The Powerful Man Show

Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
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Dec 3, 2019 • 35min

How To Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It

Episode #126 Our society teaches us that in order to solve the problems in our marriage we should go through counseling or therapy and talk things out...but some people don't want to talk about it because it just brings more weight to the problem. We have good news...there is another way to turn things around. The first step in saving your marriage without talking about it is becoming raw and honest with yourself. Acknowledge that there is a problem in your marriage and stop pretending that everything is working fine. Second, focus on improving YOURSELF instead of criticizing your partner. Discover yourself as a man and know your standards. We all grew up differently. Our expectations are different from each other because of our upbringing or how we are programmed while growing up. Instead of pointing out the flaws of your partner, focus on cleaning your side of the street first. Stop comparing your decision making to hers, your problems to hers, your day with hers because it will just create disconnection within the relationship. Focus on your individual selves first, accept each other's craziness in order for you to work on your relationship as a couple. Lastly, leave the fighting mentality at work, decompress and transition into a family man. Think about how you will step up to not only save the marriage but to take the relationship to the next level. In this episode you will learn: How to save a marriage without talking about it The importance of cleaning your side of the street first and what that looks like. The importance of resetting and reprogramming and HOW to do that.  ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 30, 2019 • 27min

Revisit: What Are Your Standards

Episode #125 In this episode, Tim & Doug discuss how to shift your mindset to make progress in your business and personal life and how it starts with asking yourself about your standards. Using a real-life example, Tim & Doug share a story of a member of the Activation Method who completely shifted his mindset from one of self-limiting beliefs and fear to confidence and abundance to completely transform his life and his business. Over the course of 1 year, this individual went from being unable to sell in his specialist area to 10x-ing his sales, selling to the exact same people who had turned him down 1 year previous. It all came from a mindset shift. In this episode, you will hear how the man achieved this, how he made that first step, the obstacles and biggest mistakes he made along the way and the man he has now become today. One of the first and most important steps to improving your life and your business is to shift your mindset. Changing those psychological factors that affect our daily behavior and habits is a long and winding road that Tim & Doug have helped people down on various occasions. One of the most common problems they see is men who start on the journey but fail to follow through. Doug explains what daily routines were used in order to change the discussed individual’s attitudes and beliefs and how it took time and dedication to see these huge results. Things you will discover in this episode: Simple routines you can do daily to shift your mindset The importance of gratitude How happiness relates to abundance How surrounding yourself by inspiring and like-minded people can help How the alpha reset can completely change your life The critical questions you need to answer in the first step to shifting your mindset The biggest roadblocks in mindset shifting and how to overcome them. The importance of your relationships in finding a positive mindset. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 28, 2019 • 26min

Revisit: My Business or My Marriage

Episode #124 In this episode Tim & Doug one of the most common issues they encounter in The Activation Method. Men who feel they need to choose between their marriage or their business. In another open and honest discussion, Tim & Doug share their thoughts on what they describe as one of the most common issues faced by men across the business world today. However, it’s not something anyone needs to go through, what happens if you replace the word ‘or’ with the word ‘and’ in this scenario, how does that life look to you? This is something that is very possible but it requires a mindset shift and you being open and honest with yourself about who you are, how you feel and where you want to be in life. Tim shares a story of a man he spoke to who was facing this exact issue. He felt the need, as a man to make his wife feel safe and secure and his way of doing this was earning money. This is a common alpha male natural instinct. However, things change when his wife dropped the bombshell that she felt more secure when he was unemployed and they were financially insecure. What his wife wanted and what he thought she wanted were two completely different things. Are you building your dream and your dream alone or are you including your wife and/or family? Doug shares a practice he carries out with his family when planning for his business which raises the importance of including your partner in business decisions you make, not necessarily day to day decisions but outlooks and how it will affect your personal life. Is there really any point in working every hour you can in order to make extra money if it means you don’t have the time to enjoy with your family There is a balance to be had… you need to start working smarter not harder and you can start to do it right now! Finally, Tim & Doug address the thought that some people are hiding from their marriage through their work. If you are asking yourself to choose between your marriage and your business, there is likely to be a deeper reason why you are not putting your marriage first because you are not being fulfilled, this is something you can address and fix to live a more successful and fulfilling life. Things you will discover in this episode: How to balance business alongside your personal life. How to work smarter not harder. What causes you to think you need to choose between your marriage or your business. The common pattern amongst 99% of the men who can’t balance work and marriage. The importance of delegation. The biggest mistakes men make when trying to balance a business with marriage. How we include our partners in business decisions and goals. Learn how Doug plans for his business with his family What to do if you are avoiding your marriage through your work Tim shares an actionable technique to start helping your business work balance immediately ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 26, 2019 • 26min

Revisit: Don't Go To War

Episode #123 Enjoy the Journey! How often do you hear that phrase, life is a journey and it needs to be enjoyed? However, being involved in a battle or war isn’t an enjoyable experience. In this episode, Tim & Doug present another deep discussion about what it truly means to become a powerful man and they put the case forward for ditching the idea of a physical, tough, war-like alpha male in favor of a calm, quietly confident, self-assured man as being the one we should aspire to. As men, we are so often wired to feel like we should go to war. We should treat everything like a battle that we need to win. This mentality comes from our ancestors having to fight and battle to stay alive and even most recently in the world wars when men were recruited to go to war for their country. Still, to this day, there is a belief among many that being a man means going to war and winning a battle. Even as a metaphor, this can be a dangerous way to view life. What are we really telling ourselves if this is the language we use and the outlook we have? Tim & Doug look at what it actually means to go to war. Pain, suffering, hurt, anger - these are the emotions associated with war and these will be the emotions you will encounter if you approach life like a battle or a war. The most successful men are more often not the ones beating their chests the hardest. We have all seen people who shout the loudest about their success but these are also the people who get into more disagreements, the ones who fail to take responsibility, the ones who pass the buck. This is because they are in battle mode and they are most likely, extremely insecure. Tim and Doug both relate to moving from this mindset to a more calm, relaxed and confident mindset and what it did for their lives. If you take yourself out of battle mode, it’s the first step to being calm, confident and in a state of flow.  You don’t need anyone else’s approval to live the life you want and you can live a much more fulfilling and successful life by changing your mentality to be more positive. You don’t need to go to war. Things you will discover in this episode: How the language we use has a direct effect on our subconscious and how we operate How being calm can improve your behavior and outcomes How the idea of battles and wars impacts our belief systems Why it’s time to ditch the cliche physical, tough, alpha male in favor of the calm self-assured man Why calm is an incredibly strong inner strength Why the loudest isn’t always the best An immediate, actionable step to being a more relaxed, confident man ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 23, 2019 • 19min

Giving Up the Crutch - A Life Without Coffee or Alcohol

Episode #122 Are you a certified coffee addict or an alcohol lover? In this episode, Doug shares his personal experience and journey with coffee & alcohol and why you might want to consider limiting your consumption. Reducing the intake of caffeine and alcohol or totally getting rid of both could make a great impact on your life especially in terms of large decision making and how you perform in your business. Being dependent on coffee & alcohol tends to make people more unstable and anxious all the time. It also reduces your alpha brain waves that you need most when it comes to decision making , especially for high-performing men. One way to increase your alpha brain waves is by reducing your caffeine and alcohol intake. It will make you less anxious, more present, more centered and you will achieve your flow state as a powerful man. It is difficult for most people to give up these two but in order to do it, you can try using coffee and alcohol alternatives just to get the stimuli that you need and as a result, you will become more focused and in your flow state more often.  What you will learn in this episode: The negative effects of being dependent on alcohol and caffeine The importance of being in your flow state How to become more centered and focused How to slowly get rid of or reduce the consumption of alcohol and caffeine The alternatives ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 21, 2019 • 19min

Are You Making the Investment?

Episode #121 All too often we feel stuck and as if we aren't moving forward. We may even have great things going on, but feel like we aren't growing as fast as we would like to.  If this is the feeling you haven't been able to shake, it may be time for you to step up your game and make a drastic change. The one thing that people can’t take away from you is your GROWTH. Your level of mental fortitude, your emotional strength, and your intelligence are all things that can’t be taken away from you but are essential. Continuous growth can give you different and better perspectives in life. It can give you a new way of looking at yourself, a new way of relating to others or to your family and to your business. When is the last time you seriously invested in yourself and your growth? When you really want to make a change in your life, make a radical shift. If you want to shift your beliefs, your thoughts, the patterns that are occurring in your life, make a radical shift. Invest in your growth. Take that big leap. You and those around you will be grateful you did.  What you will learn in this episode: The importance of continuously growing The three things you must invest in The importance of investing in yourself ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 19, 2019 • 20min

Why Marriages Break Down

Episode #120 We live in a society where it is being taught that money can solve everything. As a man, we think that we need to make more money to make our marriage or relationship going. We become addicted to work because we always feel that the money we're making is not enough so we grind more, thus leaving us never satisfied. When we're too focused on making money, we forget to switch off and work even more when we get home. We tend to forget our responsibilities to our partner other than making money which results in creating a gap in the relationship. The marriage then begins to break because the man loses himself along the way. He identified himself as a businessman or business owner and that became his identity. Since he thinks that it's his identity, it is difficult for him to switch off and the gap in the relationship becomes bigger and bigger until you don't know your wife anymore and even yourself. In this episode, we talk about how to switch off from work, reclaim your identity and know who you really are. We also talk about the importance of knowing who your wife is, not the woman you married but who she is becoming in the relationship. In this episode you will learn : The importance of knowing when to switch off from work How to prevent a marriage from breaking down The importance of knowing and reclaiming your true identity How to know and treat the symptoms in the relationship ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 16, 2019 • 24min

Revisit: Why Success Is Not Always Sexy

Episode #119 “The most powerful force in the entire universe is compounded interest” In this week's episode, Tim & Doug share another invaluable conversation that will empower your mindset and improve your business and personal when putting to action. How often are we sold the dream of success and what does that dream look like… most likely you are visualizing the “sexy” success story; money, cars, women, big houses. This, however, is simply a dream we’ve been sold via marketing. Marketing also sells us the dream that this can be done instantly and that your success can be overnight. The truth is that success isn’t sexy. While success may give you the ability to possess some of the above, maintained success is a day in day out of crafting and refining your skills. Getting away from the ‘sexy’ dream of success involves changing your mindset and listening to this episode can be the first step on your path to changing. You will hear about the most common mistakes men make and how they set specific goals, reach them and fail to make set the next goal, which means they slowly return to a treadmill lifestyle with no plan and constantly chasing shiny objects and looking for the shortcut to success. When you change your mindset and realize what success is really about, you can improve your business and personal life massively. Doug shares a real-life story of a business owner who was in the habit of looking for shortcuts and chasing the shiny object and discusses how he changed his mindset and his business multiplied. Things you will discover in this episode: The biggest mistakes we make when trying to achieve the success we want. Why consistency is key to any success story There are no shortcuts in life The importance of mindset How to avoid looking for shortcuts Ways to consistently refill your cup How to avoid days becoming a haze One thing you can do right now to achieve the success you want ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 14, 2019 • 23min

Revisit: Honor Your Word

Episode #118 “We’re all on the way out so we may as well enjoy it!” The quote that sums up the premise of this weeks’ episode as Tim & Doug discuss the importance of sticking to your word. Have you ever found you miss appointments, cancel meetings or don’t follow through on things you say you will do with your family or in your business? This doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, just that you are committing to too many things that you are not passionate about. In this episode, you will discover how to better understand your inner workings and the lies you may be telling yourself so that you can spend more time doing the things that you are really passionate about and not burn yourself out with other things. Tim & Doug share techniques you can put into action immediately to filter out things you are saying yes to but not following through on because you don’t have the passion for it. Discover how you can live a much more fulfilling work and personal life by saying “no”. What you will discover in this episode: Why we fall into a trap of not honoring our word How saying “no” can help How to avoid people-pleasing A technique you can use so you only say yes to the things you are passionate about How to improve your self-discipline What to do if you find yourself in a pattern of not honoring your word The importance of accountability How to make the most of your time ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.
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Nov 12, 2019 • 30min

Revisit: Face Your Demons

Episode #117 In this episode, Tim shares a very personal topic of how his extended family is littered with suicide and broken down relationships due to demons of the past being handed down through generations. Tim explains how he overcame the demons in his immediate family and discusses the wider picture of how this generation needs to step up to our demons by having conversations and taking responsibility. Mental health among young people is at an all-time low. Tim & Doug try to trace why so many people can relate to having being passed on the demons of their parents and present a fascinating theory of how what it meant to be a man was very different in previous generations and this has had a long-lasting effect that is taking its toll on the young people of this generation. Central to not wanting to share demons with those closest to us seems to be the old attitude and wiring we have of not to air our dirty laundry, always put on a brave face and the perception that things are great. This has been our instinct for many generations and continues to be so if you look at things like social media where we continue to share our highlights and positivity in a somewhat false and insecure manner. Tim shares an experiment he put into action of trying to connect with everybody he came into contact with and how amazed he was at how much it put people on edge. Tim & Doug explain how they have helped so many men face their demons, because we are wired to fear our demons and ignore them it’s often easier for people to do nothing about it but the truth is that the demons are never as bad as they seem and the answer lies in communicating and asking for help. What you will learn in this episode: How suppressed demons can destroy relationships, business, friendships and lives of the next generation. How to start being honest with yourself and building the strength to share with others. Understanding how we all have demons inside of us. How bad we have become at communicating properly. Why so many of us are disconnected and driven by fear. The real way we should be facing our demons The easiest way to face your demons. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

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