This week in a special episode I wanted to discuss some really challenging and common questions I receive. To make the “right” decisions in love is challenging. There are so many layers of conditioning which not only shape our fears, but also limit what we think we’re capable of. First, we look at whether we should leave when the passion dies, and why is it that passion often fades in long term relationships?! Next, we dive further into the subject of emotional unavailability. We explore the deeper levels of “friends with benefits”, as well as the fear of asking about our relationship status. And finally, we chat about inconsistent texting and what a lack of someone replying can mean. These are some of the most important questions that so many of us struggle with, join me!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so grateful that my main man Sylvester McNutt took the time to talk us through this incredibly difficult topic—as it is happening right now in the United States. I cannot think of a more generous, loving and insightful soul to begin this conversation with. Sylvester walks us through his life in so many ways, the history, the suffering, the love and the connections. He calls us forward to do the work required to truly connect. There are so many gaps in our awareness and so many complications that we must step toward to resolve. I hope you will all answer this call with me and join us as we dive deeper in coming weeks.Join Sylvester’s text community at 310 340 1677 and his website at https://www.sylvestermcnutt.net/The Willy Lynch letter http://www.finalcall.com/artman/publish/Perspectives_1/Willie_Lynch_letter_The_Making_of_a_Slave.shtmlThe Tulsa Race Riots https://www.tulsahistory.org/exhibit/1921-tulsa-race-massacre/The Tuskegee Airmen in segregated armed forces https://www.history.com/topics/world-war-ii/tuskegee-airmen  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to this short stream of consciousness. No guest, Just me sharing some thoughts on awareness that have been living in me lately. We must turn into the truth and build compassion for ourselves as a basis for building compassion for others. The audio quality on this isn’t great but in the spirit of letting things flow I knew I couldn’t re-record. I hope this episode finds you well.~ Discover: What will you do with the truths inside of you? What happens when you believe you are the beautiful advisor of your life? What is better? Uncomfortable truths or comfortable lies? The beautiful invitation back to ourselves, kindness, grace and love See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When people ask what I’ve studied, I immediately think of my dear friend, Louis Alloro. Louis is an incredible person who teaches, leads and trains others in positive psychology and change management. In this episode Louis helps us breakdown some of the fundamentals of positive psychology and change. What is it about change that is so difficult for us as humans? Why do we find change so confronting and disruptive? How can we make space for joy amidst uncertainty and confusion? As Louis says “Live your life with the knowing that at least one of the pillars of your major belief systems—most likely the one you cling to the most fiercely—is dead wrong.”~Discover What is so challenging about change? The 5 core pillars of our belief system Why we should never cling to one thing When you stay open to the way you see the world, you're free Well being is ______ How can we create positive change? We are not automatrons. Find your rituals. Find out more about Louis and his work here https://louisalloro.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Money is one of the top reasons for conflict in relationships and that is why the amazing Selina Gray is back this week. Selina is here to help us unpack our money story. That is, the beliefs we hold about money that shape the way we feel about ourselves. So many of us have unhealthy patterns with money, it could be overspending, or not feeling worthy of spending, or relying on money for a sense of self. While most of us understand that money can be a stressor and reason for conflict, few of us will have the chance to understand our money wounds and work to heal them. I hope this episode helps you begin on this journey. And if you want to go further you can join Selina and I, in our new deep dive money course 'Relationship To Money'. Find it at createthemoola.com!~ Discover: Our relationship to money is directly connected with sense of self As soon as it feels hard and scary, roll up your sleeves What do we actually want with money? Family wiring around money and wealth Money just amplifies who we really are Wealth is a state of being Having courage and belief in yourself pays off No-name labels, luxury brands, shame, and the masks we wear Addiction, money, and proving yourself for worth As you change things, everything changes Join the Richness Revolution (formerly Money Boss) Facebook here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week in a special episode I wanted to discuss a few issues that live below the surface of our relationships and lives. First, why do we only have “crazy chemistry” with people that aren’t good for us? And why, when we start setting boundaries do we sometimes start to lose that “spark” we once felt? We go deeper in this by discussing a question about how to end a trauma bond, if you haven’t heard about trauma bonding then this question is for you. We also discuss how to begin to set healthy boundaries in a relationship where there is a lack of trust or lack of emotional safety. And finally, the difficult question of whether to stay or go. These are some of the most important questions that so many of us struggle with, join me!~ Discover Can we feel love if we feel whole and don't need anyone? Why do we find ourselves less attractive to our partners once we've done the work? Choosing ourselves and holding space for something new Men who stand up and what it means to women How to end a trauma bond Why are we obsessed with people who need to be fixed? Enabling and discovering the reward in patterns we choose Why we shrink in our relationships How do we know to stay or go? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to bring a double dose of Mark this week as I welcome best selling author Mark Manson. Mark Manson has been an influential figure in my life and I’m sure many of you are also followers of his work — I mean who hasn’t read his book “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck”? Mark and I jam on some common challenges we both saw in our relationship coaching work. We also reflect on the idea of “doing the work” and how this can really become a sticking point for people in opening up to change. So often, the challenges we face and the things that we get stuck on are the same. We are all living different experiences, but so many of our biggest problems are the same. If you haven't already seen his work you will want to check it out https://markmanson.net/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is especially vulnerable for me. I recognize that we are all coping with an incredibly difficult time in different ways right now. There is so much fear, uncertainty and distress that makes compassion and connection so much more difficult. Today I ask if you can hold space too? Holding space does not mean we must agree or arrive at a consensus, it means we still have compassion even when we feel differently than one another. So I ask not how are we different, but how we are similar?~ Discover: When you're open to the way you see the world, you're free Can you hold space for other people's beliefs? What if you just stayed open? Why we should agree to the right to see things differently How to create harmony within yourself during challenging times What life is here to teach us See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m so excited to bring you Professor of Management and Organizational Psychologist Payal Sharma to the podcast. Payal is an expert on politics and power in the workplace and today she takes us on a journey through her incredible work in understanding how power relations impact us at work. We get into the tricky business of how gender intersects with power at work, and nerd out on the research around what makes a good leader. We also dive into her research around music video models. If you have ever wanted to understand more about leadership and power, do not miss this episode! Find out more about Payal’s work at http://power.faculty.unlv.edu/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m so excited to bring you the story of my friend, author and chef Yoda Olinyk. Yoda walks us through the story of her past. How food and her love for cooking saved her from the most dark and trying moments. How suffering opened up a new world of wisdom for her. How a unaligned relationship slowly turned into a cycle of emotional abuse and how she ultimately rose from the ashes, finding her love and commitment to herself and her cooking again.  Find her online at https://instagram.com/yodaswords?igshid=2kwq76b3l10cSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices