

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Apr 25, 2024 • 15min
Calculating Your Losses: What Inaction Really Costs
Episode #814 Are you tired of watching opportunities pass you by? Ever wondered what inaction is truly costing you, not just in business but in life? In this episode, Doug Holt dives deep into the concept of the "cost of inaction." Using compelling anecdotes and expert insights, he examines how failing to act can detrimentally impact various aspects of your life—from your relationships to your business ventures. Doug discusses how hesitation can be the biggest threat to progress and offers practical advice on how to evaluate and confront the costs associated with inaction. Whether it's the potential loss of business, the emotional toll of a failing marriage, or missed personal growth opportunities, this episode will make you reconsider the true price of staying in your comfort zone. Learn how to take decisive action and avoid the pitfalls of stagnation, ensuring you're not the one left with regrets. Join us for a candid discussion on making proactive choices that lead to a more fulfilled and successful life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 23, 2024 • 21min
No Laughing Matter: When Your Jokes Hurt More Than They Heal
Episode #813 Ever wonder if your playful jabs at your partner are truly all in good fun, or if they might be causing more harm than good? In this episode, Doug Holt explores a critical aspect of relationships that many overlook—the impact of our jokes and teasing on our spouses. Whether it's a light-hearted comment about the dishes or a sarcastic remark in a social setting, the words we choose and the energy behind them can profoundly affect the emotional climate of our relationships. Doug shares personal anecdotes and insights from years of coaching, revealing how what's meant as bonding humor can sometimes alienate the ones we love most. He delves into the nuances of "reading the room," understanding the energy behind our words, and recognizing how these interactions can influence our spouse's feelings of safety and love. Listeners will come away with strategies to ensure their humor fosters connection rather than discord, emphasizing the importance of emotional awareness and the power of well-timed levity in building a loving and supportive marriage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 20, 2024 • 30min
Woman's POV: Choosing Sides-Navigating the Parent-Child Bond in Marriage
Episode #812 Are you navigating the complex dynamics of marriage and parenthood? In this episode of "The TPM Show," we're joined by special guest Erin, as we dive into the intricate relationship between spouses and their roles as parents. The discussion centers around a common issue many couples face—when one spouse feels sidelined in favor of the children. In this episode, Doug and Erin explore the biological and emotional changes that occur when becoming a parent, especially from a woman's perspective. They discuss how these shifts can lead to a spouse inadvertently seeking emotional fulfillment from their children, creating potential strains in the marriage. Listeners will gain insights into maintaining a healthy balance between their roles as partners and parents. They'll learn strategies for engaging in meaningful conversations that strengthen their marriage and set a positive example for their children. Tune in to understand how to navigate the parental roles in your marriage and protect the integrity of your relationship while fostering a nurturing environment for your children. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 18, 2024 • 29min
Woman's POV: Change She Can't Believe-Decoding Distrust in Transformation
Episode #811 Have you ever wondered why changes in relationships often spark distrust, even if they're for the better? Why does transformation trigger fear, and how can we navigate the delicate balance of trust? In this episode of "The Powerful Man Show," we delve into the complex dynamics of personal change and its impact on relationships. Joined by the host's wife, Erin, they explore the woman's perspective on witnessing transformation, the tests of trust that follow, and the quest for emotional safety in partnerships. Erin offers unique insights into why women might distrust change in their partners and shares personal anecdotes to illuminate the struggles of accepting newfound stability. The discussion revolves around the importance of consistency, emotional safety, and the critical role of communication in reinforcing trust. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the intricacies of trust, the challenges of maintaining changes, and practical advice on fostering a supportive and secure relationship dynamic. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationships through understanding and mutual respect. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 16, 2024 • 30min
Woman's POV:Filling Your Cup Differently-Understanding the Gender Gap
Episode #810 Are you curious about the nuances between how men and women recharge and connect with their energies? Dive into a refreshing exploration of gender differences and the paths to revitalization in our latest episode of the TPM show. In this episode, we're joined by special guest Erin, who shares insights from a woman's perspective on the unique ways women fill their cup and embrace their femininity. Discover the profound differences in how men and women experience and manage their energies, and how understanding these distinctions can profoundly affect relationships. Erin elaborates on the role of supportive environments, the importance of alone time, and practical strategies men can employ to help the women in their lives thrive. From the significance of physical touch and emotional presence to the influence of hormonal cycles, this discussion unveils essential techniques for nurturing connection and well-being. Whether you're looking to deepen your relationship or simply expand your understanding of gender-specific needs, this episode offers valuable lessons in empathy, support, and love. Tune in to learn how you can better support the women in your life to reconnect with their true selves and enhance their overall happiness. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 13, 2024 • 11min
Anniversaries Unveiled: Transform Your Milestones into a Masterpiece of Love
Episode #809 Are you ready to transform your anniversary from an overlooked date to a masterpiece of love and surprise? How can you ensure that this special occasion leaves both you and your partner eagerly awaiting the next? In this episode of "Anniversaries Unveiled," Doug Holt dives deep into the heart of celebrating anniversaries not just as a date on the calendar, but as a landmark event in your relationship. He shares personal anecdotes and practical tips that can turn your annual celebration into an unforgettable experience. Doug discusses the importance of planning ahead and breaking free from the monotony of repeating the same celebration year after year. He offers insights into how men often scramble at the last minute for anniversary ideas and gifts, and how simple changes in planning can vastly improve this tradition. From scheduling reminders to brainstorming creative ideas with a community of like-minded individuals, Doug provides a plethora of strategies to ensure your anniversary is both stress-free and spectacular. Learn to approach your anniversary with the excitement and dedication it deserves, making every year a unique celebration that strengthens your bond and enriches your shared memories. Whether it's a quiet dinner at home, a surprise trip, or a new adventure, discover how to craft an anniversary that truly reflects your love and commitment. Tune in to start your journey toward an anniversary that both you and your partner will cherish! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 11, 2024 • 16min
When Your Libidos Don't Match: Bridging the Desire Gap in Marriage
Ever wonder how mismatched libidos can impact a marriage and what you can do about it? In this episode of the TPM Show, Doug Holt delves into the common but rarely discussed issue of the "desire gap" in relationships. Discover how differences in sexual desire between partners can strain a marriage and the practical, actionable strategies that can help bridge this gap. Doug shares personal anecdotes and professional insights on the dynamics of desire, revealing why connection is crucial for intimacy. He discusses the impact of schedules, stress, and biological rhythms on sexual health and offers tips on how to synchronize your sexual relationship with your partner. From scheduling sex dates to understanding each other's needs and fostering open communication, this episode is packed with advice to help you enhance intimacy and strengthen your relationship. Join Doug as he explores how to turn a challenging situation into an opportunity for growth and deeper connection in your marriage. Don't miss out on these insights! __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 9, 2024 • 22min
Love is a Battlefield: Turning Conflict into Compassion in Your Marriage
Are you and your partner battling more than bonding? In today’s TPM Show episode, we dive into the age-old question of how to turn marital conflict into a catalyst for compassion and connection. In this episode, Doug Holt discusses the common but challenging issue of conflict in marriages. He opens up about his own experiences and shares insights on navigating disagreements to strengthen rather than strain relationships. With a focus on fighting for your marriage, not in it, Doug introduces practical techniques such as the "hidden motives technique" and the importance of validation and empathy in communication. Listeners will learn about setting expectations, handling miscommunications, and the significance of regular relationship check-ins to keep love tanks full. Whether you’re dealing with minor annoyances or major disagreements, this episode offers valuable strategies for creating a more harmonious and fulfilling partnership. Tune in to transform the way you and your partner fight, turning every argument into an opportunity for deeper understanding and connection. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 6, 2024 • 17min
Is your phone stealing your spouse? Reconnect in the screen-saturated world
Episode #807 Is your relationship suffering in our screen-saturated world? Are digital devices becoming a third wheel in your marriage? In an age where technology often competes with intimacy, this episode dives deep into the heart of relationships amidst the digital chaos. Discover how to reclaim the connection that screens have slowly eroded away. In this episode, Doug Holt addresses a critical issue facing couples today: the battle for attention in a world dominated by screens. He shares personal anecdotes, humor, and actionable advice on navigating digital distractions to foster deeper connections. Listeners will learn three key strategies: understanding the impact of technology on relationships, enhancing communication to bridge the digital divide, and reigniting the spark that technology may have dimmed. Whether you find your partner lost in endless scrolls or you're seeking ways to rekindle the romance without digital interference, this discussion offers a lifeline. By implementing a digital detox, establishing tech-free zones, and prioritizing meaningful interaction, couples can move from being screen-distracted to being deeply connected. Dive in to discover practical steps toward a more intimate and engaging relationship, proving that you can be more captivating than the latest social media trend. Let's learn to put the phones down and turn the romance up. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Apr 4, 2024 • 12min
Beyond the Material: Making Your Woman Feel Seen, Heard, and Desired
Episode #805 Welcome to another episode of the TPM show, where we dive deep into the essence of truly meaningful relationships. This time, Doug Holt explores the unparalleled gift every man can give to the woman in his life: the gift of being seen, heard, and desired. Beyond material possessions and superficial accolades lies a profound understanding of a woman's intrinsic needs that, when fulfilled, can elevate a relationship to extraordinary heights. In this episode, Doug shares personal anecdotes and insights from his own life and marriage, revealing how acknowledging and acting upon these three fundamental desires can transform the dynamics of a relationship. From the joyous labor of a barn raising at the TPM ranch to the intimate moments that forge deeper connections, Doug's narratives are filled with humor, honesty, and the occasional candid revelation, making for a compelling listen. Listeners will discover: The importance of truly seeing your partner beyond the surface level, recognizing her for all that she is—the good, the bad, and everything in between. The art of listening for understanding, not just hearing words but grasping the feelings and intentions behind them. The power of desire in making a woman feel cherished, wanted, and profoundly connected to her partner. Doug doesn't just talk the talk; he walks the walk, sharing actionable tips and strategies that any man can implement to make his woman feel seen, heard, and desired. Whether it's checking in on what she's reading, understanding her daily challenges, or creating moments of intimacy that reinforce your connection, Doug lays out a blueprint for enriching your relationship in ways you might not have imagined. Listen to the episode as Doug demystifies the complexities of emotional intimacy, offering a roadmap to a more fulfilling partnership. By the end of this episode, you'll be inspired to look beyond the material and towards the heart of what makes a relationship truly vibrant and enduring. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.