

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Oct 17, 2019 • 23min
The Power of Polarization in Relationships
Episode #106 In a relationship, polar opposites usually work well together. The wife who is naturally feminine needs her partner or husband to be in his alpha or masculine state. As the relationship progresses, women tend to test their partner's masculinity, how secure and how grounded he is as a man. If you fail that test by getting triggered, she will feel insecure and she will become more alpha to get that security she needs. During these tests as a man, there will be times when you succumb to the pressure and you become more beta which requires her to become more alpha in the relationship. You choose to become beta because you think its easier that way to just follow what she wants than arguing with her. You have individual needs in the relationship but in order to meet each other's needs, you have to communicate and cooperate with each other. In this episode, we dive deep into HOW exactly to do that. To open up healthy communication you must first recognize her and validate her needs so that she can feel seen and heard. After that, you can now express your needs and relate them to her. Offer a solution but ask her to cooperate for you to achieve it together. You then get to reclaim your natural masculine state. In order to reclaim it, you must first regain the trust of your partner. Show her that you honor your word, you can control your own natural state, you can take a stand and she can rely on you. This is what it looks like to become an alpha in the relationship and show your masculinity. You get to be firm about your decisions and actions You get to be decisive by knowing what you want and actually do what you say you're going to do. You get to have a high level of integrity. If you have all of those masculine elements above, your partner will then fall gently into her natural feminine state. When polarization fades away, this will become lacking in your relationship. Reset your natural masculinity and regain the polarity in the relationship. In this episode you will learn: How to reclaim your masculinity Importance of polarization in the relationship Importance of integrity and being able to take a stand Importance of communication and cooperation in solving the problem ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 15, 2019 • 11min
What Will You Be Remembered For?
Episode #105 What will you be remembered for when you are no longer here? What will your legacy be? Are these questions that you are able to confidently answer? As men, we tend to spend so much time on our business and how to become significant that we fail to see the bigger picture on what we truly want to be remembered for. In this episode, we talk about how to do what's best for your business while also focusing on how to setup your business to leave a positive impact in the world. We dive deep into the importance of committing to do the things that will make a positive impact on our families and our communities. How to be remembered as a better husband, father, and businessman. In this episode you will learn : The importance of being able to leave a positive impact on your family, your business and your community How to get clear on your purpose and why you strive for success in your business How to make an impact and leave a great legacy for the world ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 12, 2019 • 1min
Do You Feel Like A Stranger in Your Own Home?
Episode #104 Have you ever felt like you were just a paycheck? Like you're just living to go to work, earn money, come home to do things around the house, fix things, lift heavy stuff and then go back to work and repeat the process? As men, we have historically held the identity of being the provider. Typically, we are the ones who go to work to earn money and provide for our families in the aspect of finance. Because of this, we end up having to skip some of the special events with our families. We miss out on the memories of our child's music recital or graduation, a field trip, or maybe our child got into trouble and we're not there to hear their side of the story and provide them with guidance. And because we missed all of these events, we end up feeling like a stranger in our own homes. We end up feeling that our wives have a deeper connection with our child because we are missing out on the experiences. Is this something you can relate to? If you found yourself in this situation, what would you do? Would you naturally resort to feeling like a victim? Or will you step up, take ownership and be the powerful man that you are? Remember this, you will always have a choice. What you will learn in this episode: The three things to do to stop feeling like a stranger in your own home The importance of taking ownership The importance of going to the Alpha Reset ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 10, 2019 • 25min
It's Not Your Staff, It's You
Episode #103 Business leaders complain regularly about underperforming staff BUT the way they perform reflects what kind of leader YOU are to THEM. Let that sink in... If your staff is underperforming, then typically, it is because you have trained them to work that way. They work and treat you the way you have treated them and by the standards, you have set. If you don't allow your staff to execute certain tasks, then they will have no chance to prove to you what they're capable of. The truth is, most business owners we talk to, don't trust their staff and are afraid that the business might fail so they do all the work by themselves and then complain of the low productivity of their staff later on. Business owners should develop themselves as an investment. Leadership training hones your leadership skills so that you can also develop your staff to increase their productivity. You must realize that the solution to your problem is YOURSELF as a leader. When you become realigned with yourself and your purpose and step up as a leader, everybody else steps up and your business will grow exponentially as a result. What you will learn in this episode: The importance of being the right leader The importance of trusting your staff The importance of having a mindset that it's all on you ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 8, 2019 • 28min
The Guilt and Shame of Working So Much
Episode #102 We feel guilty when we feel that we've been missing out on moments with our loved ones due to working too much. We ALSO feel guilty when we don't feel like we've hit the vision of what we think we SHOULD be doing, especially, if what we're doing is not serving us. In this episode, we talk about how this feeling of guilt is caused by pressure from society. The demands that are placed on men by society turn them to work more and to be at work more. Men often fail to be present with their loved ones because they are working too much, resulting in a feeling of guilt and shame. In order to change this, you need to have a self-check. If this is you, you may feel like you have lost your way and have been missing a lot of important things in your life. In this episode, we teach you how to get back to what really matters to you and how to get rid of the things that aren't serving you in order to clear yourself from guilt and shame. In this episode you will learn: How to eliminate the guilt and shame from working too much The importance of proper communication with your loved ones The factors that cause men to work too much How to know what really matters to you and get rid of the things that aren't serving you. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 5, 2019 • 1min
Reignite Your Sex Life!
