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Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Jun 1, 2021 • 26min
The Greatest Way To Leverage Your Brain To Stop Self-Sabotage
Episode #360 How can you break the barriers that have been holding you back? How often do we take the time to work on our unconscious brain? There are things that we are unconsciously committed to that we're not even aware of - yet it's why certain patterns keep replaying in your life. This is the "emergency brake" that keeps you from achieving your goals, dreams, and desires. Figure out what it is that you are complaining about. Pick one of the Five Territories and choose a scenario you complain about the most. All that complaining is a symptom - it means you are unconsciously committed to the results that you are getting. Stop complaining about it and figure out why you are unconsciously committed to it. Remember: Energy flows where attention goes. In this episode, we are going to talk about ways to leverage your brain to stop self-sabotage, how the conscious and unconscious brain works, how to break barriers that have been holding you back, and how to work on your subconscious brain. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 29, 2021 • 32min
Austin Maginnis' Journey
Episode #359 Are you living the kind of life most men do - chasing the dollars and putting yourself last? Are you in a relationship where your wife becomes more of the alpha? Well, that's the kind of life Austin Maginnis had before joining The Brotherhood. Like most men, he was stuck in a life that was stagnant, routine, and stressful. Being married to a woman with a strong personality made it harder to be the alpha in the relationship at all times. But when he decided to make the change and join The Brotherhood, Austin went all out and never looked back. Going through the process, he noticed a lot of positive changes in his self, his relationship, and his business. Making that leap to change your life is a very difficult decision. But when you've become sick and tired of experiencing the same stressful life day after day, when you are truly fed up with it, you can't help but decide to make that change. In this episode, you will learn how Austin Maginnis found his answers by joining The Brotherhood. Learn how his past life relates to what you are experiencing right now and decide to make the step that will make your life better. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 27, 2021 • 16min
The #1 Thing People Get Wrong About The Alpha Male
Episode #358 What do you think of when you hear the words "Alpha Male"? Do you think of the bro who is always at the gym repping out his bench press and beating his chest? The dude at the bar that hits on every woman and picks fights with every guy? Is he riding around on a motorcycle, soaked in whiskey and cloaked in a haze of smoke? Do you think of a man who is a complete jerk - the total asshole? When people hear the term "Alpha Male" they often see some version of the above. But when we talk about The Alpha Male, we're talking about something much different - not some performance of masculinity, but something truly Powerful. In this episode, we talk about what defines a true Alpha - and the #1 misconception about what it means to be an Alpha Male. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 25, 2021 • 22min
One Man's Question On How To Save His Marriage
Episode #357 He's in a relationship for 9 years, and they have 2 boys together. Since having children, their relationship has suffered - to the point that they are essentially together for the convenience of their lives as parents. He's suffered many breakdowns without seeking professional help. He thinks it's just a phase of their relationship and that they'll be fine...until she drops a bombshell: She thinks she wants to leave. The scales are tipped away from you. You needed to tip the scales back in your favor. The best thing you can do is to get into The Activation Method. Use the Triad of Connection and utilize the system. You can get individual coaching for your particular situation. The breakdowns were a symptom of something else happening inside of you, and you need to start there. Do it for yourself first - not just to win her back. Begin that shift for you and your kids. Be a hundred percent committed to fixing your marriage and your relationship by taking care of yourself first. Do whatever it takes. Go all in. Do everything in your power to salvage your relationship. In this episode, it's one man's question about how to save his marriage. Learn what you can do to give it a chance to work, how the Triad of Connection can help you tip the scales in your favor, and how that leads to positive feelings and experiences. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 22, 2021 • 22min
The Death of Needing Your Wife's Permission
Episode #356 How did you get into a position where you have to ask your wife's permission for everything? And how can you regain leadership in your relationship? Being in a position where you have to ask your wife's permission is a major red flag. Men often think they are doing the right thing. They think they are asking their wife for permission as a show of respect. They are terrified because maybe the marriage isn't going too well or the connection isn't there or there are "warning shots" of separation. Stop asking for permission to live your life. Stop asking permission to lead your family. Stop asking for permission to be you. If you know that your decision is right for you and your family, just step into it. In this episode, we are going to talk about how you may have gotten into this position where you have to ask your wife's permission - and how to regain leadership in your relationship, take control, and prove yourself in your decisions. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 20, 2021 • 23min
Ben Wood's Journey
Episode #355 Before he started The Activation Method, he was under massive strain. He was dealing with a stressful business, a personal injury, and his child being sick. He finally tried reaching out to doctors and seeking help...because he was experiencing a physical and mental breakdown. If you are struggling with something, if there is something you don't know, ask somebody for help. Don't let ego get in the way. Go out and find the help you need. Many men neglect themselves in the pursuit of other things - money, success, you know the rest. There's a lot more to life than just business. If you are making the effort to "fill your cup" in every area of your life, you simply have so much to give - for yourself and for those you love. In this episode, we are going to talk about Ben Wood's journey, how The Activation Method and Alpha Reset changed him and his perspective, and his advice to men who are not sure how to commit to themselves. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 18, 2021 • 15min
How To Make Your Wife Feel Sexy
Episode #354 How do you make your wife feel sexy? What can you do to make your woman feel desired? A woman's desire is to be needed and wanted. Women's internal need is to be truly seen by her man. If she can't be seen by her man the way she needs to, she's gonna seek that validation outside the relationship. If you catch your wife doing something sexy, compliment her on her sexiness - and do it every single day. Compliment her privately and publicly. Being seen as valued and desired allows her to feel better about herself. In this episode, we are going to talk about how to make your wife feel sexy, what to do to make her feel desired, and how being activated helps in making your wife feel sexy. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 15, 2021 • 24min
Is Your Wife Using Sex As A Weapon?
Episode #353 Is your wife using sex as a weapon? Sex is easily one of the most important and powerful aspects of a marriage. But when women start using sex as a weapon, usually through denial, there might be something deeply wrong in the relationship. If this is happening, you'll quickly find yourself in a beta or deactivated state. As a man, you need to sit down and call it out. Have a conversation with your wife about it. Find a way to transform from a deactivated state to activated. Start building your courage and confidence - this will be the foundation of who you become. It will naturally spill over into your relationship. Your wife will start to see you differently. She'll start to see certainty and stability in you, and she'll start to trust you again. Everyone deserves the best - the respect, the admiration, the intimacy. You can have them back by doing the work on yourself. Stand your ground, draw the line, and become activated. In this episode, you will learn the importance of becoming activated - being an alpha - and how that leads directly to the kind of sex life you want from your wife. Free yourself from sexual manipulation and regain the respect of your wife. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 13, 2021 • 31min
What To Do When You Catch Your Wife Cheating
Episode #352 What would do if you find out that your wife is cheating on you? How would you deal with it? Do you confront your wife? When men get hurt like this, shame becomes prevalent. Shame is where it gets dangerous. Shame stops men from reaching out to other guys. Shame comes around from the feeling of not being enough. The shame and the hurt cause men to go into an ultra-beta mode or DEERing - Defending, Explaining, Excusing, Rationalizing. You got to take full responsibility for everything in your life. Take full responsibility - but always remember that this is not your fault. This is on them. Even if you have contributed in some way, it doesn't make an allowance for that kind of behavior. In this episode, we are going to talk about physical and emotional cheating, what to do when you find out that your wife is cheating on you, how to handle it, and what you can do about it. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 11, 2021 • 24min
Don't Let The Shame Eat You Alive
Episode #351 How can you learn to share and open up more? How do you reach out without worrying about the shame around it? Most men don't have the courage to ask for help...or even to ask for directions. You can't solve your own problems from the same perspective that you are currently in. If you are struggling in any area, reaching out is the way forward. When we openly and freely ask for help, we travel more efficiently and enjoy the journey - all without stress, worry, or shame. In this episode, we talk about the struggles many men are facing, how we're able to deal with them, and how important it is to ask for help without worrying about the shame around it. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.