt took the time to talk us through this incredibly difficult topic—as it is happening right now in the United States. I cannot think of a more generous, loving and insightful soul to begin this conversation with. Sylvester walks us through his life in so many ways, the history, the suffering, the love and the connections. He calls us forward to do the work required to truly connect. There are so many gaps in our awareness and so many complications that we must step toward to resolve. I hope you will all answer this call with me and join us as we dive deeper in coming weeks. Join Sylvester’s text community at 310 340 1677 and his website at https://www.sylvestermcnutt.net/ The Willy Lynch letter http://www.finalcall.com/artman/publish/Perspectives_1/Willie_Lynch_letter_The_Making_of_a_Slave.shtml The Tulsa Race Riots https://www.tulsahistory.org/exhibit/1921-tulsa-race-massacre/ The Tuskegee Airmen in segregated armed forces https://www.history.com/topics/world-war-ii/tuskegee-airmen     Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Welcome to this short stream of consciousness. No guest, Just me sharing some thoughts on awareness that have been living in me lately. We must turn into the truth and build compassion for ourselves as a basis for building compassion for others. The audio quality on this isn’t great but in the spirit of letting things flow I knew I couldn’t re-record. I hope this episode finds you well. ~  Discover: What will you do with the truths inside of you? What happens when you believe you are the beautiful advisor of your life? What is better? Uncomfortable truths or comfortable lies? The beautiful invitation back to ourselves, kindness, grace and love Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

When people ask what I’ve studied, I immediately think of my dear friend, Louis Alloro. Louis is an incredible person who teaches, leads and trains others in positive psychology and change management. In this episode Louis helps us breakdown some of the fundamentals of positive psychology and change. What is it about change that is so difficult for us as humans? Why do we find change so confronting and disruptive? How can we make space for joy amidst uncertainty and confusion? As Louis says “Live your life with the knowing that at least one of the pillars of your major belief systems—most likely the one you cling to the most fiercely—is dead wrong.” ~ Discover What is so challenging about change? The 5 core pillars of our belief system Why we should never cling to one thing When you stay open to the way you see the world, you're free Well being is ______ How can we create positive change? We are not automatrons. Find your rituals. Find out more about Louis and his work here https://louisalloro.com/ Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Money is one of the top reasons for conflict in relationships and that is why the amazing Selina Gray is back this week. Selina is here to help us unpack our money story. That is, the beliefs we hold about money that shape the way we feel about ourselves. So many of us have unhealthy patterns with money, it could be overspending, or not feeling worthy of spending, or relying on money for a sense of self. While most of us understand that money can be a stressor and reason for conflict, few of us will have the chance to understand our money wounds and work to heal them. I hope this episode helps you begin on this journey. And if you want to go further you can join Selina and I, in our new deep dive money course 'Relationship To Money'. Find it at createthemoola.com! ~  Discover: Our relationship to money is directly connected with sense of self As soon as it feels hard and scary, roll up your sleeves What do we actually want with money? Family wiring around money and wealth Money just amplifies who we really are Wealth is a state of being Having courage and belief in yourself pays off No-name labels, luxury brands, shame, and the masks we wear Addiction, money, and proving yourself for worth As you change things, everything changes Join the Richness Revolution (formerly Money Boss) Facebook here! Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This week in a special episode I wanted to discuss a few issues that live below the surface of our relationships and lives. First, why do we only have “crazy chemistry” with people that aren’t good for us? And why, when we start setting boundaries do we sometimes start to lose that “spark” we once felt? We go deeper in this by discussing a question about how to end a trauma bond, if you haven’t heard about trauma bonding then this question is for you. We also discuss how to begin to set healthy boundaries in a relationship where there is a lack of trust or lack of emotional safety. And finally, the difficult question of whether to stay or go. These are some of the most important questions that so many of us struggle with, join me! ~  Discover Can we feel love if we feel whole and don't need anyone? Why do we find ourselves less attractive to our partners once we've done the work? Choosing ourselves and holding space for something new Men who stand up and what it means to women How to end a trauma bond Why are we obsessed with people who need to be fixed? Enabling and discovering the reward in patterns we choose Why we shrink in our relationships How do we know to stay or go? Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to bring a double dose of Mark this week as I welcome best selling author Mark Manson. Mark Manson has been an influential figure in my life and I’m sure many of you are also followers of his work — I mean who hasn’t read his book “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck”? Mark and I jam on some common challenges we both saw in our relationship coaching work. We also reflect on the idea of “doing the work” and how this can really become a sticking point for people in opening up to change. So often, the challenges we face and the things that we get stuck on are the same. We are all living different experiences, but so many of our biggest problems are the same. If you haven't already seen his work you will want to check it out https://markmanson.net/   Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This episode is especially vulnerable for me. I recognize that we are all coping with an incredibly difficult time in different ways right now. There is so much fear, uncertainty and distress that makes compassion and connection so much more difficult. Today I ask if you can hold space too? Holding space does not mean we must agree or arrive at a consensus, it means we still have compassion even when we feel differently than one another. So I ask not how are we different, but how we are similar? ~  Discover: When you're open to the way you see the world, you're free Can you hold space for other people's beliefs? What if you just stayed open? Why we should agree to the right to see things differently How to create harmony within yourself during challenging times What life is here to teach us Our Sponsors:* Check out Saily: https://saily.com* Head to Avocado today and save up to 20% on certified organic mattresses during their Labor Day Sale. https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands