Still Becoming One

Explore the impact of betrayal trauma on trust in sexual matters within relationships, coping with emotional turmoil, setting boundaries, navigating difficult questions, rebuilding trust after betrayal in marriage, and seeking assistance for growth and healing.

Send us a textThere is one word in the English language that has done more damage to marriages than any other. Divorce. Not in the obvious way, but when it is spoken as a weapon. When it is thrown out in the middle of a fight to get the other person's attention. Many couples have had this issue and struggle to rebuild and prevent the D word from eroding the foundation of the marriage. In this episode, we discuss why we fall into this bad habit and what we can do to stop it. We also talk through how you can heal if you have heard the D word thrown around in your arguments. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textEvery couple wrestles with fighting about their feelings. Sometimes we through them as weapons. Other times our feelings really need to be acknowledged, and they are ignored. What is true? What are just our feelings? How do we even understand all of that jumble of internal things and try to communicate about them? Our emotions are important, but they don't always tell us the truth! In this week's episode, we try to get to the bottom of feelings vs. truth.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textEveryone says that their marriage is important, that their spouse is a priority. But is it really? There will always be things that want to climb up your ladder of priorities and take the spot that your marriage should take. Whether it is work, kids, extracurricular activities, friends or even your church-keeping these things in their rightful place is so important and a constant balance we are trying to live out. Join us as we identify 7 practical, but challenging ways that you can do to keep your marriage a priority.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textThe local church should be a place where marriages can learn, grow and even seek help when they are struggling. Yet most churches struggle to make marriages a priority. There are good reasons and dynamics that have created this. As one of the few churches with a Marriage Pastor, we talk about what that position can be. But we don't end there, we give some practical ideas that even small churches can implement to become a marriage-friendly church.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textThe betrayal of unfaithfulness tears at the fabric of a marriage and leads every couple to ask, "is it possible to save my marriage?" There are no easy answers to this important question. In fact when people spout the easy answer they are most likely negating the hurt and pain that the betrayed spouse is experiencing. In this episode we will try to give you real answers that address the challenge, but also might give you some hope. Including some ideas on how you can move toward healing and if it is safe to do so. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textWe can't wait! The beach is calling, and the mountains sound wonderful! We are just starting to get away and WHAM! Here comes the vacation arguments! Why does this happen every single year? Vacations have a way of bringing up some challenging arguments even while we are dreaming that the exact opposite will happen.  This week we give you some clues to why the vacation arguments happen, and what you can do to end them! Enjoy the beach again and end the conflict! Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textEvery couple has conflict. Every marriage has conflict. Having conflict in your marriage is not necessarily a bad thing. How you end the conflict is critical! The goal is not to eliminate the conflict it is how you walk through it that matters. In this episode, we discuss how we learned how to have conflicts that matter, and still come out the other side feeling stronger. It was not an easy process in our own marriage but we discuss some practical ideas that can help you transform your conflict from dysfunctional to moving closer together. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textMost couples are excited and maybe a little nervous about sex when they get married. However, all too often, somewhere along the journey, challenges start. Every couple will have times when they are missing each other sexually. Sometimes, these differences grow and become a primary contention. It is all too often we have heard couples talk about the distance in their sex life as one of the reasons why they are separating or even divorcing. The church usually does a lousy job of talking about sex. If they talk about it, it is usually to say "don't do it" before you are married and "just do it" when you are. Oh, and if you run into trouble, you will probably have some verses miss quoted to you. In this episode, we tackle the challenge of sexual intimacy and discuss how to grow together, so sex doesn't tear you apart! Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us a textWelcome to part 4, a bonus episode in the Growing in Intimacy series. We've discussed spiritual intimacy, emotional intimacy, and sexual intimacy; is there more? What other kinds of intimacy should you be paying attention to in your marriage? How do you keep growing intimate in all areas of your relationship?Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries