

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Mar 2, 2021 • 30min
How To Stop Making Excuses
Episode #321 If you want to see a big change in your life, you need to start taking bigger steps. Invest in yourself, take a stand for yourself and commit to your growth. Exercise your free will, and it will open the path of possibilities. You have to realize that you always have a choice, and you can change that choice at any moment. Stop complaining. When you don't believe you have a choice, you cast yourself as a victim. Don't pretend that your hands are tied, don't act like you're a victim, and don't act like you are being forced into anything. Because you are not. In this episode, we are going to talk about how to stop complaining and making excuses, how to exercise free will, knowing your priorities, and taking massive action. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 27, 2021 • 27min
Quality Over Quantity
Episode #320 What is quality time? Are you meeting your wife's needs while maintaining your desires and taking care of yourself? One of your partner's greatest needs is for quality time - and the key word here is quality. Too many men fail to apply something like The 80-20 Rule to quality time with their wife and family. The idea is to see to your wife's needs by being very present. Get grounded in who you are as a man and stand in your power. Deflect the stress and the worries, tune out the outside influences, and be mindful of habitual behavior. Focus on being fully present. In this episode, we are going to talk about meeting your wife's needs, the definition of quality time, and how to provide quality time to your wife and family. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 25, 2021 • 49min
Being A Deer VS. Being A Wolf
Episode #319 What does it mean to be a 'deer' or a 'wolf' in a relationship? Deer behavior is best described as a misplaced desire to be a "good guy" but it will make you the prey and the beta in the relationship. Wolf behavior will position you as the alpha, channeling your masculine energy as a leader and a lover. The more masculine you are, the more feminine she allows herself to be. Learn how to be masculine without being a dick. Show masculine energy from a healthy, loving, and open perspective. Join The Activation Method, take care of yourself to look better and feel better. Be real and honest with yourself and start doing masculine things. In this episode, we are going to talk about the differences between deer behavior and wolf power, and how to show your masculine energy as passionate and pure. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 23, 2021 • 32min
Is It Really Possible To "Have It All?"
Episode #318 Is it possible to have it all? What does Work/Life "balance" mean to you? One of the most powerful aspects of human nature is that we feel more alive when we have purpose and direction. We are designed to thrive! That's why we are always seeking and setting bigger goals. The key to having it all in the Five Territories of life is to identify and seek out Rhythm. Eradicate the idea of Balance and embrace the idea of Rhythm. In this episode, we are going to talk about work-life "balance", why rhythm is what you really need, and the possibility of having it all. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 20, 2021 • 48min
The Four Horsemen Of A Relationship
Episode #317 What are the four things that you need to eliminate in your relationship to make sure it won't end? 1. CRITICISM - the attack on someone's character. When you're criticizing, you're actually insulting that person's character. When you criticize your wife, she will either shut down or attack you. The same goes for when your wife criticizes you, you either shut down or attack her because you get hurt and offended. 2. CONTEMPT - the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn. Contempt takes criticism further, to where we actively mock, belittle, or show genuine ugliness towards our partner. 3. DEFENSIVENESS - Sometimes we get defensive when we are accused unfairly. More often, however, it’s something we fall into when we didn’t do something we were supposed to and we feel guilty. We make excuses. Or we shift the blame onto someone else. 4. ??? - Listen and find out! In this episode, you will learn about the Four Horsemen in a relationship and how you can avoid them to make your relationship last long. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 18, 2021 • 21min
Revisit: What To Do When Your Wife's Checked Out
Episode #316 Have you ever asked yourself these questions??? “What do I do when my wife checks out emotionally?” “What do I do when she ignores me after walking in the door after a busy day of work?” “Why is this happening and how can I change it?” The key we dive into in this episode is to work on yourself…because you can’t see the beauty in someone else until you see the beauty in yourself. Take action NOW before you're FORCED to act. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 16, 2021 • 15min
Would You Fire Yourself?
Episode #315 Would you fire yourself as the CEO of your life? You are the CEO of your own life. Decide if you are going to "promote" or "demote" yourself by evaluating how did you perform in the Five Territories of your life: Self, Health, Wealth, Relationship, and Business. There is a gap between where you are today and where you want to be. Reflect on that and be real with yourself. Write down your plans and the things that you want to do differently. You deserve to live a good life. If you are struggling, reach out to the community, step up, and get activated. Take action. In this episode, we are going to talk about how to evaluate yourself in the Five Territories of your life, and how to take action. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 13, 2021 • 28min
The Other You
Episode #314 If I were to ask your wife if she thinks you show up as your authentic self every day....what would she say? Would those closest to you say that you are fully living out who you are.....or would they say that they can see you trying to be someone you're not? We have this perceived idea of who we "SHOULD" be and who we think our loved ones around us "WANT" us to be...but the reality is, those who truly love us want us to be the highest and most authentic version of ourselves. In this episode, Doug and Tim touch a bit on The Gap and what it looks like when we aren't showing up as our true selves and where we can start to step into that person. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 11, 2021 • 19min
Dropping Everything for Your Wife?
Episode #313 How do you gain admiration and respect from your wife? You begin by respecting yourself and your own time. Don't let her take the dominant role and don't let yourself be sacrificed for her. In order to gain admiration and respect from your partner, always take care of yourself and take a stand for who you are and what you want. Put yourself first and honor your boundaries. If you put yourself last, you are going to get drained and emptied out. You'll feel depressed, angry, lonely, resentful...eventually, you'll explode. So stop dropping everything for your wife! You only have one shot at this game called life. Get activated and take charge. In this episode, we are going to talk about how to stop dropping everything for your wife and the key steps on how to do it carefully and gracefully. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Feb 9, 2021 • 23min
Become Dominant with the Dopamine Surprise
Episode #312 How do you become dominant using "the dopamine surprise"? How do you take back your Alpha role? Surprise her and snap her out of the routine for her to realize that you are the true Alpha. When she gets surprised, she has a choice subconsciously to either fight with you or submit to you. If she submits, dopamine is released and there is an excitatory response that allows her to fall into her feminine, putting you naturally in the Alpha role. How can you do this? Try planning something that keeps her guessing and gets her excited. Lead the journey and be in control. In this episode, we are going to talk about steps to spice up your relationship while maintaining your dominant frame, and how to add an element of excitement and submission that will put you in the Alpha driver's seat. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.