Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Alex Seely, co-pastor of The Belonging Co. Have you ever wanted to reset your view of God? Today we’re talking to Alex about the negative view of God that she previously carried and how her past trauma and difficult experiences impacted the way she viewed God for many years — but also how she was able to RESET in this area of her life. So many times we transfer our experiences with others onto our expectations of God. We unpack some of her past, and the steps she took in order to heal, grow, and transform her view of God to what it is today…and what a journey!!! It’s such a powerful and healing conversation for anyone who has been hurt by the people of God — and will really challenge you to consider your own beliefs about God — and WHY.  It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s BOOK LAUNCH DAY!! In this exclusive bonus episode, I’m sharing my heart behind my new book RESET, as well as some of my personal favorite parts of the book. I’m talking you through the concept and idea behind the book, some unexpected twists and turns along the way, and why real change can only happen from the “inside-out”. This is an episode you’re going to listen to, and also want to share with someone in your life in need of a RESET!! It’s not every day you get TWO episodes of the podcast in one day — so enjoy this bonus episode where I share my heart and story with you…and then I say a special prayer for YOU at the end. I love you all, and I am so thankful for your love and support. But most of all, I am so expectant of what God is going to do through this new message – in your life!!! We’re ready for a RESET!!! (Check out my Instagram page today @DebraFileta to follow along on the book launch day celebrations!) RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after – and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix’s story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he’s been holding onto from childhood – that are coming up in his relationships today. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.  _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  As the first episode in our RESET series, I wanted to do something a little special today on the podcast. I had the joy of reading this book on audio myself, and so I wanted to share with you the first few pages of the book so you could hear it first right here before anyone else on the podcast! So sit back and take a listen to RESET: powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. _______ RESET comes out in just one short week on March 14th! Right now, if you pre-order RESET you’ll be entered to win a $1,500 package of 10 sessions with our counselors network, and get a FREE ticket to our live online seminar called RESETTING FROM unhealthy habits! Just go to DebraFileta.com/RESET to grab your copy and enter your information to get all these preorder bonuses! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today’s on-air couples therapy session is with Abigail and Daniel, a couple who is trying to balance their every day needs, as well as the needs of their 18 month old first child — and not take out their stress and emotions on one another!! Which is unfortunately how the pattern has been going so far. It’s the fourth and final episode of our February Couples Therapy Series and know you’re going to love this conversation, and likely relate to it in many ways! But is their conflict just about their needs in the here and now? Or is it a little deeper.  You know what I’m going to say — it’s always deeper than what’s happening right here and right now!! I want to help this couple get to the roots, and help them recognize what it looks like to be deliberate about not taking out our feelings, hurts, and struggles on our spouse. And what to do instead with all those real and important needs and emotions.  Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCAST –  iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today we’re digging into part two and childhood wounds, with our second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel. They are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Today we’re digging into some of the things from their past that are making their way into their present. Because our childhood wounds end up coming back up in our grown-up relationships if we don’t take the time to heal. Today we’re going on a journey to their childhoods, and helping them see how they are acting out on some of those roles even today as adults in their marriage. It’s a powerful episode, watching them learn, and connect, and have empathy for one another in a way they didn’t before. We all have childhood wounds that will come up in how we interact in our marriage. I hope you’ll listen and learn from this courageous couple. Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I want to introduce you to the second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Coming into marriage, they had some different expectations — and hadn’t talked in depth about what to expect. Their false expectations, specifically around sex and marriage, came from the church and purity culture. When they got into marriage and things didn’t match what they expected – they didn’t know what to do. Their wedding night didn’t go as planned, and they have been truly struggling every since. And so, they’ve avoided intimacy every since — physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. In today’s episode they reveal a big secret they’ve never shared with anyone…and now they are here, trying again, wanting to heal and see if there’s a way to reconnect in their marriage on every level and deal with the big secret. Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.  The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before.  Today’s couple is Ben and Mary. Between the demands of his job, and the demands of family — this couple finds themselves feeling disconnected and looking for ways to connect again before it’s too late. We talk about barriers to their emotional connection — and it get’s DEEP. I can’t wait for you to hear this incredible and inspiring episode!!! Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!!   FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.      DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!   Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey We are on the fifth of a five-week series about CHECKING IN and asking…Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we’re taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health — and learning how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can’t fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series “Checking In” will help you come up with a plan for how we’re going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven’t yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you’ll find out that you’re not as healthy as you think you are — and it’s time to do something about it. Today we’re talking about physical health – oftentimes can go to extremes in either fixating so much on our bodies/and our relationship with food and exercise — or neglecting it all together. Today we’re talking about a few different aspects of physical health and checking in to see how we’re doing in this area, because the body-mind connection is so real and so powerful. Tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I think it’s so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we’re REALLY doing. We are on the fourth of a five-week of CHECKING IN…Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we’re taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health — and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can’t fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series “Checking In” will help you come up with a plan for how we’re going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven’t yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you’ll find out that you’re not as healthy as you think you are — and it’s time to do something about it. Today we’re talking about the importance of checking in with our mental health and the different components that impact our mental health, including our life, events and stressors, past trauma, and physical chemistry. Just because you’re a Christian, doesn’t mean you are immune to the struggles of depression, anxiety, and mental health. In this episode, we will talk about mental health, and the best ways to treat mental health struggles. Tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? ,Married Sex and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices