Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and Discipleship

Youth sports have become a multibillion dollar business in the United States. In search of the tantalizing promise of a college scholarship, many parents sacrifice years and thousands of dollars to keep their child competitive on sports teams. Even the casual sporting family must make difficult decisions on how much they are willing to commit to sports or other extracurricular activities. In this episode Jay walks parents through a list of questions to help them determine the level of involvement their family is willing to invest in ever consuming culture.  Questions to ask when considering how involved your family should get in youth sports or other extracurricular activities:   Why are we wanting to do this? Is this something the child wants or something the parent wants? If it’s something the child wants, does that mean its the best thing?   What are the short term costs of getting involved in this activity? How much money does it cost to sign up? How much does it costs in equipment or other gear (including shoes) What are the expenses involved per event? Tickets to watch Travel costs - food, hotel, gas Am I going to require private training or tutoring? How many days and nights a week? What are the things we currently do during those night that we will no longer be able to do? Rest Homework Family time Date your spouse Church   What are the long term costs of getting involved with this sport? Multiply the short term expenses by the number of seasons per year and years of potential play What kinds of sacrifices are you and your family going to have to make to stay committed at this level? Am I setting my child up for a high likelihood of injury due to repetitive motion in the same sport being played all year? What is the environment of the team and the people involved? How much family or spouse time are you missing?   What am I communicating to myself, my family, my neighbors, my peers, my children’s peers, my church, and God through my interaction in this activity? Are we a sports family? Are we slaves to our children’s wants? What is sacred in our lives? Who do we serve?   Am I playing a form of lottery with my child’s educational future? Is my excuse for investing in this activity so heavily that I think they can get a college scholarship? What if I calculated all of my anticipated costs for investing in this sport and put it into a 529 College Savings Plan?   Jesus says “no one can serve two masters. you can either hate one and love the other or else be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.” If someone were to observe our family’s life. Not based on what we SAY but based on what we DO and how we LIVE, who would they conclude that we serve?   When my child rearing years are done, and the time I had with my children in the home is just a story, what story do I want to tell?   Resources mentioned: http://thesportdigest.com/2022/06/the-goal-of-youth-sports-is-changing/   Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Jay:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland  

Can you recognize the warning signs of substance abuse in your child?  How do you broach the conversation if you suspect your child has gotten involved with alcohol, vaping, marijuana, or other substances? What can you do to help convince your child that pot is a big deal on a developing brain?  My guest Richard Capriola joins me once again to discuss these topics as well as give updated statistics on substance abuse trends during and after the Covid-19 pandemic.  Richard Capriola has been a mental health and substance abuse counselor for over two decades. He recently retired from Menninger Clinic in Houston Texas where for over a decade he treated both teens and adults diagnosed with substance use disorders. He is the author of The Addicted Child: A Parent's Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse which can be found at http://www.helptheaddictedchild.com Let's Parent on Purpose  is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  Resources mentioned:  http://www.helptheaddictedchild.com   https://www.facebook.com/richard.capriola\   https://www.twitter.com/CapriolaRichard   Episode 248 Understanding and Responding to Teen Substance Abuse with Richard Capriola  Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Jay:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland  

What if you could lower some of the sources of anxiety in your children’s lives and build a greater sense of stability and connection?  My guest Terra Mattson rejoins me today for a conversation on the digital drivers of anxiety in our children, especially our young ladies. In this episode, you will learn about The science behind the wiring of male and female brains and how it contributes to higher female anxiety. The various ways our cell phones promise connection but instead bring isolation.  What are the right questions to ask yourself before deciding to give your children a cellphone? How do you walk back cell phone privileges when you see they are causing harm? The role of joy in healthy brain development and the simple practices parents can initiate to grow the joy and connection in their home.  Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual guidance to help you grow into the perfectly imperfect parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  Alongside her husband Jeff Mattson, Terra is co-founder and CEO of Living Wholehearted, LLC, a professional counseling and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, and Courageous Girls, an online resource helping moms gather in intentional communities so they can walk with their daughters at every stage of her growing years in a world of confusing messages. As a licensed marriage and family therapist and executive coach, she has spent two decades counseling, coaching, and training leaders around trauma-informed theology and wholehearted leadership. She is co-host of the weekly Living Wholehearted Podcast and the Dear Mattsons YouTube series, bridging the gap between biblical, clinical and relational wisdom to help leaders (who are also parents) build healthy relationships in their home, work, and community. You can learn more at terramattson.com or follow @terramattson    Resources mentioned: TerraMattson.com  livingwholehearted.com  MyCourageousGirls.com  cpguides.org Episode 323 Closing the Integrity Gap in the Hope with Jeff and Terra Mattson  Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Jay:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland  

We all have those days when we feel like we are a terrible parent. Sometimes it’s because we blow a moment or decision. Other times it's because we compare ourselves to the best parts of other people’s lives. And sometimes it’s because we are fooled into thinking the false presentation of our friends on social media is true.    Whatever your reason for being down about your parenting, listen to Jay’s pep talk as he encourages you to: Give yourself the benefit of the doubt Give your kids the benefit of the doubt Get over yourself Get better Finally, be encouraged by Jay’s reminder from scripture that God uses suffering and brokenness to produce character, and that ALL things work together for the glory of God and the good of His children!   Resources: I Wish I Was A Better Parent  Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Connect with Jay:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland   Sponsor Affiliate: Christian Parenting Event Notes from Recording: Please post the Christian Parenting Event promo somewhere :) Thank you!    Quote for Social Media Graphic:  We never want trial or tragedy or broken hearts to come into our kids’ lives.  But in reality, the people we admire and want to be most like have walked through deep valleys.    Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

No relationship has more impact on the spiritual direction of a child or teen than mom and dad. But every parent needs a community to raise a disciple. Today Jay is joined once again by Pastor Josh Luecht. Between the two of them they have over 40 years of student ministry experience. Jay and Josh share the best ways parents can engage with their church youth pastors and youth volunteers to minister to their children. In this episode, Jay and Josh discus:  The importance of knowing and communicating directly with youth workers How to give the inside scoop to youth leaders to help them have better conversations with your children Ways you can be involved in youth ministry even if you don’t want to be a small group leader What to do if you are frustrated with a certain aspect of your youth pastor or youth leader The importance of showing appreciation so your youth leaders stay for many years Discerning the times when you might need to directly speak to a youth pastor about a problem and the times when you need to involved senior leadership Ways you can use your knowledge and skills to improve your youth pastor’s knowledge and skill The importance of not dumping off all spiritual direction for your children to the youth pastor or church Bio: Pastor Josh Luecht is a teaching pastor at Calvary Chapel Palm City, FL. He holds a M.A. in Biblical Leadership from Calvary Chapel University and loves leading students into a deeper understanding of the Gospel…Josh is also a sports fan, musician and reading enthusiast. In his spare time he enjoys watching hockey and hanging out with his wife. He has been married to Mary since 2012. Resources Referenced: Calvary Chapel Palm City Verse by Verse Podcast Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Dr. Tim McKnight, a missions and evangelism expert, reveals the potential for Gen Z to make a kingdom impact if parents can shepherd them well. You will learn: 1. How is Generation Z different from previous generations, and what unique potential do they have to make a kingdom impact?  2. What is the role of technology in shaping and influencing Generation Z? 3. How can parents help their children develop a biblical understanding of identity and the gospel of Jesus Christ? Dr. McKnight is the Director of the Global Center for Youth Ministry and Associate Professor of Missions and Youth Ministry at Anderson University and Lead Pastor/Planter of Mosaic Church of Anderson. He is the author of Engaging Generation Z (Kregel) and editor of Navigating Student Ministry (B&H Acaemic).    Dr. McKnight has pastored churches throughout West Virginia, Kentucky, Alabama, North Carolina, and South Carolina. He's served as an infantry chaplain in the United States Army Kentucky Army National Guard, deploying on Operation Noble Eagle and Operation Enduring Freedom.   Dr. McKnight is also a black belt in Kenpo Jujitsu and a NRA certified basic pistol instructor. Resources: www.drtimmcknight.com Engaging Generation Z: Raising the Bar for Youth Ministry   Connect with Jay:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland www.cfbcstuart.com   Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

When Jeremy Pryor discovers that God designed families to be teams on mission, not nests for individual success, he embarks on a journey to challenge the idol of individualism and bring his family closer together. You will learn how to strengthen family identity through everyday responsibilities with Jeremy Pryor's unique approach. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What does it mean to be part of a multi-generational family? 2. How do identities shape and limit freedom? 3. What does it look like to embrace fatherhood/motherhood as an identity? 4. How can we use everyday responsibilities to help shape our children's understanding of identity, value, and worth? "When we're in a multi generational family, the father or mother is always thinking about their grandkids, how am I raising my kids to be really good parents to my grandchildren someday? And so of course you have to be really thoughtful about how to parent." -Jeremy Pryor Jeremy Pryor is a family identity expert and author of the book "Family Revision". His passion is helping families discover and live out their multigenerational mission to further the Kingdom of God. Jeremy Pryor had been on a journey to understand the meaning of family. He embraced the idea that identities, including those of sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, mothers and fathers, were meant to be handed down through generations, and that freedom of self expression was not the ultimate goal. He saw that individualism had been put on a pedestal and was causing chaos, and he realized that families were designed to be teams to rescue and bless each other,   Resources: https://familyteams.com/ Family Revision: How Ancient Wisdom Can Heal the Modern Family Episode 230 Your Family as a Team with Jeremy Pryor Connect with Jay:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland www.cfbcstuart.com   Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Discover how to unlock spiritual growth and maturity through the power of relationship and identity. "Relationship inspires behavior, and gives us motivation for obedience.” Pastor Jon Price has been in ministry for 35 years and is a speaker, trainer, author and coach. He lives in north Georgia with his wife of 26 years and has two grown children also in the Atlanta area. He is the Pastor of Missions and Connections at Peachtree Corners Baptist Church in Peachtree Corners, GA.  Through Alan Shore's research on brain science, Jim Wilder's books and Marcus Warner's teachings, Jon learned that the right side of the brain, filled with relationship and identity, is the key to spiritual maturity and growth. With this knowledge, Jon realized that the joy of God is the strength that helps us through our trials and the importance of remaining relational with those around us. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. The power of identity and group identity in spiritual growth and maturity. 2. The importance of relationship and joy in providing nourishment for the brain. 3. The concept of "rare maturity" in remaining relational and keeping relationships foremost. Resources: Twitter: @baldjonp Instagram: @baldjonp Revjonprice.com revjonprice@gmail.com Invited In and Set Free: Meditations on Galatians https://tinyurl.com/Invited-In  Books by Jim Wilder: https://amzn.to/3H8zSgU Connect with Jay:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/ Website: www.letsparentonpurpose.com   Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Generation Z is the most unchurched and unreached generation alive today. At the same time, research shows that the vast majority of people who put their faith in Jesus do so before the age of 18. Pastor Josh Leucht joins Jay for a conversation on the difference approach we need to take in sharing the gospel with Generation Z. Their discussion includes: Understanding how many in Gen Z find it offensive for you to share your moral standards. The pressure Christian students feel for having absolute truth claims and believing Jesus is the only way. How many older methods of sharing the gospel don’t work as readily.  The difference in law/punishment cultures and honor/shame cultures How the gospel speaks into honor/shame cultures and reaches Gen Z The effectiveness of story The effectiveness of pointing out brokenness as an entry point to the gospel   Pastor Josh Luecht is a teaching pastor at Calvary Chapel Palm City, FL. He holds a M.A. in Biblical Leadership from Calvary Chapel University and loves leading students into a deeper understanding of the Gospel…Josh is also a sports fan, musician and reading enthusiast. In his spare time he enjoys watching hockey and hanging out with his wife. He has been married to Mary since 2012.   Resources Referenced: Episode 88 A Happy Adoption Story Calvary Chapel Palm City Verse by Verse Podcast Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  

Series Overview: Jay will be discussing the unique challenges of parenting Gen Z and the struggles they face due to the world they live in.  Today's Topic:  Jay shares how the gospel speaks into the topic of gender identity and sexuality.  This includes a Theology of the Body: Jay will be sharing a piece of a sermon he recently preached in the church on how the incarnation of Jesus helps bring clarity where there is confusion over gender, identity and sexuality. He encourages listeners to have their kids listen along and discuss the content with them. Resources Referenced: Talking to Your Children about Gender Identity and Sexuality with Dr. Sean McDowell Equipping our Children for Conversations on Gender identity and Sexuality with Dr. Sean McDowell  What if Your Children Identify as a different Gender identity or Sexuailty with Dan Seaborn Pointing to a Deeper Orientation in Jesus with Dan Seaborn Genesis 1:27, passages on homosexuality, adultery, coveting your wife and your neighbor's stuff. Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org