

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Jul 27, 2021 • 23min
Always Late
Episode #384 Is your wife always running late? And does that make you late? This is a big trigger for a lot of men. They're always late to things and they always have to make excuses that cause stress, anxiety, shame, and guilt - which causes fights between their wives. Ultimately, guys cave in and surrender to being late - falling into that beta mode. Recognize that you're upset not because of your wife's routine, or because she's always running late. It's about her making you late or making you wait, which can be a sign of disrespect for a lot of people. Start laying some ground rules. Set some boundaries. If she violates your boundaries, kindly and firmly send them a message that you are serious about your boundaries. In this episode, we're talking about how to deal with your wife always being late and understanding what the real trigger is. We get into how to make yourself calmer when this happens, how to set boundaries, and how to make your wife respect them. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 24, 2021 • 20min
How to Release the Brakes
Episode #383 What happens when you take the brakes off your life? Where in your life are you still holding back? No matter what level you're playing at, the idea of Releasing the Brake always resonates. It can be tricky to know whether it's something that you just don't want to do...or if you're holding back. The excuses in the stories that we tell ourselves are part of the brake. All too often we have our emergency brake on - and that leads to us living a life that's defined by dragging and grinding. When you release the brakes in one area of your life, that same release begins to happen in other areas as well. Take a quick inventory in all Five Territories, think about what you can do about it, and take an action. In this episode, we are going to talk about the idea of releasing the brakes, what can you do to achieve that release, where you're holding back, and what can it do for you when you finally take the brakes off. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 22, 2021 • 29min
Behind the Scenes With Ben Allen
Episode #382 What would you say an average guy is going through? Do they feel stuck? Are they trapped in a cycle, playing out generational patterns and unable to break free? A lot of men get home and they don't get much affection from their wives. They experience this "roommate" syndrome - living with their spouse without the romantic love vibe that they had at the beginning of their marriage. This is agonizing for them. In their head, they start to question themselves. Those thoughts are what lead to them neglecting themselves and self-sabotaging even more. This cycle continues until the foundation of their marriage begins to crumble beneath them. How can you break the cycle? Figure out what your best assets are and invest in them. Invest time and energy to better yourself. If you neglect that, your house will have the kind of shaky foundation that no amount of counseling can repair. In this episode, we're talking about what the average guy is going through right now, why they feel stuck, and why they end up self-sabotaging. We'll also discuss the importance of breaking generational patterns for yourself and your kids, top fears guys have, and how to make your spouse desire you again. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 20, 2021 • 29min
Is It Jealousy Or A Boundary?
Episode #381 If you are noticing that you are not comfortable with her behavior or the behavior of other men, is it jealousy or is it something that is compromising the health of your relationship? Get clear on what your boundaries are, sit down with your partner and communicate about it. Have a discussion and make it fun. Don't take the jealous frame. It's up to the both of you to protect your relationship. If she's not willing to do this, then it might be time to reconsider your relationship or re-examine your role in the relationship. In this episode, we're talking about boundaries - examples of pure jealousy, boundaries that need to be set, the boundaries that are being crossed, a great way to approach your woman about this situation, and what can you do to make sure these barriers are being established. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 17, 2021 • 27min
Get More Sex Without Being Needy
Episode #380 Thinking about asking for more sex, but afraid of seeming needy? How can you initiate without putting everything on the line? There are two types of initiation. Physical and verbal. Touch her in ways and in places that are sensual and intimate. Make her feel that this is not just some kind of movie you are making. The big takeaway here is to enjoy being sensual with her. You can touch a woman in a way that makes her feel connected and feel cared for. Sex is about both arousal and comfort, so make sure she feels comfortable and safe enough first. Initiate the touch without expecting to go any further. In verbal initiation, compliments are the big ticket. Be specific with your compliments so that she's really feeling your appreciation and your shared connection. Flirt, have fun, be silly! Focus on how you can get intimate without being sexual - whether on the physical or verbal side. Have fun with it. Find ways to meet your needs and meets her needs. In this episode, how to get more sex without seeming needy, and what you can do when you want to have sex with your wife. Based on the two types of initiation, we discuss things you can do to get her in the mood and to create chemistry. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 15, 2021 • 27min
Best Hour Of Their Day With Jason Ackerman
Episode #379 How can you be a successful business owner while also taking care of your health and nutrition? Jason Ackerman spends a lot of his time training successful people to take better care of themselves. Focus on one thing - put all your efforts into it, do your best at it - then move on to the next thing. That key concept is what allows me to maintain my health and fitness at a high level. Don't let your own health and fitness get sacrificed - 80% of how you look, feel, and perform is in your nutrition. Having your priorities straight allows you to focus on the right things. In this episode, we're talking with Jason Ackerman about his background, what he helps people with, the concept of filling your cup first, priorities, and how to balance the four pillars of health. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 13, 2021 • 33min
How To Master Stopping Self-Sabotage
Episode #378 When things get really good in your life and when everything is going so right, a lot of guys get scared of what could happen... ...and they self-sabotage. Think of The Five Territories - you have a vision of yourself of what you believe you can do and you believe you can be. That is your upper limit. Until you readjust that thermostat, whenever you go above that limit, it'll crash back down. When you start to grow and supersede that limit, the thermostat kicks off. This happens in all areas of our lives. In this episode, we are going to talk about why we self-sabotage and the steps on how to master stopping self-sabotage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 10, 2021 • 33min
The Alpha Recap #4
Episode #377 What happened at the recent Alpha Reset? The Alpha Reset itself is the key that unlocks the door to the man you are inside. That key is access to the Alpha that is always inside of you. If you own that key you will be able to unlock the door and keep it open - or closed if you want - and that's what makes it so powerful for these guys. True power is about harnessing the power that is lying dormant inside of you. If you decide to harness it, it creates an energy and a presence that arrives in a room before you do. In this episode, we are going to talk about the before and after of the guys who attended the Alpha Reset, a quick recap on what The Alpha Reset is, what happens at an Alpha Reset, why to go, and who it's for. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 8, 2021 • 25min
Revisit: How To Not Be Needy In A Relationship
Episode #376 Should every woman have to fulfill all her man's needs? What most of us men don't realize is that not all our needs can be fulfilled by our wives or our women. It is unfair to give your woman the burden of fulfilling all your needs. The reality is, there are certain needs that can only get fulfilled by being around other men. In this episode, we will learn how we can achieve a much stronger and healthier relationship with our women without sacrificing our needs as men. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jul 6, 2021 • 29min
Revisit: Overcoming Depression
Episode #375 What are the best ways to deal with depression? A lot of men battle with depression, especially when they get older. The higher up the ladder men climb, the more present depression seems to be. This is not something to be shameful of. We all get depressed, but it's how you deal with and handle the depression that shifts everything. In this episode, we are going to talk about the signs and causes of depression and the ways to overcome it. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.


