Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and Discipleship

Every season of our parenting journey is fleeting, and we often miss the joy that God presents us while wishing away our current challenges. Today Jay talks with Jeanette Tapley about the importance of living in the joy of every season of life. They discuss the guilt that many working moms feel over not being a stay at home mom, the need for flexibility in how you parent from one child to the next, and the importance of choosing joy rather than focusing on what’s not going well.  Jeanette has a unique perspective on each of these topics. As a mom, Jeanette is in the midst of raising a family of biological and adoptive children while maintaining a demanding job. In her work life, Jeanette produces multiple Christian parenting podcasts. Jeanette hears more great parenting advice in one week than many people hear in a year, but must navigate the reality that one household cannot do every great parenting idea they come across. The Tapley's have learned the joy of discipleship through everyday life and laughter, while trusting Jesus to form their children over the long run.  Bio Jeanette Tapley is podcast host, author, speaker, wife, and parent of three great teenagers. Her heart beats for people to be heard, valued, and never alone no matter what stage of life they find themselves in. You can hear Jeanette each week on the Moms at Work Podcast with Jeanette Tapley Podcast as well as the Joy Millionaire Podcast.    Resources mentioned: https://jeanettetapley.com/podcast Moms At Work with Jeanette Tapley Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/moms-at-work-with-jeanette-tapley/id1610793701 The Joy Millionaire Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-joy-millionaire-podcast/id1355530534   https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Jay: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose  

Enjoy this sneak peak into the Stories of Hope with Dr. Samuel Thomas Podcast!  Dr. Samuel Thomas of Hopegivers International paints the heartbreaking picture of the life of a street child in India. Without a stable home or a mother and father to care for them, children are forced to scrap, beg, or steal. Many of them are trafficked, forced to take drugs, and work for criminals who keep them addicted and enslaved. Hopegivers works to rescue orphaned, abandoned, and at risk children from circumstances like these. They bring them into Hope Homes where the children are loved, fed, educated, and cared for in the name of Jesus Christ.  Listen to this episode and then follow the Stories of Hope with Dr. Samuel Thomas podcast to hear the full journey of hope from an unwanted child to a pioneering church planter and pastor.    Bio Dr. Samuel Thomas is a pastor and the President of Hopegivers International, a ministry that rescues and redeems at risk and abandoned children in India and Haiti. Hopegivers, founded over 60 years ago by the late Dr. M.A. Thomas, has been used by God to minister to orphans, widows, lepers, and plant schools and churches throughout India and South Asia.   Resources mentioned: www.hopegivers.org Stories of Hope with Dr. Samuel Thomas: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stories-of-hope-with-dr-samuel-thomas/id1545599796 https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Jay: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose  

This is the second of a two-part series on gender with Christine Sneeringer, a ministry leader who specializes in sexuality and gender issues. Her own personal journey to overcome more than two decades of gender dysphoria informs her belief that it can be resolved without medical interventions. Because gender dysphoria is a psychological challenge, Christine argues that children and teens would be better served with psychological solutions that lead to a mindset shift rather than hormones and surgery. For her, that happened as a result of developing a relationship with God and surrendering to His design. In this episode we unpack dangerous aspects of the trans narrative that is being foisted upon vulnerable children who don’t have the critical thinking skills to recognize it as harmful. We cover such topics as There’s no such thing as putting a pause on puberty Gender identity does not supersede biological sex Medical interventions are dangerous and often irreversible How eating disorders and imposter syndrome compares Historically "watchful waiting" is the best approach for children  The importance of developing resilience  The universality of awkward and uncomfortable feelings during puberty Most people desist in their distress about gender by adulthood   Bio Christine Sneeringer is the executive director of Worthy Creations, a parachurch ministry that specializes in sexuality and gender related concerns. A gifted communicator, she teaches and speaks at churches, conferences, and campus ministries, sharing her dramatic story of overcoming abuse and battling more than two decades of gender dysphoria that led to same-sex attractions. A consultant with the Institute for Healthy Families, Christine provides one-on-one support and coaching for individuals who feel conflicted about their gender identity. Christine has a master’s degree in Counseling from Palm Beach Atlantic University and a Bachelor of Theology degree from Oxford University. She is a freelance writer and her articles have appeared in Decision Magazine, Charisma, and Spirit Led Woman. She lives in South Florida, where she enjoys tennis and tacos as often as possible. Resources mentioned: www.worthycreations.org https://instituteforhealthyfamilies.org https://mycharisma.com/spiritled-living/finding-wholeness-set-free-from-lesbianism/ https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Jay: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose  

This is the first of a two-part series on gender with Christine Sneeringer, a ministry leader who specializes in sexuality and gender issues. Growing up, Christine knew all too well the distress and hardship of not feeling at home in her female body. More than anything she longed to be a boy. Looking back, Christine now realizes how her abuse history drove her negative perceptions of femininity, which she equated with victimhood. In our conversation today, Christine shares her decades long battle with gender dysphoria that led to her same-sex attractions.  We also discuss the importance of critical thinking skills and how children are prone to misinterpret adverse childhood events. Christine’s journey was a prime example of how we can develop distorted beliefs about gender, which were not addressed until God intervened in her life. Surrounded by a loving Christian community as a young adult, she surrendered her life and sexuality to Christ. Afterwards she finally felt safe enough to embrace her femaleness for the first time in her life. Listen to this encouraging example of the redemptive love of Christ. Christine’s story will give you hope in a culture that celebrates running from God’s design for gender and sexuality. Bio Christine Sneeringer is the executive director of Worthy Creations, a parachurch ministry that specializes in sexuality and gender related concerns. A gifted communicator, she teaches and speaks at churches, conferences, and campus ministries, sharing her dramatic story of overcoming abuse and battling more than two decades of gender dysphoria that led to her same-sex attractions. A consultant with the Institute for Healthy Families, Christine provides one-on-one support and coaching for individuals who feel conflicted about their gender identity. Christine has a master’s degree in Counseling from Palm Beach Atlantic University and a Bachelor of Theology degree from Oxford University. She is a freelance writer and her articles have appeared in Decision Magazine, Charisma, and Spirit Led Woman. She lives in South Florida, where she enjoys tennis and tacos.   Resources mentioned: www.worthycreations.org https://instituteforhealthyfamilies.org https://mycharisma.com/spiritled-living/finding-wholeness-set-free-from-lesbianism/ https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Christine: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinesneeringer/ Worthy Creations: www.worthycreations.org Connect with Jay: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose  

More children and teens wrestle with anxiety than ever before. Sometimes moms and dads feel powerless to help their children escape the grip of chronic anxiety. Today our guest Hannah Conway shares several simple, practical strategies that can deescalate the general level of worry, tension, and anxiety your children experience. As we continue to create a household of engagement and encouragement, we equip our children to face their own challenges, make wise decisions, and live without the need to be rescued from every small challenge.    Listen as we discuss: The physiological reality of why young teenagers seem to “lose their mind”. The importance of knowing whose you are in order to know who you are. Strategies parents can employ when it feels like anxiety is cranking up in the home including:  Take a deep breath. Literally! Be in the Word, and remind yourself of the Word. Pray for your kids, pray with your kids.  Open communication, dinner table conversations with guided topics.  Letting them deal with consequences to learn resiliency.  Bringing healthy adult mentors into your children’s life.   Bio: Hannah R. Conway is a Social Media Marketing & Communications Coordinator and Women’s Ministry Director. She's a best-selling author, podcast host on “What’s Your Story? With Hannah & Stephani”, and speaker. Hannah is also a military wife, momma, former teacher, dog lover and roots for the Kentucky Wildcats. Most days she can be caught with a coffee cup in hand. She and her family live near Nashville, Tennessee.   Resources mentioned: https://hannahrconway.com/ In Case You Forget: A 6-Week Devotional about Who You Are in Jesus https://amzn.to/3Lk6abC https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Connect with Jay: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose  

