Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast
Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
Are you ready to Talk To Me?Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where we talk to people about how they are really doing on Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly known as Love & Relationships).Whether having a conversation with a caller from our hotline, or an on-air counseling session with a notable pastor or leader — each of these episodes is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word. Each episode is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together.None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone!So if you're ready... Let's talk...Learn more at TrueLoveDates.com/TalkToMe
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Jul 29, 2025 • 35min
How Do I Interact with My Emotionally Unavailable Mother? (with Melissa)
Today I’m joined by DFCN counselor Melissa, as we take an on-air call from Adrienne from Florida who asks: How should I navigate a relationship with my mom who doesn’t invest/participate in a relationship with me and my sisters and hasn’t in a long time. The only time she reaches out is when she needs something. She’s not emotionally available with us and if we didn’t reach out, we probably wouldn’t hear from her at all. I’ve distanced myself from people who don’t meet me halfway. But can I do that with my mom?
What do you do when the very person that isn’t showing up in a relationship is your own mother? Does setting boundaries mean cutting her out of your life, or is there a better way? We dig deep in this on-air session and help Adrienne understand how to move forward in a complicated relationship with her mother. Don’t miss this conversation!
Book a session with Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC today!
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 22, 2025 • 36min
Freedom from Porn and Lust (with Mason)
Today begins the Ask A Counselor Series! Over the next few
weeks I will be joined by counselors from my team as we tag-team questions from
callers and listeners all over the country and world! Today, we answer a
question from Mark from Washington, wondering how to know the difference
between porn addiction and porn struggles, and if it’s possible to actually
live free once and for all. Tune in to hear the counselors talk about this
important subject!!
Book a session with Mason P. Phillips, LMFT & Life
Coach today!
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
Porn No More Course and Workbook (Digital Download)
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
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Jul 15, 2025 • 53min
Healing after Divorce with Toni Collier
Today on the podcast, I’m joined by my friend Toni, in this on-air counseling session focused on the excruciating journey of her marriage coming to an end, and what it looked like to begin healing alone.
She opens up about a really meaningful interaction we had, and how God used that conversation to convict her about her consumption of alcohol in the aftermath of her tragedy. We get a front row seat into the journey of healing after the loss of a marriage, and how you have to reveal what needs to be healed, rather than cover it up or numb it.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 8, 2025 • 60min
Mid-Life Crisis: On-Air Counseling with Levi Lusko
Today is a really special session with a very special person, because today I sit down with my friend, and my “real life client”, Levi Lusko. A few years ago, Pastor Levi Lusko went through a devastating season filled with unexpected anxiety, panic attacks, and “spiraling”, and it hit him hard.
We sat down for a raw, real, honest conversation about that difficult season, and processed his experience and what he learned as he navigated that hard time, including the morning he picked up the phone and called me to let me know he needed help.
I am beyond proud of my friend, all that he’s learned, and how strong he’s become over the past few years. This guy is the real deal, and I couldn’t be more honored to have played a small role in his healing journey. If you’re struggling in this stage of your life, please don’t miss this important session with Levi Lusko.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 1, 2025 • 46min
The Emotionally Disconnected Marriage: Gabe and Rebekah Lyons
Today, I sit down for an on-air couples session with my friends Gabe and Rebekah Lyons, as we talk about the strain of feeling emotionally disconnected years into their marriage. What happens when marriage gets worse over the years, and not better? What do you do when you feel something is missing, an emotional disconnect between you and your spouse? Today we go there, and talk about what it meant for them to face the status of their relationship, and begin to connect all over again.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 24, 2025 • 51min
I’m A Recovering Alcoholic with Ian Cron
Today I’m having an on-air counseling session with Ian Cron. You may have heard of him from his popular enneagram-focused podcast, but today you’ll get to know him in a new way. In our conversation, today, we unpack his past history with alcoholism, what led him to that destructive place, as well as his journey to the point of relapse and then ultimate recovery. We also discuss where he is today, and what he’s doing to stay healthy and free from the grip of alcohol in his life. It’s a conversation filled with incredible insight and hard-fought wisdom. If you or someone you know has ever struggled with substance use, abuse, or addiction- this conversation is such a powerful, eye-opening conversation.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 17, 2025 • 1h 3min
On-Air Counseling Session with Jinger Dugger Vuolo
I’m having an on-air counseling session with Jinger Duggar, a member of the reality TV show family, the Duggars, whose show chronicled the everyday life of this conservative family of 19 children. She talks about growing up in a strict religious upbringing, how it impacted her life, her faith in God, and her people-pleasing tendencies. We talk about the extent of people pleasing she struggled with, and the combination of nature/nurture that shaped her life…and what it has looked like to begin to “undo” that process in this season of her life. It’s a powerful conversation and one you don’t want to miss.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
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Jun 10, 2025 • 39min
I'm Struggling with My Self-Worth and Inner Critic
Justin called in to Talk To Me, because he’s struggling with his self-worth and inner critic. The negative voices are loud, and seem to be controlling his life. He has a hard time tuning them out, and wants to know where they are coming from and what he can do about it. I help him get to the roots of where this strong negative self-worth might be coming from, and how to deal with his inner critic.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 3, 2025 • 30min
I Have a Hard Time Saying No
Why is it that some people have a harder time saying no, and setting boundaries than others? Today on the podcast, Ashley calls in to talk to me about her struggle with saying no. She has a really hard time, feels guilty, and ends up feeling drained and depleted. I help her dig into the reasons why she struggles to say no, and what to do about it. If you struggle with boundaries, and saying no — this episode is for you.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 27, 2025 • 59min
It’s Not All On Me with Haven Weits
Today on Talk To Me, I’m talking with Haven who has struggled in her life to feel and believe the false narrative that it’s all on her. She has to do it all. She has to save everyone, help everyone, do everything — be all things to all people. It’s all on her. This mindset has caused her to struggle over the years…and she’s having to unlearn some of these unhealthy narratives and get to the root of where they came from to begin with. She has to learn that it’s NOT all on her. And today, I help her unpack some of these belief systems and begin to change the narrative.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.
Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
