Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Q: How do I get over rejection and lacking the confidence to try again? — Joey from Texas We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them! Today’s question comes from Joey, who wants to know how to get over rejection especially when it stings. It’s hard to face rejection whether it be in dating or even in friendship. It can cause you to question and doubt what you believe about yourself and impact your motivation to move forward. Today, I tag-team this question with Bri Franklin (BOOK A SESSION WITH BRI), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Together we talk about how rejection hurts, but the important ways we need to approach it in order to be able to move forward with confidence rather than allow it to mess with our heads. You can get over rejection in a healthy way!! We’ll show you how. This episode is so good! So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re spending the last few reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #1. This episode was the most popular episode of the year and it comes from a four-part series we did about getting healthy from the inside out called the Are You Really OK? Book Series! where I tackled the four areas of health including emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical. In today’s episode we’re talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year’s Resolutions end up falling flat by the end of January. Because so much of why we do what we do stems deeper than our behaviors — and goes down to the roots of our emotional and mental health. This series is going to be so important, and we want everyone to tune in!! If you haven’t yet grabbed your copy of Are You Really OK? Book and started reading through it, there’s no better time to start than now!!! It will help guide you through Emotional Health, as well as all the other areas. Don’t wait another day to start getting healthy from the inside out. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional health. What is it, and how do you know if you’re emotionally healthy? We’re spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #2. This episode was the most popular episode from the COUPLES THERAPY series we did in February, on-air counseling with couples from across the country. Today’s couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern — she feels like he’s always pulling away, he feels like she’s always putting him down. It got so bad, at one point she was considering divorce. In this powerful conversation, we’re going to unpack the dynamic they’re struggling with in their marriage, get to the roots of why, and find solutions to help them move forward. But more than that, we’re going to help them find hope! I hope this session inspires and encourages you to do the work in your own life and relationship. Let me know!! Leave a review on your podcast app, and let us know how you’re enjoying this podcast and this series. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions? We’re spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #3. Friends – we’re talking about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today’s question comes from a newlywed couple looking for advice and sex tips to overcome some of the struggles of being a new-to-sex.  But the advice we give them today doesn’t just apply to newlywed sex! If sex has been a little bit of a struggle lately, then this episode is for you. We talk about the #1 tip to making sex better for both parties, some obstacles that come up as newlyweds and beyond, as well as some other sex tips and tricks along the way!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do you know if someone is as interested in you as you are in them? Or what if you’re in a relationship and you’re just not feeling it? We’re spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #4: “You should never have to convince someone that you’re worth loving.” That’s exactly what I told the caller, Scott, on today’s episode of the show.  After getting burned by a lady he’s been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes…yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here’s the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them.  And I’m going to talk through all this and more in today’s interesting show!! If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) — then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God’s best for relationships…because you should never have to convince someone that you’re worth investing in (tweet it).  Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do you know if you’re compatible with someone? We’re spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #5. Compatibility is key to a healthy relationship. Just because you’re a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian – doesn’t mean you’re going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship. Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it’s one that often get’s ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships. When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to “fit together” well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn’t about finding an exact replica of yourself, it’s about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life. In order to find a good match, you’ve got to know your shape, and your colors. Compatibility Looks Like… There are certain big picture topics where it’s important to make sure you have compatibility when you’re in a relationship. Today on the podcast, we’re talking through those topics! You can also dig deeper into accountability in my book, Love In Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: With all the pressure our culture puts on body image, being “Instagram ready” and picture perfect at all times, how can we resist the urge to fixate too much on our physical appearance and stay body positive in a world that’s constantly critiquing our appearance? This is a conversation WE NEED TO HAVE. Today on the podcast we’re talking about body image! Our listener question said it best — how can we resist the urge to fixate and remain body positive in world that’s dragging us the other way? Whether you’re a male or female, this is a topic that impacts you because appearance is constantly made to be the forefront in our culture. Today I’m joined by Jess Connolly, who wants to help men and women find freedom and stay body positive with no filters!!! It’s such an important and inspiring conversation — and most of all, it’s a necessary one because body image is such a foundational topic. So tune in to today’s episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! ***If you need help with body image issues, or struggling to have a healthy relationship with food — connect with a counselor from our Counselors Network and book a session with one of them to get started on your journey of healing!!** __________ FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How can we take better care of our physical health and in what ways does that impact our mental and emotional health? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we’re talking about physical health!! It’s a topic that’s overemphasized in culture, but underemphasized in the church. But caring for your physical health overflows into other parts of your life including your mental and emotional world! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Katie Anne Church! Katie is a Figure World Champion and a coach, and she’s been on both sides of the physical health spectrum — from a season of obsessing over her body, to now being in a healthy place of honoring God with her body. Today we talk through the top ways to keep your body healthy and strong, and it’s a conversation that inspired and challenged me personally. So tune in to today’s episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work of getting healthy from the inside out? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What are the right ways, and wrong ways to use the Enneagram? And how can we use it to strengthen our relationships? – Rachel from PA Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we’re talking about the Enneagram! You may have heard about the Enneagram before, or this could be your first glimpse — but either way, this conversation is really enlightening! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Pastor Matt Brown! Pastor Matt is a huge enneagram fan, and believes that this tool impacted his life and his church in meaningful ways, and helped him put into words a deeper understanding of his own personality and motivations! Today we talk through the pros and cons of the Enneagram, and how we can use it to better our relationships! So tune in to today’s episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: I’ve never struggled with anxiety before the past few years…when I googled it, I realized I might even have some traits of OCD. Any advice on how to nagivate this and take some next steps? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we’re talking about anxiety and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Jon Seidl! Anxiety and OCD don’t discriminate…and Jon is a Christian who has been walking the journey of dealing with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) for many years. We talk about his personal experience recognizing and dealing with OCD, where he is today, and how he finds peace and rest even within his diagnosis. If you have any experience with clinical anxiety or even OCD, I truly think this episode and Jon’s story will resonate with you no matter where you’re at. So tune in to today’s episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices