Caring for Your Aging Parents

Welcome to the season finale of Caring for Your Aging Parents, where I explore the intricate dance between caregiving and self-care. Drawing from personal experiences, I discuss the vital importance of support systems for caregivers and how these networks can be our lifelines. Balancing caregiving, parenting, and personal pursuits isn't easy, but I've learned that self-care is essential, not just a luxury.I share poignant memories, like a cherished family vacation to a horse ranch in Utah with my father during his battle with stage four adenocarcinoma. These experiences highlight the necessity of creating lasting memories for ourselves and our loved ones. We delve into the options that provide caregivers with much-needed respite, such as cruises and professional care services.In this episode, I offer practical strategies for setting boundaries and effectively delegating tasks. I discuss the benefits of asking for help and being specific in our requests. From enlisting friends to handling daily chores to considering respite care options, the focus is on ensuring caregivers don't sacrifice their well-being.Join me as we celebrate the power of community, self-care, and the creation of memories that withstand time. Remember to take care of yourself, because if you don't, no one else will. Thank you for joining me this season, and I hope you find time for self-care this week.Podcast ResourcesCaring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcarePodcast DisclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

Delve into the intricate world of senior care funding with me. I begin by unraveling the complexities of Medicare and Medicaid, helping you understand the crucial differences and the benefits of Medicare Advantage plans. Discover how Medicare specialists can provide tailored solutions at no cost, ensuring your loved ones receive the care they deserve while saving on costs.I then navigate the challenging Medicaid spend-down process, offering strategies to manage assets effectively without falling into common pitfalls. Memory care can be financially daunting, but with the right planning and expert advice, you can secure the best care for your elders. We also explore PACE, a comprehensive alternative for senior care.I discuss various resources such as state grants, Medicare waivers, and veterans benefits. We also discuss reverse mortgages as a tool for converting home equity into cash for long-term care needs. Long-term care insurance is highlighted as a crucial safeguard against financial burdens.For our Portland, Oregon listeners, I connect you with trusted local experts to ensure you have the right support. Remember, self-care is vital as you navigate these decisions. Grab a copy of "Sensible Senior Solutions" for more in-depth strategies. Join us as we unlock the secrets to affordable elder care, ensuring you and your loved ones can approach the future with confidence and clarity.Podcast ResourcesCaring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcarePodcast DisclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

Join me for a conversation with Rick and Clancy Denton about the emotional and challenging path of caregiving for aging parents with dementia. Their journey began in 2019 when Clancy first noticed subtle changes in Rick’s mother’s behavior. This marked the start of their deeply emotional caregiving experience, which was compounded by the onset of Alzheimer's and the rare Capgras syndrome.We candidly discuss the significant emotional and physical toll of caregiving, especially during the isolating times of the COVID-19 pandemic. Rick’s stepfather faced unique struggles while caring for his mother, and we emphasize the importance of prioritizing caregiver well-being and seeking help when needed. Through their story, we aim to provide a realistic look at the complexities of familial caregiving dynamics.This episode also delves into broader themes like the benefits of hospice care and transitioning to life as empty nesters. We share insights on how hospice care enhances the quality of life for both patients and caregivers and reflect on the adjustments in our marriage as we embrace this new phase. With empathy, humor, and practical advice, our conversation serves as a supportive guide for anyone caring for aging parents while maintaining their own well-being.Join us for this enlightening discussion as we offer invaluable insights and heartfelt stories from our caregiving journey. Whether you’re an adult child caring for a parent or simply interested in the dynamics of elder care, we hope our experiences provide comfort and guidance.Podcast ResourcesCaring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcareListen to Rick and Clancy’s podcast The Loud QuietJoin Rick and Clancy’s Facebook group for empty nestersPodcast DisclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

I explore the enriching concept of senior home sharing, a housing arrangement where seniors open their homes to younger individuals. This innovative solution offers a range of benefits, including companionship, cost savings, and support with daily activities.Drawing inspiration from Chapter 5 of my book, we delve into platforms like Nesterly, Senior Home Sharing, Silver Nest, and Center of Concern. These platforms facilitate mutually beneficial living arrangements that can enhance the quality of life for both seniors and younger housemates. We discuss how this arrangement suits independent seniors and outline when the involvement of certified caregivers is necessary.Throughout the episode, you'll learn about the practical aspects of senior home sharing, such as sharing chores, daily activities, and even transportation. Whether you're a senior looking for a meaningful living situation or a younger individual seeking life experience, this episode provides valuable insights and practical advice.We'll also highlight the importance of having a clear agreement, whether formal or informal, to ensure expectations are met for all parties involved. This episode promises to guide you through the potential of senior home sharing, offering a roadmap to a richer, more connected life.Remember, taking care of yourself is crucial, as it enables you to care for your loved ones effectively. Join me next week for another insightful episode!(01:32) What is Senior Home Sharing?(05:12) Benefits of Home Sharing(08:25) Different Forms of Senior Home SharingPodcast Resources Caring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcarePodcast DisclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

Let’s dive into the art of proactive caregiving, equipping families with the knowledge and tools needed to confidently support their aging loved ones. Drawing from my book, "Sensible Senior Solutions," I discuss the importance of recognizing early signs of aging and strategically planning for potential health challenges.We'll explore how to choose the right in-home care agency, focusing on personalized care plans and emotional support that align with your loved one's medical and cultural needs. I also highlight the financial aspects of in-home care, providing insights into various payment methods, particularly for seniors with dementia.As caregivers, it's crucial to balance compassion with strategy, ensuring the well-being of both your loved ones and yourself. I'll share tips on maintaining your own health and sanity while managing the demands of caregiving. Don't wait for a crisis—empower yourself with informed decisions that ensure seamless transitions and continuity of care.Stay connected for expert advice that transforms how you care for your aging parents. Remember, caregiving is a journey best navigated with wisdom and heart. Tune in and let's walk this path together.(00:09) - Preparing for Health Condition Changes(08:40) - Choosing Quality in-Home Care Agencies(16:27) - Supporting Aging Parents With CarePodcast ResourcesCaring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcareConnect with seniors on the Helperly websitePodcast disclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

Join me for a thought-provoking conversation with Joe Casciani, a seasoned geropsychologist and founder of the Living to 100 Club. Together, we challenge the conventional views on aging and retirement, emphasizing that turning 50 or retiring doesn't mean slowing down. Instead, it's a time ripe with potential for reinvention and embracing new opportunities with a positive mindset.In our discussion, Joe shares his journey from nursing home administration to becoming an advocate for a fulfilling post-retirement life. We delve into Joanne Lipman's book "Next," which highlights individuals who have successfully navigated new roles after retiring. These stories illustrate the resilience and determination required to leverage past skills into meaningful endeavors, whether through volunteerism or community projects.We also explore innovative tools for nurturing mental wellness in senior living communities. Joe introduces a series of card decks designed to address the psychological aspects of aging, empowering seniors and activity directors to foster discussions on mental health education. These resources aim to fill the gap left by traditional wellness programs that often overlook mental health.Follow along as we emphasize the importance of self-care and invite you to become part of the Living to 100 Club for ongoing support and inspiration. Don't forget to engage with our podcast community by liking, subscribing, and leaving a review. Together, let's redefine aging and thrive in the later chapters of life.(00:19) - Redefining Yourself After Retirement(09:18) - Finding Purpose in Retirement(23:35) - Maximizing Senior Wellness(33:26) - Embracing Aging After RetirementPodcast Resources Caring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcareSilver Sneakers exercise program for seniorsFor a series of 12 modules for senior living communities, visit Joe’s online storeTo find a supportive space for members to connect, share insights, and access valuable resources, join Joe’s online communityPodcast disclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

Caring For Your Aging Parents PodcastSeason 02 Episode 19What to Look For When Touring Retirement CommunitiesCheck out this episode to unlock the secrets to finding the ideal senior living community for your loved ones. I’m Lynn Smargis, a certified senior advisor, here to guide you through this often overwhelming journey with insights from my book, "Sensible Senior Solutions."In this episode, I delve into the complexities of senior care options, offering professional advice that can transform your search from daunting to manageable. Discover why seeking guidance from a senior advisor is as crucial as hiring an attorney or realtor, and learn how their expertise can help you avoid common pitfalls, such as choosing a community based on proximity or personal ties.I share a compelling story of a family who transitioned from a confusing DIY search to successfully settling in a suitable senior living community within weeks. We discuss the importance of considering factors like medical needs, staff ratios, and pet policies when evaluating communities. Whether you're planning early or feeling overwhelmed, I emphasize the value of connecting with certified senior advisors who offer their services at no cost to families.Remember, caregivers: it’s important to prioritize self-care, a vital theme throughout our caregiving journey. Join us as we explore the art of making informed decisions for your aging parents, ensuring their well-being and happiness. Don’t forget to follow the podcast for more insights on senior care. Let's navigate this journey together with confidence and clarity.Podcast Resources Caring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcarePodcast disclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

Caring For Your Aging ParentsSeason 02 Episode 18Talking to Your Parents About Moving into Retirement LivingDelve into the intricate journey of long-distance caregiving, drawing from my personal experiences while supporting my father through his battle with stage four cancer. This journey opened my eyes to the challenges many face when discussing retirement living options with aging parents. Throughout this episode, I share practical advice on navigating these sensitive conversations with empathy and respect, aiming to preserve dignity and maintain strong relationships.Tackle the hurdles of long-distance caregiving, weighing the financial and logistical aspects of home care versus assisted living. Drawing from my book, "Sensible Senior Solutions," I share effective communication strategies designed to honor your parent's independence while also addressing their fears. Discover how to create win-win scenarios, like encouraging your parents to give up driving without feeling a loss of autonomy, and explore the benefits of retirement living communities.I emphasize the importance of building a supportive network of trusted allies and prioritizing self-care as a caregiver. I also cover how to start the appropriate conversations early, research options in advance, and maintain organized notes for productive discussions.(00:19) - Conversations on Caregiving and Aging(13:11) - Effective Communication Strategies for Caregivers(18:38) - Supporting Aging Parents With DignityPodcast Resources Caring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcareConnect with seniors on the Helperly websitePodcast disclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.

