Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

What is your dating mentality? Because what you think effects how you date. Because your mentality is so important when it comes to dating.  It’s really mind over matter. Your thought life impacts your dating life. And sometimes, the thoughts are much more subtle than you realize. I’m so excited to talk more about your dating mentality…and even more excited to have a panel of SINGLES (scroll down to meet them!) joining me for the next few episodes of the podcast in our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We’re getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes. Today we’re talking about how your MENTALITY impacts how and who you date. It’s a mindset that you bring in with you to dating, and the health of your mindset determines the health of your dating life.  I can’t wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel! So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN  @michaelszapkiw (Instagram) @crownofstrength (Instagram) https://CrownOfStrength.com Michael Szapkiw says he’s just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it. Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing. Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey. Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA  Instagram: @andrewtkelley I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I’m passionate about seeing Jesus’ church built, and strengthened, and I’ve loved that He’s allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life. Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio Instagram: @joshua8646 I’m like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God. When I’m not serving or developing my start-up, you’ll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house. Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX @breaunanichole I’m excited about what’s to come! I’m putting in the work now to ripple into my family and rewrite what it looks like to be whole spiritually, emotionally and generously serve and give and reach others. Sandra Romero: Bradenton, Florida Instagram @color.bliss.designs Sandra is enjoying one of the best stages of her life as a single mother.   For Sandra, the trauma of an unwanted divorce in the hands of Jesus, has resulted in true surrender to God, healing of past wounds, restored hope, self awareness and new dreams for the future. She believes in actively partnering with God in the pursuit of all her dreams and hopes for the future, including a kingdom marriage.  She is happy to offer an authentic perspective representing a group of singles who have unique experiences. Stacey Szczepanski: Michigan Instagram:  @livelaughlove0206 Facebook: Stacey Szczepanski Hi! I am a 37 year old elementary educator who loves traveling, journaling, being in nature, and spreading the Lord’s light and love to all I meet and encounter.  We all have a story and I believe it’s through our experiences, mistakes, and learning that we continue to grow into our healthiest versions of ourselves.  I’m excited to put myself back out into the dating world again! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: I have been caught in a cycle of using porn on again off again for most of my life. I’m truly wanting to break free of this struggle. What advice to you have for me, to help me break free? We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from Mike from Colorado, who wants to break free from his struggle with pornography.  Porn is everywhere, and the roots of why some people struggle with porn more than others run deep. Because porn use and sexual struggles are a reflection of something deeper — our need for connection. Our sexual struggles are often a reflection of a deeper need to connect in healthy ways. A deeper need to connect with God, self, and others. Today, I tag-team this question with Tony Hasaballa (BOOK A SESSION WITH Tony).  Tony is a pre-licensed counselor on our team, who is passionate about helping men and women heal from the struggle with both porn and/or sexual addictions. Tony talks about how sexual addictions are really an intimacy disorder, and we talk about what it means to get to the deeper issues that fuel our unhealthy and harmful behaviors. It’s such an important episode. So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: I have a history of trauma from my past, but I never realized how much I do today stems from what I’ve been through in the past until I started reading Are You Really OK? What are some sings that I have unprocessed trauma from the past I need to deal with? We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from Ann from Pennsylvania, who wants to know the signs and symptoms that she may have unprocessed trauma in her past that she needs to deal with. In other words, what are some signs you need to DEAL WITH YOUR TRAUMA.  It’s amazing how many people believe that their “personality” or struggles or the way they do things is just who they are — rather than seeing the impacts from the experiences of their past. What you do in your PRESENT is often a result of what you experienced in your PAST. Today, I tag-team this question with Sandy Wilda (BOOK A SESSION WITH Sandy).  Sandy is a trauma specialist, and today she and I talk through the the impacts of trauma, how it can effect your life in the present, some signs that you have unprocessed trauma, as well as how to actually heal from your past. Sandy is an incredible counselor, and I’m so looking forward to you getting to know her today as we talk about signs you need to deal with your trauma. So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What are some of the biggest mistakes couples make in conflict? We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from a woman who wants to know the mistakes we make when it comes to conflict. Conflict in a relationship is inevitable — so how do you deal with it in a healthy way? What are some signs you’re not handling it well? What are some steps to take in the right direction instead? You learn how to manage conflict by default — meaning, you do what you’ve seen done in the past, usually from your family of origin. But sometimes the way it’s been modeled isn’t the healthy way. Today, I tag-team this question with Brad Aldrich (BOOK A SESSION WITH Brad).  Brad and I talk through a few mistakes we see people make in conflict, and then offer you practical advice on what to do instead!! Even if you’re not in a romantic or marriage relationship, this is information you need to know because conflict comes up in all our relationships. And you have to know how to handle it and recognize the mistakes couples make in conflict. So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do I let go of “what if’s” from my past relationships so I can move forward into future ones? We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from a woman who wants to know how to let go of the ruminating about the past — the what ifs. What if it would have been different? What if I said something, did something, tried something different? What if things would have worked out? The list of what ifs is never ending. So how do we deal with them? How can we be set free to move forward?  Today, I tag-team this question with Anna Pavlov (BOOK A SESSION WITH Anna).  Anna and I get to the root of some of the unhealthy underlying thinking that comes with what ifs, teach you how to recognize it, and then what to do about it as well as what to think INSTEAD. So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: We’re thinking about getting married and want to make sure our relationship is as healthy as it can be. How do we identify relationship blind spots that we might have? We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from Lindsey, who’s wondering how to recognize relationship blind spots as they’re looking toward getting married.  Today, I tag-team this question with Dr. Christina Salama (BOOK A SESSION WITH Dr. Christina), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Dr. Christina is passionate about marriage, and helping people assess the blind spots and problem spots that will inevitably come up in relationships. Together we talk about some important topics that often get missed, and some practical ways you can identify and work through relationship blind spots. This episode is so important for those who are dating and married. So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Right now our marriage feels hopeless. What encouragement would you give to a couple in Crisis? — Andy from Florida We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from Andy, who’s wondering what hope and encouragement we would give for a couple in crisis.  Today, I tag-team this question with Larinda Horton (BOOK A SESSION WITH LARINDA), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Larinda is a wife and mother of four, and is very passionate about helping couples get their marriage to a healthy place. Together we talk about our approach to helping couples heal, recognizing a couple in crisis, and helping them by dealing with both the things in the present as well as the wounds from the past. We give some practical steps of what it looks like to get yourself and then your marriage to a healthy place, and I end the podcast with 12 signs your marriage needs attention!! This episode is so important for couples in all seasons! So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do I get over rejection and lacking the confidence to try again? — Joey from Texas We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from Joey, who wants to know how to get over rejection especially when it stings. It’s hard to face rejection whether it be in dating or even in friendship. It can cause you to question and doubt what you believe about yourself and impact your motivation to move forward. Today, I tag-team this question with Bri Franklin (BOOK A SESSION WITH BRI), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Together we talk about how rejection hurts, but the important ways we need to approach it in order to be able to move forward with confidence rather than allow it to mess with our heads. You can get over rejection in a healthy way!! We’ll show you how. This episode is so good! So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re spending the last few reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #1. This episode was the most popular episode of the year and it comes from a four-part series we did about getting healthy from the inside out called the Are You Really OK? Book Series! where I tackled the four areas of health including emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical. In today’s episode we’re talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year’s Resolutions end up falling flat by the end of January. Because so much of why we do what we do stems deeper than our behaviors — and goes down to the roots of our emotional and mental health. This series is going to be so important, and we want everyone to tune in!! If you haven’t yet grabbed your copy of Are You Really OK? Book and started reading through it, there’s no better time to start than now!!! It will help guide you through Emotional Health, as well as all the other areas. Don’t wait another day to start getting healthy from the inside out. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional health. What is it, and how do you know if you’re emotionally healthy? We’re spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #2. This episode was the most popular episode from the COUPLES THERAPY series we did in February, on-air counseling with couples from across the country. Today’s couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern — she feels like he’s always pulling away, he feels like she’s always putting him down. It got so bad, at one point she was considering divorce. In this powerful conversation, we’re going to unpack the dynamic they’re struggling with in their marriage, get to the roots of why, and find solutions to help them move forward. But more than that, we’re going to help them find hope! I hope this session inspires and encourages you to do the work in your own life and relationship. Let me know!! Leave a review on your podcast app, and let us know how you’re enjoying this podcast and this series. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices