

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Apr 17, 2021 • 28min
When DIY Doesn't Work
Episode #341 What can you do when DIY doesn't work? What will it cost you? Drywall is something that a lot of people think they can do on their own. Seems easy enough, right? If you've ever tried, you know it's much harder than it looks to do even a decent job. If you want your drywalling done right and looking good, it's simple - hire a professional. The harder a thing is to do well, the more you need an expert. Work with professionals and make sure things are done right. As you might have guessed, this goes for building up your relationship, too. The idea of doing it on your own seems manly. But if you don't do it right, another man is going to come in and tear it all down. We don't have the luxury of having a second or third chance. So rather than doing it on your own, hire a professional, have them come in, and have it done right the first time. In this episode, we are going to talk about the DIY approach to relationships and what will it cost you if it doesn't work. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 15, 2021 • 34min
Do The 5 Love Languages Actually Work? With Franco Burrows
Episode #340 How do you show love? How do you want to receive love? How do you determine your partner's love language? A love language is a tool for enhancing or amplifying your relationship, but you have to build the relationship's foundation first. Starting with a solid foundation, you'll be able to understand how best to use this powerful tool. Once you discover your love language and acknowledge the love language of your partner, you will begin to see the connection and passion between you grow stronger. In this episode, you will learn the importance of building a solid foundation in your relationship, the importance of determining your partner's love language, and how to use this tool to grow stronger and closer together. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 13, 2021 • 22min
Roommate With A Ring
Episode #339 On wedding days, you have high expectations for your future together. You anticipate becoming a 'power couple'. But over time the potency of your union starts to slip away, and you find yourself split apart and drifting further away from each other. When this happens, often the guy falls into deactivated mode and tries to repair the marriage by making his wife happy...but that doesn't work either. Before you know it, you and your wife have become more roommates than you are lovers. In this episode, we are going to talk about the idea of having a roommate with a ring, the reasons why you start feeling like roommates, and how to reconfirm your commitments to each other. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 10, 2021 • 24min
What Happened On Doug's Recent Birthday
Episode #338 Happy Birthday, Doug! What realizations and reflections did he have while celebrating his birthday? He woke up next to his wife in the morning and they made love right away. She prepared all his favorite food. She made an amazing breakfast. She arranged a special day just for him. It was an amazing time. The moment she smiled and looked at him with admiration and respect, he had a moment of reflection and looked back at the way things used to be in their life. He was thinking back to the time when he and his wife were going through a rough patch - remembering that journey between what they used to be to what they are today. In this episode, we are going to talk about the reflections Doug had while celebrating his birthday and how to be able to get into the marriage you dreamed about when you first got together. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 8, 2021 • 35min
Two Ways To Increase Your Sexual Market Value
Episode #337 What is your market sexual value? How can you calculate your SMV...and what can you do to get that number up? Are you finding yourself in the nice guy trap? Are you in a deactivated state? Let's say you're a stock in an open market. Let's also say that you are fully owned by your wife. If your stock price has been going down since you got married, wouldn't it make sense to trade some of it on the market for a stock that's rising in value? Your wife made an investment, and she's looking for you to go up in value. Your external attitude (physical appearance, etc.) and your internal attitude (character - who you are as a man) is very important. Your energetic presence precedes you. If somebody is investing in bettering themselves, their market value is going to go up. If you apply an external look with an internal game, it's game over. Your sexual market value will never go down. In this episode, we are going to talk about how discipline and honesty affect your sexual market value, how to know what things to change to better yourself, and the two main ways to increase your sexual market value. Get a free quiz to determine your sexual market value and what you can do to increase it here - https://thepowerfulman.com/smv __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 6, 2021 • 24min
Being Your Wife's Bitch
Episode #336 She's taken on the role of an alpha, and it's turned your relationship upside-down. No balance, no boundaries, no activation. Start communicating what is acceptable and not acceptable in a calm and firm way. Establish boundaries. Staying connected while maintaining those boundaries is very important. It's how you build respect and admiration. When you realize that you've become "deactivated", take immediate and massive action. Being activated is being an alpha. Get tuned in and turned on to yourself and get fired up about who you are as a man. In this episode, we are going to talk about what to do to stop being your wife's bitch, how to get activated, and be an alpha in your relationship. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 3, 2021 • 22min
Are You Begging For Sex?
Episode #335 Guys beg for sex for different reasons. Some beg for sex because their wife is the only person who can provide it. Some guys are worried that they're going to go out and cheat to get their needs met. When you find yourself in a position where you are begging for sex from your wife, remember that it is probably the most unsexy thing a guy can do. Awareness is the first key. Some guys don't even realize that they're begging. You want her to want it just as much as you do! And for that, a woman must feel seen, heard, and desired. You're an Alpha. You know what you want and you go after it. And if she says no...that's fine! Laugh it off like it's no big deal. Stop begging immediately. Implement the Triad of Connection, it can get this process moving in your direction. Practice engaged indifference, as if she is not the only one that can satisfy your needs. That will cause a shift in the power dynamics. Remember, you are not gonna beg for it. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 1, 2021 • 25min
From Arguing 3 Times A Week To Sex 3 Times A Week
Episode #334 In a marriage, little things start to creep in - resentments, arguments, you know how it goes. And your old ways of dealing with this "creep" don't work very well anymore. The real problem is that you're so focused on the negative experiences and emotions in the relationships that the scales get unbalanced and you can't move forward. You get stuck, and the problems keep coming. Learn how to stop focusing on the negative and start balancing out the scale. Do something different. We need to get those scales to neutral and then back to positive using the Triad of Connection. It's a simple process made up of simple changes. Remember, when we properly focus on the positive, the negative doesn't seem to matter. In this episode, we are going to talk about the analogy of scales, what the Triad of Connection is, and how it can help you to go from heated arguments to hot sex two to three times a week...or more! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 30, 2021 • 26min
It's In The Details with Franco Burrows
Episode #333 Are you in a situation right now where you're trying to solve something and you just can't seem to figure it out and move forward? Maybe you're trying too hard to solve it based on your past experiences...and nothing's working. Maybe it's time to try something else. A different perspective...another way... Do something different to allow you to get to the other side. Do something different to shake things up. Because you can't bring back lost times. The more you try your old ways of solving a problem, the more time it takes from your present - which you could be spending on so many more important things. What got you here won't get you there. In this episode, we will learn from the experiences of Franco Burrows. Learn how he overcame a sickness that turns out to be a not-so-serious one. And learn how this situation helped him to better himself, his relationship, and other aspects of his life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Mar 27, 2021 • 30min
Leading A Team Effectively
Episode #332 What does effective leadership look like? A successful leader is more of an adviser, a mentor, and a coach. It allows you to lead on a higher level. The most common mistake people make when leading teams is trying to "lead-by-consensus". Maybe it's fear, or a genuine desire to do right by those you lead. But leadership-by-consensus most often produces a team that is stagnant, unmotivated, and entirely lacking any clarity. Take that leadership role. Take charge as a leader - not as a dictator, but more as a guide. In this episode, we are going to talk about how to lead effectively, common problems that arise in leading teams, and the steps we can take to allow us to be successful and effective leaders. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.