How to Know It's Time for Senior CarePodcast Episode ScriptIntroduction (2-3 minutes)"Welcome to Caring for Your Aging Parents, I'm Lynn Smargis, and today we're tackling one of the most common questions I get from adult children: How do you know when it's time for senior care?This is such a crucial topic because timing is everything. Wait too long, and you might be facing a crisis. Move too early, and you might face resistance. So today, I'm going to share some real stories and practical guidance to help you navigate this challenge.**The Geographic Challenge (3-4 minutes)*** Many of us live far from our parents now* The world has changed - families are spread out* Distance makes it harder to spot decline* Why daily phone calls aren't enough* Story time: Let me tell you about a client who lived just 10 minutes away...**The Reality Check (4-5 minutes)*** Living nearby isn't always enough protection* Share the story of the client's mother who fell* 24 hours before she was found* The devastating impact of delayed care* Sepsis and long recovery time* The emotional toll on both parent and family**Common Misconceptions (3-4 minutes)*** "My parents take care of each other"* Why this can be dangerous* Story about the couple who both fell* The domino effect of delayed care* What happens when one parent tries to help the other**The Stroke Story (3-4 minutes)*** Share the St. Petersburg story* Eight-hour delay in care* Permanent consequences* How this could have been prevented* The five-minute response time in assisted living**Warning Signs to Watch For (5-6 minutes)*** Physical decline    - Mobility issues    - Balance problems    - Recent falls* Cognitive changes    - Memory issues    - Confusion with daily tasks    - Getting lost in familiar places* Personal care decline    - Hygiene issues    - Household maintenance    - Medication management* Emotional changes    - Depression    - Isolation    - Mood swings**The Holiday Wake-Up Call (3-4 minutes)*** What you might notice during visits* Why phone calls can be deceiving* The "I'm fine" syndrome* What to look for when you visit* How to assess the situation objectively**Modern Senior Living (3-4 minutes)*** Not your grandmother's nursing home* The cruise ship analogy* Activities and social life* Medical support available* Quality of life improvements**Action Steps for Listeners (2-3 minutes)*** Start looking at options before crisis hits* Research communities in advance* Understand wait times can be 6+ months* Get on waiting lists if needed* Have the conversation earlyClosing (2-3 minutes)"Before we wrap up today, I want to emphasize that seeking senior care isn't giving up – it's often giving your parents a better quality of life with more social interaction and immediate access to help when needed. If you're seeing any of the warning signs we discussed today, don't wait for a crisis. Start exploring your options now.If you need help assessing your situation or finding senior care options in your area, you can reach me at 503-830-1812 or visit my website at [website]. And don't forget to subscribe to this podcast for more tips and guidance on caring for your aging parents.

Caring for Your Aging ParentsSeason 02 Episode 16A Son's Journey: Navigating Parkinson's Caregiving and AdvocacyIn this heartfelt episode, we delve into the inspiring journey of George, a dedicated caregiver who supported his mother through a 15-year battle with Parkinson's disease. George candidly shares the emotional and practical challenges he faced, from the early symptoms to later stages marked by delusions and hallucinations. His story is a powerful testament to resilience and the impact of Parkinson's on patients and their caregivers.Join us as we explore how George transformed his grief into advocacy, creating "Together for Sharon" in memory of his mother. He emphasizes the significance of raising awareness and educating communities about Parkinson's, drawing inspiration from figures like Michael J. Fox. George also discusses his transition from caregiver to author, offering insights from his book "A Son's Journey," which captures the essence of his experiences and cherished memories.George sheds light on his upcoming project focused on educating law enforcement about Parkinson's symptoms. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize self-care and contribute to the collective efforts in the ongoing fight against Parkinson's. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that reminds us of the strength found in shared experiences and the ongoing journey toward hope and action.(00:19) Caring for Parents With Parkinson's(11:54) Celebrating Advocates in Parkinson's Fight(16:16) Global Parkinson's Advocacy Through Books(28:54) Continuing the Fight Against Parkinson'sPodcast Resources Caring For Your Aging Parents on YouTubeVisit us to find out more on Caring for Your Aging ParentsCaring for Your Aging Parents is brought to you by Pacific Northwest SeniorcarePlan your senior loved one’s care with my new book Sensible Senior SolutionsPodcast disclaimerThe information in the Pacific Northwest Seniorcare podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared by the host, guests, and any affiliates is not intended to substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice or any professional advice specific to your situation. Always seek the advice of a qualified professional with any questions you may have regarding these matters.The host is not a medical or legal expert, and the opinions expressed on the show by the host or guests are those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pacific Northwest Seniorcare. Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, guests, and affiliates are not responsible or liable for any care, medical, or legal decisions made by listeners or actions taken hereto based on the information discussed in this podcast. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to release Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, the host, affiliates, and guests from any liability.