Episode #101 Working with hundreds of men, we have found that many of them are struggling with their sex lives....but don't talk about it with anyone. How can you reignite the spark and really get your sex life back to where you want it to be? That's what we dive into in the episode... Many men have this secret problem to the point in their marriage where they use PORN instead of having sex with their wives or partner. It is really easy to go into that position because men are so used to working hard in their business or jobs, making decisions all day, to provide for their families. So many people demanding so much of you that by the time you come home, you're so exhausted. Hence, you don't have the energy to connect with your wife. In the same manner, your wife may also feel the same since she's so exhausted from working around the house, taking care of your children, doing the chores, etc. It's really a tough situation to be in. When things go unsaid and things get avoided, it can easily create a void in your relationship and get out of sync, sexually. And before you know it, you easily turn to porn because that's the easier option instead of you giving the effort to seduce your wife and make love with her. There are three things you could do about it. Either one, do nothing about it and settle or two, you leave the relationship because in your mind, the problem has gone way too far. But usually, what happens is that you just take the same problem to that new relationship and you end up leaving again. And option three, is you do the work. You see what's going on and you address it. What we talk about in this episode will not be an overnight fix. You get to remember that every relationship is like a bank account. You got to keep making deposits in order to make a withdraw. Invest in your relationship and take action. It's never too late to do it unless you take action now. What you will learn in this episode: How to reignite your sex life The importance of addressing the issue immediately The importance of being present in the relationship without expecting anything in return The importance of having a regular "You and Me" time ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 3, 2019 • 29min
His Wife Was About To Cheat On Him
Episode #100 Oftentimes, we forget to detach and shut off from work. All of our energy and the best of us go to our work during the day....and our family only gets the leftovers when we get home. Pay attention to the warning signs. Because we get complacent, we often don't notice that we are not being the man that our wives married. And the thing is...the gap you created will grow over time and you will lose the connection in the relationship. The gap grows, intimacy shrinks and your wife will start looking somewhere else... In this episode, we talk about HOW to save your relationship and the steps to reconnecting with your spouse. How to take action for your relationship and get back to a place of being present and connected. In this episode you will learn : The importance of being connected and emotionally present for your wife How to save your relationship How to reach out and have an honest conversation Why you should take ownership of your actions as a man How to truly know and understand your spouse ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 1, 2019 • 28min
Porn Almost Cost Him His Marriage
Episode #99 It is easier to turn to porn than plan a date night and be intimate with your spouse. Have you found yourself doing this? Many men do... You may or may not realize it, but by doing this, you are creating distance in the relationship. This leak of energy creates a hole in the relationship and this hole becomes bigger until it becomes irreparable. This problem typically stems from how a man is prioritizing the elements of his life. Typically a man will prioritize business, then wealth then relationships, then health, and then lastly, self. In this scenario, so much energy gets used for business & wealth that there is nothing left for yourself and your relationship...which is why it becomes so much easier to turn to porn. In this episode, we talk about the importance of prioritizing yourself, your health and your relationship before wealth and business. This one shift will reignite your relationship with your spouse because you will have so much more energy to give. Your business will also continue to grow by putting in LESS effort because you already built a strong foundation. In this episode you will learn: How to prioritize territories Where to invest your energy What made a man turn to porn The importance of investing in personal development How to reignite your relationship with your spouse ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 28, 2019 • 20min
The Objects In The Mirror Are Closer Than You Think
Episode #98 If you want to live the life of a powerful man, it is crucial to know WHO you are and make sure your behaviors and habits are aligned with that man. The Powerful Man is ALREADY inside of us...we just need to know how to bring him out. One way to step into The Powerful Man, is to be completely honest and vulnerable with your loved ones. Get feedback from them. Get clear on what it's like to be in a relationship with you. It's time to stop lying to yourself. Remove the mask you've been wearing and throw out the skeletons in the closet. This is the KEY to gaining a real sense of EMPOWERMENT. It's time to live in alignment with who you truly are. What you will learn in this episode: How to bring out the powerful man within you The importance of coming clean and getting rid of the mask and lies How to live in alignment with the man you are capable of being The importance of getting feedback from your loved ones ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Sep 26, 2019 • 25min
You Will Die
Episode #97 We will all die. The harsh truth is that we don't have all the time in the world. So instead of waiting and delaying the things we say we want and delaying our own happiness why not have it right now? In this episode, we talk about how we can learn to appreciate and enjoy the simple things and how to be fully connected with our loved ones by having honest conversations and sharing your emotions. And most importantly we touch on remembering your relationship with yourself, too. It's time to stop holding back. Give yourself complete permission to do whatever it is that is valuable to you and will make you happy. Stop using money and time as an excuse, stop allowing fear to run your life and keep procrastinating. Seize the moment and live your life to the fullest. What you will learn in this episode: How to live your life to the fullest How to appreciate and enjoy the simple things in life How procrastination affects our life How to do big actions with fewer efforts ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.