14, 8, 6, 5 years old when I started Thanks Christian Parenting, Covenant Fellowship, Listeners, My wife and kids In the past 7 years Jay has released 350 episodes and interviewed over 120 different people for Let’s Parent on Purpose. Today Jay shares his biggest personal insights from the years of being a learner behind the microphone.   To commemorate the Episode 350 milestone, be sure to check out Jay’s 10 all time favorite Let’s Parent on Purpose podcasts!   Listen today as Jay shares his biggest insights including: Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint Your marriage must take precedence over your parenting No single event is going to make or break your children One of the biggest threats your children face is your ego Our habits should reflect our heart, and also our habits will shape our heart Keep preaching the gospel to yourself!   Resources mentioned:   Link Jay’s Favorite Let’s Parent on purpose Episodes https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Connect with Jay: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@letsparentonpurpose Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose  

Every community is going to experience conflict. The way we navigate these conflicts will either break our community or make it stronger. Today Jay shares important truths to help you grow personally and relationally as you encounter conflict in your various communities. This is an episode that is very helpful for parents in their personal lives as well as giving language for how to train their children to handle conflict in a healthy way.    Listen as we discuss: The inevitability of conflict in community Why we experience conflict Deciding on whether we want to win the person or win the argument Developing a posture of humility Choosing to forgive even before we address the other person Seeking God’s power to pursue peace Understanding that it’s not always possible to have peace, and what to do next   Resources mentioned: Support Let’s Parent on Purpose through your Tax-Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Connect with Jay: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@letsparentonpurpose Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose  

As a Division 1 college soccer player, Craig Hettlinger was living many young men’s dream. A fateful decision to partake in a controlled substance after a win started a 16-year collapse into addiction and destruction.     Craig shares his story of addiction, failed attempts at sobriety, and his ultimate recovery and deliverance through God’s power. Craig now lives out his mission for Jesus by running recovery houses in Huntington, WV, the Ground Zero for the opioid epidemic. Craig’s raw, honest recounting of his life journey will encourage families who are suffering through long term addiction in their own households.    Bio Craig Hettlinger is the CEO of HAWC Recovery in Huntington WV. He is also the author of That Ain’t No Mountain For a Climber - a heartfelt firsthand account of overcoming drug addiction.  Resources mentioned: www.hawcrecovery.com Craig’s book: That Ain’t No Mountain for a Climber: http://hawcrecovery.com/media.html The Freedom Fight: The New Drug and the Truths That Set Us Free: https://amzn.to/3OJTD27 Support Let’s Parent on Purpose through your Tax-Deductible Giving Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!   Connect with Jay: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@letsparentonpurpose Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland  

There’s a simple action you can take that has profound theological and neurological significance in your household… smile. Jay shares the correlation between smiling and the blessing of God from Numbers 6. A core facet of God’s blessing upon his people was the shining face of God looking upon them. In a similar way, we bless the members of our household simply by looking at them and giving our smile.    In this episode Jay goes on a scriptural journey to explain the concept of the smile of God and then turns to the neurological benefits of training a child with our smile. If you want a simple way to build attachment, lower stress, and increase security in your home, look your family members in the face and smile!   Resources mentioned: What’s in a Smile https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  

Jay shares a powerful set of words that can help rewire your household to get past the blame game and start working towards making things right. “It doesn’t have to be your fault to be your responsibility” is a concept we see through the teachings of Scripture (The Good Samaritan, Galatians 6, the incarnation of Jesus). As we start to incorporate this concept into every day life we will see endless applications in our households that will train our children for a more fruitful adult life. Learn how “not your fault, still your responsibility” can help you change the conversation with  messes and spills lost toys group projects and homework assignments arguments and fights the larger broken world around us.  Jay walks through a biblical basis for the concept and then shares several real world examples where you can apply this teaching in with your children.   Resources mentioned: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Connect with Jay: YouTube: https://youtube.com/@letsparentonpurpose Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose