

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Jun 22, 2024 • 25min
Summer Strategies: Mastering Your Kids' Free Time Without Losing Your Mind
Episode #839 Summer is here, and it's time to make it the best one yet for your marriage and family life! In this episode, we dive deep into the challenges and opportunities that come with the summer season, especially if you have kids at home. I'll share practical strategies to help you manage the chaos, reconnect with your wife, and ensure that everyone in the household feels seen and heard. We'll discuss the importance of planning ahead, setting clear expectations, and creating a balanced schedule that allows for both family fun and intimate moments with your spouse. Learn how to navigate the tricky dynamics of kids' constant demands and your wife's potential overwhelm, which can often lead to a lack of intimacy. Join us as we share insights from my own experiences and from other successful men who have found ways to maintain a thriving marriage during the busy summer months. Whether it's scheduling date nights, planning family vacations, or just finding time for a quiet moment together, we've got you covered. Don't let the summer slip by in a haze of stress and missed opportunities. Tune in now and make this season one of growth, connection, and unforgettable memories with your loved ones. As always, take massive action and start making a difference today! Listen now and transform your summer into the best one yet for your marriage! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 20, 2024 • 31min
Unlocking True Intimacy: Why Her Trust and Safety Are the Keys
Episode #838 Are you a married businessman feeling like your marriage is on the rocks? Do you feel disconnected from your wife and kids, burdened by stress, and wondering if you can ever rekindle the passion that once existed? You're not alone. In this episode of "Unlocking True Intimacy," we dive deep into the heart of what it means to connect with your partner on a profound level. This conversation explores the barriers that often stand in the way of true intimacy and how to overcome them. Learn how to break free from the cycle of arguments, restore respect and admiration from your partner, and create a more intimate and fulfilling marriage. Whether you're struggling with a lack of passion, dealing with the aftermath of infidelity, or simply want to strengthen your connection with your spouse, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Tune in and discover how you can take the lead in your marriage, transform your relationship, and unlock the true intimacy you've been longing for. Don't miss out on this eye-opening discussion that could change the course of your marriage and your life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 18, 2024 • 27min
Revisit: A Woman's Take – Why Neediness Is Such A Turn-off
In this episode, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews dive deep into why neediness is such a turn-off in relationships. Joined by special guests, they explore the root causes of neediness and offer practical steps to regain confidence and self-worth. Learn how to stop seeking validation from others and start filling your own cup. Discover the importance of pursuing your passions, connecting with a supportive group of men, and reclaiming your identity outside of your relationship. Whether you're struggling with feeling unappreciated or just want to strengthen your sense of self, this episode provides valuable insights to help you take massive action and transform your life. Tune in and find out how to shift from being a "needy deer" to a "confident wolf" and why it's crucial to lead your life with authenticity and strength. Don't miss out on this empowering discussion that could change your perspective and your relationship for the better. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 15, 2024 • 19min
Revisit: Maybe This Is The Hidden Reason Why You Argue
Episode #836 Ever feel like you and your spouse are speaking two different languages when you argue? In this episode, we dig deep into the hidden reasons behind those constant fights that leave you both frustrated and disconnected. Join us as we revisit one of our most insightful discussions, shedding light on the underlying issues that often go unnoticed. Whether it's about unmet expectations, misunderstood intentions, or deeply rooted emotional triggers, we uncover the truth behind the chaos. Perfect for married male business owners looking to strengthen their marriage without compromising their business success. Tune in to gain the tools and understanding to transform your relationship and reconnect with your spouse on a deeper level. Don't miss out on this eye-opening conversation that could be the game-changer in your marriage. Listen now and start the journey towards a more harmonious and loving relationship. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 13, 2024 • 20min
Revisit: Juggling Act: Mastering Work-life Balance As A Married Business Owner
Episode #835 Imagine you only had six months to live—how would you live differently? This thought-provoking episode encourages you to reflect on your priorities and make impactful changes. In this episode, Tim shares insights from the inner circle, a high-level mastermind group where men invest significantly to achieve peak performance in business, marriage, and health. The discussion centers around the importance of organizing the five territories of life: self, health, relationships, wealth, and business. Through guided exercises, you'll learn how to handle life's "shit tests" with grace and maintain a playful, loving approach even in challenging times. The episode also emphasizes the power of living with intention and creating lasting memories with loved ones. Join the conversation, take massive action, and shift from a "deer" to a "wolf" mindset—wise, open, loving, and fierce. Don't just passively listen; engage, reflect, and transform your life today. Remember, life is too short for average. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 11, 2024 • 26min
The Nice Guy Evolution: Balancing Kindness and Assertiveness
Episode #834 Welcome to another episode of The TPM Show, where we dive deep into the complex world of relationships and personal growth for men. In this episode, "The Nice Guy Evolution: Balancing Kindness and Assertiveness," Doug Holt and special guest, coach Andy Torr, tackle the delicate balance between being a nice guy and maintaining assertiveness in relationships. Many men fall into the "nice guy" trap, believing that appeasing their partner will lead to a happy marriage. Doug and Andy explore why this approach often backfires, pushing partners away instead of bringing them closer. They discuss the common pitfalls of "nice guy syndrome," such as people-pleasing and suppressing one's own needs, and offer practical advice on how to break free from this cycle. Drawing from personal experiences and the transformational journeys of men in the Activation Method, they provide insights on how to be genuinely kind without falling into the trap of seeking validation. Learn how to navigate the fine line between kindness and assertiveness, ensuring that your actions are aligned with your values and not driven by a need for approval. Join us as we delve into the heart of what it means to be a powerful, authentic man in today's world. Whether you're struggling with being too nice or swinging too far in the other direction, this episode offers actionable steps to help you find the balance that works for you and your relationship. Tune in and take the first step towards evolving into the best version of yourself, both in your marriage and beyond. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 6, 2024 • 20min
Emotional Savvy: Unlocking Your Inner Potential
Episode #832 Join Doug Holt and Andy Torr in this enlightening episode of "The Powerful Man Podcast" as they dive deep into the heart of emotional intelligence. Discover how understanding and managing your emotions can lead to stronger relationships, greater self-awareness, and a more fulfilling life. In this episode, Doug and Andy explore the concept of emotional intelligence, shedding light on how emotions like anger and vulnerability play pivotal roles in our lives. They discuss practical strategies for recognizing and addressing underlying emotions, enhancing your ability to connect with others genuinely. Listen as Andy shares his insights on developing the muscle of vulnerability and the power of emotional attunement, while Doug emphasizes the importance of balancing emotional expression with maintaining a sense of safety and stability in relationships. This candid conversation also touches on the cultural misconceptions around stoicism and the critical difference between being stoic and being emotionally numb. Whether you're navigating personal challenges or seeking to improve your relationships, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to help you become emotionally savvy and unlock your inner potential. Tune in and take the first step towards a more emotionally intelligent and fulfilling life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 4, 2024 • 22min
Nice Guy Habits That Make Her Leave
Episode #831 In this episode, Doug Holt is joined by Brad Holt, our CEO and trusted advisor. Together, they dive deep into a critical topic affecting many men: the habits of being a "nice guy" that can unintentionally drive your wife away. Doug and Brad discuss how many well-meaning men, often successful business leaders and dedicated husbands, fall into patterns of behavior that they believe will make their wives happy, only to find it has the opposite effect. These behaviors, rooted in the desire to please and avoid conflict, can actually lead to a loss of attraction and respect in a relationship. Key Takeaways: Understanding "Nice Guy Syndrome": Discover what it is and how it manifests in everyday actions. Common Nice Guy Habits: Learn about the specific habits that repel rather than attract, including being overly accommodating, avoiding conflict, and lacking decisiveness. Impact on Relationships: Understand how these behaviors affect the dynamic between you and your spouse, pushing her into a more dominant role. Actionable Advice: Get practical tips on how to reclaim your leadership in the relationship, make decisive choices, and create a more balanced and fulfilling partnership. Join Doug and Brad as they share personal stories, client experiences, and actionable strategies to help you avoid the pitfalls of the "nice guy" persona and build a stronger, more passionate relationship with your wife. Tune in and learn how to transform your nice guy habits into traits that truly attract and sustain a loving, respectful, and exciting marriage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 1, 2024 • 27min
What Is Engaged Indifference?
Episode #830 In this episode, Doug Holt and Brad Holt dive into the concept of "engaged indifference." Learn how staying emotionally grounded while remaining present can transform your relationship. Doug shares personal stories and practical strategies for becoming the unwavering lighthouse in your marriage, ensuring your wife feels emotionally safe, even during conflicts. Join us as we explore how to break free from defensive reactions and create a space where genuine communication and connection can flourish. Whether you're facing frequent disagreements or simply want to deepen your bond, this episode offers valuable insights to help you lead with confidence and compassion. Tune in to discover how you can practice engaged indifference to foster a resilient and loving marriage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man. Date Night Questions PDF: https://www.thepowerfulman.com/datenight/

May 30, 2024 • 33min
It's Not Just About Your Marriage
Episode #829 In this episode, Doug Holt and Brad Holt dive deep into the multifaceted world of men's growth, exploring the essential five territories: Self, Health, Wealth, Relationships, and Business. Discover how balancing these areas is crucial for a fulfilling life, both personally and professionally. Doug and Brad discuss real-life success stories, revealing how men who thought their primary goal was to save their marriage found that the journey led to a complete life overhaul. From rekindling passion in the bedroom to landing major business deals, the episode underscores the interconnectedness of our personal and professional lives. You'll learn actionable strategies to protect and nurture each of the five territories, ensuring that when one area flourishes, it elevates the others. Whether you're struggling with relationship woes, business burnout, or personal stagnation, this episode offers valuable insights to help you reclaim control and live powerfully. Highlights: Understanding the Five Territories and their impact on your life Real-life stories of transformation in relationships and business Practical steps to apply these principles and see immediate results The importance of community and support in personal growth How to manage anxiety and excitement to fuel your success Join us for a conversation beyond saving your marriage and setting the stage for holistic growth. Don't miss out on the chance to take massive action towards becoming the powerful man you are meant to be. Tune in now and start your journey to a more balanced and empowered life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.


